₦airaland Forum

stylesco:
Thank you.
People find every reason to say horrible things to people they don't even know.

I'm having the baby in the us and he feels it's safer too.

Isn't it easier to talk about the issue instead of insulting/judging someone's personality.

Mallamusa:
Hello, I am very happy I found this. I just registered for this alone. I have always loved plants but I just picked gardening as a serious hobby this year. I can't talk about flowers with my friends (they'll think I'm gay). The information here is awesome, keep on the good work. Jah bless

tearoses:
Qq
Hmmmm see subtle arranging o!
How are you and your boys?
Hope you are all good

tearoses:
Hmmmm see subtle arranging o!
How are you and your boys?
Hope you are all good

biihem:
Happy birthday to baby E. Those of us that are born in the month of June are always cute! May she continually be a source of joy to your family... I have been following you and I must confess I admire you a lot.

olawalepopoola:
Dr. Adepelumi is a renowned geophysicist and seimologist. He taught me as an adjunct lecturer in LAUTECH. Nigeria is located on the eastern part of the west African craton located precisely in Ghana. This shows that our country is not 100 percent seismically stable. The RRF model of the separation of the South America and Africa culminated in the formation of a failed arm of a rift zone, which formed the Benue trough (Benue state is located on the Mid-Benue trough). If this third arm of the rift had been successful, Africa would have been divided into 2. All the states mentioned apart from Shaki, Oyo state are located around this failed arm of the rift zone, which may be on the way to be reactivated. As for the Shaki area, it is located on the major pegmatitic belt of Nigeria that trends from SW-NE and are majorly mineralized. Pegmatites are formed when magma intrudes a fault, cools and solidifies. So it is possible that this may also be reactivated. So it is advisable that the FG sets up seismic and awareness monitoring group to inform people about this. These regions if not monitored may be consumed and lost to "TECTONISM"

Lykar:
Thank God warri is there. I need to experience what nature has to offer for once shuoo...no one shd call me crazy

blackbartee:
Lol....


She's too devious for my liking...

zaynie:
No!!!!!!!!
No!!!!!!!!
No!!!!!!!!


I didnt see her


HappyBirthday Baby E,
I wish you a lifetime of happiness, good health and prosperity.
Remain the apple of your mom's eye.

damiso:
I wish I could 'Love' this post. I also agree with most of the original post except for the Otta part.

I have an uncle who went and got a place in Alagbole and worked in VI. He ended up spending 3 days at ours in Yaba and was always loitering around all the bars for 'traffic to die down' . He eventually let go of the place when he got married. Does not have to be Lekki but maybe places on the mainland where even if there is traffic you are still able to get home in good time.

at infidelity being expensive

As for the 1st birthday party did exactly the same for my two children. I still get called ijebu for it but na them know It was not even just the money but the whole stress for a child that will never remember I think my 1st year birthday party pictures where I was crying and clinging to my mum for dear life kinda put me off the idea. Almost every shot I have ever seen I was crying. I heard my mum 'imported' even the party packs E dey shark am but e no shark me reach am cos I hate organising parties. God knows how many fights we had planning my wedding from choosing the cheaper/smaller hall, to wanting less IV's , to wanting to have it all on the same day( she won all the fights ) but I am now able to defy her a bit more . I think the new me would have stood up to her more if I was getting married now. Me sef no even know how the food at my wedding tasted.



Happy birthday in advance to your princess.

Its such a funny feeling when they are no longer 'babies'. I still give my son ( 4) baby cuddles though he is now able to wiggle away from me He is really big on being 'a big boy cos he is going to big school'.

Joavid:

tonyx4x44:
She does not need a corporate account to receive the funds. I own a blog myself and until I registered with the CAC in January, I received all funds into my personal accounts (large sums).

LIB only becomes a corporate entity if she decides to register it (which is not compulsory) , until then the blog is merely a monetized hobby.

I'm sure she hasn't registered it self, going by the fact that she still uses a free theme on her blog, and a Gmail account (very unofficial) for official transactions. I guess she is not one for bureaucracy.

Acidosis:
The truth is that you can't give them all they ask. What if they demand for a real practice?

Sexual Reproduction is a common subject in primary/secondary schools, we all learned these stuffs but never taught with pornograp.hic images.

Many Nigerians today were raised with those so called funny and flimsy euphemisms, but at the right time we learnt the right words.

You can't control these kids, I wouldn't want a situation where a child will go about harassing my guest and demanding their sexuality (peni.s or vagi.na).

Sometimes, what we do not know, may not kill us. Meanwhile, some of these young girls getting rap.ed by shameless men is not a result of zero knowledge on sexuali.ty., even the adults get rap.ed sometimes. If we give them the knowledge, can we also give them the power to beat a grown giant with 6 six?

I was just going to suggest the 5year old was being molested when I read the rest of your comment.

This thing is really rampant in Nigeria and you are right, the information should be coming from us. My parents told me last week of a child that asked her parents to tell her what sex was. They declined to do so. She then asked the driver who gave her a practical lesson. Sad. Unnecessary.

Thank you so much for sharing. I have two daughters (3 years and 11 months) and I think it’s about time I started giving my 3 year old a sex ed. It’s scary what the world is becoming but we have to protect the innocence of our young ones. I remember when my little girl just started school, when I would give her a bath, she’d hold her belly button and go “wee wee”. I was traumatised not to say the least. Got to school the next day and warned her teachers not to have the girls and the boys use the toilets together.

NN, my daughter is only three years old and we talk about body parts everyday. Why? Cuz she keeps coming home with a different idea about her body parts than what i have taught her. I walked in on a five year old mimicking the act of sex with her and i still cringe till this day. She knew what I had taught her, but allowed the girl to pull her clothes down in the name of friendship. I felt like I had failed, i didn’t capture friends in all my do’s and don’ts. Turns out that the five year old was being molested by a seven year old, and she got to see adults having sex in her presence. Sex ed is necessary, we need to be the first and most accurate and least judgmental source of information on sex for our kids. And we really need to shake of these ideas of spiritualism and religiosity that clouds our judgment and decision making in this country if we want to make progress.

Child sexual abuse nigeria
Today, I am deviating a bit from the central theme of this blog, forgive me. It is for a good cause though.

I have a story to tell. Please be patient and read it all.

The other day (a Saturday, 11th June, 2016), I was at home, sat on my balcony, working on something. I am hardly ever out there but that day I was. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw a man take position to urinate in the gutter in front of the house. I absolutely detest that but it is one of those things that are just done in Nigeria. I looked at him and “eyed” him to show my displeasure but didn’t say anything. He looked straight at me. I went back to what I was doing. I was quite intent on my task but I noticed that he remained there for quite a while. I looked up and saw him looking straight at me and then I noticed that he was shaking his penis which is something guys do when they are done urinating, no? I was intent on my task and went back to it.

After about 1.5 minutes, it occurred to me that he was still there. I glanced at him, he was still shaking his penis and still looking straight at me. That was when it clicked that he wasn’t merely urinating. I got up and was only then able to confirm that he was masturbating and wanted me to see. You see, my house has a high-ish wall and I couldn’t see anything until I got up.

I immediately checked to see if there were any security guards on the street. We have several Mallams and they are almost always milling around. Like almost always. That day there was absolutely no-one around. I can’t remember the last time I experienced that. I started screaming at The Pevert hoping to draw someone’s attention. I am not shy about things like this. Plus I don’t have victim mentality (I will cone back to that statement) so I was shouting out exactly what he was doing on the road. I said “Why are you masturbating on the road? Pevert!”

Meanwhile, The Pevert was not in a hurry. He zipped up very slowly, apparently wanting me to see his penis now that I was standing and then he very slowly began to stroll away while I was shouting. In fact, he turned back a few times and looked at me while I was in the middle of my tirade. Sometimes smiling, sometimes chuckling. It was beyond weird.

What was even weirder was that a male neighbor was then passing by at about that same time and rather than hold this individual, was looking at me and smiling as he was walking by. I couldn’t understand that. If it were any of my brothers that heard that someone was masturbating publicly, they would have held unto and then turned him over to the police. This man (who has young children) was looking at me and smiling as he was passing the perp. In hindsight, it was as though he thought that I was just another female having a female-esque melt-down.

I told The Pevert to wait for me so I could come down and beat him (again, I no dey fear) but I knew I wouldn’t reach him on time. Too many locked doors and stairs between me and him. Plus, I am not stupid. No mallams on the street meant that I would not have back-up should this man overpower me.

So, The Pevert got away.

I made it a point of duty to mention the episode to my housekeeper when she came to work the following Monday. Her first statement was ” So, he came back?” I was completely taken aback and further taken aback when she said that she had seen him at least twice and the last time, he gave her enough time to come into the house, get some water and pour it on him. (I honestly don’t know how well the water would have hit him as it is a bit of a distance from the balcony to his position across the wall).

But you see, this was not the most shocking thing. She said “Do you remember when I told you [your daughter] was out on the balcony and a man told her to come downstairs? I am pretty certain this is the same man.” So you see, this Pevert is not only a serial masturbator, he is also a potential pedophile.

I remember that episode clearly. I was out, just the housekeeper and my daughter were in, when this man told her to come downstairs to him. She says that he was holding a bag from which candy was sticking out. She immediately ran to get my housekeeper to show her the man. You see, my daughter is not allowed to open the door to non-family members much less exit the house on her own. It has been drummed into her since she was able to understand words. She is now 10years old so it is second nature. And she was able to sense danger.

You see, I have spoken to her about sexual parts, intercourse, rape and non-penetrative assault and she knows that anyone can pose a threat.

We call her body parts by name and have always done. No pet names. So her Vagina is called “Vagina”. Her buttocks is called “Buttocks or Bum”, her breasts are called “Breasts” A boy’s part is called “Penis”. No “my private place” ” my fluffy bits” or any of those flimsy euphemisms that people like to use. She also has a plan for if anything ever happens. I can’t share it here as it is private to us.

Let’s go back to The Pevert. As soon as I heard that he may be a potential pedophile I sent word to get a Stun Gun and pepper spray so that the next time he comes, I will be ready. I also have phone numbers for the mallams on my street so that if I can, I can surreptitiously call on them.

I asked the housekeeper why she did not call on the Mallams to catch him and she said that on both occasions, there were zero mallams available to call upon. So clearly, The Pevert scopes the area before he begins.

Now let’s talk about my driver’s reaction which I found to be quite interesting and typically Nigerian. He said he had heard of such a man in the adjoining area but had never seen him. That there was talk that he was under a curse and that someone had “shekpe-ed” for him from the village. That it would not be a good idea to attack him because he may have an underlying illness that will kill him for sure if he were ever attacked for what he was doing.

I told him that in my opinion, this guy was nothing more than a deviant and was being stripped of responsibility by attributing it to superstitious beliefs. I asked him if the flashers, pedophiles and sexual deviants in America were also victims of a curse. No answer.

This whole things makes me wonder:

1. What happens if I catch The Pevert and hand him over to the police? Will they let him go? Can they hold him on any charges? Even rape is so difficult to convince them on, how would they treat this flasher and masturbator?

2. When will we begin to take matters of sexual assault seriously in this country? You can see that on one end, the society sort of condones it under superstitious beliefs. On the other hand (as is the case with my neighbor) we just look on. By the way, this man has young kids who may be allowed a freer hand to leave the house than my own child.

3. How many of us have spoken to our kids (boys and girls) about sex? I am a very shy person but I determined early on that I would be the first person to talk to my daughter about it so that she has the right information. I was not going to let my shyness get in the way. Imagine my shock when one of my friends who has a 10-year old daughter said that she has never spoken to her daughter about sex. There are plenty of depraved people waiting in the wings, ready to share practical sessions with these susceptible children.

Acidosis:
They should not forget to go after all the Yoruba and Arewa bloggers as well. I can name 20 popular ones for proper references.

They shouldn't forget to go after all the Lagos based celebrities including Wizkid, P-Square, etc.


Failure to do that would make FIRS look stup!d.


I'm not Igbo by the way, but I'm not f00lish. Until we learn to do things fairly and rightly in this part of the world, we'd always be the animals that we are.

Just recently in the US, fire fighters traced a Nigerian Oba. That's how credible agencies work, they don't work like animals and visionless remotely controlled wanderers.

The sensible ones should know the reason for these troubles. Just because Linda accepted PDP sponsored ads doesn't make her a criminal. She has done nothing differently from Olamide, Ice Prince and other celebrities who featured in the Ambode campaign songs. But HELL NO; Foolishness won't make us think.