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thorpido:
Nice ideas Onegai but I think the Oyo state government still owns and manages the park and you know how it is with government facilities.
I'm even surprised it looks like this.You need to see how it was years ago.

Are you serious? Even if it's government-owned, it doesn't have to be governmen-run. I mean, this could be a real money-maker for Oyo state. If I'm going to go there, it would be because I want my kids to see the lions but the chances of them travelling out to visit a zoo is much higher. Which is sad: I'm carrying money Nigeria needs and giving it to people who planned things better.

At least they tried for having it there.

OP, nice pictures


I like the ideas of a zoo but why must they keep the animals in a concrete cage? Why not place plants around them and grasses and remove that nonsense concrete floor (which gets cold at night) in order to duplicate their natural habitat so they can thrive? And then instead of 2 hungry-looking lions, you can start building a whole pride of huge lions and more people will come. Who fed that tortoise watermelon, why not feed them their natural food? Where are our zoologists and Animal Sciences graduates? Are they still chasing bank jobs that will never return. Why not approach the zoo and offer your services, negotiate a salary and use that to improve your knowledge and get personal funding internationally?

Tourist centre, redesign animal cages, create a petting zoo, relocate the water parks a by further off and place the recreation centre close to it, create a horticultural garden with rare plants and flowers (many exist in Nigeria), upgrade the park. Pour money into this place because more and more people cannot afford to travel out and will need relaxation spots locally. It takes upto 10 years to get your profits out of this place.

I wish I could be in charge of a place like this! Total redesign and basic upgrades will see more people flocking here.

nggie:
LOL! True that..economy ain't smiling. Buhwe'll just mark it wit few kids jare. Kisses to baby E.

How is the celebrant? Has he slept off from all his cake and presents

I'll post some pictures of it being assembled now. You can also attach containers to the wall

Green Walls

So, after a brief hiatus, we are back!

Have you heard of a Green wall/Living wall? Basically, it's a wall consisting of living, growing plants and moss. You can have it indoors or outdoor, but it looks much nicer indoors. Construction is not that hard and the raw materials required can be sourced easily in Nigeria but I haven't seen anyone do it, so I would advise getting one of the kits (they sell them pre-packaged) abroad and assembling in Nigeria.

You'll need:
Wood as the backing
Moisture retaining material
Felt material
Potting soil
Plants
A location that is close to sunlight

It's like hanging a photo on the wall. It's a very unique look. May I suggest if you get one, don't over water it as you don't want the wood underneath to soak in water.

Here are some examples of them.

Thanks for this thread. I've been very concerned about it since I first saw it being sold freely. It should be a controlled substance and no-one should be able to buy it unless with a permit and the person should be a professional fumigator.

Lots of June babies, including Baby E but this economy is not smiling. Is anyone planning on doing a 1st birthday party?

lawyer:
The area is simply an Investment opportunity for Nigerians to invest and own lands near a Refinery at the free trade zone Ibeju Lekki. This place is going to be like Apapa in the next 3 to 5 years and its best for those who have small pocket change to buy lands there so your children would not insult you in future why you don't own lands in that area when their classmate parents bought it years back at a very cheap rate. Last year it was going for N500K per Plot, now its going for N1 to 1.5 Million.

The only snag i have about this place is that now that the omoniles know development is coming there at a rapid pace so they are getting more fraudulent and reselling government or other people's lands to unsuspecting buyers. So you have to shine your eyes. All in all Well done to Dangote for opening up that place and please don't be like my parents who scoffed at the idea of buying Lekki Lands 20years ago because it was Bush only to regret it today. Be a land owner and invest there for your children. Me i don buy my own. Na you remain

Cheers

Hello. I remember you from last year, on a very informative thread about land. Do you know if there are any plots left in this area? I have someone interested in buying but she has zero idea where to start, even a seller. And she grew up knowing about the frauds committed in land buying so she is wary. Thanks.

Everyone is screaming that the police is incompetent, corrupt and dangerous and don't know the Law. But no-one wants to join. Which means only the desperate-to-survive, corrupt and incompetent are joining.

So stop complaining about the police since you don't want to do anything about it.

This is very good, a local way of adoption and social welfare. We need to keep customs like this alive.

tearoses:
Id rather she carry empty containers for her mum and living at home than being a house help in one wicked woman's house where she will be exposed to all sorts.

Funny enough, my mind is beginning to be swayed on this argument. I think it is an abused system but in Nigeria, there is a place for fostering children (and yes they will work fewer hours and only be limited to basic housework). It may not be ideal but this is the reality I living in Nigeria: that is the best way to actually raise some people's economic standing. And I would rather there be community laws in place governing the practise and enforced by local sharia and customary courts than outright abolishment and a huge section of the population remain poor and destitute. Laws to regulate it and the system (age of child, background checks of employer, written agreements on expectations from both parties). That was how it was done in the past and several wealthy people started their lives like that (Tinubu and Alhaja, so many women who are millionaires in the gold and lace business etc).

I know someone's maid who has eaten at restaurant most NLers cannot afford to go (Four Points family breakfast etc). You knew she was a maid the way she was dressed but she was treated okay (girl developed an appetite for scrambled eggs. Village geh o! ) but still kept stealing petty stuff like food she had never tasted and lying like crap so they sent her away. Her mum is now trying to collect the madam's number to call and beg them to take her back (when she saw her daughter they said she screamed in shock for how fresh and plump the teenager looked). I think it depends on the employer and the situation. One of uncle's houseboys (no relation to him) is now working at GTB head office and he was trained from his teen years till adulthood there and his kids call his former employer Grandpa and Grandma. He would have had zero opportunities had he stayed with his parents in the village.

Laredojohn:
Dis is serious...if this still applies today...thanks for the info though.

Bini culture is one of the oldest and most respected in Africa because they take their culture dead-serious. That's a fact (go to a lot of museums and you'll see proof). They just don't make noise and attract attention to it like Yoruba culture has done successfully (which they should). The oldest church in Nigeria is in Benin city and people from around the world go there (Nigerians and foreigners alike). In Bini culture, one doesn't get married on Market Day. Even if you're in the U.S. as long as the date you pick for your traditional engagement falls on Traditional Market day in Benin city, no-one will do the marriage. It has affected people I know (who had to either postpone their wedding by a week or just have a party that day and do the engagement quietly the next day). Other tribes (like Igbo, Igala, Nupe, Tiv etc) should start taking their cultures serious because there's a lot of money to be made in Tourism and Anthropology.

This is the traditional way of calling for a fast. Is it from sunup to sundown? I'm sure the elderly and children are exempt.

Laredojohn, he will be buried with human heads, his staff carriers and some leopards will be allowed out at night to go hunting. That's what i was told as a child.
I know there is a hypnosis spell cast on people to coerce them into going to the palace and becoming servants for a while in order to cook for the multitude of visitors during that time (this was before the era of caterers). The hypnotized person was given a loincloth to wear and usually worked without needing to rest so had to be released after a day. My mum's neighbour was one of those caught the last time Oba "travelled". He went to the farm, didn't come home that night and came home a day later, exhausted and with welts on his hands from pounding yam constantly. He had absolutely no idea what he had been doing, but someone who was in the palace confirmed seeing him in his loincloth around the kitchen (working tirelessly).

beyedew:
Sorry ma,is powder bad??

It causes respiratory issues because of its nature. Please search the thread, a lot of people came here and spoke about it and how their doctors advised them to go about not using powder.

Harbioollah:
Ma'am, I feel no reason to be frustrated.

If I come back home and hear my wife has been in a dispute with anybody, I'll be annoyed even if she was the victim. That's why I always give strict instructions to my partner never to get involved in a fight, dispute or whatever No matter what happens. It's better to walk away.

About the Mother, you asked in a bad way. Such things are asked at leisure time playfully or stylishly like someone above said. With the way you said, you made if feel unwelcoming.

The last one is laughable. Did you even bother to check the mood he was in at that moment?

You remind me of someone I refused to date because of behaviours like this. Always wants to be pampered and supported even when she is wrong.

Thank you, Thank you, THANK YOU!

Finally, someone gets it.

OP, do something for me right now: cluck and run around like a chicken. Oya! Keep clucking, flap your hands like a chicken. Because you're acting like one, ruffled feathers and all.

Since your last thread, you've been clucking upandan "my MiL is coming, she's Edo and I'm Igbo". It doesn't seem to anyone reading this (and most likely your husband) that you're comfortable with her tribe. I mean, that seems to be one of your issues with her. So how on earth did you marry an Edo guy?? Was it arrangee, did you only get to meet him on the day of the wedding and realised his name was Osato and yours was Nneka?? Or was your biological clock ticking too loudly only in your mind and you refused to let this opportunity pass you by when Eromosele smiled at you and you forgot you would have a problem with the fact that he wasn't Chinedu?? Do you realise that Socio-culturally and Governmentally your kids will most likely end up as Abieyuwa and Esohe and not Nnamdi and Chioma?? If that is going to be a problem for you, I suggest you quietly end this marriage now, before it gets older and much more complicated.

Secondly, from your thread and today's thread, I tend to believe your neighbour more than you. I mean, you're here flapping your hands and clucking like a chicken with upset over someone you haven't seen, I'm pretty sure you did worse to the neighbour you had seen.

So! How do you turn yourself from a chicken to a human being again? Simples! Shut the fvck up and let his mother come. Act and treat her like you have good manners (be polite, welcoming friendly and helpful. I know you think you're a "Christian" so act Christ-like to his mother). After she's been there for about 2 weeks and 5 days and you've (hopefully) treated her nicely, speak to him one day before sleep and say "sorry i was being sorta like a chicken earlier. I just wanted to know how long mumsie was coming over so I could prepare. She's always welcome in OUR home for visits, though I realise we need time to ourselves to build us into a better couple".

Can you do that? Does this sound like a plan to you? Nod your head affirmatively and put your flapping hands down and stop clucking. Also, go and learn how they greet in Edo (is it Bini or Esan you're married into?) so when his mum comes, you make her feel welcome by doing so.

Btw, don't be offended that I called you a chicken, because I like chickens! I've always kept them as pets so I understand their temperament. Shout out to my last one, Glorinda, I miss you! I hope you're in chicken heaven, eating bread and scratching the ground and running around

5minsmadness:
Pederasty would have been more about power and control and "male bonding" than sexual pleasure. Dont ask how i know
Pleasing the king may not actually have been in se.xu.al terms. Having sex would not be that big a deal to him as he would have had sirens at his beck and call. Most likely her humility, kindness and thoughtfulness won the "beast" over.

Some African cultures practised Pederasty. But more importantly, how do you know about it...

Ghen ghen ghen!

So, basically, you're saying the Book of Esther is also about telling good girls to marry bad boys, bah!!!! Because they will "tame" them.

In the context of this thread (what was it about sef?), pedarasty would explain a wide walking in on her husband in bed with another man and he explaining things away as "bae, the love I have for you is earthly and will keep the human race alive. But this is a purer form of love, devised to keep male binding very strong. Don't get mad, sweetie!"

Nice! I want to make a medicine box.

5minsmadness:
From history and piece from the Bible, Xerxes was also known as Artaxerxes, a contusion from Ahasuerus. And yes, it is said he reigned from BC486-BC465.

I see crackhaus has already responded so I need not say more.


You do realise though that most Hollywood movie portrayals of history is heavily garnished to make it more interesting e.g Spartacus?

I know Hollywood garnishes to the point of silliness and "300" is actually a comic book, heavily stylized (like the Watchmen). But think about it: this is the ancient world, where they had really savage and out-there customs. Pedarasty, for example was practised by Greeks and Spartans and cultures used to borrow from each other. So Xerxes' court was for sure very "out-there" and this Hebrew girl (everyone knew the Hebrews were conservative by their world's standards) married the king . That is the modern day equivalent of an MFM pastor's daughter marrying the son of a corrupt politician who also happens to run a nightclub (who has been exposed to every vice) and didn't even bother to give his life to Christ before wedding the babe. and she pleased him!

Pavore9:
Let her camp refute the allegation.

Modified before I koba myself

Everyone should take responsibilities for their actions. Yes, it's hot. But I'm very sure one can dress appropriately without flaunting all. Especially if that person is young (male or female). When I'm in the U.S. I want to bathe and comb the hairs of boys dressing up like Justin Bieber and Chris Brown. When I'm in the U.K. I want to walk around pulling down those very short school-uniform skirts (the girls roll it up and wear tights and justify it by saying their legs aren't showing). Both sexes should dress appropriately to an institute of organised learning. What they choose to wear at the mall, is their headache. But in school, dress appropriately.

I'm sure the mother took it personal as an insult to her parenting skills and cunningly made it all about a woman's right and Feminism. That's what human nature is all about: one feels guilty and lashes out in defence but so as to get maximum support, covers up their personal issue under a banner of an intellectual cause and self-righteous indignation. Just like the dude today with his wife's hair.

God2man a lot of women in Nigeria are carrying their natural hair, full and thriving. Your wife could have done that. She can still do it. But your reasons were unjustifiable. Below is a pic of a Nigeria lady and thst is her hair. Are you saying the God who have us the genes to grow it long was wrong, since it is impure (in your eyes)? Are you willing to spend the money for your wife's crowning glory to shine like hers? Or in your eyes, is this hairdo too "worldly" (even though it is her God-given, 100% natural hair).Be honest please.

cococandy:
It's cringe worthy.

When we were little my mom would never let us step outside unsupervised, even to play. I thought it was just too much. As in she over-sheltered us to the extreme. Now I know better.

Who wouldn't put a leash on their little kids and tie them to their waist when rape cases keep skyrocketing like this? it's scary

Come to think of it, there is the man who used to live close to us in our old neighborhood and he had a shop there for close to 20yrs.when I called home not long ago, they were gisting me that he went to jail. For child molesting. He molested someone's househelp and the lady wasn't ready to hear "let's settle it amicably". So they locked him up and that's when the can of worms opened. There were so many cases against him some dating back to when he first moved there and we never knew all the while.
Some mothers covered up to avoid putting their daughters to shame and some just didn't have the means to pursue justice against him.

I was like
For that long and we never knew? Probably because we hardly went out. But my goodness!

A sane society would have looked inwards and started asking parents to train their wards to speak up if they feel unsafe and start educating people on how Rape is a moral sin and a crime. Train your children to avoid being raped and also NOT to rape others. But the minute one starts that conversation publicly, men (who are the majority of the abusers caught) will feel threatened and take it personally that we are calling him in particular a rapist, and start screaming and shrieking up and down and yelling "feminist". Then the cycle continues and 2 days later, another child abuse case will hit NL frontpage and we will all condemn with no solution at hand.

I'm thankful for the Mods who move this cases to the frontpage. Let us see the evil in our society and start talking about it.

cococandy:
Another child rape?
What's going on

Someone who is a doctor at a Public health centre in Lagos said the number of child rape cases that land on their desk is more than adult rape cases. And that the number of files are so many and most parents don't want to go to the police. So what we read in the news is less than a quarter of actual rape cases.

modath:
http://www.labellemo.com/2016/06/miscarriage-of-justice-appeal-court.html

Well, that's just gangster...

Moral of the story: don't give your child anything that is not recommended by medical people with sound knowledge. And most teething mixtures ARE NOT RECOMMENDED....

...But people will never hear; we will still come here and read parents proudly saying "I am giving my child Piccan/Teething Mixture/Cough syrup/Antibiotics that were not prescribed/pouring all sorts of mixtures on baby's skin/Rubbing powder all over the child/making the baby swallow Agbo" etc and wonder later on what could be the problem.

Meanwhile I've just given Baby E groundnuts for first time ever, so I'm sitting down watching to see if she reacts to it (we have some family allergens). And instead of her to learn how to walk, she's there mastering how to climb. She has climbed the couch and centre table today alone. How's LBK?

bolseas:
When i was making plans for my son"s first birthday, i had a budget of 600k. i felt it really doesnt make sense blowing that kind of money for such an event.

i remembered one of my bosses who bought shares for his son.

then it occured to me that a piece of land could be bought for him. i discussed it with my husband and he agreed to buy the land.

Right now, my son owns a plot of land in his own name at the age of 1.

on his birthday, we had cakes, drinks only. we only invited alffas for prayers and photographer for the pictures. Granma and Big aunty were around. no other person.

Our budget was crazy as well! I found a wonderful venue, N150,000 (it has enough activities to keep kids entertained plus a DJ). No food, drinks or even photographer, talk less of a cake. The photog I liked gave me a N75,000 fee. So i cancelled everything and I will collect money and keep in her bank account and invest in shares when the economy picks up again. At least I remember being very happy to know Coca-Cola, NBC and Guiness were giving me money as a child, even though I had no idea why I thought it was because I was given a bottle of Fanta on special occasions.

Zemaye, prep the jars first by sterilizing them. Wash then boil in water and leave to air dry in a covered bowl (the way you would sterilize baby bottles. That way, you kill any bacteria that may be left in.

I've never tried preserving tomatoes but I do know a bit about preserving stuff and I know the packing is very important. Mayonnaise jars with metal lids are also good.

Baroba:
well its obvious they haven't got the right anti venom, all you need is grab a few of these snakes, collect there venom and develop an antidote. That's how its done in South Africa, a country with a huge mamba population.

Even though we have enough medical sciences people to do this, and most are jobless, they won't. I mean, if a few had been gathering snakes and collecting venom all these years and created the anti-venom, they would be making money selling it to govt agencies to distribute. But the average Nigerian would rather kill the snake, crack dry jokes, eat it in a pot of soup, blame Buhari or whomever politician and call lalasticlala.

overhypedsteve:
nobody know too much, I am just asking for help

Do look up Spirogyra, it's an algae. So it grows around wet places,lots of water. There are some terrariums that have water features but they also have animals in those types and that are called Vivariums. A friend used to keep her albino python in one of those in her apartment. Animals like snakes, tortoises and frogs are good for Vivariums. Below are pictures of Vivariums. I believe a Vivarium is cheaper than a fish tank to maintain.

Aloe Vera is good for open terrariums. I think what you need is Moss (those green grassy stuff that grows in dark moist places). Just scrape some and put it on a rock with lots of water and little sunlight to grow. HTH

overhypedsteve:
can I just use sparogyra and aloe Vera

Please look up "Spirogyra" and make your decision.

5minsmadness:
Yeah I know.
The images that thought conjures are mind boggling

Well, I certainly didn't need those mental images (if he was soo depraved as in the movie, one wonders what kind of feast she threw that delighted him so much ).

But how true is this though, has Archaeology and History confirmed it? Because the only one I know they can confirm with reasonable certainty is that Rameses III (the Great, who built most of the temples and pyramids) is the Pharoah from the Old Testament. They have hieroglyphs that say there were floods and all sorts of natural disasters during his reign (which coincide with descriptions from the Ten Plagues).

The OP is trying to make us laugh, the economy is bad!

But some brokeass mololos are going to use this write-up to start trying to save money

God2man how come the demons don't affect you when you enter bus? or buy foodstuffs from the market? After all, she must price at several stalls before making a purchase. Just say you don't have money next time okay and pray for increase.

TeamGoWork or TeamNotAHouseWife, I'm sure this man's wife has a job o!

Nairaland Association of Misogynists/HatersOfWomen are rushing here to come and defend their boy o! Next year Valentine's day will be demonic and cause barenness and lack of employment. "FIGHT FOR YOUR KHALASAR AND KHALEESI!"