₦airaland Forum

Ayohbk:
Do you know there are many gay men and women who bow to societal pressure and get married to the opposite sex but they still run things on a downlow. Lol

yawn...Another weak and stale reasoning to justify a seemingly shameful act!

Ayohbk:
How about men and women who have reproductive issues ( low sperm count, erectile dysfunction, impotence, womb complication) and can't procreate, does that make them less human? A woman that has sex but doesn't conceive, does that make a her less human?. Can you please give proof of where therapy has worked for homosexuality. The U.S and other developed countries have categorically stated that homosexuality is not a mental issue or disease, so there's nothing like a cure or therapy. But no , na from Nigerians who are dying from ordinary malaria and still battling with polio for decades you go dey hear " go for therapy" and other shits.

Sorry bro ur comparison is not in any way related!
Wat has low sperm count (which can be rectified with the right medication) have any correlation with a mental aberration?

Ohh yeah,so just because the US and other supposed advanced countries have validated that its not a mental issue,hence we are to suck up and digest whatever they tell U!
I guess U will be comfortable if the so called US say its OKay to have se.x with an animal!

That has always my issue with Africans,our thinking ends where the whites ends there by limiting our ability to think out of the box!

Inferiority complex go kill us for this nation!

Maybe one day marijuana will accepted in US and other so called advanced countries and U will also see that as comfortable right? Smh

lol...Very funny response...

Holymann:
If she's innocent, she wouldn't switch off and "HIDE" the phone from someone who she wants to get married to.
Remember, He never said he wanted to go through the phone but he's no longer comfortable with her actions

The guy you quoted didn't properly comprehend the OP's write up... OP said "any time" they are together,she switches her fone off...in other words,she frequently does so whenever they are together.... giving the clearest sign ever that she is hiding some thing that can either implicate her or end the relationship!

merxi55:
a wife to be,isn't your wife yet... If you suspect anything, then go ahead and marry her ...no time

dippleee1:
I hardly comment on this type of post, but have once experience this before, the same fiance matter, always keeping her phone off or offing her network when ever she comes visiting, I never suspected anything. I have even taken her home to my family to do intro to them. Pretty and nice lady working in a bank, me working and doing fine than her in life as an engineer. When ever she comes around, she is always very protective of her phone and password every app on her phone,well I trusted her much and never asked her why all this over protective method of her phone when ever she is with me. But God expose her one day, she was chatting with her phone and her mb got finished, she tried loading from her bank account, not working. So she begged me to use my phone to log on into her FB account, that she want to conclude a transaction chat with her client. I gave her, she used it and later gave me back my phone after 45min with it. After she has gone, I decided to use my FB to chat, I found out her messenger account wasnt logged out properly, I decided to check her Last chat, what I saw nearly made my heart to stop beating. She was booking appointments with several men, some telling her how sweet she was the last time they made out and another booking her, she telling them prices and even telling them she will still get married to her man and she don't know how she will be coping with this type of life style when she get married to her lover, that she prays GOD HELP her then, but she love her man, but business is business. Imagine if I didn't see this on her phone, I would have gotten married to an evil lady who probably would have been cheating on me at home when ever am not around. Note, God do show to us some signs before we select a partner, but sometimes we neglect those signs and go ahead and still select the partner, believing you are in love, later in life repercussions start coming up. Be wise

Blood of Titus!
She even included God...ohhh

The level of reasoning these days by some individuals esp here on nairaland is quite preposterous to be honest,
So just because OP isn't yet married to the lady,he can't see or have access to her fone?
So a guy cant ask for a lady to be committed or faithful to him unless he is married to her?
And such lady thinks marriage will make her submissive and at the same time make those "toasters" and "marriage proposers" on her social wall to quit disturbing her forever?
So lets flip the coin...and let a lady find out why her guy switched off his fone....she would have to first get married before she can access his fone? right?
What an outrageous reasoning!

The way Nigerians talk about marriage or make it look like a caveat that makes one's character or sin go away defies common sense...The laughable part is that most people now view marriage as a solution to all of their problems including cheating...

Whether we want to accept it or not....No matter how we try to play down on relationship or dating,the facts still remains that
A cheat in a relationship will most likely be a smooth cheat after marriage...
A flirt in a relationship will be a flirt when married....
An abusive partner will be far more abusive once the wedding party is over......
A violent individual might even beat up a partner on their first wedding night....

Marriage can never change any one's character or attitude....what the partner was is the same character your partner will exhibit once married!
Make no mistake about that!

The rate of divorce cases that will sweep across this nation will be quite devastating in the coming years due to some unfortunate decisions by those who prefer to act based on their emotions.....

Still trying to comprehend the reason behind their visit to the president!

Will their visit proffer solutions to the endless crisis going on at the northern part of Nigeria?


I guess that may be part of the president's manifesto... "seeing and shaking different kinds of women every day!"

Smh

Doctormarrvin:
i get you. They shouldn't be encouraged yeah? Nigeria is even tolerant. If you were to tell the "liberal" whites that homosexuality shouldn't be encouraged,you'd be getting death threats by now. Although discouragement still has a long way to go.

lol...like what some one said earlier...dere are some liberties that can become distorted and appear as stupidity...

as much as most of the innovations or thought process on earth emanated from the whites, they can't always be right about everything... and the rest of the world must not swallow all that the whites give us including permitting shameful acts!

True about discouragements but there is still no harm in emphasis!

Doctormarrvin:
The so called liberal countries accepting of homosexuality did so because they didn't have a choice,they tried all methods and are secretly still practicing other methods now. Do you think some whites do not detest gays? Even the president and vice president of the United States have been known to throw in some homophobic comments every now and then. I understand you and I see the point you're trying to make but you do know the death of all homosexuals wouldn't equate to the death of all problems of the world or the creation of a paradise earth or world peace. I don't think I understand fully why gays are gays but I am not going to hate them because of something I don't understand and neither do I love them because my sentiments won't change anything or influence their orientation. I see them as humans,the same way I see straight people,no discrimination,no special treatments. I do hope by extending my studies into neuropsychiatry,i'll be able to understand alot of things but for now! There's nothing I can do nor we can do.

No my oga....I never at any time suggest the killing of gays as the solution to the problem....but rather letting them know and be aware that what they are doing is wrong and shameful...not making them feel as if what they are doing is cool or normal...It like a child who is allowed to do what he likes by the mother..once she permits him to keep misbehaving,the son will feel comfortable with that habit...same applies to homosexuals!

chineduemmao:
ok! i know a guy who is kleptomanic and i just realised there is nothing we can do, how about we become more accomodating and allow him to pick anything from peoples homes and shops without being lynched?

lol

Doctormarrvin:
it's perfectly normal to be homophobic,homosexuality itself has to do with some unique way the brain was wired,wired to love same sex individuals. The so called liberal whites tried to change homosexual individuals via chemical castrations,electro-shock therapy through the implantation of electrodes in their brain and many other unconventional methods but non yielded any result other than the death and maiming of the test subjects.Take Alan Turing for instance,a promising scientist who was subjected to chemical castration because he had a thing for boys,his story didn't end happily ever after. I've also seen a case of an homosexual male turning straight and living happily. We didn't like it when the whites hated us,enslaved us,kidnap and killed us simply because we were black,we were sad because we didn't chose to be born black. The whites are now a little accommodating because being black is no fault of ours,same way being gay is no fault of the homosexuals. Hate and stigmatization is not the way. I'd like to know what you propose we do to homosexual individuals? I am not a fan of the LGBT and whatever they are always putting up,i just don't like the idea of hating humans because of who they love or don't love.

Good morning doc....
I understand ur train of thought....however the comparison btw the white/black issues being equated with homosexuality is really to say the least unfair and largely unfortunate!

Don't forget that U don't just have black and white but other colours....it all depends on the race or side of the world one is coming from...but that's an issue for another day!

Now u asked about possible solutions....before seeking a solution, we must ask why we need a solution? What are the problems a homosexual can cause a society or deprive a society that will require a solution?


before we can find a solution to this mental deviance,we must let the person know its NOT OKAY to be a homosexual....
The reason why there has been no move for a lasting solution is that most carefree nations and so called progressive individuals have accommodated such practices...in other words,they start to think there is nothing wrong with a homosexual or its way of living....and it becomes a norm!

I agree that homosexuals must first be seen as humans....and must not be stigmatized!
My problem is not really about homosexuals,my real issues is about the "its not ur business" crew or the "U are unique as U are(being a homosexual)" group...Instead of letting people realise how their "shameful habits" can cause a society,these groups accompanied by a debased media starts making them feel its OKAY TO BE A HOMOSEXUAL!

its now normal for a guy to have "se.x" with a guy?...OMG
Even the mere image of seeing two male or female adults kissing is not only disturbing but unspeakable.... The worse part is that these partners will still go and adopt kids...hoping to have a normal family?
There was a reason for a man to meet a woman sexually....

Doc,the first solution is to let homosexuals realise how their sexual deviance will impact negatively to the society and by extension to the world!

If we don't do any thing about it and make homosexuals feel OKAY about this shameful and unfortunate acts,we may just be heading for a human extinction!

Before we can see a better solution to this entrapment,Let's stop the pampering of homosexuals....what is wrong is wrong!

Shroud:
man, she used to be a staunch supporter of gays. Fought with me alot over my stance on gays.

Who says our okoro Obi1kenobi is beyond rehabilitation? We'll set him free

impossibility is nothing....

Shroud:
what the fúck is this? Bukatyne? I don't believe this!!!!

Is this some clever sarcasm or prank?

Haba cut her some slack bro....people can change based on what they must have read or seen and she is not an exception!
the "its not my business' crew is a neutral stand...in other words,it will be extremely hard to maintain that posture for long!
The rate of perversion perpetuated by homosexuals made her realize that,she can no longer stand neutral any more,and its either she is for them or against them!

[s]

Obi1kenobi:
Really. That's what you understood from that you utter simpleton? You think homosexuals become homosexual because they don't have enough hard heterosexuals like you around them to show them the way? I'm glad to know you love women. Give the man an award for bein like 98% of the population.

At least, you'v quit the passive aggressive charade of before and come out in your true colours as just another virulent bigot.

[/s]
U are still saying the same thing....U haven't said any thing new from Ur previous yapping...
Ur likes want to find the slightest reason to justify ur so called sexual abnormality...Bro how do U sleep or feel having intercourse with Ur fellow guy? Jesu

Shroud:
The pathetic emo-bitch Obi1kenobi denies everything. Gays are as hated in Africa as they are in UK or US. However when you're a celebrity, the media clamps down on you if you express such hate.

But illiterates like that obi fool whose a gay will try to become more western than westerners.

The dude is a criminal as far as Nigeria laws are concerned. If I get him offline, he's going to prison.

Shroud:
And this OSU gets me the report of liberal demons as what, proof?

You will die by drowning. Bastard f(a)gott. You think I'm the average Nairalander you can mess with .

May you be burried with less dignity than the placenta of your afterbirth. You deplorable sod.

i always knew he was one of them...
It always starts with "its none of my business"...
then they accept it as a norm and its only a matter of time for them to indulge in such a shameful act!

Obi1kenobi:
And you live with them to know they aren't, right?

No sir i dont but Ur statement below proves U live with them well enough to know they live normal lives

Obi1kenobi:
It is already a way of life for millions of successful, well-adjusted people homosexuals. Sorry to disappoint you, but that's reality.

Obi1kenobi:
No. That's a failure of comprehension. A child doesn't need to know anything. Our behaviour as humans are driven by different factors. Many are learned. Many are impulsive and instinctive. Sexuality can be learned behaviour, [s]but sexuality is most often an instinctive biological impulse.[/s] The notion that people all choose to be homosexual is nonsense. If your own sexuality was learned and influenced by your environment, maybe you are a closet homosexual repressing your natural urges.

U are the one implicating urself with ur own write up...U just proved that sexuality is a learned behavior...which is most of the time based on the environment and the people u associate with! why try so hard to explain what is abnormal!
bro U are trying so hard to make homosexuality a norm...which is quite disturbing.....
.....and Sorry to burst ur bubble....i love women and ur empty analysis or petty conclusions wont change that....

Obi1kenobi:
It is already a way of life for millions of successful, well-adjusted people. Sorry to disappoint you, but that's reality.

Yeah i guess U live with them in their homes to know they are living a normal life right? smh

Obi1kenobi:
You have no standing to be critical of what you do not understand or experience. You're heterosexual. At no time in your life did you ever make a choice to be heterosexual. I certainly never chose to find Beyonce attractive instead of Usher. I just knew as a kid that a picture of Beyonce in a bikini gave me a hard-on.

Saying i have no critical standing is like disrespecting my opinion of which i perfectly understand....
So are U trying to say a child knew he would be gay or lesbian from the womb?
Who gave U such reasoning?
Dont U know the reason why U had a hard on for beyounce is based on so many factors which includes influences from peers and ur environment?
lastly,being heterosexual is a tag.....am attracted to ladies...and thats normal....being attracted to a man is abnormal and mentally derailing..and thats my opinion...comprendo?

Obi1kenobi:
Nothing started in any such manner. Homosexuality is as old as the existence of human civilization because a certain small fraction of people will always be wired differently from the majority. Homosexuality is observed in almost every mammal species on the planet, so its evolutionary roots are clear.

You have no standing to be critical of what you do not understand or experience. You're heterosexual. At no time in your life did you ever make a choice to be heterosexual. I certainly never chose to find Beyonce attractive instead of Usher. I just knew as a kid that a picture of Beyonce in a bikini gave me a hard-on. You just knew that you were attracted to the opposite sex and that has governed your whole life. That doesn't earn you any points for righteousness. It just makes you like 97% or so of the population. The problem is many of you that posture as if your heterosexuality is some kind of achievement when homosexuality is not even something you can class as a temptation, nevermind a sin because you simply cannot be biologically attracted to your sex. You cannot be recommending treatments for something you have no clue on.

Bro this is ur opinion.....and i totally respect it!
However,no matter how U or the western media try so hard to make it look acceptable,the truth remains that homosexuality is never and will never be a norm or a way of living....whether U like to believe it or not!
What is wrong is wrong and can never be considered right...no matter how long it has been with us!

Doctormarrvin:
Homosexuality should never be compared to bestiality. If I catch a man knocking up my bingo,i'll arrest him or take him for psychiatric evaluation . If I catch a man knocking up another man,what can I do? Arrest him? Drag him to a therapist? Take him to a church or a mosque or voodoo shrine? While I identify as a Christian,i have never seen a man delivered of the spirit of homosexuality. Since we lack the means of turning homosexuals individuals straight,should we kill them? If a close relative of mine is gay, I'lld take him/her to an accommodating country because I value his/her life regardless of whether he's/she's gay or not. Trust me! If science suddenly discovered a way to change sexual orientations,the lgbt population would reduce by more than 50%. I didn't chose to be born a boy,same way they didn't chose to be gay.

lol...@ knocking up ur bingo
That's how it all started with Homosexuality until sum so called liberal or progressive fellas felt is okay to be a homo...
Today,most of the western world accept bestiality as a norm...Two years ago a lady married her pet dog....!

My point is there is some thing that can be done!

A re orientation could be a start...though its up to the person to admit that what they are doing is wrong and can negatively affect a society!

Once an admission has been given,its easier for such person to undergo the right therapy!

I don't know about u but I believe its abnormal for a guy to have sexual intercourse with a guy or even contemplate marriage with a guy...same applies to ladies!
it defies the natural order of humanity!

Religion aside,a man can't conceive but a lady can...so its only reasonable for a man to be sexually attracted to a woman...and not btw same sex!

I understand and respect ur stance but there is always a way!

Doctormarrvin:
honestly bro,i don't know what to believe. I only know there's nothing we can do. Hate won't do a thing. Let's just be accepting and accommodating because like I typed "there's nothing we can do"

Of course there is some thing that can be done....
Nothing is impossible....
Being encouraging and accommodating is not an option neither is it a solution...

Will U be encouraging or accommodating if ur spouse,child or relative shows up saying am a homosexual...?

Will U be okay going to such wedding to witness the marriage of a loved one to a same sex partner?

So should we encourage people to indulge in bestiality simply because its none of our business?

The day we realize that what affects some one,who is not closely related,will also affect U in the long run....

dvkot:
i know a gay boy in my school days, hz name is innocent... this boy is really nice, friendly and charming, and I was the only one who stood up for him when other are insulting him. being different doesn't make you anyless a human. y'all complain of racism and social profiling but you see nothing wrong with sexuall discrimination.

how did U know he was gay?

This description fits a colleague of mine during our secondary school days....He had almost all the features of a lady except for not having boobs or a female genital!
After many years,he became a lady's man or what we would like to call a Casanova.... he later got married after having a good time with so many ladies!

Such process occurs during birth when a male has more female hormones than its male hormones....same happens when a female has more male hormones than its female!

This does not in any way make him a gay...just the same way a lady who acts like a man or labelled a tomboy is unfortunately tagged a lesbian....

For the purpose of clarity,a homosexual is one who seeks or has sexual preference to the same sex....

Did the person U depicted in ur post ever make a move on a guy or have U seen him have sex with a fellow guy?

Another political deception to deceive those who want to be deceived!

The way and manner the western media is trying to convince people mostly from Africa about the acceptability of homosexuals is really frightening to be honest!

Its like pampering a person who admits having a bad habit or attitude and letting the person think its a norm or a way of life....haba

Whether we want to accept it or not...
Homosexuality is not natural!
Homosexuality is not a norm!
Homosexuality is not a way of life or a normal way of living!
People who don't stand their ground against such bad habit,are not only weak but can always be deceived by any media hogwash...

Op,Ur gay friend needs ur help urgently..
Homosexuality is an abnormality and must be seen as such....
The first process to change him is his admission that what he is doing is wrong and will impact negatively on his future!
Once that is done,then he is half way to his redemption...

..Don't listen to people who have been brainwashed by a corrupt and morally bankrupt media who seek to justify their selfish and irresponsible practices...

What is wrong is wrong!

uuzba:
What has Igbo got to do with your safety?
Why don't you just always make sure the driver is Igbo before you enter any vehicle? Why are you even travelling to/from non Igbo territory?

Yeah but lets not take away the point he is making....we need to be alert and never take our eyes off the driver!

Donpresh95:
RIP. Some of this drivers are very stupid just like the idiot carrying us yesterday, He was feeling sleepy while driving . I challenge him scolding him but the idiot brought out koboko to wipe me still on steering,I kukuma told him to stop the sienna that I want to drop,when he stopped,I made it clear that am an Igbo along side with my Igbo brothers,we dealt with the idiot and he never spoke nor sleep till we reach our destination.

WE PASSENGERS SHOULD ALWAYS CHALLENGE THESE STUPID OVER SPEEDING DRIVERS

U too much...i have been saying this all this while...If passengers don't caution these reckless and careless drivers,they will misbehave on the road and such act could be fatal!
If more passengers start being assertive,All these "formula one race car" drivers will start driving with caution!

He said, “I reported the matter to the ‘B’ Division, Ughelli, and the Divisional Police Officer gave me two policemen to arrest the woman, who went into hiding after the incident. The policemen insisted I give them money before they do anything. ”

When we have security operatives who first demand money before carrying their duties,then just know the nation is in ruins!

True
Team work is a necessity for any improving or growing enterprise!
No matter your academic prowess,without interpersonal and interpersonal skills,you may encounter difficulties at the workplace!

Thank God for sparing your life....now make sure U drive safely and responsibly next time....When U over speed,U don't only endanger ur life but that of other road users!
In summary,
There is no duplicate to life....
Over speeding kills....
Drive safe....Stop trying to emulate Fast & Furious 5!
Happy easter Monday EveryOne!