₦airaland Forum

Humanistme:
If she is a strict lesbian then there's no need to regret anything. she is simply not sexually attracted to men.

U dey her mind way U come take know say she be "strict les.bian"

Humanistme:
as for your second point

I'm not talking about being religiously inclined when I said Shiloh mentality, I meant seeing marriage as an achievement or do or die affairs. e. g if there is any news on rihanna or nicki Minaj on any American blog you won't see comment shaming them for being single compare it how Nigerians act to lets say Linda ikeji or Genevieve.

Thats True!

Humanistme:
she is in the abroad. so gay marriage is okay for them. plus abroad people don't have Shiloh mentality.

she posted on her instagram page the blame goes to the hungry blogger that brought it to nairaland

My first paragraph takes care of the points you raised!
Responsibility is the key!
So that we don't start hearing about how she wasted her life on vain stuffs!

And I disagree with you on the Shiloh mentality abroad....there are some people abroad who are over-religiously inclined, though not like Africans but they are still there....

Smh
I hope she takes responsibility for what she is saying or doing to herself right now!

cos i don't want to hear that,25 years later,she decides to locate the nearest mfm/shiloh gathering saying her village people don't want her to get married or prosper!

For those ladies who are joining her or applauding such act,be mindful of what U support or embrace....!

Where there are no effective institutions empowered to curb the recklessness of truck drivers esp the ones belonging to dangote,these fatal accidents will keep happening on a regular basis...

...and how is that going to stop him from cheating on U next time

You cannot buy from God what he’s already deposited in you,

you cannot demand or ask from God a potential he’s already designed you to manifest, all that pertains to life, is already wired into you to manifest, however, most christian centres these days say different as though God is deliberately withholding your ability for success and greatness and you must impress him with "gifts",tithes and things for him to make you what He already made you.

How absurd!

dtruth50:
there is nothing wrong in giving him whatever he want, who wil b bad will b bad. but i doubt if he is his real father

That's not true....You must not keep giving your children whatever they ask for....it will surely spoil them...and when they grow up and don't get what they want,they resort to criminality and violence....
ur last statement is not entirely true...training up a child with the necessary requirements and it will be hard to depart from it....thought there are some exceptions but that's only minimal!

You spoilt your son...gave "everything" he asked or requested...now you are calling him worthless when you failed as a father!

My country naija...and her "reactive" people....
Just last year precisely november, a woman and her daughter died in a road accident when they travelled to Onitsha to purchase wedding stuffs...

most Nigerians typed "RIP","It will never happen to my family","God will not allow any accident to happen to my family"...and the list of declarations and prophetic renderings kept going on...but just after,2 weeks,these same grieving people forgot about what happened and moved on with their lives...waiting until another one happens before we start reacting.....Again! What a pity!

Accidents don't just happen...they are caused by recklessness and neglect of simple basic rules....

What will it take for passengers to ask drivers not to overspeed knowing fully well that their lives depend on it?

Why would the living keep silent in the mist of these recurring problems hoping that prayers alone will fix the problems?

Will prayers alone build good roads for us or make reckless drivers to become sane and responsible?

With all due respect,the couple who died like the Benue killings did so not because they didn't pray hard enough for protection but they failed to accompany their prayers with a corresponding ACTION!

Prayers give U the belief to act and not the licence to become lazy hoping that God will do for U what he has completely equipped U to do for your self!!

I don't want to sound like a dooms day crier but I assure U,if we continue on this reactive path and keep hoping things will change,then expect more deaths in the coming weeks or months simply because we failed to be proactive!

U can't keep doing some thing over and over again and expect a different result!

if a gf isn't ready to be committed and start flirting with male friends simply because a ring hasn't been slipped on her finger is not only naive and deluded but doesn't know what she wants in her life....

What wud happen when the guy no longer gets committed,won't the same lady complain of being abandoned and not treated right?

U don't want to be committed but when it comes to payment of bills,u remember U have a tag called a relationship with sum one!

U wanna it ur cake and have it....so that ur friends will hail U as a smart babe!

A matured guy or lady will not go through all dese bestie stuff....

"Define" ur relationship with ur partner and stay faithful and committed to the relationship!

Macgreat:
It is better to be friends than be in "relationship" if you ain't ready for marriage why get into emotional relationship.

I think in understand ur point....every relationship must be defined!
and dats why it takes to matured and serious partners to indulge in such commitment!
a lady or guy should be open enough and responsible enough to tell each other the path or road the relationship is going to....

Macgreat:
I agree, but is she in a relationship with him.?.

she is...thats even the more reason who its painful!
most ladies don't know what they want....
If she can tell the male bestie everything about her life history,she can as well date or even marry him instead of suffering another guy whose fatekk is yet unknown!

Macgreat:
She is not your wife!

Marry her then you can complain.

What You can do in a relationship is the same thing that will happen in marriage!

A cheat before marriage will be a chronic cheat after marriage!

A liar in a relationship will also be a liar during marriage!

A dirty person in a relationship can't start being clean all of a sudden just because they are now married!

A non committed woman or man cannot simply be transformed overnight to a committed person just because a "ring" has been put in the finger!

Thats senseless and a total BS!

Who "You really are" is what you will take to your marriage!

A marriage is not an umbrella or "transform machine" that converts people into what they were not!

RuthDaniels:
A matured woman in a serious relationship or at least in a relationship with someone she values,loves and respects knows there is a boundary when it comes to relating with opposite gender

One can safely say, you are either dating a lady/girl who has no deep knowledge of what relationship entails or you are with a lady who doesn't value you that much. You are dating yourself!

Communicate with your girlfriend, tell her your worries, make her see reasons with you. If she remains adamant, draw a line. Make her choose between you and her 'bestie' then you will have your answer!

You are one of the few matured ladies still remaining in Nigeria!
Please keep it up!
Plenty of respect for you!

kingxsamz:
..Male Bestie.... another name for side Boo.

i guess PDP were the ones who brought herdsmen into the country from the so called neighboring states.....
I guess PDP Were the ones that convinced yaya bello to start up cattle colony abi?

Blame game shall never seize from the mouth of uncle lai mohammed....the latest comedian in nigeria!

lilmax:
a woman with common sense doesn't need labels

you don't have to be a feminist to be independent, supportive and in control of your life.... how dumb

like I said "sense"

dis ur writeup has made more than just common sense!
u too much!

olabrad:
Your comment is an offshoot of a disconnect between your brain, eyes and fingers, not my problem.

chisos

TrumpDonald2:
Yes I do. Great sense. Unlike you... quite unfortunate you can't get it through paying tithe. You can't buy it

I like ladies who are honest and upfront about their preference!
Most guys may not like this but believe me its for the best to avoid stories that touch!
Marry a lady who has such preference for a large manhood and she finds out that U are low there, the chances that she will cheat on U is very likely!
its all about compatibility....not fight!

maxtamazin:
Are you all going mad, didn't you read the part where she said she is happy?

Did she commit murder? No
Did she steal from the government? No.

She was able to turn a very bad situation to a good one and you are all claiming holy, quoting from the bible. Hypocrites!!!.

My dear if you are happy and you are not harming anyone. ...carry go. Leave heaven till we all get there.

Maybe U didn't also read that part where she wanted to seek opinions about whether what she was indulging in was right or wrong...
For the fact that she tabled this issue on this platform simply means she is feels guilty about the act!
If according to U she was happy about indulging in such acts,then she doesn't need any one's opinion or even think of bringing this to nairaland...simple!

Op Lets leave out Christianity or religion, Please for Ur well being and the sake of ur kids....Please take very important steps to end this unfortunate and heinous act!

I know its not fair on you that ur hubby left U without a single message and i know U have needs esp the sexual part!
Please don't listen some vain and abominable narrative from some shameless and self centered ladies who say "only a lady can satisfy a lady's urge" Or "that ladies know how to please ladies"....These erroneous and obviously manipulative statements are used to ensnare unsuspecting ladies towards the path of lesbian.ism!
Don't ever lower Ur core values because of some one...U are better than that!

When the corper has had her fill of her romance with U,she will introduce you to her world of les.bians who commit such acts and sooner or latter,U wont be able to leave such flock!

I know its Ur life and U have every reason to live it the way U want but not with a LADY!
But please don't hurt Urself and go down that path...Its not who U are or what U were meant to be!
I know U were hurt by ur hubby....i know U never wanted this to happen.....I know U felt lonely and was in need of someone to relieve U of those urges which is normal....

So this is my advise for U...
1.Admit what U did was wrong and should never have happened!

2.Take proactive steps to stop such acts by first cutting of from that lady totallybor any lady in future who tries to talk U into such acts...Just because it gives U endless pleasure doesn't make it right(its not going to be easy as she has now known ur weak spot but where there is a will,there will always be a way)

3.Please Forget about that irresponsible and silly guy U call ur hubby,divorce him and move on with Ur life(There is a possibility that U will meet a great guy who will love and cherish U)

4.Get engaged with ventures that will make U improve and become a better person...it could be reading very good and inspiring books or participating in a noble cause....There is so much from you that the world is yet to see!

Stay blessed!

emilyone:
Its your sexual preference, your body, your business as long as you are not hurting anyone.

She will hurt her kids one day when they accidentally open her door and find her in bed with another woman!
Now thats double jeopardy!
She may hurt her self the day that same lady she is committing that act with,walks away from that "secret" and unholy relationship!
Please what is wrong is wrong whether in the secret or in the open.....such acts must be strictly discouraged by all and sundry!
It will push that innocent lady to a path of no return no thanks to an cowardly and irresponsible husband who can be bold enough to tell his wife that he is no longer in love with her!

Yinxies:
So he met her in July and married her immediately?

What happened to getting to know each other at least 3months? Am sure the pregnancy would have shown...

The story sounds fake

There are people like that in real life....some get married in 2 weeks after seeing each other for the first time without finding out the kind of family he is venturing into or why the lady is in a rush to marry him!
Thats why relationship must be taken seriously in order to know the type of person U want to get committed to!

Cool

maynia:
Na monster dey play in seria A Abi?
seria A no dey top 3 league
How many of there players dey top 100 FIFA/ballor d or best players.

You saying Pogba has 12 assist in 33 games was his best stat..
And now season is not over, still has 5 month
And Pogba already has 9 assist, just remaining 3..
Even if the league finish now. Pogba has the best stat to himself ever. Let's Talk about this season
You chose a season out of like 4 season in Juventus. Compare that his best stat in Juventus,to this season..

Am really enjoying this ur unwanted and unnecessary argument!
If i may ask...Is there any superior stat U can bring up that beats the stats he had in 2015/2016 at Juventus?
Thats his best stat so far!

Can he beat his stats at Juventus? of course he can....but only if he can get more end products to his game, play better,keep fit and know that he is better than what he plays currently....and its starts with the game against a plucky burnley!
So let the challenge begin
By the way,de bryne having 9 assists now doesnt mean he will stop having assists or goals.....So lets watch and see!

maynia:
Lol bro calm down
You said the Pogba of Juventus is better than the Pogba of today.. lol

You self look am 33 games --12 assist
And 12 games --9 assist..

Calm down and think

He played his best football
With 12 assist in 33 games really?

okay presently,can U say sincerely,that pogba has exceeded his best stats in Juventus?
what were his stats last season at United?
Please U are not only arguing blindly but unnecessarily....

See Pogba is a very good player and can be the best midfielder in the world....but he needs more than skills to be the best...
He has started well after that forgettable match against southampton,Now he needs to carry on from those highly rated performances against everton and stoke where he performed very well....if he can do this till the end of the season,he will exceed his best season at Juventus 2015/2016!
But this can only be done with CONSISTENCY! Comprendo?

He played his best football
With 12 assist in 33 games really?

Yes he was influential...had an excellent 2015/2016 season as a Juv player.....Is there any other record or stats that can compare to it?
If there is pls do well to get it....
Yes na beans to get 12 assists and 8 goals as a midfielder in a tight league like serie A?
If U think its easy go play in the serie A league!

maynia:
Lol
He has 12 assist and 8 goals in 33 matches
And that's the best season

Season never finish ooo
And he already has 9 assist


You no look am before you post am?

Why do U like changing the goal post....i told U he played his best football at juventus and U said i sud give U stats and am not making sense...
Now i have given U a free stat and U are still yapping!
Why didn't he outshine this feat last season when he came to manutd?

Thats why i said he can do better than what he did at juventus and U are here arguing unnecessarily....
The funny part is that am even saying he can do far better than what he is doing right.....that's how good he is...and U are thinking am attacking pogba simply because u cant comprehend my explicit statements!

Bro next time learn how to separate objectivity from sentiments!

maynia:
Pogba was better in juventus?
How?
Lol
Bring out your stat let's compare it

It's not about mediocrity, it is about having common sense.. Let another club apart from Manchester United and Manchester City win the epl. And let's see who they will give the PFA
Rada Rada..
You see stat ,you still no think.

I dont like arguing when every one including U has access to the internet!
But for the benefit of others viewing,check the stats and stop arguing blindly...Pogba had the best stats when he was at juventus!
2015/2016 was his best season for juventus!

maynia:
Wtf
You are using a game to judge a player.. Na all games de bruyne dey perform Abi?

What consistency are you taking about..
I have 9 assist in 13 games and you have the same assist in like 20+ games?
Who should b he worried about consistency?

Don't you know math nih?

pogba has 4 assist in is last 2 matches. How many does de bruyne have in is last 10 matches?

And do you know Manchester United has never Lost a premier league with Pogba in the match?

Its unfortunate that U cant comprehend my points.....maybe its because ur fanship is clouding ur sense of objectivity!
As it stands presently,who do U think will win the PFA if its done now?
Stop being sentimental!
Even a game can be used to judge a very player.....for crying out loud we are not talking about an average midfielder playing for an average club side!
We are talking about pogba.....
If U watched pogba at juventus,U will know he is playing half of what he is playing at the english prem!
it was after the game against southampton that he stepped up..
...Lets stop celebrating mediocrity!
Pogba is much much better than what he is playing right now.....am only challenging him not mocking him!

maynia:
He has fewer games to assist. Who needs the consistency here
Pogba or de bruyne!?

did u watch the game manutd played against Southampton?
wat was the influence of pogba in that game?
there are other games where he wud have influenced the game beta for united....

So far de bryne has done very well for man city and still doing well....so consistency ain't a problem 4 him!

Am not taking any thing away from pogba...he is such an amazing player and a top top midfield maestro but if he doesn't add consistency to his performances week in week out for manutd,U may just see united going into the market again to shop for a midfielder with a beta end product like de bryne!

MosquitoREBIRTH:
you are right. But trust me, for someone to have same number of assists as the rest, with less games, he surely is an influencer.

True!
But i wish he could add that consistency to his game!