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Please people should not play with their lives. COVID19 is real. My family Dr. is presently in isolation. He got it from his aged father. His brothers and his Dad's care giver are presently very ill.

He told me how he saw to people die in their cars outside the Isolation centre.

Wise up, people. Stay home if you have no important thing to do outside. Protect your kids too.

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

Hi dear, from the little I can deduce, your brother had a personality disorder which gradually degenerated into drug addiction. Sadly a lot of hard drug has a way of eating into the addicts brain making them never to be the same again. I can't imagine the pain and trauma he has put your family through but he needs an intervention. From psychiatric help combined with follow-up Psychotherapy.
You people made a few mistakes by kinda of enabling him by getting him a job etc. For now, all he needs is to get drug free first, then gradually understand the consequences of his actions. Therapy can take up to one full year before you can push him back into the society.
Be patient with him too. Embracing hard drug for some people is as result of poor coping mechanism. In the bid to flee from reality, take to drug use. So my dear, patience is very key. Don't give up on him yet cos no creature of God is worthless. Pray for him, ask God to direct you to the right hospital.
My problem with State Mental Institutions is their archaic approach to mental illness.

Why is Port Harcourt so dirty? Gosh

When will Lagos be on lock-down? I'm tired of going to work biko

A lot of people do not believe Covid-19 is real. I went to Idi Oro Market today with my face mask and glasses and lots of people were making fun of me. I heard some call me mumu. A few ladies were discussing in Yoruba about how daft I was, after all nobody in this market came back from China.
Another lady responded that there was proof that Naija sun kills the virus.
If this thing enter well, na war ooo

Yes, It came at about 5:30am. Surulere

viceddy95:
How are we sure flavour is the father of her daughter?..
How are we sure,this girl didn't get pregnant on purpose, because flavour is a celebrity?...
The child deserves to know her father but that should not stop us from saying the truth,,her mother was careless...

How are we sure Flavour is the father of the child? The lady has requested for a DNA test to confirm this. Someone who isn't sure won't be willing to go for that.

How sure are we that she didn't get pregnant on purpose? My dear, a woman ovulates only one day in a month. You actually think someone would wait for that day to "r.ape" a celebrity to get pregnant? Even if she did, there is a strong possibility that Flavour may not be in the mood for se.x.
Since Flavor is a celebrity with children, who should also know how "precious" his sperm is, shouldn't he have sense enough to use a condom?
Why should you conviniently choose to blame a possibly star struck fan and leave the star that should have known better?

purples25:
I got a job last year at a private school. I was given the position of a receptionist. To be fair to this narration, i wasn't a very good receptionist because though I tried my best, what i studied had nothing to do with my job. I did my best to get the hang of the job, but i constantly forgot things i was supposed to remember, though i always did the basics.

I did my best to make up for my defects. Being a nursery and primary school i noticed they needed help with their artworks and since I am good at drawing, anytime there was no work on my table i did a lot of artwork for events or which the school needed for decor. They appreciated it so much and gave me a lot to do which unbelievably the parents were told their kids did it all.

I tried to have a good relationship with my boss and all. For her bday we did a large card and i was the one that crafted it in two days. I even told my boss about academic issues i had and how i planned to go back and fix everything next year.

Chin up, Hun. Sometimes experience like this is needed to give us that push to blaze our trail.
I love your honesty and you seem like a very smart person.
Please do not judge yourself by your failings. Being a receptionist isn't your forte so don't be too hard on yourself.
I'm glad you are about to get back on your feet. Hang in there

vannessa7:
Gold digger hit a mother load but didn't realise it will be this difficult to lift, imagine her saying she is not a gold digger when all she must have prayed for is for the sexual encounter to turn into pregnancy so she can have a meal ticket for life, she must have benn jubilating when she fell pregnant , baby mamarism

And you came to this conclusion how? Has it occurred to you that you just might be wrong?
How would you feel if someone makes conclusions about you without even trying to know you?

MrPrsdent:
Thoughts:

1. The little child looks nothing like Flavour. She looks very much like her mama though

2. There is no evidence the woman has met Flavour physically. Methinks she wants to trend with Flavour's name and along the line another man will notice her and start dating her.

3. As we all know ,these days no publicity is bad.

4. She had sex with flavour in her dreams . She may lust after him but Flavour doesn't know who she is

5. Within days the truth will be out. She will recant and apologize

And you knew all these how? If it turns out to be true nko given Flavour's escapades in the past. I'm so shocked how people are quick to support a morally deprived celebrity without knowing the whole story.

viceddy95:
The child needs support fine,,but why do some of you like supporting nonsense,,,...she met flavour sometime in 2015 and took in for him,,did flavour ask her out as a girlfriend or it was just a one night stand....
How which it was a broke guy,will she keep the pregnancy but because he was a celebrity she decided to keep it making her a gold digger.....
Why didn't she come out when she just gave birth or the child was a year old or two years old,,,.how are you sure she has been trying to reach flavour and he abandoned her......
Don't be sentimental in your judgement....

Just a few questions? Couldn't Flavour wear condom if he didn't want her to get pregnant?
Did it cross your mind that she may have thought she could handle raising the child until it became too much for her?
So she shouldn't speak up for the sake of her child?
Don't you think that the child also deserves to know who her father is?
And I go back to question 1. What exactly is condom for?

safarigirl:
It is pathetic that she went to have sex with a man who isn't her husband, a man who is a renowned prostitute, to what end? Was she expecting marriage? Or is she one of those pathetic women that are looking for a man to be the source of their livelihood

No clime is really sane, so nothing like saner climes.

People should not put themselves in certain situations knowing the consequences. Was she raped? Why will she open her legs for Flavor? What kind of irresponsible human beings litter the earth today?

Flavor will not submit himself for a test, and even if he does, it guarantees her nothing. She should go and ask the estranged mother of Davido's alleged second child what she's going through.

She is too old to subject herself to this humilation, a 33-year old woman chasing a man around for a child he probably knew nothing about.

As a woman, I know not to subject myself and my innocent child to public ridicule in this manner. Let us not pull gender cards to defend utter stupidity and carelessness.

Even in the sane climes, it is still pathetic. That is why nobody respects baby mamas in any part of the world.

Wow, I think you are being too quick to judge and blame this lady without knowing the whole story.
So how do you know she chose to put herself in such "situation"?
Do you know if she was raped?
Do you know if she's aware of Flavor's Randy nature?
Are you sure she hasn't tried to reach out to him privately before going public?
This lady made a claim and even showed willingness for a DNA test to be conducted. The sensible thing to do is for Flavour to make himself available.
This is one brave young lady, yes she may have made her mistakes but her baby deserves a better life.
It's very unfair how everyone is attacking her without facing the Mumu man that could have easily worn a condom to avoid stories that touch.

Sad. He needs help with his addiction. In a sane country the Force would have sent him to the rehab not sack him.
Nobody chooses addiction, it's inability to cope that pushes addicts into the lifestyle.

AngryNijerian:
I know one woman that python mistakenly bit in her farm. She said to the python; why will you bite me, don't you know that i'm daughter of the soil and besides i didn't intentionally march you. Immediately the python's venom started dripping off her leg. You will think its a story but it actually happened.

You don't kill python here, some see python entering their room at night but won't bat an eyelid and will probably sleep in that same room with the python. If you don't like its presence take a stick and take it out of your house while you throw the stick away because if you don't it will trace that stick back to your house.

Aren't Pythons non-venomous? �

Area4Area:
Trying to make up for the insult on Igbos and especially Ojukwu then. Anu mpama like him

My brother, I weep when I hear my people praising this man. How can we forget so fast? This man has no love for anyone except himself. Anyway, He won't be able to hide his true nature for too long.

Sadly our people love pretentiousness. They would have preferred the lady to sleep around, commit plenty abortions and still pretend to be grieving.
This is why I tell anyone that cares to listen not to trust our people. Whatever is weighing you down, best keep it to yourself cos an average Naija person would prefer you in sorrow than when you are happy.
Anyway OP, Congrats to the lady in question. I love her courage and sincerity. Death has done them part, so she should dust herself up and live again.

jswitch:
https://selectng.com.ng/soldier-hangs-self-inside-abuja-barracks/

I suspect that this is a case of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Dunno if the Nigerian Army has made provision for such as per Psychologist and Psychotherapist that aware of PTSD

Gentle034:
My own experience is horrible, from 26 till Diz very moment 65 k was deducted from my account for a failed transaction and I never see the revert alert, and the bank keeps telling me to wait another one week, am broke as hell but I don't have a fucking choice bcoz we dey naija

Mine was since 16th March, I was debited thrice for 30k it has not been reversed till date. �

You're focusing more on the symptoms and not the cause. Your sister needs to see a therapist that will help her. This not a beating issue. She needs psychological intervention. Please get her help asap

Oh she's gorgeous! Congratulations to you and your wife. To God be all the glory!

1stCitizen:
OP,

Firstly let me say I am very sorry you are going through this. Sometimes life throws some strange challenges at us. The important thing is how we deal with these challenges. Your wife needs you now more than ever. We are fallible, you, your wife, me and everyone on this forum.

I want to believe that you were in a situation where you wanted the truth to be false(We have all been there) and the so called bullies helped you do that. Such is the trick of the heart. No one is to blame here as this is no time for that. The only innocent person here is the little child whom I believe will grow to make you both proud.

Be the man and make a plan for his care. Fate deals people worse daily.

I tell you what. AA and AA marrying have resulted in the birth of children with learning disabilities, rare genetic disorders and bone marrow cancer, so accept the reality on ground like a man you are and stop the self pity.

Send me a PM so we can talk this through. If I am not mistaken,there are tests available to check the genotype of a foetus so early termination can be considered. Do not break your home over this my man.Stay blessed

"Please I need to understand you better, you are advising him to continue with a marriage based on falsehood and to crown it all, spill innocent blood that never asked to be brought into the sham of a relationship? You believe this marriage is worth more than the several lives that would be terminated? Lord have mercy!

1stCitizen:
OP,

Firstly let me say I am very sorry you are going through this. Sometimes life throws some strange challenges at us. The important thing is how we deal with these challenges. Your wife needs you now more than ever. We are fallible, you, your wife, me and everyone on this forum.

I want to believe that you were in a situation where you wanted the truth to be false(We have all been there) and the so called bullies helped you do that. Such is the trick of the heart. No one is to blame here as this is no time for that. The only innocent person here is the little child whom I believe will grow to make you both proud.

Be the man and make a plan for his care. Fate deals people worse daily.

I tell you what. AA and AA marrying have resulted in the birth of children with learning disabilities, rare genetic disorders and bone marrow cancer, so accept the reality on ground like a man you are and stop the self pity.

Send me a PM so we can talk this through. If I am not mistaken,there are tests available to check the genotype of a foetus so early termination can be considered. Do not break your home over this my man.Stay blessed

Let me understand you better, you are advising him to continue with a marriage based on falsehood and to crown it all, spill innocent blood that never asked to be brought into the sham of a relationship? You believe this marriage is worth more than the several lives that would be terminated? Lord have mercy!

Aremolekunowo:
Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.

This is a strong ground for annulment. The marriage is invalid because it was built on lies. You can continue to take care of your son but truth is you aren't married.

Esseite:
What really is the difference between NSITF, PENSION CONTRIBUTION..

It just seems like a conduit pipe...

NSITF handles injuries and even death which occurred in the course of work. Occupational injuries and accidents encountered in course of doing one's work. In case of death, the dependents of the person are well taken care of till the age which the deceased would have retired then Pension takes over.

SamuelAnyawu:
NSITF-----Insurance incase of injury or death 1% of your gross monthly pay

Pension remittance for future flexing

NSITF is 1% contribution made by Employers on behalf of their Employees in case of work related injuries or death. Depending on the type of injury, the Employee would be enjoying benefits in form of the salary he would have been enjoying prior to his getting injured till he attains retirement age when pension would take over.
In the case of death, the late employee's loved ones would be paid monthly till when pension would take over too.

OlaPhils:
You should go and preach your gospel to those who has lost everything.

Be rest assured that I do, my dear friend. It's a gospel of love. Love that is beyond religion, race, ethnicity or gender. Don't forget that you and I have lost something in one way or another, that shouldn't turn us to hate. Have a restful weekend.

CharlieMaria:
Your sorrows will know no bounds....heartless man

You call yourself Our Lady's child yet you curse with reckless abandon.

Be like Mary in her humility, meekness and love. I doubt if she would be proud of your utterances nor will you bring souls to Christ with same.

Issame:
People were served with a bowl of nkwobi alongside 100 dollar bill at a party in lagos state.

Watch Video HERE

Source:
http://nairaplus.com/2018/06/people-served-with-a-bowl-of-nkwobi-alongside-100-bill-at-a-lagos-party-video/

Haba OP, this serviette is all over the market naa. Nairaland is slowly becoming a joke,cos I don't understand why this should make front-page.

NaijaWorker:
you must be one of the many unsupposed employers of nsitf. they do nothing there, just talk till closing, the men making noise and the ladies, ahhh u know na, they dont even stay in office but running personal errands

And how does your rant prove what I wrote false, young man? Your name is Naija worker but it's obvious you don't know what's good for you.
I leave you to your ignorance.

Virtualaccounts:
HMO covers injuries and whatever sickness. The pension act covers death up to 3 times the annual salary of the deceased person. I know exactly what I'm talking about.

The NSITF Act is a duplicate Act. Totally unnecessary.

Hold on, Sonny. Lemme try and help you out, that is if you are willing to learn.
If I may ask does HMO cover occupational injuries which occur as a result of a workers job?
Does your HMO take care the cost and rehabilitation Of workers who lose any part of their body in the course of doing their work?
Does your HMO reimburse Employers for all they must have spent in treating an Employee that got injured in the course of doing their job?
Does your PFA or HMK take care of a deceased workers dependents (Wife, children and/or parents) till all the kids are done with their University Education or till when the deceased's would have been retirement age?
NSITF does all of the above and even more. I'd advise you to insist your employer gets registered and also make the required 1% contribution on your behalf. It's for your own good.
Go to NSITF website for more information. Note, I don't work for them but I have benefited a whole lot from the scheme.

Virtualaccounts:
This is good news and long awaited. Somewhat duplicated if you ask me as many companies already have HMO. It should be targeted to specific industry like manufacturing etal and other companies without HMO.

If you're not sure how this affects your company, please Holla me and we can help you plan your staff cost for efficiency.

www.virtualaccountant.ng

You are getting things muddled up. NSITF handles injuries and even death which occurred in the course of work. Occupational injuries and accidents encountered in course of doing one's work. In case of death, the dependents of the person are well taken care of till the age which the deceased would have retired.

It's unfortunate that lots of staff do not know the benefits of keying into this. Many staff have lost their jobs due to injures sustained while doing their job, which should never be.

Funny enough lots of companies own by non-Nigerians are enjoying this while our Naija companies just siddon dey look.

valentineuwakwe:
what are they enforcing? an organization so full of corruption...you guys are owing my father's pension fund since 2004 till now and have refuse to pay him. ..

Mr Valentine, your father's pension are with TrustFund PFA. NSITF transfered everything pensions to them. They are strictly into Employees Compensation now. Just visit any TrustFund PFA Branch with your father's NSITF card and he will get his money in less than 1 month. Thank you.