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This poor man was an ex-priest. If only he knew, he may have chosen to remain a priest cos women can be very unpredictable a lot. Rest In Peace Fr Maurice

adecz:
The senator or his wife are the
best donors to their child, but they
prefer to incapacitate a young man
suffering from poverty❗️❗️☹️☹️☹️

Please it doesn't always work that way. I have a sibling with renal failure to make matters worse blood group is B- the rarest blood group ever. The only possible donor in our family is our Mum who is AB- but unfortunately she's diabetic and also hypertensive.

The search now is for a donor that can match her blood group which is quite hard. She has been on dialysis now for over 7 years and it's getting harder and harder for her to keep going.

It's not easy o forget. It's easy to point accusing fingers without knowing the two sides of the story.

Eriggs:
only a person they sees herself as an animal will be pained by that comment..she never mentioned anybody's name or quoted anyone as you have quoted her.
She says the enemies of Nigeria are animals,
Why is that bothering you, why are you crying about that.
Now I know you u r like dis, thank God you r still a girl and not God.
Hypocrite

Birds of same feather. Go back and read what your mentor wrote, oh don't bother, I forgot you can't read nor write.
You all will drown in your tribalism and hate. You may think it's just an online comment. Mark today's date and remember it well.

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Thank you.
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Dis better nigeria ehn, We must get am by fire, no matter what the enemies of the country say, those are the animals that call our darling nation a zoo, no matter what part of the country they are all from..
Y'all will be shamed las las.

I use to wonder why a lot of people were against you but now it's clear. Your true nature has become clear.
Imagine calling people who do not agree with you animals.
I totally disappointed but thankful because you're still man and not God. You're truly a tribalistic person.
May God grant you long life to see His good works in those you call animals.

Think4Yourself:
The one born out of wedlock is the first son, that is Igbo tradition but an adopted child has no right to be tagged as first son when the man has other sons

Why are you being so emotional about this?

Please note that in Igbo tradition a child born out of wedlock remains in the woman's family so long as whoever got her pregnant didn't pay her brideprice.

Also, no matter how you detest the adopted child's behavior, it doesn't change the fact that he is equal to his father's biological children.

Both parties involved should mellow or else it won't end well.

I don't even trust the Uncles fanning the flames. At the end of the day, if these children end their lives, they would happily share the spoils amongst themselves.

rosalieene:
where and how can 35k salary buy a piece of land.
before you try to discredit a person, ensure your story adds up.

Teachers have cooperative. She may have received her share from the Ajo and decides to use it cor the future

How people manage to have an opinion on a one sided story especially when the story is told by one party's family member makes me wonder.

Anyway, there won't be peace until both parties seek for help and also learn basic communication skills.

The woman with her 35k salary maybe disciplined enough to have saving sense to plan for the future for her family. After all 1+1 in marriage is 1.

So dear OP, steer clear from these couples marital issue and mind your biz. They will sort themselves out when they decide to let go of pride and work together.

Munzy14:
Good...That was a cute tradition..We've abandoned o...Back in the days, e ji enye nwagboho laga di udi ihe ahu...It signifies a lot...Multiplication and all..

Nowadays, na cell phone, TV, car etc... Even ikwe you rarely see...Mothers always gift their daughters ikwe(mortar and pestle) for her kitchen games...Maka afo wu ebe eshi enweta obi nwoke.

I wish we will have a generation that can rejuvenate these traditions that have gone extinct.

So what happened to the goat? Una chop am?

Not they can, they extremely stubborn...But, I will still keep them in my retirement home..As meat


Yes, Aha ya wu Jack.

Still being practised in Anambra.

HardMirror:
I wish I could talk to you privately but no need for that. ..

First dont let the many Idiots calling you names and saying nonsense bother you. Most nairalanders are teenagers pretending to be adults.

It is unfortunate you have made the mistake of getting married to a gambler. Note I AM A GAMBLER too and spend nothing less than 300k a month gambling. It is terrible. Sometimes I quit and things improve for me, but within a few months I find myself gambling again.vit is a terrible addiction. Your husband is in deep shit I can tell you and if he does not change soon, be ready to cater for a destitute.


Dont be fooled. Gambling will ruin him totally. I hope he recognizes this and he is honest about changing.

If he keeps lying to you and not showing any sign of changing. Better get real with yourself and divorce him, dont let emotions get the better of you.

Only stay with him if you see him making effort to change.

He should immediately hand money that comes in to you for projects you have planned together if he is honest about changing. This would at least help him control how much he loses to gambling. If he does not like this idea, trust me, he is not ready.

I am carrying my siblings and girlfriend along in my quest to stop gambling and my honestly with them is the only thing helping me cut my losses. An honest gambler seeking to change would not keep money by himself. If he cannot hand over the money he makes, he is not ready to change

Thank you so much for your honesty.

You're already on track to progress.

I wish you well in your healing process, you will be fine. Take it one day at a time. All the best.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Addiction is a very serious matter and it isn't something to be "worked" on like a lot of people are advising you neither can you just "pray" it away.
The person involved should first admit that he has a problem and be willing to get help. It's sad that many people on nairaland do not know how terrible gambling is either because they gamble or they've become used to such dysfunctional mentality.
Look out for the best time, when he's in the best mood and let him know that he needs help. Get your Pastor or priest or anyone he respects involved. You need to act quick before his bad behavior drives you nuts in your condition. There are low-cost online counsellors you can seek for help too.
If after everything, he doesn't get better you can take any decision you deem fit bearing in mind that any bad behavior not corrected would become acceptable even to your children and it will become a vicious cycle of dysfunction.
God's grace.

olureignforever:
You are very correct. Just today I bought oha leave from the market, I chose it myself because it looks fresh than the rest. It was tighten into the nylon with other ingredients. When I decided to select the leave and brought it out of the nylon, the leaves were brown and looks rottened, I thought of possible cause, the only thing I could come up with is that it was made fresh by some kind of chemical which makes it attractive before buying it. What if I got home earlier and cooked it and ate it.

I'm sorry but you're wrong. As a nutritionist, the first test for "real* organic food is it's spoil rate. The faster a food spoils, the healthier it is. Why? Because of the fact that microrganisms are attacking it immediately for nutrients. However, Food that stays long without spoiling are most times laden with salts, sugars and other preservatives to increase its shelf life
Ask yourself why bread these days rarely spoil unlike in the '80s or even fruits like all these imported apples that stay weeks without rotting.
So my dear, healthy organic foods spoils faster

Kylekent59:
Stop encouraging people to become drunkards.

Your post is very silly. You want to blame alcohol at all cost. Poster told you that he has never tasted alcohol, yet you to force him to admit rubbish.

My sister also had kidney failure and had never tasted alcohol before rather hers came about through the same self medication on antibiotics. Thank she finally got kidney transplant from donors after 10 years.

Like Yaayaya in UNN that year. Dem dey plenty for UNN

No need advising someone that has no value for herself. Only God can help her. She has accepted the lie that she doesn't deserve better. Low self confidence has destroyed her

mysticgal:
It’s so sad that a lot of people are going to fall into this thread advising and trolling women in a demeaning way, due to your story.

It’s pathetic you are doing Mr Peter Ade…., Most likely from ifetedo, oyo state or ekiti state, whichever of this profile is banked on the internet. I mean with your most likely failed blogging career…..

Going through your profile, you are man assuming to be a woman in order to stir the workings of all these sore woman haters, churning out vile and ugly comments. First off, you are not a woman, you are male COWard, a coward at that with no balls.

2. if you are a woman and you are single at over 30, own that shitt, Life continues, adopt kids. They are humans, find love in your place of religion, supermarket, dating sites and live the life out of your life.


You are pathetic op and go find a job or something, trolling even makes you more distasteful


*spits*

I was wondering same o. Thank you for exposing the COWard

Hi justi4jesu,

Do you still buy USD on payoneer?

Both of you are very immature. The marriage is already doomed from the start.
Both of you lack trust. She doesn't have enough belief in you meeting her request and you enjoyed snooping around her phone and even unblocking her contact cos you don't trust her.
You are have a very low sense of confidence, reason why you re looking for a way to "revenge", there are so many ladies out there, why would you, rather than think of ways to better your life/future.
Lastly, I don't know where the girl is from but I've never heard of dowry being paid in part. Bottom line,you guys aren't married and are not obligated to each other.
Pele but move on.

Mrskillz1:
I'm feeling the drastic action I should take should involve fixing the root cause rather than preventing them from birthing.

I wish there's someone that can see into the past and tell me how it all began, then I'll know where to channel my energy to.
If someone placed the curse, then we can appeal.

Nne, consulting mediums and seers would cause more harm than good. There is noone completely free from trial and tribulation. Those that seem free have accepted theirs and are living one day at a time. Mental illness is a very tough thing to battle but in this case embrace God and ask Him to direct you on how to carry on with the task at hand. Let the past be in the past to avoid complicating things for yourself. This future you're worrying about is in God's hands. O bulu maka onwunwa, nwanne m o ga na-abia but it will never sink us. Jide Chukwu jidesia ya ike.

Mrskillz1:
I am from a family of three. I have two brothers. One older and the other younger than me so I'm the only girl in my family.

I grew up seeing my Mom mad.
By my teen age, I got admission into Nnamdi Azikiwe University alongside my elder brother who was to study Engineering. By the time I was in my finals, my brother was getting ready for IT. One day, his roommate sent for me, he said they couldn't sleep the night before because my brother was talking to himself. Before we knew what was happening, my brother was getting violent and so we took him home and he never got back to finish school.
I proceeded with my education and finished. Went for NYSC. While serving the nation, My Mom died. When I got home, she'd been buried.
But my brother was still mad.

I later got job, took my brother to a Psychiatric hospital and the doctor after examining him said he is Schizophrenic. He was asked to stay in the hospital.
I paid. He then stayed there for one month. When I came to visit him, he pleaded with me to take him home that he didn't like it there.

So I took him home. Every month, I buy drugs for him and he gets injected. He usually puts up a fight but with the help of my younger brother, neighbors and a certain nurse, he receives the injection, forcefully and against his will.
Often times, he pleads with me not to inject him, the very time I obliged him, he scattered things, didn't allow the neighborhood sleep, talked throughout some nights and wouldn't eat sometimes. He looked really sick then but with the injection, one will hardly know he's not normal.
I told him that I won't let him miss his injection ever again.

Now, on Monday, my younger brother woke up and was unusually quiet. He normally wakes up and begins to play music with his phone or he will turn to football channel and watch until I leave for work. But I didn't go to work on Monday and I noticed he was quiet, then I asked him why he's quiet. He didn't respond. After some hours, I asked my Dad if he feels he's okay, My Dad said that he wants to be quiet and that I should let him be.

Then, that night, around 4am, my brother began to talk. He was shouting and some of the things he said were not coherent. He talked out of point. I and my Dad, with my elder brother surrounded him and I couldn't help crying when my Dad was cautioning him to keep quiet and he refused.
Neighbours thought it was my elder brother's voice they'd heard that night but by the time they heard in the morning that it was my younger brother, they visited my Dad in the evening. By then, my brother was still talking and even burnt his clothes yesterday.
My Dad got a few guys to chain him because he was violent yesterday when I left the house.
I know the problem is spiritual. I have prayed, fasted for my elder brother and now this!
I'm so unhappy.

Can someone suggest a place I can take my two brothers to so they can be cured, please.

Sadly schizophrenia is a genetic thing, however, it's not the end of the world. With regular medication and prayers, things can get better. Keeping your family in my prayers

Each and every one of us has been called. It's now left for us to answer "Yes".

Nice one! I was once a Cleaner at my Mum's school after my School Certificate and I was paid same salary as other staff of same level. At first, It was embarrassing but Mumsy no send me, she made me sign a work contract sef. I later grew to become a receptionist before i was promoted to a Teaching Assistant. Whenever i came back for vacation, I was sure of a go-to job waiting for me.
Anyway, that job ensured that i never lacked money while at the Uni combined with allowance from my Dad, I was able to afford anything I wanted. Na my sweat na �

OP, what's your plan for yourself? What has he come back for, to assume responsibility for his child or to seek help from you and your family?
This is a very dicey situation so i will advise you to think with your head and not your heart. You can have a cordial relationship with him without marrying him. He can also be in his son's life without being married to you.
Do not make the mistake of marrying as a result of pity or to satisfy your son and family because you are the one that will live the life. Do not think you will never find true love again just because you have a son. Give yourself some value and others will value you.

Dear OP, I must commend you on your doggedness in getting to this level in life. You are one of a kind.

Now concerning your parents, they failed woefully in their duties and have no right in making demands from you BUT forgiving them although unpopular and undeserved will help you grow beyond the level you are atm.

Contrary to what many people think, forgiveness isn't for the good of those that hurt us but for the good of the hurting or hurt. Forgiving your parents won't make them better people but it would free you OP from your pain and bitterness.

Unforgivness is a horrible burden to carry. Look how bitter it has made you. If care isn't taken, you will unleash it on your wife and children. Your sense of achievement will make you excessively proud that your wife and children will constantly try to measure up.

Do not fall into this trap! Free yourself! An eye for an eye makes the world go blind. Because of your anger and bitterness, you have refused to help your innocent step sibling that came for help. Aren't you stylishly toeing the path of your parents? Be very careful. It doesn't end only in this life, the hereafter awaits all of us.

May our Lord help you through this pain. May the Holy Spirit enlighten you and grant you wisdom to take the right decision and free your self from this vicious cycle of anger, bitterness and revenge. God bless you dear

ideee03:
The one I can never forget is a big periwinle,with it's shell.thot I was gonna die.

Please did you poop it out? How old were you then?
My 3 year old just swallowed one

Nuttella:
A nanny or help can do all that, I no come this world come suffer, if you stress yourself too much in marriage, you will age more than your husband.

Sure a Nanny or Help can do all that, but for how long and at what cost (financially, psychologically & otherwise).
May be you aren't married yet but from experience I can tell you that children benefit much more when they have their parents or at least one parent close by than none at all.
By the way who says caring for my husband and children would make me age? I mean, check it naa, caring for your main source of happiness, a burden? There is so much joy in it, my darling.

Nuttella:
What about a mum that goes to work by 8am and comes back by 4pm same time her kids are back from school?
Stay at home mom won't be in school with the kids, will she? So that same time, she can use it to work or even be a teacher.

While the kids are at school, there meals to be planned and prepared, clothes to wash, mend and possibly iron and many other house chores that Home makers do or are you one of the few people that believe Home makers just cross their legs and snore when no one is at home. That's stereotyping and believe me you are so wrong.

mariahAngel:
No, she's not a lazy woman.
Don't let society becloud your judgment.
Women, especially mothers are the most sacrificing being on earth. They give and don't ask to be rewarded, although they should.
The least that they deserve is acknowledgment for their sacrifice.
Women have been scammed into proving themselves that in the process, they overexert themselves at the detriment of themselves. They shouldn't have to.
I learnt a valuable lesson recently about the sacrifices mothers make that are taken for granted.
When you see a woman, who's willing to give herself for the progress of her home and raising of the children, praise her and don't undermine her effort. It is not easy.

Oh dear, who ever you are, I want to let you know that you an amazing. Are you in anyway in "the Work"? Please let your wisdom flow to everyone around you. It will help male the world a better place.

Acidosis:
How can I turn my wife to a concept I don't believe in? The word "housewife" does not exist in my dictionary so save yourself the explanations.

However, you should be ashamed of yourself for even thinking that a married woman that is not in a paid labour is lazy. You're a shameless woman.

Fighting men and your husband is not the way to show your woman power. It won't earn you respect either. If he calls you lazy because you don't bring in salary at the end of the day, he will call you a slut that sleeps with her boss the moment you get a job. A bad man is a bad man, your earning power changes nothing.

Go and beg the government to grant you extended and fully paid maternity leave, child support, and comprehensive HMO at no cost. That's how it is done in saner climes. Jumping from one danfo to another while you're 7 months pregnant is not an ideal life.

You are an intelligent man/woman. A bad man is a bad man, simple! Being a working class mother will not save your marriage, Las Las you will be like most Nigerian wives "suffering and smiling", buying toys for their children to make up for their constant absence.
Being a stay-at-home mum isn't a crime and it's definitely not laziness (that's the part I dislike the most)
Note that I'm a working class mother living in the Mainland and working on the Island.

12inchess:
I know an American. A model christian American family that every family could aspire to be like. They have two children who are both married now. The wife never worked a day job for long. While the husband did. She homeschooled are kids. Their kids are doing VERY well. Model kids. Each family has to find what works for them.It's not a crime to be housewife but the husband may have to double his hustle and once there is love and understanding,it can be successful.

I had to log in to like this comment. I'm a working class mother with 4 beautiful kids. I'ld give everything to stay home and raise my kids. There is so much to teach these little ones.
Being a stay at home mum is hard work, in fact, I lots friends that quit their well paid jobs to stay home for their kids and their husbands also appreciate their hard work.
I will be a liar is I say I don't envy these women that gave up so much to ensure their descendants have solid foundation. Their children are so bright, well mannered and best of all, the have an amazing bond with their parents.

Erm..Uncle, so you are learning this after 3 divorces? Grow up already! Mtchew!

IFNOTGOD:
dis is how u guys spread panic n fake news up n down, it's not uncommon to see people give up d ghost before getting to d hospital n I know d very Nigeria we are in, if ur statement is to go by d govt of d day will waste no time to publish same , so d citizens will b serious.

Whether it is common or not, I don't think my Dr. Would make up such a story. Did read were I said he is presently on Isolation too?

Stay safe. This virus is very real.

Saintinoo:
people die in their cars in the isolation centre.... My friend shut up, do you think we are kids here?

So-called mature man that won't bother to read properly. I repeated an information shared by a Doctor that is presently in Isolation.
Anyway, what you chose to believe does not matter at the moment. Stay safe.