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[quote author=zayhal]Exercise. Cycling, tennis, push-ups etc.[/quot
Babe, u and ur man enjoy push-ups? U guys must really be fit. Well done!

Haba Otis, we re trying to learn from each other oo! With d way couples are getting divorced these days these "gossips" na real education on what might be missing in our various marriages.
Ehe! Wetin be ur own pastime sef? Talk now or.......

Married couples need a favourite pastime. A sort of hobby that you guys enjoy doing with each other ,for each other or to each other. A little "sumthin sumthin" that u guys look forward to to keep the fire burning. It's not S.ex but can lead to S.ex
A friend of mine says He n his wifey have "Date Fridays". usually twice a month.
For me and my man na shaving each other oo! He takes time to shave my " you-know-what" and i lovingly "do" him too. The process is like the "very first time", am shy but eager.
Let's share our pastimes as married couple, we may learn from each other.

[quote author=anitank]@ anitank
I beg to differ. I grew up in the east, Enugu to be specific. My parents never spoke a word of English to us. Prayers and conversation between each other were in our dialect. One obvious thing was our parents had a special love for reading and encouraged us to be voracious readers. I tell you between all the kids none made below C5 in English.
Now as a mother living in Lagos, i speak mostly my native dialect with my hubby and kids. I don't have any regret.
The so-called English you claim to be spoken in the West as far as am concern is trashy and terrible most of the speakers have major trouble even writing what they speak.

Me i think its a bit of nature ( My personality) and nuture (My upbringing). I never saw such growing up and my personality hates stress, i don't think i can manage dual sex life, am sure i would be found out from d first day. Thats for me sha!

Very revealing and enlightening. It shames me that some of us are so quick to dismiss such thought evoking write-up. I think that for this next 2015 election, campaign should be focused more on the youth. An enlightenment campaign on "why they should not sell their votes" should have started now in schools,religious institution and motor parks. In English, pidgin Eng & our local dialets. No matter what, Nigeria does not deserve to die. We do have our own "undecided" voters, though ours are undecided whether to give up on the country and not bother vote or make the effort to vote only on grounds of sentiment.

Was just 5 when my elder sisters forgot me in church. I tried to trace my way home but could not. I still remember the terror that gripped me cos i thought i'ld never see my family again. Fortunately, some good samaritans picked me up and took me to a TV station, where they plastered my tears drenched face all over the TV.
Funny, they still forgot me in church again. this time na Police station i find myself. Teenagers and their scatterbrain. If na today, kidnappers 4 don use me become millonaire

Lovely.

Just found out his name. He is Emmanuel Uwechue. Saw an article written about him in the New York Times.
This goes to show that not all Nigerian in China is a criminal.
Keep flying the flag Emmanuel.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/16/arts/music/hao-ge-a-nigerian-becomes-a-pop-star-in-china.html?

irongate jnr: they cald that bata in d souteast then, if u hv nt worn it,then ur teen age hasnt begun yet.
Diff shape though

Nope! Thats not Bata. This was known as "Basket Shoe" then. Bata was leather while this was rubber.

I just stumbled across this handsome Nigerian dude singing out his soul in Chinese on popular TV station CCTV4. The accolades surrounding this guy gave me goose pimples.
A short background story done on him said how his father disowned him because of his love for music and a Chinese friend invited him to relocate with him to Beijing.
I really think its guys like this that deserve national awards.
Way to go, Hao Ge! Wish i knew your local name though.

My extremely intelligent niece was always terrorising us with questions once she asked us " Aunty, what is the difference between Although, Even though and though?". She was just 5 then. Woe betide you if you don't explain it well, she is ready to wail for hours until you answer.

[quote author=SELFWORTH]How old are you? You talk like a child trying too hard to blend in with adults

Never saw my Dad nekkid but almost always saw my Mum. Remember she use to call either of us girls to help scrub her back in the bathroom. Didn't seem like a taboo in my house.

Reference: Because there are several homes that are run very professionally. It depends on one's mindset. Maid doesn't have to be a dirty word. It is a profession. And both the employer and employee know their rights and obligations. A lot of people source their maids from the same agency they get their drivers and security men. Some maids get their wages at the office. There is a bigger, hassle free world out there.

I agree with you. In my home i have a Help and a Nanny, we all eat together but if i have a Maid like my neighbour's who is paid 30k every month, i won't really bother where she eats.

binger: awww...i hate to hear that.i hope u get a better one that's IMPRESSING

Thanks, am working on it.

DEPRESSING!!!!

Ayee Idris: 2 weeks ke?? I laugh! I know your mind is made up so I am not trying to change your mind but remember CS is first and foremost a major stomach SURGERY. No one heals from a major surgery in 2 weeks. Being fit to move around for 2 weeks doesn't mean u are well o. Doctors won't even let u exercise until after 6 weeks. The stitches can get infected, the stomach takes much longer to return to shape, you can only have done 3 times, meaning NO more than 3 kids for you, yada yada yada. If u want to avoid pain, u can opt for epidural. Even if that has its own side effects, but then again, what doesn't?

Naaa! It depends. Had my first baby CS n d second vaginal and i tell ya, if i ever have to do it again it must be with C-Section. My second baby i was dumb founded at the kind of pain i was going through. Kept on yelling Hei! Hei! hei! Prayed Psalm 91 more than 10x. And the funny thing was that within that short interval of relief this very sweet sleep takes over and from d sweet sleep fiery pain would start again. Remeber when it was time to push i had become very sleepy and weak the matron gave me a very slap. Men! The tin no easy at all

OP, i feel your pain. The truth is that you are partly to blame. How you may ask.
1. In a quarrel someone must stand down or chaos would follow. You must not always win an arguement. Try and think of what you guys are showing your kids. I tell you it's difficult but you can always walk away before it degenerates into something else. I am a woman and i know the damage our tongue can do especially when we are hurt and what to justify that we are right.
2. Get real girl! You are now married so don't expect your man to continuing thanking you when you help out in the home. At the initial stage of my marriage i expected my hubby to acknowledge and thank me for "helping" to do "his responsibility" but with time i understood that it takes two to make marriage work. if i want my home to be d best i must quit whining and contribute
3. Never i repeat, Never allow your hubby to beat you. I remember as a not so new wife, like 2 years in marriage i was fond of daring my hubby to do his worse thinking dat he was a quiet gentle guy that i dated for many years and that he won't touch me, hmmm, i won't totally describe you what finally came out of the dare but the long and short of it all is that i quickly learnt how to respect my man. Long and short of it all is don't nag and don't dare him. Once you ve seen he is irate stylishly move away from him.
4. My dear, another thing i want you to know is that their is something called Postpartum depression although our people don't bother talking about it but it's there. It may be part of your problem. Most women suffer after child birth. Google it
5, Lastly, remember every marriage has it's challenge, never believe anyone that tells you otherwise. You alone can make your marriage work. Learn to communicate more with your husband. Talk less about your marital problems to outsiders cause you will end up getting the wrong advice. Love your kids and yourself. Remember, you may think you are perfect and well brought up but your hubby is from a different background and may find your attitude offensive or pretensious. Pray without ceasing and believe God will give you the wisdom to keep your home.

Good luck and God's Grace.

savanto: This is Super Story. The Poster is newly registered. I don't believe it one bit...sorry OP
Next person pls...i haven't got all day here.

It didn't occur to you that she might be trying be annonymous. Beside she didn't force you to read her post so why are you claiming " you haven't got all day" Am sure you are not up to 12 years. Smh

Gosh,this country is getting more & more depressing. When will our police make use of rubber bullet. RIP Lucy.

Although my boy loves eating our native food he equally loves snacking on Golden Morn. He will be 3 by Jan so i guess its already too late

Happy birthday gurl! You ve carved a niche for yourself. Good job!

[quote author=dangerzone]is this yello akamu or custard?? heard akamu is good for breastfeeding woman na true?[/quote
Very true! Especially if the mum isn't producing enough milk. Works like magic.

ogugua88: T.M.I. Lmao.



Some I haven't eaten since my visit to Naija. Truth is, I'm hungry lol. I'm leaving for a party soon, so hopefully something palatable dey...

Ibenne! Make i arrange correct ofe akwu for you? Filled with Dry fish n cooked to perfection with ogili okpei?

berem: thanks dear! I wanted to be sure cos I know moi moi as bean cake and not akara

Tot Moi moi is Bean Pudding n Akara Bean cake??

Life has taught me that their power in positive thinking. It has also taught me that there are many nice peps in nairaland. Thanks Sisi_kill for being so kind.

Op,pele o! Though i can't stop laughing. My baby dey look me like say i don mad....... Hilarious, i tell you

Wow, dis dude has got talent! But seriously guys, shine una eyes wella before proposing these days oh! O dizi kwa risky!!