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I am not sure why she is still putting up with you. Go to MFM and cast out your own demons

What a foolish woman. Does she not know that you can also use condoms to fetch water

The guy from delta state

Every responsible church should ensure they do it. As a pastor it is your responsibility to look out for your members. Everyone should be encouraged to make their marriage legally binding

Of course they will berate her. She is not talking about a man spending money on her she is talking about spending her own money on herself yet these chicks who will go on a date and expect the man to start paying their cellphone bills the next day come on here and talk crap about her.

ok

Having sex with a dog has nothing to do with two consenting adults making love

You basically answered my question. Technically even if he marries in a church and 3 years later marries another in the registry that marriage will be upheld in court. That's why I say that any woman in Nigeria who thinks it is not important to do a court wedding is silly. Thanks for the info

According to Nigerian law which one will be upheld in the court of law?

I doubt that Branson flies economy. I can understand the need for first class especially if you arein a business where you travel a lot. My parents only fly first class now especially for international travel. I can fly economy but if I am not with the kids I will prefer to fly business class or first class. It is what he is used to and they should have known to reserve it a long time ago. I don't see hwo this is being arrogant sha

If it is really culture then they will just do the traditional wedding and have a Pastor bless the union right there. the white wedding gown is not african culture. It has more to do with ignorance than culture

Nigerians need to get with the program. Just because you believe something does not make it the sensible thing to do. To each their own. Any woman that is smart will insist on that especially in that Nigeria

mazaje:
Many Nigerian men due to their up bringing believe that a wedding that isn't held according to their religious belief is invalid. A lot of muslims and christians hold that belief. . . .

Nobody says that you should not have a religious ceremony. The registry puts a legal stamp on it. What responsible man would not want to give his wife and children that security

I agree. If it was on his own dime he would fly first class so they should have taken that into consideration. Honestly they dropped the ball not dbanj. Was it a last minute thing? They should have had this taken care of a long time ago.

He hoodwinked himself. What a loser

You can stop in from happening again by reporting it to the police and keep following up to make sure the man does not go free

What religious reasons

slimyem:
i'm surprised at all this attacks and outbursts and i seriously wonder how many people here can properly comprehend and read btwn lines of three simple statements.
Apart from the fact that this is an attempt at humor,which y'all cant recognise anyways,naturally,If you get to ask anyone out on a date,you should be responsible for bearing the costs.
You guys should stop whining and crying out much you spend on women and whatever.as far as i'm concerned,no one's dipping hands into your pockets.
If you balls arent grown,then dont bother asking any girl out.simples!

Don't defend yourself. Your message was very clear. It was not a totally serious posts and I get it. I agree with everything you said. If even I as a married woman still does these things I would imagine that a single lady would even do more.

pendo89:
That is how it is but as a lady never ever assume esp on first dates. Have cash with you incase anything happens.
My principle is never go out broke. I like covering up risks to avoid embarrasment or danger.
Thing is,he knows I can pay for myself because the interest I have in him supercedes the value of the meal.
That means I took time to study him before accepting to go out on a date and therefore am okay with sharing costs.
Its a happy feeling cz hes a friend that I love.Thats how it should be. In most cases a guy that loves you enough to want to take you out will settle the cost.

Of course. As a matter of fact when you get to a certain point in life you attract certain kinds of people abi. The type of person you are will also attract a certain type of person. The man is usually planning the first date so he will plan according to his pocket. I think it is a shameless man that comes unprepared for a date and if it appears that he is waiting for you to pay then go ahead and pay yours and if you want to make a statement pay his also but respect yourself and don't answer the phone the nest time he calls

If a gentleman asks a lady out on a date it is rude for the woman to pay. He asked and he pays. Especially on a first date. If a man asks you out on a date and waits for you to pay then high tail it out of there. He is not a gentleman

This has been discussed on this site before. my personal belief is that just because someone presents physically as a man or woman does not make them male or female. There is more to being a particular sex than just looking at someones private parts

If a man (especially in Nigeria) tells you that he does not want to do the registry think then my sister run and don't look back.

I believe that people are born gay. I am not sure why people find this hard to understand.

The fact that he is coming here to ask shows that he might be second guessing how he handled it. He is not a bad person. Everybody stumbles at the beginning and this is not a big deal. @ OP when you are so ill one day and she is the only one that can put you on the toilet and wipe your bum after you are done with yoru business then you will realize that you should even wash her panties without her asking you to.

Sweetie I have to agree with yo here I am married but even on our date nights I spend money. He just rubs his hand over his face and he is ready to go. It's not fair oh LOL

So sad. May his soul rest in peace and may God comfort his loved ones

I don't disagree with you that it his responsibilty but he does not want it. That is why I support her going away until unfortunately in her case she lost it. I truly don't understand men that do not understand their responsibilities. Although I believe that many women in this case contribute to it

It is his responsibility to look after you but if he says he will not do you stay there and die? No. You go to were you will get the care and come back with the baby hopefully with no complications. I had some complications with my first pregnancy. My sister has to be on IV through out most of the duration on every single pregnancy. Imagine if her husband was not the type that would make all the meals she needs to eat before he runs off to work. She would have not been here today. Infact there were times she had to call 911 when she was home alone and the IV to her heart came out. If someone dies have they saved the marriage?

Hell no

Have a baby or die trying. May her sould rest in peace

jumie:
Y on earth will she leave her home for her mothers place because she was pregnant? Did she marry her hubby just for the sake of getting pregnant, incubating a baby and delivering it? What happened to her other roles as a wife?

Let her go back to her house and put things in order.

This also goes out to ladies out there, when a man asks you to return to your mother's house (after marriage) for whatever reasons, don't be in such a hurry to leave. He may have bigger plans. But it all depends on the man.

Go back and read it. She was having complications with teh pregnancy and her husband could not handle it. She even tually lost the baby. She is not her husband's bodyguard. theidea that she must stay there because her husband is up to something is ridiculous. If you have to play bodyguard to your husband to prevent him from cheating you are the one that will run mad and he will still cheat anyway