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whatawhat:
Outstrip-pls my sister is a virtual assistant also do u know anybody in the home health business or any other biz that might need her services-thanks
my email is obodo25@yahoo.com

Sorry dear I don't know anyone who is not using one or something similar in place. Where do you live

Sad. May her soul rest in peace

It needs to be talked about. She needs some sort of punishment but not this harsh though. At the end of the day it is fraud and someone else is paying for her childs education

If you are good at organizing then you can do well. I have a friend who makes 6 figures and she basically organizes peoples lives. The other thing is you can also be a virtual assistant. You have to be very organized and dependable. It can be stressful but it is a good business. My main business is in home health and my sister is a virtual assistant. I finally let her handle most of my back office stuff when I realized that I just could not do it all by myself. It was just too much. Most small businesses will benefit from a situation like this. There is just so much with running a business. Payroll, taxes, hiring, benefits etc. The last thing you want to do is run a lucrative business and be too busy to even file your taxes. I have seen it happen over and over again. Many businesses have failed because of this. If I was going to suggest anything to this thread it would be
1. Virtual Assistant
2. Home health care
3. Financial (if money fascinates you)
4.Vocational School (I am also looking at this myself)

These are my top 4 but there are opportunities everywhere and the great thing about here in the US there are regulations. While they can be frustrating sometimes they are also great at helping you run a more efficient business.
It's one thing to be interested in doing a business and it is another to actually take the time to educate yourself and be on top of your game. I love what I do and I know that for the crap that sometimes come with it, I would not do it if I did not love it.

Unbelievable

The guy is talking about screwing this and screwing that. Honestly I cannot find an ex's number on my husbands phone and start talking about screwing other people. The man needs to cool down. He has not even said that he over head a conversation or that they have been on the phone for hours at a time. It is not always what someone says that you look at. Sometimes you can read between the lines also. The woman is wrong but there is no evidence that she is cheating. if he goes and acts out now in the heat of the moment he will only be hurting himself. I personally think that he is reading too much into it. There is nothing that screams to me that the wife is cheating.

jas man:
I think she was also seeing him the same time she was dating you. I think you are probably a better marriage material or just proposed b/4 her ex. To hear low life people like Plappville who is neither married or know anything about marriage is unfortunate, that'sexactely people like that will do and that's sad. Go immediately and get a DNA test for the kids if there's one. She neither love or have any respect for the marriage. Her relationships with her ex's far from over. She knows why she married you, love is not one it, and I wish you luck

Are you serious

pslm23:
I will speak from experience. Soon after we got married, I found out that my husband was secretly in touch with his ex girlfriend. I always wondered who would call and hang up when I answered the phone. Mind you, she was living in another State while we were in another. Finally I confronted him and he fessed up to it and admitted that yes he had been talking with her but only on a platonic level. I wanted to believe him so bad but when I remember how she would hang up when I answer, I decided to investigate further so i recorded some of their conversations (in the US u can easily buy these little mics and install them in your phone). Needless to say, i got the scoop. That fat cow was actually trying to get my husband back. Always reminding him what fun they used to have or how she missed him or how she wanted him to visit. And my husband will be there acting like a mumu saying "but u know I'm married" "don't say that" "well u ended the relationship" and so on.
I confronted him again with my evidence and told him that if he wanted this marriage he should cease all communication with this jezebel. i was mad as hell, this is a man that flipped when my ex boyfriend all the way in nigeria got my # from my sister and called to wish me well. My hubby was like "who the "f" is that"? "what the "f" is he calling u for", and here he was have a suggestive tet a tet with this big black gorilla. yes, when i think of this, it still makes my blood boil.
the last thing I did was call that husband snatcher and cuss her out.
So, @ poster, do your investigation first before u act!

I don't think you even got over it. I hope you never run into her before you divide her assunder

Oh lawd. So his wife cannot drive a car so he decided to go ride another woman. Oy. Tell your friend that nothing good can come out of this. NOTHING. This is temporary insanity and if he does not get out now he will regret it. If his wife loses that respect for him his worries will be more than the fact that his wife cannot drive. She will learn to ride him like a hired bicycle. He also has two daughters that are watching daddy everyday. He is a walking example everyday to those girls. I am sure he does not want them to grow up and think that his behavior should be what they should expect from their husbands. Since we do not know the whole story like for example are they in Nigeria. I know the driving issue is not the only thing. I am sure there are other things that he feels his wife can try to be more forward thinking about but I am also guessing that he married her for those reasons and now all of a sudden all those reasons seem to be an inconvenience for him.

Whatever at what harakiri said. @ original poster do not jump to conclusions. You seem angry and maybe she thought she would get this reaction from you so she used a fake name. Did you guys agree that there will no communications with the exes or is this particular one just a big deal. You need to find out why she felt the need to be sneaky about it not approach it the way she expects you to approach it. Which in my opinion is in anger. I can tell though that you have already made up your mind because you are already talking about screwing this and that. In fact before you even confront her with it you need to purge this line of thinking out of your head because you will not get the desired answers if you come to her with this idea you have that she is stepping out on you

Why are you in such a hurry. Are you ready to get married? If not then focus on other things. There are a million other things you could be doing right now than looking for a boyfriend.

He couldn't even suck in his tummy.

Wait until the man sees the first list submitted by the family   I remember my friends family want a goat but when they got the goat they complained that it was not a mature goat and they sent it back.   She was so pissed because she does not even know any of these people demanding goat on her behalf.

YOU, MY LOVE ARE THE ONLY SUGAR IN MY TEA. That will warm any womans heart. Trust me.

LMAO at some of the responses. I can't even comment. I mean the OP will never get it.

It does not really matter to me as long as nobody sleeps in my house. Come in a few hours a week do your work and then leave us in peace

Pennywise:
Like a poster said, the koko is in the allowances. So your husband is probably doin selective information mgt (SIM) with you.

Why are you starting trouble

What did he want to steal from Bawomolo? His books? He will likely rot in jail. I don't think this criminal can ever pay enough for what he did. Maybe now he will never be able to hurt somebody else

harakiri:
See dem. Yeye feminazi wanna be's. He's now the abusive one abi? I'm pretty sure your petty biased and vindictive mind didn't comprehend when she actually mentioned shaking him up and KICKING him! Who's abusing who? Would the guy have gotten physical if she didn't start it all up in the first place? This is how a guy (not a close pal of mine though) used to be physically assaulted by his wife (now ex-wife). It started like this (small hitting and squabbles) every now and then and within 3 years of marriage, she was already bold enough to slap him several times in public in full view of everyone. Heaven knows how many times he couldn't make it to work because his wife had him in a grip vice at home. How many times did he have his shirt torn to shreds? How many times did he try counselling through church and family members? How many times did he hold "sit down" talks that led to no where? But the day he finally retaliated by showing her that she's not the only one who knows how to slap. . .he automatically became "an abusive misogynist husband" who "abused" the wife mentally and physically. . .lol

Useless yeye things. The truth is, once a woman starts getting physical, sooner or later it will become the norm until the man evens up the equation and then, he becomes the "bad evil man" who can't fight his mate on the street except his wife at home.

Hypocrites! ! !

Listen id iot. It is obvious that you are a woman beater. My prayer is that you meet the one that beats the crap out of you and then feeds it to you. She mentioned that he twisted her arm and then she kicked him. Did you miss that? I am sure twisting her arm is the same as pre-intimacy to you. She had every right to defend herself. If in your opinion a woman who defends herself is a feminist then I think every woman should be a feminists. The problem with abusive people like you is that you can never hide your true colors. A woman saying she kicked a man after he assaulted her gets your blood boiling. So tell me, how many have you hit? Does it make you feel manly that you slapped a woman around. Does it make you feel in charge? You really sound juvenile. At best you are an abusive, ignorant n-word that has probably been locked up a few times for beating his wife. If you haven't been locked up for spousal abuse it's only because she has been too afraid to call the police on your a ss. I bet you probably beat her up and claim that she made you do it. She provoked you. She nagged you so much you lost your cool. You woke up one morning and you realized she was ugly. She looked at you funny. YOU ARE NOT A MAN. You are simply a creature with a peni s. Nothing special about you. You do not deserve anybody's sister, daughter, or loved one. You should be with another man who is big and bad enough to whip you into submission.

I think they should have had the talk before she left. It should not have been "when she gets transferred" but the date at which she would return. It should have been clear what he could handle before she left. The problem now is that if he stops her (both from working and furthering her education) he will hear it every single day for the rest of their lives.

Have a trust set up. You can leave 50% to your wife and 50% split evenly amongst all your biological children.

Why should they stay under the same roof. It is the same with any adult situation especially when the role of each one is not clear.

He hits you and has a history if being physically abusive. Next time you feel like nagging he might just break your head. I say you need to leave that situation until he learns to behave like a human being. If you guys go to church then I suggest you get some counseling either through church or a professional. You husband needs to take anger management classes and I hope those come with a daily butt whooping. The fact that you say it is humiliating for you shows that you are being abused mentally and physically. I feel sorry for you. You should not feel that way with someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with.

How many Nigerians of this generation who live in Nigeria speak their language fluently? I do not speak my language fluently. I understand it for the most part but I do not speak and I can say the same for 90% of my friends. It is sad but very true.

Beyonce. Angelina Jolie has a pretty face but that is it. Beyonce is the whole package

The man simply does not want her to buy the car because he will be embarrassed. A man like this already has the mentality of "my own" otherwise you will not even approach this subject the way you have.

You and your wife deserve each other. You cannot possibly find any other two people in the world that can be so empty headed

A million things could be assumed from the post. Diabetes for one like someone said. MS, RA etc. They need to fly her out of the country. Whatever she has might be very manageable and she can still live a normal life. I wish her well

He should have just worn a g-string and call it a day