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Oh wow. I watched the episode where she talked about her biological family being white and how they pretty much did not want to be involved. Maybe her biological mother is embarrased that she had a baby with a black man. I am happy for her though. She has a wonderful career and looks like her husband is supportive too. Finding her father will obviously be the icing on the cake

Mimicole:
Aren't u all overlookin somtin here? There's an African proverb dt says wot an eldr sees sitting dwn we youngsters mit fail 2 see it even if we climb atop d talllest mountain. Nw most of u may ask why den is his Dad indifferent? This is because women are generally more perceptive spiritually n generally. @Poster there's a huge possibility dt all d women u've introduced 2 your family are not just d one. Somtin similiar happened in my family a while ago dt opened my eyes, my brother-in-law probably motivated by d fact dt my husband his younger bro had beaten him 2 d marriage thingy kept presenting various chicks 2 his parents, but his Mom being a highly spiritual jim jim lol, kept rejecting dem, meanwhile his Dad was always indifferent, fed up wit d constant rejectn he decided 2 take matters into his hands(d way most of u hav advised d postr 2),printed cards etc, Anyways it turned out 2 b a huge disastr as on d day my parents in law went 2 d girl's parents hse 2 inform dem dt d day of d engagemnt as fixed by dia son will b moved till further notice as d family feels der is need 2 sit dwn and discuss wit dia son since all his deceisions on d mata hav bn witout their knowledge. Well dis is a gd explanation 2 an ordinary listener abi? guess wot? D girl's brothers n parents went livid n held d entire family hostage including dia proposed 'son-in-law' n started demandin millions of naira as ransome, stating that dt is their compensation for dumping dia daughter, Infact it was a real super story dt unfolded before dey were released. Finally d episode left d young man thanking his folks. Needless 2 say d marriage neva took place, bt imagine if it had.

I am not yoruba but I don't think she got the words right. The song is Ijoba orun but she is clearly saying ijoba oh moon Okay she tried. 8/10

zinzi:
@outstrip in igbo custom every thing dat comes after the traditional wedding is d decisin of d grooms family, dats why white weddings are done in the grooms church. remember after d trad u are now a member of d grooms family. infact d brides family are inlaws at white weddings not host. so doing other wise is considered a slight, so my advise 2 @op is xplain d logistics advantage 2 his mum and compromise by holding the white wedding in an onitsha branch of d his family" church

This makes a lot of sense because I know that the girl is not even considered part of the family after the wine carrying. She can even sleep in the man's house then. It makes a ton of sense then why the grooms family should be able to decide that since by the custom she is already their wife. Thank you Zinzi

I was hoping someone will come here and say I was wrong that traditionally Igbo women find their husbands not the other way round. How can you say traditionally in igbo custom the church wedding is done in the grooms town. Since when did "white weddings" become Igbo custom. Someone is even calling me america and in the same paragraph contradicting themselves. Just say it has been the popular thing to do so that there will be some sort of compromise not that it is Igbo custom. That is just plain senseless.

SA Lady:
@Topic this tradition has got to go. But I suppose if you buying as a gift to someone else it should be accepted, and maybe that's what this season should be all about people buying for others other than themselves.

By the way is it cloth or clothes

LOL. It is clothes but people say "christmas cloth" that's why we have it in quotes. It is actually broken english

Who says? According to the Bible Lucifer was very handsome

Which Igbo culture? I have never seen it done that way. It is always from the brides compound. I can see how your mom might be a little desperate. Where your mom needs to be careful is not trying to force her son to do a "chose between me and your wife's family thing". I think she might be caught up in the whole he is marrying a wife but this is the opportunity I have to show that whole family HE IS MY SON. Unfortunately many mother in laws do not realize that when they do this they are sowing a seed. You have to find a way to let your mother know that you are going to "collect" the girl before this turns into a choose between us thing.

No excuse. They could simply have said the building is full and send people away at the hate. The people that were at the gate selling the tickets could have also simply said "sorry but we are full" and keep the gate locked. I am really disappointed and even more now that they are trying to excuse it away. They could have come back with we are sorry for our poor judgement and the money made from the sales will be donated to an orphange or a charity. This is deceitful and unGodly

toba:
she cant loose billionaire son for thousands she gets in movies

Is she marrying for the money. I personally think that she should not have let the family decide for her. She is a good actress and she is made for TV. I can only wish her well. I really like her.

I feel like slapping the boy

So black women are maltreating you and white women are also maltreating you. There must be something very special about you that you just attract maltreatment. Respect yourself and go get a job and take care of your family then maybe you will not be available for a woman to maltreat. Losers.

I was not brought up like that either and I never felt left out. To be honest I did not have anybody around me that had new clothes just for Christmas though I heard people talk about "christmas cloth". I am also not raising my kids with the "expect a gift" thing. It just will not happen. Christmas is more about sharing and giving those things that money cannot buy

Don't leave them alone together but you definitely have to investigate more.

Okay I have to admit at first I laughed but this is so wrong. Humiliation should not be used as a form of discipline

Wow. Just a few of the wonders of His hands

I like it. I think she has the head shape for it

My dear this is the short version. What exactly happened that led to the separation. Answer yes or no to these question

Did your wife get along with your family?
Did any of your in laws live with you for an extended period of time?
Did you ever cheat on your wife?
Did you ever hit your wife?

Why would you drug your child because he will not sleep during the day. He sleeps at night and that's all that matters. You can always insist on naps during the day. he might not sleep but he must stay in his bed. One of my boys will sleep during the day but the other does not. He knows better than to get out of bed when I say it is nap time. You just have to make sure there is a routine. Sometimes I even feel sorry for my 4 year old and let him come out and hang around my office while his brother naps but he still has to lie down and I only let him if his brother is till sleeping after 2 hours or so. He must get the down time.
I am not a napper so I think my 4 year old gets that from me. My husband on the other hand is a napper and I find that he needs that to function 100%. Everybody is wired differently.

I really hope that you are just a misinformed woman and not a man.



[quote author=X-factoria link=topic=576264.msg7449916#msg7449916 date=1293998831]@ OP:

I think the success of marriages depends on the woman. Believe me, even though the man may be somewhat insensitive and useless, the woman is the sole home builder. Even the holy bible says " A wise woman buildeth her own house". That is recognizing the fact that women have all it takes to make the marriage work and forestall divorce.

Just like many posters have put it, today's women have grown increasingly intolerant of their husbands and their husband's families. Unlike in our grandmother's era where in humility and incesant supplications, they swallow a lot of shits just to let peace reign, our ladies today have grown so independent that they can't just come to terms with being bossed around by their husbands or being "insulted" by their husband's families. This is especially the case with so caled "career women". Once they are financially independent or they get richer than the guy, all forms of respect disappears; there are only a few exceptions.

Many marriages have been broken by the interference of mother-in-laws and sister-in-laws because wives can't manage or tolerate them like their husbands will tolerate their mischievous brothers or sisters. Can anyone look around his/her family or around his/her neighbourhood and tell me how many women there are who do not have issues with their mother-in-laws or their sister-in-laws or the husband's families as a whole?

The point I'm making is that increasing women intolerance and independent mindedness and high rate of diviorce or broken marriages are mutually inclusive. I dare anyone to plot the graph and see the shocking revelations.[/quote]

Researcher General

You are not ready for marriage. That's the best advice I can give you

So basically you are sleeping with a married man

There's no love without respect

Is you mother alive? Then move her in. I just hope that she knows how to make trouble. Move in a couple of your nieces and nephews also. Obviously they will have to share a room with you mother in law also.

STORIES like you said. None of that has ever been documented. I am sure if it really did happen then people will still be coming back today with tattoos from their previous lives. Just show us one and we will all shut up

You Nigerian men should keep fooling yourselves. Quite honestly it is disgusting to me that anybody can say it is okay for a woman they respect and adore to have to hand wash clothes all by herself because you feel "it is not a man's job". Hand washing the clothes for the whole family is a whole day affair. I am sure the man still expects his lunch and everything else just like it was a normal day. How can a woman even respect such a man. A man that has a lawn to mow can obviously afford a washing machine so you have it all wrong with your analogy. Also I can bet money on it that a man that thinks his wife alone should sit under the hot sun and wash his dirty clothes all day  will have no problem with her also carrying very heavy things while he watches.

Respect is a huge part of love and that is why 99% of Nigerian women just tolerate their husbands. They might never tell the man that he is a nuisance but that is exactly what many of them are. In marriage we tend to take each other for granted but there is a big difference between taking someone for granted and just being plain abusive.

Listen to invisible. You call it "little work" in reference to what the woman should traditionally do in the home. You might not know it so I will tell you. You are an abuser. When you take what you expect that a woman should do is "little" compared to what you do. Not only are you a bad partner I don't see you even making a good boss. You do not know the first thing about what being a leader is. You are the exact reason why Nigeria is the way it is. People running around playing "oga". I am not calling you an abuser to make you mad. I am telling you so you can change your ways.

When you decide that the only thing you are good for is providing money then you have basically reduced yourself. That is not all it takes. Anybody can make money including the wife that you think is only good for "little work". This is why when a lot of you lose your jobs or are not financially capable you fall apart. You never learned to be a team player. In situations like this when the man does not have the means to provide financially and he runs to NR to say how his wife treats him differently now everybody wonders why. Well this is why. You have to make yourself much more than just someone who provides money because even the beggar in the street begs to provide for his family. It does not make you special.

If it is work that you will not do then don't expect her to do it. If it is work that you will not do but she does it with joy then you should be appreciative of it. For example don't think of it as what a "smaller person" will do. You ain't Poo

I cannot even imagine this being a serious issue. We both do the laundry in our home. If they do not have a washing machine and they cannot afford a washerman then I am sorry but the man needs to help out too. Hand washing clothes under the hot sun is not easy. As far as I am concerned it should be put right up there with farming.

wow. Thank God. So what really happened?

jennykadry:
See this ole CC. You no even happy sef, them buy you flatscreen you dey complain. Na one skeleton-shaped ball pen them give me for vals day

ok. this had me rolling. did he save the pen from halloween or what? geez. sometimes you just have to laugh at these things. Chai