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soul_glo: You never dissappoint. You made a complete idiot of yourself on another thread. I ignored you and you decided to come on this thread and pick out my post and make a comment about it. Pathetic little boy.



I'm not asking if I should cancel my wedding because that has been decided I am only asking how do you go about canceling it and letting invited guests know that this wedding will no longer hold[size=8pt][/size].

I guess you missed that part of the OP's post. I should force him to tell me his life story for your amusement. Ewu nairaland. Village idiot. Go learn to read and then comprehend. You seem to have serious issues with both

You should probably go back to that thread and see how silly other respondents considered you to be. . .

And since you insist on advising someone on how to announce cancellation of his intended wedding, you should probably accompany him to his 'former' in-laws to be. . . And peradventure his reason is such he should have gone there with SANE people and not you; your scars should tell a good story of your idiocy.

Rubbish!

soul_glo: Gosh whatever his reasons are he does not need to say.

Here you are on another 'marriage thread' with your classic 'dumbidity'

So we're supposed to join OPs pity party and 'strategize with him' on how to 'Cancel' his proposed marriage (or is it announce) BUT somewhere in ur **** mind, we shouldn't know why?

We don't friggin kno this dude (or the lady)! So there's a difference between spilling it here and telling other invitees that desire juicy gossip!

If OP can't say Y he's canceling, shouldn't U feel silly counseling him to just break the hearts of the lady's folks?

What if he says the reason and its suddenly a bad idea to visit them alone? Or if he shouldn't at all? Or if there is a chance he's wrong?

If I were an invitee I DON'T NEeD to know his reason unless he's willing to share, BUT if he's asking for advice on how to go about things, its only SANE and LOGICAL to know why!

Dumb_glo

theoctopus: I warned them several times before when ACN supporters started this trend of tribalism and sectionalism, thinking that they will eventually benefit from it. They are so foolish. This trend only has one final outcome. Disintegration of Nigeria, which is what the SS and SE actually want. Let them continue their dance of shame

Ignorant folks like you keep thinking if the chips are down, the SS will actually want to be locked in a union with SE. . . Na una they scream 'our oyel' 'our oyel' 'our oyel' past, but who truly get the oil? SE or SS?

Ignoramus. . .

Gregzee: List of Nigerian Aviation
Ministers...http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/
Category:Aviation_ministers_of_Nigeria
Babatunde Omotoba
Babalola Borishade
Olusegun Agagu
Femi Fani-Kayode
Kema Chikwe
Felix Hyatt
Stella Oduah

sCun: Hmm this list is wonderful! We now know the axis where the rot comes from.
Babalola shame on you!
Olusegun shame on you!
Femi shame on you!

So, somewhere in your daft mind, the "Initial" three long discharged 'SW ministers' are responsible for the rot in aviation, NOT the three MOST Recent ministers, who are ironically more of Easterners!?

B4 you attempt e-tribalism (or any kind) be sure ur brain is workin @ full capacity. Ok?

spiritfada: Don't ask me....Go and check their manifestos "Mr Man"

But all your previous posts point towards zombie-like voting for Anambra North. . . When did manifesto become important to you?

nneh1: I don't just understand why guys like telling the history of their life to a girl they met within few minutes.!!
Woke up this morning and on my way to work a guy in the same keke napep decided to narrate how he is luky to be the last born ,d though he is not a graduate earns more than his elder brother who is a master degree holder bla bla bla. Infact I wanted to tell him to stop but had to keep calm.
Pls guys why too much stories?
Is it to sound or look pleasing?

That particular hommie was just trying to 'run game' . . . & his type is 'bad business'; sounds like 100% immaturity

bootlegaz: Boko Haram impoverished members are busy killing poor Nigerians while their sponsor's kids fly around the world in gulf streams. Islamic religion is truly practiced by the poor among northerners. I am yet to see a suicide bomber that is a son of dangote or Alhaji Alhaji......Hypocrisy

What of Mutallab?

Just few concerns, will the lecturers still be paid for the unproductive months they spent chilling @ home?

Will the "intervention fund" also find its way to their brains and clean up the rustiness?

Lastly, will the 220bn (or whatever) stop lecturers from harassing girls and making boys "sort"?

Except for Q1, if the other two questions are 'No', what then has the average student achieved with this strike? They'll still remain victims and It only means going back to square one!

It is well. . .

ikenna58: I laugh!

. . . kids

Afam4eva: Satan gives them a very heavy knock on the head On a more serious note i've always wondered that also. I used to sleep in church especially in night services and the sleep is usually the strongest and sometimes, i would wish that a bed be presented to me at that spot. The funny thing is that i always pray that the service comes to an end as soon as possible and when the service eventually comes to an end, the sleep disappears.

Someone may be possessed

ikenna58: Its so unfortunate that some bigots (not an insult, check the dicko) wouldn't read between lines before responding. I remember I ended my first statement with "kindly ask them if that is what they pay other applicants outside Nigeria"!! I believe that statement really explains the kind of message am passing across. Do you guys know that BAT pays their MT in UK about 35000 pounds per annum. That's roughly 9.1million Naira. Now do you see them paying thesame for MT in Nigeria? If Stanbic should pay 140k that I can imagine how much they pay our counterparts outside Nigeria!

And whether I am the most qualified candidate in Nigeria, I will say No. But since I know they pay 140k, then I will most likely not take the application serious because I am worth more than that and I know how much my current job pays me in a month!

Sometimes, being very young, we need to venture into other business environment and take up new challenges

Is the UK economy same as Nigeria's? What is the purchasing power over there and what is it here? How much will sustain you in the UK and how much will sustain you here?

Going by economic value esp as per currency, will a Nigerian subsidiary match the revenue of a UK own?

So, why expect to be paid same as the person in the UK?

IamTitanium: ehhya, i understand ur pain, don't beat urself up bruh. Not all of 'em will go now, so there'll still be some left to help drill ur assholeee



you of all people should knw now, . Have u asked urself a question? Why am I homophobic? Why do i bother myself so much about someone else's sexxxual orientation? How e take concern me? Why do I hate gays? Studies have shown that Most guys who are Homophobic are Gay!
So i'm not surprised.


wow, doffs hat . You seem to knw alot about these people. You sure u ain't one urself??

I alwys knew you were gay

I'll ask em boiz to watch out 4u @ em Embassies

Shey all of una will stop all this BB Android yans & tell 'Us' if this new Glo BIS can work on PC. . .

Tenks

Area-Fada:
OP, the fact is you never really knew your wife as you thought. You're not alone because most men don't.

I guess you were always the one with more earning power and main provider. Money is very difficult for many people to handle with humility, so your woman is no exception.

But it becomes difficult when another man (even if it is the pope) is doing business secretly with your own wife. Why would she trust another man more than you?

(1) Does she think you're envious of her income?
(2)The properties you have acquired are they in your name only or both of you?
(3) Is she the type who keeps all her money to herself and not even buy shoes for the kids?

If (1) is the case then she must believe telling you would fuel more envy.
If (2) is the case, then she must fear that God forbid if something happens to you, certain families do send their sister-in-law and kids packing. So why not build her own now that she can? Afterall even a good job can be lost one day. Insurance move.

If (3) then probably wants to conceal just how much she has.


Either way your marriage has been shaken badly. Trust is one of the most valuable commodities in marriage. I certainly would find it tough.

If there was a sinister motive behind the move, if may have been scuttled temporarily but not permanently. If there wasn't any, then all good.

Oh, nothing is really sorted DNAwise until you see the results koro koro.

Chairman, you talk well! God continually bless ur tongue unlike some other slowpokes on this thread. . . Btw, I tink OP had clarified '2' that assets he acquired are in both names. . .

Keep thinking straight jare my good broda

soul_glo: Please go somewhere and scratch your balls or something. Your reasoning is infantile at best. My stance on the OP's wife has not changed. Right from my first post till the very last one. Your reasoning is just too immature to see it. You want me to call the OP's wife a lying conniving bitch and beg the OP not to cry. Is that what will make you feel better? Well I will not. So you will just have to stay salty over the issue. The idea that you think I could possibly even agree with you is mortifying. Keep jumping on every single post on this thread that dares ask the OP to look within.

Why are you contradicting yourself? Don't kill yourself over another person matter Ooo

Btw, it will be an insult to me if U suddenly agree to my view. . . I'm allergic to sharing opinions with SlowPokes

soul_glo: Good Lord. You wife is a grown ass woman. First it was the Priest, then it was her mother and now it is friends. Is she the only woman on earth? She built the house because she wanted to. What you should be focusing on is why your wife decided to build a house and outside influences is just not a good enough reason. It's not like you guys got married yesterday.

Anyone reading this will not know you have not been making reasonable comments before this one; eventhough this is not entirely sensible but it seems 'the brain' is improving. . . You now suddenly realize the OPs wife has got issues to clarify, right? After defending her before as if she's the one feeding you. . . mptsseewwwww

soul_glo: Please go take a seat. You're annoying

c-ODE

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IMO, you broke a cardinal rule with the bold text. . . I hope u kno wt I mean b4 it actually turns out costly 4u

soul_glo: She probably reserves her mean face for you because she knows that your are nosy. You sound like a typical nosey parker. Jumping to conclusions based on what you see from the outside. You basically just answered the question many of us were asking from the beginning. She is very involved in the church so it makes sense now that the priest knew what the wife was doing. The OP should have just come out from the beginning and said that his wife was the type that lives and breathe church. In fact he knew that there was no question of her being unfaithful since I am assuming he knows his wife's relationship with her church but he did not mention all this detail that you just gave us. The woman does not socialize and is very religious and your issue with her is that she has a mean face. Please go get a life.

For your mind now, you have justified the woman conniving with her priest to build a house behind her husband, shey?

jp philips: what is the difference between gworo and carrot?

Locate ur fellow morons and ask them

jp philips: it is only a m0r0n that will see a clear "m" behind my username and still go ahead to assume that I am a woman.
talk only when you are sensible enough.

Instead of addressing facts raised earlier, you choose to face ur gender; whining about being male and not female. It only proves you're a worthless "disgrace of male" that should have been born as an invalid rather than being a disgrace to manhood! Infact, ANY little girl is 10 times better than you in intellect even as you are a full-grown slowpoke!

And I insist; you sound like a frustrated 'about-to-commit-suicide' bitter old MAID!

Wait, not just his cabinet members but also Parliamentarians? Plus including Speaker join?
Aberration of the highest order! Aberration!!!

Infact, the Speaker, empowered by a resolution of the house is the one who MAY still pronounce such embargo on the Governor and his cabinet. . . After all, going against Resolutions of the House will be impeachable.
Reversing roles, what can Amosu do to HOA members if they flout "his directive"?

I seriously doubt this story though. . . Comical Aberration

Baba_Eleko: It's so beautiful how the Quran is able to cover all aspects of mankind. Islam is truly a divine religion. Allahu Akbar!!

Oga, this has nothing to do with religion. It is pure science. . . You can add astrology if you like, but definitely not religion!

favediva: Idiot, your brain has failed you.

. . . Dumbina

favediva: Comprehension issues??!!! Please try n use your brain a little here. I do not give a damn about his complaints cos the topic to a large extent explains what really happened ....Next time you want to attempt solving a problem, u should try seeking the "probable cause".For every reaction, there is always an action/cause. If this rule was followed, then this thread wouldn't have gotten this long.

This woman did not go directly to the priest because of her plans to build a house. She most likely went to him for counselling, there must have been something wrong with the marriage or do the priests in your village have "helping wives to build houses without their husband's knowledge" as part of their "job description"

You should learn not to swallow everything you are told. Ask the OP for proof that the 8 houses were acquired jointly....n d woman didn't contribute a dime.

Hehehehe, even the few Nigerian movies i watched when i was little has made me so sure that the man's family would "drag the 8 houses" with the woman IF (God forbid) the man dies 2mr.

So its not important that OP acquired assets in both names; his and the wife's. . . While Madam Wife acquires just for herself? Even if she contributed in acquiring any of the assets; The docs also carry her name SO WHY NOT extend same courtesy to her husband?

Infact, why am I stressing mysef wit this fellow?

*yawns* Certified dumbina . . . Keep looking for silly reason that you lost eheheh

favediva: The real issue dis man has is that he cannot handle the fact that his wife now earns more income than him. I can only imagine how proud, arrogant and selfish he was before now, cos if he had always been as loving and caring as he sounds, she wouldn't hide anything from him. One way or the other, he must have made it clear that he is a threat to her success. C'mon people, it's simple psychology..... This topic is just so disgusting.

I feel sad when people have "comprehension" issues. . . OP acquires assets JOINTLY IN his name and that of his wife BUT his wife chooses to go solo when she 'hammer'. That is the issue!

armyofone: OP, you should be happy to have such an industrious woman in your life. I think your main problem is insecurity that your lady is doing good.
Sometimes, when a woman does such, it means "i don't trust you that much".
Women have long range thought process while men have short range.
Count your blessings and after she is done, take her out to celebrate.


it is only the poor one that stays home with their 'wifey'
gone with the wind and beer once they start making some chicken fee

Can you ladies please think straight? Is it right for your man to acquire assets in both your names while you acquire yours in YOUR NAME alone.

That is the issue here and the OP isn't even phrasing this right. Anyone that can't address the issue from this perspective is only being cynical, silly, and mischievous. QED

Guyman02: @OP I can understand your feelings, I had a similar experience and it has not been easy. Mine was a situation whereby before we got married I gave my apartment and only car to my wife (then still girlfriend) to live and cruise around while I worked at site and came home periodically.
I made sure she was very confortable with my income as she was earning very little till we got married and we continued to live well as a family and me trying to be the best husband.
Then things started changing when she got a job that paid her well and provided opportunity for things like loans and estacode allowances while my profile has remained almost the same in my work place (yearly small percentage increment)

To my chagrin I got to find out she was paying for a house in an estate with her maiden name and to rub salt into injury she bought a new car and registered it in her maiden name also without informing me. It got so bad that she no longer shows me any respect and I kept feeling miserable in my situation making every effort to work harder and achieve morethan her and in the process even lost more money due to failed investment.
Got sick and went to the hospital and was informed that my BP was getting high and when my family heard it they were apprehensive and I had to open up to them what I was facing.
I had to abandon my home for her for some period and went to a different location to live with a very nice friend of mine to try and get my BP down and think of way forward.
Her mother has realy being a bad influence on her as she was the one who encouraged her to take the actions she took. Following intervention and for the sake of our children I returned home even without her acknowledging that what she did was wrong.
I have tried to swallow the humilation which is what you are also going through now.

I wish I could boast of your achievements listed, but I have little to show even though I have worked so hard and the story around is that I am envious of my wife achievement and her money (but thats not true). Seems like no one wants to know how I feel inside. I can guess the area that your wife comes from as this is rampant among women from that area.
I grew up in the North where you learn to take issues of money and wealth with gentility but she grew up in their area where a lot of emphasis is placed on money and wealth.

Please dont allow yourself to get sick cause of worrying about her action as that may be deadly, remove your mind from her actions and focus it on your children, business and faith, dont worry about the Priests action as he may have acted innocently or even if it is intentional.
You can take a break from the house and go visit a different location for a short vacation to allow for things to cool down.
I hope she comes back to her senses which is also my wish in my own family and keep praying for God to intervene in your situation. Good luck.

I initially clicked "like" on ur post but I had to "Unlike". . . This has nothing do with enduring marriage bla bla bla cos there isn't one in the 1st place.

You wife must have done a legal change of name so if she acquired assets in her maiden name and you still went back to that house; even having sacrificed for her initially, then you're nothing but a cheap skate. No apologies!

When these things happen, it ONLY means the marriage is not existing. If you can never bring yourself to forget the incident, why kid yourself with a joke of a Marriage?

In your case, your wife wasn't even remorseful, Gosh you're a joke!

You're such a disgrace to manhood!

jp philips: An irresponsible man deserve no consultation (the OP has declared he is not), what kinda advise do you expect from an irresponsible man?

How did the OP declare he is irresponsible? You've been ranting on and on about how men visit brothels, drink till midnite bla bla bla. . . See, if you're a lady and you're experiencing that, keep your frustration in check!

You're simply trying to draw up sentiments and another silly girl seems to be following your lead with comments here.

You're not helping anyone by using false scenarios to justify something that is simply wrong! It seems you feel the OP left out "some facts" and you're making them up to have a mental orgazzzm.

#side note: I can't belive Seun substituted Orgazzm with "Heavenly Feeling" # That sounds like blasphemy

manie: @ OP, if your wife inherited a house from her father or mother what will you ask her to do with the property. Will you tell to keep it or sell the property?

Must you think upside down? How is that equivalent to her actually building it up from scratch? Besides, what you own b4 marriage doesn't count! What counts is from the moment you chose to live together as one!

The fact; he acquired assets in both their names and therefore SHE has NO right to own assets in her name alone. Except the OP has done same!

jp philips: There is no sense to make here, it is as simple as it gets, if you marry a Nigerian woman and she becomes financially liberated, your life will never be the same, it is the same when you loose your job as a man, the OP has no complaints, he just doesn't want to accept the dish reality is cooking.
whether its influenced by priest, pastor, judas, mary, her mother is irrelevant, the underlying factor is that she earns higher and the Nigerian woman's prophesy must be fulfilled.
the OP has no case, go home and fvck ur wife, cant even believe some people are asking her to send her away WTF!!

Are you truly dumb or just faking it? OP says they have been holding joint assets; why should the wife now go solo?

OP has acquired properties in both their names but silly upside thinking Nigerians like you think its OK for the woman to now own her stuff in her OWN name alone; and without telling him.

Existing properties are in Mr and Mrs bla bla bla name; If it wasn't for guilty conscience, she would have told him!