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You are a daft young man. If you were close to me, I would have flogged you 36 strokes of the cane with fasting for 21 days. You need help cos you have been offered as a burnt offering to your ancestors. How much is that lady’s salary? Does she earn in 7 digits? Even if she earns in 7?digits, do you know how much it will cost you to build a bungalow of 3 rooms? Even the land, how much is a 500sqm sold in your location?That lady doesn’t care about you. Meanwhile, how old are you and how old is she for you to wait until you have completed the building?Please run to OFM, Mountain of Fire, Dunamis Int’l for help

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

It’s very simple. Inform you landlord. If he is not saying anything positive and backing it with action, let it be. Get your evidences ready. When it’s time to renew your rent, deduct the money and pay him the balance. End of story

Kirchoffs:
I stay alone in a room and parlor self contain here in Lagos , although we have constant light, I have been in this area for less than 2year and light is at least 23-24 hrs per day.

I use 7000 naira to buy Nepa units on the 28th June and it’s finished already today being 12th of July, note that I don’t use anything that draws power in my house .

UPDATE!!!!

So I went to Nepa office today and I was told that there is a debt of 65k on the prepaid meter, each time I recharge Nepa takes off 60% from me for the debt settlement.

Now my question is, am I supposed to be paying a debt I don’t owe or is this the duty of the landlord.

Please forget about money. If you truly want to preserve your home then you have to make up your mind to go for IVF. The money will come out. E be like say to cheat on your wife don dey hungry you. You come here so that we can validate your lust abi. Get out from here

Pojomojo:
From DM

Shut up that dirty gutter of yours you call a mouth. Buhari is the worst thing to ever happen to Nigeria

TermuxDarkWeb:
You can never perform well like Buhari if given a wheelbarrow chairman of your community

You better tell your parents that you dropped out. They will definitely get angry with you, call you names etc but you will have your peace. They can now put heads together to help you..

yolada:
Please get the fu*k out of here. They are not aware, go and tell them. Asking stupid questions. Someone asked for a simple advice you don turn am to interrogation. They are not aware that I dropped out, go and tell them... Can't some of you be reasonable sef?

What has tribe got to do with what he said? You are a piece of monumental waste. One gold circle could have prevented your existence.

OAFMods:
As he stayed longer than Abaribe and Theodore n Kalu Orji before you start lamenting out of chronic irredeemable hate n bigotry that your tribesmen are renowned for again.

Pls run for your dear life. A cancelled wedding is far better than a broken marriage. By the time you marry that man, you will see more revelations. Maybe the Mother will draw out timetable for your sexual activities. Nonsence!

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.[/quote]

You are a liar. Why would you be fueling your gen N1,500 every day? Is that your house don’t have Nepa? Why would a young man be eating 3 times a day? Are you a Yahoo boy?

Cooolme:
Lol do you stay in Nigeria?


MODIFIED...
Why are some of you attacking me?
Let me give you a breakdown...
I eat #1500/meal 3 times a day
Gen fueling #1500 everyday
Data subscription
To mention few...
Y'all calling me 'liar' seems it's everyone that is poor in Nigeria.
I'm not even rich yet, just little expenditures everyone is shouting .
Note also; I'm not a womaniser.

How will you recommend this for someone who is hypertensive and on medication?

Arizon61:
They'll have secret wedding and continue their konjo

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My guy, that bread is 7,500. I don see am with my eyes in Abuja.

saintruky:
Na typo... It's 750 not 7500...

70k is too high naw. Let him call the number behind or ask for the set if persons who came to disconnect his light. If it was the marketer and maybe some other person, he may just spend 20-30k but if it was a joint task force, it will be 120k

leomarz007:
If a contact was written via pen at the back on the paper. No fear.. Dial the no and hear what the person have to say first before you can negotiate. It would cost u around 70k if u bargain well

You no well at all.. lol

Johnnycastro18:
Congratulations to our brother, and to all of us still searching for ours....................
may we find our younger version of oyinbo woman,

Shut up! He is a fearless man. Let him pepper them. They are liars and have failed us

helinues:
This Reno too dey think too much of himself.

Who dah hell is he?

You are a big and empty fool. I can see she is in the same league with you.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
She ain't a lesbian she's bisexual.. stop that nonsense.. lesbians don't do guys..
Actually there is nothing wrong with her being bisexual...the problem is she should have told you about it..

Talk to her about it and stop being overly emotional.. she's just being herself.. help her out.. have a one on one conversation and stop feeling bad..

Fool.. Terrorist like you

noleflendum:
when is that Cownu facing firing squad?
we want to watch it live

Is she married to you? Do you want a herbalist to tell you to walk away from that relationship? What is the probability that she won't repeat same?

You are an illiterate to believe that was stage-managed.

Cokahot:
Staged, oyedepo don do am b4, late tb Joshua did it countless times,where e end. Abegi stupid God of man.
If u need a fire.
I'd be your lawyer
Iiar
Liar

Shut up you fool. Does this look like it's the ESN carrying out this barbaric act? You guys are not wise at all. You see the Boko Haram trying to spread their tentacles so as to carry out their agenda. This is terrorism!

iammo:
It's a simple warning to people with brains, only lunatics won't learn from history

Don't bring nonsense to Lagos or Yoruba land ... You are warned just as we warned the people before you

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Are you well? If you were close to me , I would given you a dirty slap to reset your empty skull full of water melon.. Idiat

Richochett:
You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

Did you school in PHC?

Debra911:
Thats criminal act. You've been dating a criminal all along. You can get her pix from the bank she made the withdrawal. There is a camera on every ATM , try it, it works. That was how one of my roommate was caught back then in the univetsity when she withdrew 50k from my account using my ATM. The bank will provide the picture, then u can report to the police

My friend, you don't need a Counselor to tell you to quit. You have seen the signs already. It will be worse if you get married to her. In your next relationship, don't cohabit untill you walk her down the aisle.

bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

Don’t be deceived, that girl is going out with that guy you are suspicious of. She is trying to use that to blackmail you emotionally. You have seen the signs, run now while it is still day. The night comets when no man can help you.

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

hakeem4:
Abeg who is This bald headed eagle man trying to threaten?

You are a bastard.

Can you share the balance on that account? I want to check something.

MegaPlayBoy:
Hello guys, I need help
I keep receiving bank alerts from access bank in the new mtn sim I bought even though I have no access bank account.
The names attached to the alerts are also different and strange
I don't know where this is coming from, should I destroy the sim and get another?

I don’t want to insult you but something inside of me is asking me to tell you that your a big fish. Ur sense is too small. Go and get a life for yourself. By the way what will make you think of going back to a girl who treated you like a thrash? If you marry that girl, I pity you..

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

That girl is not in love with you. From your story, it shows she was using you to heal from heartbreak. So whatever decision she took that time can not be trusted.

Samrocker:
I met her in my 100L days... But she said she got a boyfriend in Lag. But she made it known to me how really bad her boyfriend is treating her.
She is very loyal type of girl that she told me she can't cheat on her boyfriend despite all my trial and effort to win her heart to me!

Fast forward to 100L second semester, she called me on phone and asked if I was around that she has something to tell me. She came to me sobbing really bad and crying. She explained to me her boyfriend called her on phone and asked for a breakup.

I felt sorry for her because she narrated how she was dis-virgin by the guy.

So she slept over that night ... And eventually we started dating......

It's been over a year we have been dating now... She is so sweet and loyal ...

Not until she called me last month, her ex came with his new car to see her at home.

I was very surprised about this... But she said nothing attached, he just came to apologise...

But after few days... Her ex began to chat her up on insta... And promising her heaven and Earth that she should give her another chance....

She screenshoted everything to me herself.....


Plz I deeply need advice... What should I do to keep this girl from going back to her ex... Cuz her ex is financially okay than me....�...


Am afraid... Plz what should I do guys?

My friend, your the bigger hypocrite here. Why wont you condemn the girl in question? Relationship is a mutual thing. No decent guy forces a girl to stay in a relationship. So why lie about her sexuality? Do you know a man's ego is at stake?

You are quoting so that they will give you likes.

Now I know many people comment not just to make a point, but for cheap likes.

Have you ever asked the OP his dream for the girl??


From what I have read, he just wann be bleeping the girl just like other guys do.


You think to have a babe eventually means you will always Bleep her till when you are done, you separate and that's all.



To all the ladies out there, Hope you have seen their minds toward a female friends.


Please, just read and pass. "Don't like my post or even quote me"

Hypocrites!!![/quote]

Yes we are.. Why do you ask?

larrypourl:
Are you guys married now ?

I decided to see my father in-law to declare my intention. I wanted to go with my friend or a family member but considering the fact that there were no chairs in their sitting room, i opted to go alone. You may ask me why. My wife had told me that the father was not too comfortable to receive visitors because of how his sitting room was looking like. I was to attend a colleagues wedding that same day, so i was neatly dressed and then i had a bag with me. When i got to their house, my wife came to welcome me, she then went inside to inform her dad. I waited for some minutes and then the dad came out. I stood up to greet him and he looked at me for some seconds and he said fine boy. I felt i had won his heart but no, there was more to come.
He asked his son to get me something to drink. Before the drink came, i brought out a wine from my bag and walked up to him and offered him the wine. He took it from me and kept it on the table.
I began my speech by telling him how and where i met the daughter and what i feel for her. I told him straight up that i wanted to settle down with the daughter. He asked me how old i was, i told him i was 32 yrs old and he said you look very young. He started interrogating me by asking where i work, the nature of my job, my parents etc. When i was done, he was just starring at me, shaking his legs. he will make some sound like hmmm, huh etc. Men and brethren, we stayed like that for more than 10 mins without talking to ourselves. I felt the ground should open and swallow me. At intervals my wife would come out to talk to the dad and then she will go inside. She was doing that to observe what was going on. Finally, my father in-law said to me ''son you are welcome".
Do you know that even after he welcomed me, he still had reservations. He said he didn't believe he was going to give out his daughter to an igbo guy. That will be story for another day.

Boy, are you well? U are already cohabiting with a lady you are not married to and you come here to ask us some useless questions. Please go and carry your cross.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

You dey mention just 3 years? With what am earning presently, it will take up to 20 years to earn such. No laugh me ooo

SoNature:
Dem dey use money spoil dz guys oh


What he earns in one week, some graduates don't even earn it in 3 years

Oga, ur insincere. I dont know where you guys learnt this thing? As a guy, ur best friend should be a guy and vice versa. How can you having an idle conversation with the oppoiste sex even when her BF had pleaded with you to stay off. You come here seeking for approval.
Listen to me, she will also leave you for another in the near future.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.