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Stressful kids and to make matters worse a girl!
What a poor example of a mother she had.

lol chima.

freshcvv:
@pendo89
i am here to know why what i noticed suddenly are like that.

Fresh I think I finally found the answer. Please date a System's Analyst.
You are a complex individual in need of somebody to analyse you well and provide your desired answer.

You are a why,what,when,how,who,if, person. Not many people have that kind of grace.

The desperate cry of a somali girl

I really hate being Somali, help?
Where do I begin,  I hate how some silly freshie Somalis will be like 'We are not black and that we are arabs' that gets on my nerves because we ARE BLACK. I love being black, but unfortunately it makes me sad how some black people and white people think we're not black and that we are arabs. Somalia is a laughing stock, the country is a joke to the whole world. I hate Al Shabaab and how uncivilised Somalis can be like. I don't wear a headscarf just because people will automatically know I'm Somali, which I hate.

Majority of the people in London hates Somalis because of how they are everywhere and how they take benefits, but both of my parents work and we don't take any benefits, just because some lazy Somalis take it doesn't mean we all do.

I'm so embarrassed to be a Somali, I don't have any Somali friends all my friends are English, Jamaican, Mixed race, Nigerian, etc, I hate how all the Somali guys look at me and give me this death stare just because I don't have any Somali friends and how I am hanging around with Non Somali boys.

I find Somali guys really unattractive, they think they are so hot but they're so fugly and I will never ever marry a Somali guy, I'm scared that no other ethnicity would want to marry me because I'm Somali just because they are the most hated in London.

I also hate how Somali girls are such attention seekers, I'm glad I've never made any Somali friends. I don't think we would have anything in common plus I can't even speak Somali, I can say a few words like easy words but I can understand if someone talks to me in Somali but I won't be able to reply back. There's no point in learning the language since it comes in no use since I won't be marrying a Somali or don't have any Somali friends, plus both of my parents understand English.

I also hate how Somalis look down on other blacks and think that they are superior it's like shut up there's nothing to be Superior about.

I wish I was white or from the Caribbeans or from West Africa in that way I would have a lot of things to be proud off. I honestly don't know what to do, I[b] hate being Somali with a passion, I always cry to myself and dream about being a different ethnicity.[/b]

I sometimes even lie that I'm Ethiopian just to avoid Somali people from talking to me, I also hate when people ask me what ethnicity I am, I get so embarrassed because I don't want to say I'm Somali. Plus I really hate my name since it's Somali and my last name is Abdi which is even worse. FML.

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I don't want any crap from Somalis saying be proud of yourself that you're Somali because there's nothing to be proud of and don't try to change my mind and make me reconsider marrying a Somali because 'Eww' that will never happen.

Next is her somali friend Maryam

"I also hate how Somali girls are such attention seekers, I'm glad I've never made any Somali friends" - well i went to a school with somali girls and i know what u mean. I have a few somali friends now, and the ones i do have is the people I CHOSE to be around. The majority of my somali female friends were either alshabab lovers, niqab wearing, dugsi going, wife-aspiring chicks, or they were back biting bi.t.c.h.e.s. who loved to gossip.

"I also hate how Somalis look down on other blacks and think that they are superior it's like shut up there's nothing to be Superior about. " Not only that but we call them racist names like garaar and stuff, its disgusting.

Its time for us to be educated and that starts with school where they teach you what is politically correct and why islam doesn't allow it. Somalis wont take anything useless you address it from a religious point of view.

"I hate how all the Somali guys look at me and give me this death stare just because I don't have any Somali friends and how I am hanging around with Non Somali boys." we somalis are judgmental people, i say eff those boys because at the end of the day all they can do is stare, they cant do anything to you.


Abdi spits and staggers in while chewing khat
I always ask myself why is that Somalis , where ever they might be, are hated and despised by others ? I am a proud Somalian and happen to see this patern from place to place around the Globe.


Somalis are hated around the would where ever they happen to be.
Somalis not only are disliked and hated but other people but also are strongly hated by their so-called Islam brothers --ARABS. Sadly enough, Somalis are also their only worest sworn enemy. Somalis of different cast hold a strong hatred and prejudice amongst eachother. Somali members of the lower castes, such as the Yahar, Midgan, Eyle, Boon are constantly harassed, abused and Isolated from economical and social privileges.

However,for Somalis in South Africa is far more than settle, since August 2006, 16 Somalis have been killed and they were all shot and killed in point blank,the message was clear you are not welcome here. This documentary is only for adults, we warn you, you will be SHOCKED!!!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VtNkxgJTUtU&feature=related


Tell me why people shouldn't treat you like trash if each somali reasons like you do?? This is what happens when you take refugee in a foreign nation and boast like you are doing. You are mentally sick.

If I were you I would not even open my mouth to display ignorance on a forum filled with educated people.

See cretin,you hate yourselves so why should anybody desire to be like you. There's nothing to admire Ayanle. If your own women call you fugly then what should we call you??

You know I used to ask why Arab countries show no interest in somali at all yet they are supposed to be your 'muslim brothers'?
Now I know. Oh Lord where can you find refuge except in somali?? Please mobilise urselves and go back cz the world is cruel

this is guess work,does that name mean 'just like me'? will tell you why.

freshcvv:
^^^

  Whether she buys the idea or not, what i asked her to do was to find out herself the cons and the pros, then let me know her stands,  she complained to me 3 times already about the 8-9 job, so in the first place, i don't think me telling her i won't put up with a woman of such mindset is the issue here.

  Not doing 8-9 job is not the only kinda of job in the world either did i tell her to be a sit at home woman.

I asked her a question which she's yet to give me answers to : you want a loving home, loving husband with well behaved kids, but you want to work 8-9 daily, how do you intend achieving this?

[b]Yes i have ego issues and i know that, to bend me, you must give me reasons why i should bend, y[/b]ou don't say bend and i bend, nah far from it. i just like details.

Leave that girl.

Stop forcing this thing cz ts really tiring the more you try to justify, Trust me when I say,you are not easy to deal with person.

Lemmei tell u what ur posts say about you

1. Too controlling
2. Imposing
3. Commanding
4. Smart intellectually not emotionally
5. Dont care
6. Self centred
7. Egoistic
8. You can't bend,take no or yes as answer unless there is proof,evidence,justification etc.

Again we are but speculating and all this is online. I can't add more.

Just date look for some girl who can deal with you.

shoe glue

LOL love this.
I am guilty as well cz I display Obsession with cleanliness.I carry wipes all the time cz I fear germs.

but this ur nephew is in another class.convince him boiling is enough and that its only for surfaces.

Nayah:
Habari oh my sweet sister, what do you mean by that??

self explanatory dont you think so?
We go out with people who have approached us. Before we go we feel a bit reserved as we want to see how they wl turn out to be before we can decide if we wanna date them?? That is what I was referring to I quote' but yes if you're funny, simple and respectful now I might pay attention,'

Niko poa lakini

Nayah:
Hi Poster, I'd say not really, we can diner together without having one's heart but yes if you're funny, simple and respectful now I might pay attention,[/b] but we would have to go out regurlarly before I may fall in love

you hit the nail on the head.

In that case I am Igbo cz that is what I do in real life.
Give me an igbo name.

Am hausa.Twitt but watch ur back.

oh and one more thing.
Do not hate and heap too much blame on yourself.That is your personality and she also has the challenge of accepting you just as you are.
But seeing you are the more dominant partner,take it upon yourself to tone down a bit for the sake of this relationship if you truly love her.

Good luck

Thank you soo much. You spoke my mind. You two are like North and South poles. There's no common ground at all. Why did you decide to date her if you knew she was like that?

Well I will tell you not from theory but experience.I am a perfectionist! I place something somwhere and I want to find it there because I hate searching so much. I love saying time is precious and searching wastes time,so everybody that knows me knows my biggest form of stress.'Search'
I hate disorder! at times I find myself arranging other people's stuff cz I want to see neatness and a tidy place. And what is worse? I can leave you conversing to yourself if you don't make sense or are not well versed in a number of basic issues. I love talking about anything,anywhere and anytime.That means I love being in the company of like minded people to keep my mind busy.
Why am I telling you this? cz I am trying to wear your shoes not speak from the fence like I did earlier.

Now Fresh when this behaviour becomes excessive, it acquires another name called Obsession.And if you must do it without rest or break it becomes compulsive.It's mentaly and emotionally draining.
Now you understand when I said,your personalities clash.Know why? Becz you are trying to make her do what you do,think like you think, and talk like you talk.
That pressure is unbearable to somebody who doesn't see things the same way you do.And no two people are the same you know.

What to do? You have the problem not her! so kindly give her some breathing space and allow her to be herself. Tell yourself that she is different and can never ever be you.
Start by accepting that you cannot change a grownup.You will only succeed in breaking them not building. Now I think she loves you too much to tell you that you are overbearing and the more you continue being 'overbearing' (am not using bossy), the further you push her away.

Relationships are about compatibility and in life I discovered there's always somebody smarter,dumber,better than myself. So I try to accomodate all without expecting them to change so as to fit in my life,It cannot happen.Try not to make it happen either.
Your 'weakness' can be a strength if u accept others not change them.

Finally, if you find it very hard to accept her personality then you have only one option and you know it.

There's a specific tribe in my country known for that . They and Igbo must be one.

What are they famous for?

Are you a perfectionist? you know people who have principles and laws that must be followed to the book?
I admire one thing in you. Attention to details.you are not leaving anything out,no room for assumptions.
You sound like a colonel in the army (jks) but I am assuming you are smart with no time to waste.
That attribute is good but it has its own disadvantages. A relationship becomes an institution with a domineering partner and one who burns inside.
Again I said we are only speculating so pardon and excuse us when we pass wrong judgement.

No ,I aint moving to no net,esp a somali one. Reason being I don't want to avail my mind for abuse and brainwash.

If somalinet cannot help you build your country so that thousands of you can go back and rebuild it or help you to interact well with normal beings who have a positive outlook of life and great optimism then its of no use or value to the world or members.

lets not converse again.We have lost the sense of reason and common sense.
thank u

Tell, hi

Are you and chimezie one and the same person?

lol nayah gal. someone's comment is classic.
I talk to the person differently.Not the way I do to everybody else
And yep I make myself available for communication.
Lastly,I throw in signs like body language.If you are not quick to notice,I intensify but in moderation,if you still don't it! then you are a dunder head and am done cz the feelings die with that assumption > dull head and slow.

Guess I should write mine. not a bad biz idea.
How to win girls on skype.
How to win girls on twitter blabla.
Is there anything new on earth other than opportunities?

I came across this question from a somali.

Nowadays there is increasing number of somali men who are mostly from nothern america and Europe who are going to india to mary indian girls.
And these guys firstly they wanted to marry decent,beutiful and educated girls from india which they saw indian films.
But they end up marrying poor illetrate girls who even can't speak english language.

bcoz the girls who are educated and have good family backgrounds, dont want to marry muslims

The question is why these guys prefer indian girls then somalis?

any answer for me?

I care less. deleted.

wouf!!

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Nat,not all men are equal.Some are posessive its true but! think of a hungry man settling with a peddler,Wish you watched the feature. There's one that would be dropped by the hubby at strategic high end places and the hubby tracks her and takes her back home after 'work'
What mattered most was money.And no she wasn't a small girl but a woman.
According to them,they shared a heart as husband and wife,but the sex was community based. Means of income.

There's is another that left the wife after she was tricked into beastiality.I guess he couldn't just take it anymore. She was devasted.

bin gbagbo:
you dont mean it!!!

Oh yes I do. It was word from their mouths. Are they not humans??
Remember this,most of these peddlers are seeking for love but in the wrong places and way.
Look here,if a man has the guts to sleep with a peddler,then that man in my view wouldn't mind having a permanent one in his house. Its like bringing the coveted goods closer home and making them stay. What else would you call a man who spends all his money on harlots on a day to day basis? never settling? isnt he one himself? Giver and Partaker of the same trade under one name. _{Now that is a different thread so let's not go there cz its been discussed before}

You know what I think? such men don't mind at all cz their nature and way of life makes it difficult for them to settle with an upright and moral woman.
They can love a peddler as in real love. So what should we call this? A symbiotic love relationship. sex for love.

aargh its annoyin even trying to describe it so am out.

She is an adolescent in a woman's body. Sorry but ur freedom and space is gone when you date a tantrum throwing girl.

lool funny and crazy ur last line.
Am not one,never have been and have no plans of becoming one either but am gonna reply since you asked.

I once listened to a feature on TV and these 'former' sex workers admitted to having people they truly loved back home.
Most were married and apparently their partners didn't seem to mind at all.
Some had serious bfs as well. They confessed to loving their partners,but prostitution to them was biz with no strings and emotions attached.
Some even had the support of their partners cz they brought back home more than them.!
I guess that is where the difference is and so yes they fall in love.

Hi CC.
I haven't interacted with you well enough but reading this thread makes me believe you are one great and beautiful person at heart.
I am wishing you a happy birthday, though belated. May your years be fruitful and blessed and continue being an inspiration to all both off and online.

Love from EA.

The short time I have been here I have discovered one fact.
There's no living NL only reincarnating as somebody else.
New names,new fonts, new style,
But hang on as cork cz u make us laugh.

the replies are more disgusting than the story.

if that woman stole my hubby i would let him keep her. shes not a threat.

freshcvv:
@pendo89
 
  The bolded you quoted, i hope you saw the rest of the post and why i decided to act "bossy'? why leave out the rest of the post just to concentrate on your pre-intent? i became "bossy" (more blunt in my own word) about a month ago because she does not take what i say in "friendly" or not serious way serious. she thinks this is just a relationship, i am no lab rat where she would want to learn how relationship work on, i don't hide things and i expect her not to hide either, i told her open up if i ain't acting the way you want me to.

  Lastly, i think she's afraid of running the show, she thinks i know too much and always watches what she say while we are together, i have told her to always talk no matter what but then me too dey "realistic" and hardly "keep quiet" when you are saying things that sound like a "fairy tale" talk lol (u know how una woman dey daydream like u want a loving home, loving kids and a loving husband, yet you want to work 8am-9pm in ur youthful or early marriage stage?), who does she think is going to make all these things work if all her daily time is just on her alone?

Pendo, i don't own her o and i won't "die" if she decides to leave, what i always tell her is to make sure u leave something tangible and valuable when leaving anyone or anywhere so as to be remembered for something,  i am an influence in her life and i am glad i did my part because most of what she knows about relationship and life in general, i taught her and i am glad she's proud of that.

you know we are all speculating so we may or may not be correct.She is the only one who knows what her problem is.
You know,I feel a coldness when I read your post. How and why doesnt she take what you say in a less serious way serious? Girls love funny guys ,guys who are not tense, tough and rigid.
I wish instead of making a 180 degree turn,you had just become a lil serious and less bossy. You did a complete overhaul instead,resulting in your becoming a stranger in her eyes.There's a way a guy can be firm without acting bossy.
If you are Firm bordering on controlling,what happens is, the inside of the girl dies and she becomes a zombie always agreeing without input or objection.
She fears crossing your path cz uv cultivated this 'I don't have time for nonsense template in her mind'

See the part in bold? that is reason for your acting. You know it all,you taught her,you don't take nonsense ,you have your rules but has she even given you reason to justify your  'just another relationship' claim?
Are you speeding here? take her slow and shake yourself up a bit.Be firm in a gentle loving way not scary. This girl's mind is still trying to find itself in this relationship.

2 words of advice from me.

>Don't assume that you know her cz you do not.Even husbands don't fully know their wives since it's a continual process like perfection.
>Stop thinking on her behalf.You cannot enter her mind and rule out things cz a girl's mind at times is like a Cargo plane.Full of excess baggage.

Can you give her space to think things over and see what she comes back with?  This is to avoid you wasting time with somebody whose mind is not in you.

freshcvv:
  I have always told her to make it plain if she wants to go because I don't own her,

dude?? its true but again the way you say it matters.