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very sad.

Idowuogbo:
Pendo her last words to me  was

*Badoskyyyyyyyy pray for me i dey hospital*

I did, I swear to you i did, i had tears in my eyes praying.

Deres something about her i loved, something about yellow mango!!!

Dose that told her to kill herself on d suicidal thread are happy now shey dey sent coma to someone already healing abi

Woteva we sow we shall reap.

Now you my dear.I wish I could just hug you. You have cried too much but its gonna be okay. Be strong cz it will be with time
Cherish all the memories you had together. Forget the doomsayers.I feel sad she went to that thread but she was low and I understand.
Funny enough she was still uplifting herself with songs.I love that.

You want to know what you can do to ease the pain and make her live in our hearts forever?
Put her songs from nl and poems into a lil book and give it some nice title. It can even be a diary . Let her journey of pain inspire others.
There are many in her condition Id and many to come.They need to read what she went through,how she fought. And how she lost the battle.
I read a place where she talked about wanting to start a blog and tell her story.Well that is still possible you know,her family can start a foundation in her memory,collect funds for cases similar to hers and keep her blog alive.
That way her dream and vision will still impact many.

Be strong ,it ill be well.

freecocoa:
Pendo my prayers were not answered o and i know i prayed hard,why did jesus take her even when she didn't want to go na?his taking her only has left us heartbroken,I hate to hear she died for the best,that's not true,it really hurts.

My dear take heart.I think your posts are making me shed tears the most.I can literally feel ur pain through the screen. I read ur posts and how you all kept each other going and it is okay to feel the way you are feeling.

Death is painful,we all have lost one person I can tell u cocoa I almost went insane after losing my bro.Nothing not even scriptures make sense at that moment.

God my dear,does everything with a purpose.That is one statement we hate to hear during such moments.Its easy to get angry at God by the way but always remember Job.

Perx's death teaches us that human beings are weak. All our efforts can never surpass God's will. People prayed and contributed but she still died.
Not fair, but who are we to question? Who understood perx better than her creator?Who just who knows what communication took place between her and God?
I once told somebody that at times God wants to take somebody with Him but we hold them back with prayers like some guy in the bible who was given extra 30 years after much pleadings and prayers.But those extra 30 yrs were the worst of his life.

There is there's what we call the Perfect will and the Permissive will of God.
I guess God's perfect will was to give Perx rest.
His permissive will would have been to prolong her life. But in many cases, He would not have shown himself mighty because it wasnt His perfect plan for her.
That is all I can comfort myself with.

Cocoa it hurts like crazy but give thanks to God for the time he allowed you to spend with her.
Time heals wounds.

Sijo01:
She fought n fought, yet she waz defeted by death!
Wat a courageious being.
No bdy has power over death.
She has gone to rest.
Rest frm all her pains n tears.
May her gentle soul continue to rest in peace. Amen.

To all her friends, family n well wishers, i pray God giv us d strenght to bear diz lost.

No dear she was not defeated by death. becz She will resurrect with Christ. Death was defeated when JC resurrected and the good word tells us that those who are in christ do not die but sleep. Perx is sleeping in the lord's bosom.
I saw a book by her side written Woman thou art losed and a bible in most of her photos.
Her strength was coming from God and God saw it fit to free her from physical pain and give her everlasting peace and rest.

I think we that were left behind should weep for ourselves because Perx work is done. She is a true example of a fighter cz that pain was enough to kill a weak person.

https://th778.photobucket.com/albums/yy65/amyjayne10/Angels/th_23424931.jpg

I never knew this girl but something about her death broke my heart. I was sure she was going to make it and I admired her strength and courage.
But I guess we cannot fight God's plans. We cannot question Him either.
I hate to post this on the suicide thread cz that is not where she is now. I cant find a suitable place either. So here I am.

Perx case gave me strength to also keep praying for a friend who is battling brain tumour. Yesterday the doc gave him 4 weeks to live and asked the wife to take him home for the final lap.
I read about Perx's lost battle and  broke. Last time I read her thread she was shocked by the death of her bedmate. She promised to take more pics and made fun of the 'cage' she was put in to stop her from falling' I could only imagine the pain and the best I could do then was pray.

It's okay to accept God's will. I am not sure if my friend will make it, but I am telling myself that perx fought hard and she had friends to urge her on.
I guess when everything else fails, friends and comforting words keep one going.I wanna do that to my friend. I have realised how important it is after Perx's death.

This song is to all her friends here on nl (ID,Ivy,Freecocoa,Mac etc) and family who are mourning. Take comfort in the knowledge that she held on to God till she breathed her last.
You nlanders God bless you for standing with her.

A comforting song by Don Moen/If you could see me now:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QICc9bCRbTM

My prayers have all been answered,I have finally arrived
The healing that had been there,has now been realised
No one's in a hurry,there's no schedule to keep,
We are all enjoying Jesus,Just sitting at his feet,

If you could see me now, I am walking streets of gold
You could see me now am standing tall and Bold.
you could see me now you'd know I 've seen His face
You could see me now you'd know the pain is erased.
You wouldn't want me to ever leave this place

If you could only see me now.


My light and temporary trials have worked out for my good
To know it brought Him glory when I am misunderstood
Though we've had our sorrows they can never compare,'
What Jesus has in store for us no language can share

You could see me now ,I am walking streets of gold
You could see me now I am standing strong and bold,
You could see me now you'd know I hv seen His face
You could see me now,you'd know the pain is erased,


You wouldnt want me to ever live this perfect place.
If you could only see me now.



If you got a comforting word,poem or song to encourage those who stood with her and family feel free.
rip angel.

Idowuogbo:
Pendo did song was meant for thanksgiving,d song wasn't meant for dis ooo.She sat in her new wheelchair and felt no pain,d next prayer was God pls let her walk,now I got death.

Oh  lord. I was looking for words to comfort you girls who gave meaning to her final days online and this one song popped into my mind. I last sang it 7 years ago!
Take heart. Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof. Her death is not in vain dears. Shes was a fighter.
Precious in the eyes of the lord is the death of his saints. Remove the pic of her lying sick with bandages from ur mind and see her smiling and glowing.Isnt that lovely?
Take heart.

You girls  kept her going.I feel horrible and I hate to imagine what you guys are feeling.

picture perx singing this song and feel comforted

If you could see me now, I am walking streets of gold,
If you could see me now,I am walking strong and true
If you could see me now,You'd know av been relieved,
If you could see me now,You'd know the pain's disappeared,

If only you could see me now.

She wouldn't trade what she has now with what she had on earth,No way. She's in a better place sorrounded by angels.

sing perx sing.You were loved by many for sure.

Gosh.
This girl put up a real fight. I do not even think I would have survived and fought as she fought.
Frecococa,ID,Mac,Ivy, and all those who encouraged her in one way or another,you people made her days less painfully by communicating with her.
You made her laugh and hope. Probably the reason she kept going on. Her poems,songs,thoughts are heartbreaking.I feel shattered as I read through
Take heart girls.You did everything you could have done for her during her last days.God just wanted to give her peace and rest.

pic her singing this

'If you could see me now, I am walking streets of gold,If you could see me now,am walking strong and free,If you could see me now,you'd know I 've been relieved ,
If you could see me now you' d now The pain has disappeared. IF ONLY YOU COULD SEE ME NOW.
Amen.


She shall be missed on earth but I know the girl is shining,smiling and singing her heart out with the angles and if given a chance she wouldn't want to trade her place in heaven with what she had on earth.

Take heart Ivy,cocoa etc .I see ur completley shattered.

sleep well girl

This hurts so much.^^ you guys were really comforting and encouraging. Read the whole thread.
She is in a better place free of pain.

I am too shocked.  This  thread and the other. jesus.
She went to meet the lord while singing melodies in her heart.
Reading and seeing pics she posted tells me she was in extreme pain.


I really dont feel like reading nl for a while. I skipped this thread cz I lost somebody to suicide and didnt want memories. But she was here.

Goodbye angel, rest and sing with the angles afterall the pain is no more. God knows better.

Jesus Lord! ooh

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=885197.msg10322501#msg10322501 date=1330793391]These married men wouldn't have to resort to dolls if they learn to pick women that are compatible to them and understands their needs/wants.  There is no way a man need to do so but if he must do so to get his rocks off then that is on him.  Why would you be with someone that don't want you?  

If you hear multiple generators going simultaneously at midnight then you know why!

LOL

You hear frustrated grunting and sighing.  Some of these men are nassy so I doubt they would even bother to wash their dolls.   

I think it suits the likes of Ayanle. [/quote]Pray he doesnt show face here.

talina:
I watched part of a documentary about men who have these dolls and they are actually very attached to them, even emotionally. Very strange.I think my jaw was dropped open a good part of the time.

Talina,so they are already on the shelves? lol

I don't know but am thinking I could be an instant billionare if I acquire the licence to import them. I see meany sexually frustrated men who don't want responsibility.
So what are they called really? like what d u say you are importing ?? for documentation sake. I am not sure if they will attract tax because they are not classified anywhere.

2buff:
@Pendo, yes it will be bought by married men. and some as presents from their wives.  

Some women actually encourage their husbands to get off to indecency so they themselves can sleep.

Was about to say it would be a relief but u answered it. I think I can set it ablaze if I found such a thing in my house.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=885197.msg10322072#msg10322072 date=1330789397]You are so silly.    

Killz asked me how would I feel if Mr. Chima got a doll and I responded nothing.  He went on describing how the doll can bend backwards and forwards without breaking a bone.  He illustrated that I would listen to the moaning and groaning.  

He then asked me how would I feel afterward, I responded nothing.  He called me a liar.  

How would you react if your man bought a doll and did the above?   [/quote]*coughs and spits * Isn't that enough ground for divorce? assuming we are married? But hey! you know what chima?  I strongly believe this thing will be bought by married men! Follow its statistics and prove me wrong.
Where they hide it will be the prob. Picture this scenario now. Assuming it uses battery and we are in Africa.

So this Mr.C is busy on it and just when hes about to get to heaven the battery goes flat. Let's say there's a power blackout. It may be good luck  to those with generators but just imagine putting the generator on cz ur trying to charge this thing!!

Then try and imagine the sound it makes when at  the heat of the moment, it starts going low. Have you ever heard a tired christmas card?? And you know some men ? lol I doubt this poor thing can survive the stress.They need to make one fit for the African man! A hard one. Not barbie.


Ok what about washing? so a man releases his stuff inside it  then what? he carries the silly thing to the bathroom for a bath?

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=885197.msg10321178#msg10321178 date=1330781541]LMAO@If I knew the life span of this dummy.[/quote]I mean exactly that. Dummy has no life but they are trying to replicate a human so better compare it with the real deal.What happens after continous use?
it doesn't grow but what about wear and tear? Some men have weird fetishes and may bite this poor beautiful thing or flog it esp those practising sadomaschoism. Then what? repaired so u end up having a tokunbo one?

[quote author=Natasha,, link=topic=885197.msg10320747#msg10320747 date=1330777007]Nope Pendo it was designed for men who don't want to get emotional with women, but want sex and not from ashis   Look on the bright side na  [/quote]my dear lemmie burst your bubble,
Men hate getting emotional with women over trivial matters.
But when it comes to making love,They want to smell the woman,feel the real woman and hear her real moan not just a mechanised one.
And hey! there exists such women and it takes a man with balls to find her.
This thing cant even talk back during sex! Its designed for those lazy to sweat. It makes sex a one man show cz it only responds to the man but can never initiate.
Real Men  prefer women who can also take a lead,initiate and think.

The brighter side is this.The cost of this thing is higher than what the average guy may choose to spend on an average real girl over a certain time period.
I can only do a proper comparison if I knew the life span of this dummy.

lord have mercy.

That doll has been debated here.
My big question is 'who wants to make love to a dummy? Something without a life that doesn't talk back to you?
You know it's similar to making love to a corpse,cz it's mechanical.
Men complain when women fake heavenly feeling.Now this one is worse cz everything from sounds is fake.
Its a plastic living dead dummy, with fake human touch designed for men who lack the balls to get a real woman.

Flashaldrin:
#fact, 95% of naija girls dont care!

No not just 9ija girls.Its girls all over the world.
But when they make headlines like sister Damascus,then the world pauses.

Eligible def.

1. Qualified or entitled to be chosen: Pass
2. Desirable and worthy of choice, especially for marriage: Well not to everybody as this is where principles and preferances come in.

There's stiff competition, so its better to always bring more to the table and not just fame /wealth if you want peace.

If I understand the meaning of the word eligible then I would say it's  matter of personal principles.
He sure looks handsome, neat and smart.Everything a outwardly that girl would love to see in a man.
Add fame and wealth to that and you have a semi-god.

BUT is he desirable as a partner? What other humanly attributes does he posess to make him a worthy partner?
Cz If hes got nothing else except what I see up there then well that's it.

Noted, thanks.

My hobby,baking and melting chocolates.Lovely
Baking requires skill and creativity.

Nothing beats the aroma of roasted coffee beans!! I do it occassionally and and the smell is heavenly.
I love the smell of Wheat.
Dry grass burning,I think I love carbonmonoxide cz what else comes out when charcoal/wood is burning??
Yeah chalk falls in my list as well.
The smell of a baby's sweat on their clothes, I feel like eating them up.
The smell of testosterone.

:-x

Eh! what a thread.Laughed so hard.

jeez did somebody call people weird cz I am starting to agree with him.

,thank you.
Why not stop at the teddy lol? Are those nuts inside the bottle?

calling off the engagement??
so if you married her and some men keep drooling over her sxy body you will divorce her? You are a pessimist
If ur woman has no admirers you are not very lucky. They only need to know where the boundary stops.

Your guy is the right person to help you overcome it cz other people will only tell u their own experiences and expect you to face the same.
I know your fear is based on these tales we hear about day in and out.
Hope your guy is knowledgeable.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=855380.msg10316449#msg10316449 date=1330712195]People are still buying slaves?    I want two black slaves that looks like Idris Elba. I got 20 hot USD! 

Aren't your people slaves to the UNICEF and the European nations?    [/quote]lol u need somali currency.Wait a sec!! do they even have one? These guys slaves still practice barter trade.The sold out ones like ayale use other people's currency esp dollars. Wonder why they can't use theirs. A completely lost generation.Bring him some khat to chew.

ayanle456:
the thing abou being a slave, is many of u dont know ur a slave, pendo, i see all those comments, how many of those are true i dont know, but i am going to assume all are true, and the question i would ask is, how many complain about their hair, how many talk about others dna, tell me, i am in a thread right now on nairailand, where slaves are talking about me, i guess u cant see the fact ur enslaved,

Go get circumcised then come talk here like a sensible man.And I mean it! Am willing to donate khat to send you to the doc. cz u sound sound like a woman .

silly and bye.