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Actually i saw the post on likes..its funny as cococandy has a likey likey crew that like her every posts irrespective of the content

damiso: I think NL admin don't mind though like you said Gender wars promote traffic

Apolonius has time to be speaking english 'inductive reasoning' with this kain OP.

Bro apolo save yourself the headache

Its good to hear what the guy is trying to say but obviously he is not here for an intellectual jousting rather to just annoy

Yes,, they do promote traffic

Merlissa: You have to keep trying. I know that Nigerian law says when the child is of age which is 18. The child gets to choose who she wants to stay with. My advice is to get a social worker (which I don't think we have in Nigeria) to follow you on your next visitation or apply for visitation rights. I know nigeria is a messed up country but with GOD on your side, there's no one stopping your goal.

Am proud of what you are doing for your child. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. keep in mind that teenage rebellion will soon start that means (if she's stubborn and rebellious like me) she will start to fight them and they will have no choice to call you and carry your child.

I hope it was helpful

Good advice...

@Dapso2007
List of social worker organisations in the country courtesy a deactivated moniker.. debrief08

Also try your best.. keep tabs on her.. she will come for you soon

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nice one.. apolonius

I wonder what the dude is up to

kulyie: if that's the case trust your self. Anyway don't worry such can't happen to a man with pregnancy like you because she won't feel comfortable and therr will be no place to wrap her legs


such FRIENDLY HUGS is only convenient when it's a slim man with a flat tummy

You obviously are being comedic or missing the point
It is not about me... dont worry ladies love me with my pregnancy

Ok.. whatever works for anyone..

sean123: I definitely did alot. Its obviously not as much now.

Yes you did.. you dont so much now.. so my post still stands...move on

You dont spend that much time, effort and money on someone you just want to Romance.

Yes it can be annoying but thats life. take it as sunk costs... move on.
Date someone closer to you

rozzay: Moda nd son

This is a lovely pic.. you dont even look like you have a kid.. good genes

God will watch him

sean123: I do/did have feelings but i get strong head. My ego is bruised but deep down i still like her. You dont spend that much time, effort and money on someone you just want to shag.

you do have feelings or you did? which is which?

Kuly kuly... na wa for u oooooo. which one be teen or child??

This is a married woman and you are talking blue film

Na wa for u oooooo

im not afraid of anything,.. i put a pic so you can imagine what an embrace with legs locking means

But if its not a big deal to you.. no wahala

kulyie: Piccckaaaaaaa



ahhaaaannnn chisos.too much yellow (blue) film dey worry you


ok what of if it's a child nko or a teen nko.abi is it your something in your shokoto that you are afraid of that will start misbehaving?


a clear mind will not think of anything nasty except he has been lusting after her before

very honest responses.. damiso

sean123: And i seriously was/am. No jokes. It is just the way it has played out. I still like her but i need to also learn from the bad experience for next time incase she was just playing with me. But who when you are looking for something serious do you tell the guy you have make out buddies, cheated on your ex and tell him you had a condom on the first date + plus make references to your toto? She is 21 so maybe just imature

dude.. move on

Since you say she was just a girl you wanted to lay.. it didnt work out

You dont have feelings for her.. rather beef

Move on

cococandy: That's because you read with bias.

ok..

cococandy.. morning

So you still dont accept that both acts are wrong?


Hmm...

obowunmi: Why marriage remains the thesis of a Nigerian woman's life is beyond me.

Not only nigerian.. all women

When single,.. they think of it
When married.. they face the realities
When there is no suitor .. they rail against men..

But heck... we need women too

myboy2010: hop u also get my point

which point ...

prof800: All the comments on this thread are rib-cracking... I don't even know how many people to quote.

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Well, IMO "the wife was not inappropriate".
There are many different ways of life;
In some traditions, it is 'inappropriate' for the brother to even SEE the FACE of his brother's wife not to talk of touching her or speaking to her. (Na sharia death he wan die so.. hehehe.)

...So the wife was totally APPROPRIATE.
...And when a woman is appropriate like this, it's either she badly wants something or something really wants her badly.

..appropriaity
when you see a frog running.. something is chasing the frog or it is chasing ...

myboy2010: i am not trying to be offensive to the ladies on nairaland or anywhere in the world.. but i think it is normal to say they reason differently from guy.. maybe it is because they are created from the ribs and not the brain ...

be more explicit... reason differently how?

Tosyn007: She needs their chakra

Yes.. i will hold out for this for your theory

UjSizzle: What were you even raising dust for?
Ok this part keeps cracking me up



But i agree with this in it's totality


Good morning

People see different things in different ways
We discuss then come to a common point .. That's why there is dust

Morning to you also...

30 years old..how much can you get from him...

I would expect a fast, aggressive type

There is already one pique...


Not sure this is a good move

There should be a 25 y old player which fit d bill somewhere in EPL or from Serbia.. A mini vidic...

ihedinobi2: Something about the prisms we all view life through

Exactomento! Bro ...

apolonius: The man leads,not RULE,the home. The woman FREELY supports because she loves him. This is scripturally justified for Christians.

A role reversal alters the foundational pivot that marriage as a permanent friendship of love should have.

For the women who are comfortable with role reversal,it is always going to be mere beautiful theories than an embraced practical style.

The truth is the great and grand ideas many share here on marriage and norms are not always what they practice.

Interesting.....


I agree with your conclusion however

this is a nice thread and i have learning a lot from it

Can i ask two questions

Is there a sharia court in the southern part of the country

also why has yerima's divorced wives not taken him to sharia court as he seems to be twisting a part of the holy book

Are you advocating for gender roles considering that the same gender roles are more or less redundant in an equal world

there is no more difference between the sexes.. thats what we hear at least


the ladies have made strong points

it is fair for a man who is not contributing financially to take up a portion of the home chores.
what if he is content to be a househusband

apolonius: A woman solely funding the financial needs of the home when there is a healthy man is abnormal. Even when the man loses a job or is studying,there should be some little contribution and a clear understanding that a 'working' wife is supporting for a short time and never fully assuming that role of financial powering of the home.

By the way,op,please get busy and stop watching your neighbour as a movie!

Tosyn007: Lol...sorry sir

Boss.. remember we made a bet that kishi himself could appear

But seriously.. kaguya has not impressed

I will however hold out for your earlier theory that she may need them alive for something ie. sasgay and ruto..

Anacksunamun: What he wrote is fallacy and that's because he "generalised" instead of using "some" like you did. Had it been he used "some", I wouldn't have disagreed.

Fair enough...

UjSizzle: Strange that #Marriedmen didn't raise any dust. We really have too many emotional people out there.
But lemme ask sef, a good 60% of what he had to say to the women revolved around conjugal visits. Is that what marriage is about to men--sex and submission?

it did raise dust even here on NL
let me find the link https://www.nairaland.com/1813653/dear-married-men-powerful-messages#24703016

But remember the dimension for the men centres on loving and cherishing your woman as part of you
However the part of the women centres on one word that some women detest and abhor - submission
A very simple word but which evokes powerful emotions.

on your assertions on 60 percent.. i doubt that
Looking at the tweets.. out of 49 tweets only 6 dealt with sex
Much of the rest deals with respect which is actually very important in a relationship

If there’s anything a man hates in his life, it’s a nagging wife. Please stop nagging. #MarriedWomen

Your husband is not a ‘project’. He’s not yours to change or fix or mould. Please he is yours to love. #MarriedWomen

A nagging wife is like water going drip-drip-drip on a rainy day. How can you keep her quiet? (Proverbs 27:15 GNB) #MarriedWomen

Stop looking at your husband to be the one to make you happy. That’s actually your job, not his. #MarriedWomen

A husband’s greatest need in this world of marriage is to be respected by his wife. #MarriedWomen

When you give to your husband without expectations, then God somehow begins to meet your expectations. #MarriedWomen

Your husband truly wants you to be happy but he really doesn’t want to be blamed when you’re not happy. #MarriedWomen

Look in the mirror & learn to love what you see. A woman who loves her body takes care of it for her husband. Love your body. #MarriedWomen

The successful mathematics in marriage is to give 100% and expect nothing in return. #MarriedWomen

Stop expecting your husband to be what he’s not. Unmet expectations will be the greatest source of sorrow in your marriage. #MarriedWomen

You have to make forgiveness a habit. In big things and in little things. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. #MarriedWomen

I’m not sure your friends will give you objective advice about your husband. Why make them your counsellors. #MarriedWomen

Try to overcome little annoyances, like when your husband leaves a wet towel on the bed. #MarriedWomen

Men are not wired like women and your husband doesn’t even know he is being insensitive to your needs. Tell him nicely #MarriedWomen

Stop saying “I will leave you one day” or “I want a divorce” whenever you quarrel. In the end it will backfire. #MarriedWomen

Stop being so needy, it drains your husband. #MarriedWomen

Never criticize your husband. It builds resentment in him. #MarriedWomen

Why don’t you compliment your husband on what he does right rather than tear him down for what he does wrong? #MarriedWomen

When your husband does something you appreciate, it’s nice to let him know. #MarriedWomen

Do you realize that the more you try to force your husband to do something or restrict him, the more he’ll try to escape? #MarriedWomen

Why do you even bother going through his text messages? There’s no need. Stop it. #MarriedWomen

Your husband needs time to chill in his ‘man cave’. Please leave him alone. #MarriedWomen

You may not understand why he loves to watch sports or violent movies. You don’t have to understand. Give him his space. #MarriedWomen

Focus on what you love about your husband and please leave the rest. It’s not for you to change him, that’s God’s job. #MarriedWomen

Make the bed. Thank you. #MarriedWomen

If you try to control, restrict or cage your husband it will take away that ‘thing’ that makes him a man. He’s a free spirit. #MarriedWomen

Speak clearly. You will be angry with your husband and he will have no idea of what he said or did to annoy you. #MarriedWomen

Don’t walk away after you’ve spoken your mind to your husband. He will hold it against you and bring it up later. #MarriedWomen

Don’t give your husband the ‘cold shoulder treatment’. He will escape from home. #MarriedWomen - SEX

Stop waiting for your husband to arrange a date or give you what you want, take responsibility and create it yourself. #MarriedWomen

Criticism and control will only make your husband shut you out. #MarriedWomen

Sex is a core need for your husband. It anchors his soul to yours. #MarriedWomen - SEX

Frequent meaningful physical intimacy is what connects your husband’s heart to yours. #MarriedWomen - SEX

Pet your husband. Massage his shoulders. Give him a manicure. #MarriedWomen

If you shut your husband away from physical intimacy then you’ve cut off his most important connection to you in his world. #MarriedWomen - SEX

You have to love your husband even when he is unlovable. #MarriedWomen

Serve your husband even when it seems he doesn’t appreciate your service. #MarriedWomen

Be sensitive to your husband’s physical needs even when you’re tired. You can do all things thro’ Christ who strengthens you. #MarriedWomen - SEX

Please stop airing your dirty laundry in public. Your husband just hates it #MarriedWomen

Teach your children to respect their father. Make them see him as a hero. #MarriedWomen

Please make your house a welcoming home. #MarriedWomen

This night out thing with the ‘girls’ is really a risky thing you’re doing. #MarriedWomen

Protect your husband. There are she-wolves out there. #MarriedWomen - SEX

Do all things without grumbling and complaining. #MarriedWomen

It’s not nice when your husband is the subject of your girlfriend’s gossip and petty quarrels. He’s a man. Protect him. #MarriedWomen

Pick your battles. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t fight over little matters. You only stress yourself out. #MarriedWomen

Be very careful about reading romance novels. They give you a false illusion of life. #MarriedWomen

Please stop comparing your husband with anyone else’s. Do you know how they live? #MarriedWomen

Accept your husband for what he is and not what you want him to be. #MarriedWomen

Tosyn007: Oh really?? I was only trying to create a case for her as to why she's been waist going so far then

ok oo/..... watching u in 3D

UjSizzle: It's mad house there Even foreigners are fighting hah!


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