awoo10:
What extent can this naija wh.re go to show how empty their brains are?She was even on her useless period. Shame...

Not to take away from anything you said but that is most likely a panty liner, not a menstrual pad.

I don’t support you remaining in that house. If you had more than 500k, I would also advise you to get your apartment. However that money is small. How will you survive when the baby comes? Are you going to get any form of maternity leave payment? If not, like someone said, find family members or friends with space that you can stay with.

This might also open your husband’s eyes. He would realize you are serious about your demands and maybe begin to work towards what is important for his family

Personally, I don’t enjoy staying with people and I can be impulsive when my tolerance limit has been reached. I would honestly have gotten the apartment already and be living with the consequences by now.

Just think things through and do what we’re rod best for you and your baby.

1stGenAmerican:


This is what should resonate the most. All of those that could’ve helped to save her life didn’t so their words have no value now.

Very untrue

1. This woman obviously did not want to leave and if you know anything about abused people, it is that once they have been conditioned, they will never go. The spirit is out of them and they get used to the abuse, expect it and permit it. If she didn't die this time, she would have gone back home. Nothing short of death or a kidnap by relatives will have gotten her out.

2. Their words have more value now. Take it or leave it, a death by abuse is more sensational and educative than a survival story. Many abused women will suddenly see the light like the world has not been shouting against abuse since we were born. More men will sit up now.

lessonotes:
People just eat, sleep, drink and think vawulence. Na wa for you and your brother

This is funny!!

50k is not a lot of money @op. I remember earning that too when I had one job like that in this same Lagos. Years ago, in fact. It didn't get anywhere even then. And I am not be any stretch an extravagant person. Just transport, feeding and small ijekuje and film, waso. I hardly ever made my hair and I had to save up to be able to buy a phone.

Please it is not a lot. At all. And that's what your sister might not be able to communicate. But you sound like you have expectations of your siblings to take care of your own bills. You even seem a bit entitled to it. If not, 50k from your sister should not have entered your plans.

Please, send her a text message, just tell her you want to check on her and manage your problems yourself. You can tell them the problem but don't ask them for money except they offer. Life is capricious, so are people. Just maintain your lane, you will be okay.

As to having a baby now, why though? Why not get married first? It's just more responsibilities. It it well with you.

Carot:
you are so boring

You are right, quite boring.

I have never had the drama that comes with sexual entanglements, broken heart, feeling used, unsafe sex, postinor 2, pregnancy scare, missing my period, sexually transmitted diseases, the walk of shame the feeling of inadequacy, the sense of shame before God etc.

If that's boring, trust me, I own it. I am very happy with it. I will own my boring and keep my self. Fortunately, I still retain my freewill.

iCauseTrouble:

I guess you are you are ugly. Proof me wrong by uploading your picture

Sorry whoever you are, I don't have to prove anything to you. I didn't prove rubbish when I was a semi gullible teenager, I won't start now as an adult.

Have a nice day.

Charlotte777:
YES but only if the girl no fine and guys are not disturbing her so she focus on her studies and religious stuff, she might claim to be disturbed but not people she want or admire so she prefer to be holy

Is that your excuse? Because its not intelligent or sufficient. Discipline and strong self will have nothing to do with looks. Once again, update your circle. You will get an education.

faithfull18:
Why not? This post reminds me of Elijah in the Bible who kept saying he was the only one left and God told him he had 7000 preserved who haven't knelt to Baal, they were spotless.

No matter how bad the people of the world become, there will always be those who are uncontaminated, long story short.

You hit the nail on the head, I couldn't have said it better. I have met people who say it is impossible to be a virgin past 20 in Nigeria and I tell them seriously, that the people they move with affects their psyche. There was a point in my life that all I met were Virgins, male and female.

As it stands, I know far too many people who got married as Virgins. Your opinion on people is influenced by your circle.

I did. And I still am. We are for keeping the marriage bed holy and undefiled.

Infact, most of my friends did as well and got married as virgins.

Mariangeles:



No offense, but I just like being true to myself, and asking you to unfollow me felt like the right thing to do.
It didn’t have anything to do with your comment I quoted.
Thank you.


That comment was to whom it may concern.
They know themselves.

The kind of immaturity some ladies exhibit on here is why people have the notion that we can't get along. Forgursake, what is this for? How do you make something that burns someone else suddenly about you in the name of being true to yourself? Rubbish!!

LilMissFavvy:
It is o. So he wants to take the fruits of his ex wife's family and feed a new wife? Maddoo . That wife should wake up and teach them a lesson. He is supposed to forgive her as long as he benefitted from his ex family. I know the wife did badly by leaving her matrimonial home, but shes back to take her place.

Are you being sarcastic?

Kobojunkie:
OP, I am interested in understanding why your advice to him was that he take it to God in prayer for divine wisdom and stuff? I mean nothing in the story indicates that God factored in anywhere in the decisions he made to this point, so I wonder why you suggest God to him as if some magic 8 ball to consult for answers when stumped by our stupid & albeit decisions in this world?

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As for the young man, he seems to be on a roll as far as decisions are concerned - it's his life and his energy after all, so why does he need advice from anyone now. He should continue and see where the road leads him.

I am curious about this too. The young man doesn't seem very interested in God or what God can do for him.

And he seems to have a way around his problems. I don't know why he's seeking advice now as there really isn't a big problem here.

He has a woman he wants to marry who is aware of the child.

He has a baby mama who doesn't want to see him and whose family won't give him access to the child.

So marry and move on. Water will find its own level. You should send upkeep money and document the evidence for future purpose and tell your own family so if anything happens to you, they know you have a child out there who shouldn't be denied.


I would have berated your having sex outside against a building with someone you didn't know. And the fact that you had made several girls commit abortion before this one. But what's my own?

debbydams:
u saw it in the story when op said her ex refused before going to seek help from her neighbor, where's the ritual dere na, how's she a bad person? Did u read her story sef? Na person like u no make some people refused to share their story here,stop the blame.. it's not compulsory u spew rubbish.. nonsense and ingredients..Asif u are holy

You people and all your nobody holy stories. Sorry, there are decent people in the world. I'm sorry this is news to you but some people try very hard to be holy and succeed at it.

Should it give a yardstick to be judgemental? No. And it's not on that basis I was responding. I didn't ask why she was having sex with a man she wasn't married to, I didn't ask why common sense didn't allow her prevent marriage, I didn't say anything about abortion being a sin.

But I responded on a decency basis. And yes, I didn't read about her boyfriend rejecting rituals with human parts. She didn't mention that when she posted first. Also, she used juju man for the person her friend, not neighbour recommended to her.

Black magic Alfa or ritualistic or babalawo or yahoo or yahoo plus, all of them are not just right, not decent, nor acceptable.

She wished she didn't come in contact with him because she wasn't rewarded for being his support system. His family never came to see the child she had or show their support. She didn't see what she did as morally wrong. And thats where the problem is. If that man had rewarded her with marriage, all young ladies like me will read is "Support your man when he is down".

So when I say, there is no lesson here, that's what I mean.

If this man comes back, she will take him back. If she meets a man who does yahoo and promises to marry her, she will offer support all over again.

CsRockefeller:
Hmmmmm. Bad guys seems to be winning.

But this is not a bad guy story, the lady herself is an awful person.

Who dates a yahoo boy who has told you he has been sent to look for human parts? That's not red-light enough?!

Then she asks a friend for a herbalists contact to help his yahoo career... why does she have friends that know evil herbalists?

Why not leave at that point? Why stay with such a lazy, good for nothing individual?

She has low morals, low sense of self worth, zero emotional intelligence and is just as lazy, cunning and bad as he is.

Even worse, she went there and ate mixtures of things, who knows if she hasn't been used herself and now abandoned?

I have no sympathy for her and there's no lesson to learn here.

I love Virony. Its plentiful and does the job properly. It also has a mix for light, heavy and panty liners. And the packaging is compact and reusable. Lastly, it has this menthol thing that makes you feel a bit cleaner.

None at all. And I am in my late twenties. Sometimes, I am frustrated by my lack of experience and I wish I started much earlier.

Was just so serious and uninterested that its just in the past 2 years I really saw the need for a relationship. The consequence is that now I don't have time to experiment anymore.

I don't regret the lack of experimentation but I wish I had more knowledge. I have a hard time expressing my feelings and acting the right way around men so most guys think of me as not interested or unserious.

dingbang:
Mention these families please.

Kim Kardashian cooked and ate North's own and even shared with her family members. Some of them refused it though. And she laughed at their squeamishness. I remember it making headlines then. I don't know if she did same for the others.

Mariangeles:


If that were true, a thread created by you in the romance section with reference to this thread would have been more effective don't you think?
Dude, own your sh!t 'cause you ain't fooling anybody.
Also, desist using people's misfortune to shine. It's insensitive.

I think you're taking his contribution out of context. I personally learnt something from his post. I didn't know there was something called a fendom or femdom, whatever. Will research more now. Like Bukatyne said, we can't all be emotional. And don't you just hate when people create threads to respond to other people's threads when they could easily post it within the initial thread? I think I confused myself.

Let me be going, I am becoming too emotional

The flat sandals look really nice... Do you have a physical store?

I do. A lot! Infact, when I was younger,I knew people who avoided me because of it.

I have matured now though, I don't just talk to myself, I speak to inanimate objects too. My laptop, shoes, phones TV etc.

Its refreshing!!

Why does everyone make it sound totally hopeless for AS and AS genotypes to marry?

There are a few options available to the couple if they can afford it. They are expensive and some painful...

Is it worth the risk? To them, yes!

Do you have any idea how hard it is to fund, love and click with the right person?

Please leave them, abeg!! My only issue is why did OP come and tell us? Do you want to be discouraged or do you doubt the journey you have embarked on?

Its not only kidney!! Why not give him heart and hands too...

I know this is very hypothetical. Nonetheless, after such damning information, I'd go back to the hospital, call his family members as well, tell them what I found out, especially if they are aware and then ask them to invite his other "wife" to help out. Shikena.

CastingCrowns:
I crushed on a guy for 11 years.. refusing to wake up and smell the coffee that the love was unrequited.. I took anything he dished because I felt If I was eager to please like a lap dog he would have mercy and look my way, he blatantly told me he delights in mind games and was playing it on me it was pathetic.. when my moment of epiphany came and I looked back at all the nonsense I took and did just to be noticed by him I just laugh.. 'love' smh.

I think most everyone has an insecurity and wrong body image story. It's a part of growing up and teenage years.

For some, it ends well. For others, it's a long, draining esteem destroying battle that leads to neediness and validation from the wrong kind of people.

In high school, I was so underdeveloped, I had one of those ridiculous nicknames to go along. And it wasn't just a physical something, even internally. No breast, no ass, short legs, no menstruation, no pimples (it was considered evidence of growth too) nothing. The only thing that grew were my brains and nails.

Fortunately, the story changed when I turned 17. Although, I has finished school then.

crackkhaus:
This reminds me of someone I know.

She would always tell me that I'm attracted to her even when I had said no such thing, so one day I asked her outright if she actually thought she was that beautiful.

Her response was astounding, yea she actually believed it even though all the physical metrics proved otherwise.

She was a real psycho, but her confidence level was off the charts and that was her most endearing quality.

NO I still don't think she is beautiful or attractive, but if she thought so about herself and believed it, then that's enough.

Funny enough, people like this annoy me to no end!! This is over confidence and ego problems jare. I'm not saying don't be confident in yourself but when you start projecting feelings.... oh well. It won't end well.

I'd tell her she tried. The longer I live, the more amazed I am at the self discipline, maturity and self esteem I displayed when I was younger. Doesn't mean I didn't have moments of stupidity but overall, it was good.

Nonetheless, I'd still tell her to have taken more chances, not have been so scared of change, fallen in love (I thought I'd do this when I was older, my older self is more cynical though and my heart has walls now), procrastinate less, I pushed everything forward and somethings I never got around to.

I'd tell to just breathe and stop worrying (Things just never became the disaster my mind always made me believe they would be).

Lastly, should have tried harder. You could have done so much more. Academically especially.

The beating wasn't very effective in my opinion. The son was probably made to apologise is why the man still has mouth.

It should have been the kind of beating that will make the man even chase his wife out of the house and cut all ties.

The kind that will make him see his son and pass another road.

The kind that will make him quiet when his children come home.

The kind that when he curses, it will be under his breath because he'd be worried that his wife can report him again.

The beating was not effective. Your cousin should wait for him. He will do it again and then, heaven will not fall.

Fathers should never provoke their children!

merahki:



I understood him, and very well too. He said a lot and everything. He made excuses for his writing too, and despite that, wrote well, deeply and meaningfully, so what gives?

Dear poster, you are brave for sharing your story, you refuse to blame and want to succeed...that’s great.
May you find healing. You are healing already.
Show your thread to him, and give him a chance to be better? If you can’t it’s still okay.
You know there are psychologists you can talk to? Not pastors o?

Then you are a more patient person than I am. Or less prone to migraines. Well done.

I'm glad someone seems to grasp what he's about.

What are you saying? I couldn't make a lot of sense out of this and I refuse to get headaches trying to comprehend.

Beat of luck.

I write my dreams down. I have several books for different years and I'm still young.

I suspect when I turn 68, it might be considered abnormal. But it gives me comfort and helps me channel my prayers better.

For me personally, these dreams come in relation to what I've asked God for or situations I'mgoing through. And I take pleasure in going through them and seeing the physical evidence of answered prayers.