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3cycle: It's obvious you married him because of his money and nothing more, you sound too angry to have a reasonable conversation with anyone.
Keep your nwakpuda and let us keep our giants

I even doubt if you are a woman. However, why are you taking this matter too personal to the extent of calling someone's husband 'nwakpuda'?

How can you call a man who is 1.75m tall a short man? He has a cute height that any woman can brag with.

Of course 1.75m is just almost 6ft.

This your obsession no deh here o! You better control it.

Actually, this is the best post on nairaland romance section.

Mods should move this to front page so that our sisters will know the obvious truth.

Anybody that says that by simply being tall makes a man better than short guys should try and convince me that a woman who is yellow in complexion is better than the ones who are dark in complexion.

Anyway, some deluded female folks will always wait to make their own mistakes before they learn.

Hausas and their slaves (Yorubas) are trying very hard to create the impression that Igbos are not better than them.

The claims, counter claims, and pull-igbos down-crusade going on here are simply based on anti-igbo mentality.

In the next Ohaneze Ndi Igbo meeting, this issue will be raised and henceforth, I expect all well-meaning Igbo sons and daughters to:

1. STOP patronizing GT Bank.

2. STOP using GLO Network.

3. All GT Banks in South-East should be made unproductive strategically.

4. Among others.

The Hausas in the North have no problems EXCEPT violence. We can live with that instead.

2cato: If he wins i will suggest u and ur minions should go and stand in front of his motorcade and shout a big no so as to stop him.

Is that all you can say?

You and your spineless president will be shocked.

The youths are angry!

Falsehood is the greatest crime against humanity, especially if such lies are meant for public consumption.

The immigration recruitment exercise in which many innocent graduates lost their lives, money and other valuable materials is still fresh in my mind.

For a very long time FG jobs can ONLY be gotten through nepotism, bribery and man-know-man. When the immigration recruitment began, we thought the FG under the watch of GEJ has embraced transparency. Unfortunately, it further portrayed the cluelessness, lies, nepotism and corruption that this administration is known for.

Consequently, my questions for Mr. President and his supporters are:
1. Where is the money of our graduates?

2. What is the outcome of the committee meeting GEJ set up to look into this crucial matter?

3. Have the families of the diseased been compensated with appointments as promised?

4. What happened to the clueless minister who organized this inadvertent recruitment?

Goodluck Jonathan should not mistake Nigerian youths (graduates) for fools.

2015 is around the corner and his I-don't-care attitude towards an important matter like this can jeopardize his 2015 ambition.

yomanovic: I was in Oshogbo in May this year which happens to be my first time in Osun State. Some of my colleagues who schooled there or had visited before were full of praises for Aregbesola for the various projects he has already completed in the first four years if his administration but my brother, I marvel a lot when I see comment from PDP supporting nairalanders who just want omisore in; a man who is known for nothing but ruthless acts in the past. Some even talk about him as if he is untouchable. I just wonder what our present crop of leaders at the federal level have in stock for the future of the nation when a man who was in prison was allowed to contest in an election and yet won. dem camp no know say 'there is God ooo' now!

Is it his father's money or his personal money that he used to execute those projects?

Somebody is spending public fund and you are clapping for him.
Who doesn't know how to spend money that he didn't suffer for?

peren: I would pm u only if u are
6ft tall
with a well built body
light skin
den we can talk.

I SMH for you. Are these the criteria for the man you want to have sex with or the man who want to marry eventually?
So, any slowpoke who happens to be 6ft, well built and light in complexion has automatically becomes your dream man?
Sorry to say, but it is either you are deluded or you must be high on some adulterated psycho-medication.

Splasshhh: Though i am late to this thread, talking abt playing hard to get, I think my matter pass that one now.

I need help pls.

I am a single lady and kinda outta Love. Guys matter no just dey my agenda in a very long yl now but, I met this guy and i'm kinda really into him.

He likes me too but I don't sense he wants anything more than just frns. He is really cool but I am tripping really hard for this guy. I have tried the green light part but seems he doesn't get it. He is more drawn to work and I don't know if I should just wait until this feeling dies away or just tell him straight.

Pls ideas

Tell him indirectly. How you ask?
1. Be nice to him
2. If he lives alone, volunteer to cook for him and please cook a delicious meal. If you don't know, learn from your friends.
3. Jokingly, find out if he has a girlfriend, if he doesn't, you have 95% chances.
4. Get to know his friends and be nice to them too. Chances are there that they will praise you before him
5. Use eye contact to send the message across to him and I promise you that he will be begging for your 'YES' in 3 weeks time.

The part I hate is when she realizes that your interest in her is deminishing, she would start hanging around street guys to make you get jealous.
Funny enough, she is compounding her problems by:
1. Firstly, hanging around street guys is an indication that you are cheap b/c birds of a feather flock together.
2. Secondly, the impression that you already have another guy will kill the little feeling left.

nonsonnamani: By Chidinmma George...the female love doctor for men.
Source: www.facebook.com/makeherchaseyou

Every day I get approached by guys who just don't get
it...

Like, from the look of things they think they do but
they just don't.

Have you ever seen an extremely pretty girl who is
dating a guy who looks so damn ordinary that you go
like - "what the heck did that babe see in that dude?"

I hear that all the time; stuffs like - "the dude is too
ugly for that babe jare".

The thing most dudes just don't get is the fact that
when it comes to what makes we women trip, it's
hundred percent different from what makes you guys
trip.

For a lady, all it takes is just to flash some boobs and
probably look you in the eyes in a seductive manner
and bam - you are turned on - that is, you guys are attracted
by what you see.

The mistakes guys make is thinking that what works
for men actually work for women.

They feel maybe if they look a bit good, had six packs
that maybe they will get women swooning around
them.

I see dudes wail about how average or not so good
looking they look. Then I see some others, who don't
really look that fine, give my pretty girlfriends
headaches and heartbreaks.
I see some other dudes who put on great clothes, dress
really nice, forms fresh boys here and there and think it
stops there - only for a guy who they look better than to
steal their girlfriends from them.

Most guys go out, try to get a girl of their dreams only
to watch her turn them down.
Then they start thinking something is wrong with
them; they go like - "maybe it's money, maybe I didn't
spend enough".


So they go out and spend like they are Santa, acts
really nice around her, take all sort of BS from her,
tries so hard not to make her upset. You basically
become a "nice guy" - but the same thing happens; the
girl turns you down again.

Then You give up; you insist something is wrong with
you.

Well, the truth is this - There is something wrong with
you and it is that you just don't get it.

The FACT IS THIS - while you guys fall for what you see,
we ladies fall for some thing else that can NEVER be
seen.

And what is that?

The PERSONALITY and MANLY QUALITIES of a man.
The fact is this; some dudes are so verrry good in
making we women trip that they do it so easily (I have
fallen under the spells of one of such guys -they call
'em "players".

Some other dudes are just plain annoying; so annoying
and uninteresting that we have no option but to turn
them into a play thing.
They call us - we don't pick.
They ask to see us - we give excuses why we can't
(when we might be in a guy's house at that very
moment they called us up to ask)

I hear a lot of pained guys moan about how un loyal we
girls are. It's funny sha; we are the most loyal creatures
if you can be a man with the ATTRACTION TRIGGER
QUALITY we want. We will so stick with you

The fact is this....

Every man can have that quality. Trust me, I'm a
woman - every man can become a man any woman will
kill to want to be with.
It doesn't matter how you look or how much you earn.

When you see a hot babe dating a guy who is almost
nothing - don't wonder why.
It's the way we are wired. It's the way we think. Call it
fish brain or what ever you want.

We trip for personalities you guys trip for booty
To sum up...

- Any man can make women chase after him if he can
have the personality and quality that triggers
attraction in women (I will explain such qualities in
subsequent posts)

- we women don't give a hoot about how you look,
maybe to a little extent we do but we would rather date
an average looking guy who has the personalities that
get we women tripping than a handsome dude who
doesn't.

This is simply your opinion and stop preaching as if it is a dogma ( a well established principle).
Ask many girls and they will tell you how they trip for guys who are:
1. Above 6ft.
2. Wealthy
3. Educated
4. Out going
5. Influential
They don't give a damn if the guy is an armed robber, a drunkard, a woman beater, a cheat, among others.
So, what personality nonsense are you talking about?
It seems you don't live in Nigeria. The nollywood movies they watch has really affected their brain.

Every girl has a boyfriend. That is how delusional they can be when they want to play hard-to-get.
What makes a lady thinks that I will run after her b/c she told me that she already has a boyfriend. In fact, that impression alone will make the guy lose interest in you.

kingthreat: Some people are in undeserved positions and Mikel is one of them. Some dumb people support this trend and you are one of them. #antimediocrity

Since you are God who determines the position someone should attain in life, why didn't you STOP him since 8 years now and still counting?
Stop hating! It doesn't pay.

Nigerians have always wished that Mikel leaves chelsea since 2006.
I don't know why the good wage he earns there brings up the venom of hatred in their veins.
Since you have crippled your country through hatred, nepotism, tribalism, and religion bigotry, why do you still inter-hate someone who is enjoying his career in another country?
He is a snail, he doesn't know how to play football, he is a bench warmer and what have you.
Is it your father that owns chelsea?
Did he beg Nigeria to play for them?
If you didn't invite him, he wouldn't have come.
He is now a multimillionaire if not a billionaire and you open your mandibles to call him snail?
Before you insult Mikel, ask yourself, "What have I achieved in my chosen career?

500GP: TELECOMMUNICATIONS - IT'S OBJ THAT USHERED IN PHONES, LAPTOPS, COMPUTER THROUGH FOREIGN INVESTMENTS (INVESTOR ) WITH THIS SERVICE PROVIDERS SPRANG UP.......

WHICH ONE IS MORE EFFICIENT BETWEEN NITEL AND GSM..............?


SO OBJ SHOULD ACT LIKE THE WAY GULLIBLE GEJ'S IS ACTING: NOT TAKING EVERY MEASURE TO STOP BOKOHARAM INSURGENCY. DURING OBJ'S REGIME

OBJ ushered in laptop, phones and computer?
Are you sure you have passed your SSCE?
I wondered why OBJ could not STOP militancy in Niger delta and a scratch face like you will always boast that OBJ could have tackled BOKOHARAM.
OBJ also ushered in Jincheng, Keke Napep, 406 peaguot car, Mercedes car and chicken. Oh! I forgot pepsi.
NONSENSE!

500GP: WHAT'S IT TO HATE IN IBO? THERE'S NOTHING TO HATE, ENVY ABOUT YOUR TRIBE, IBO TRIBE IS A WASTE TO HUMAN RACE.

OBJ DID NOT PLAY TRIBAL POLITICS. IT'S IMPACT WAS FELT: HE FOUGHT AGAINST CORRUPTION
HE PAVED WAY FOR TELECOMMUNICATIONS WHICH CONTRIBUTED TO NIGERIA GDP IMMENSELY.

HE PAID OFF NIGERIA'S DEBT.

HE DEALT WITH ALL SORT OF INSURGENCY. THERE WAS PEACE

Your level of reasoning baffles me.
OBJ paved way for Telecommunication?
MTN, Airtel and GLO are not Nigerian property. Each of them belongs to an individual or group of individual. Your OBJ simply issued them lincence to operate in Nigeria. Any slowpoke on the street can do that. In doing so, he crippled our NITEL.
There was Peace?
Are you suffering from amnesia?
OBJ used the army to wipe out an entire community in Benue state. Is that peace?
He failed to STOP militancy in Niger delta.
He almost wiped out the entire people in Odi community. Is that peace?
He approached issues by force instead of being diplomat.
Sharia law consumed thousands of Nigerians during his regime.
What does the word 'peace' means to you?

500GP: GEJ IS TAKING THE SOUTH LEASTERNERS FOR A FOOL AND THE GULLIBLE LEASTERNERS FALL FOR HIS PLOY.

IN 2011, HE FOOLED THE LEASTERNERS

IN 2015, GEJ IS STILL FOOLING THEM.

#IBO THINKS GEJ WILL HANDOVER TO THEM. GEJ WILL HANDOVER BACK TO THE KINGMAKERS IN PDP

Why are you always suffering from IGBOPHOBIASIS?
Your son (Obasanjo) ruled for 8 years. Can you categorically tell us ANY notable infracture that he brought to southWASTEners?
Please, in case you don't know, IGBOPHOBIASIS is more chronic than HIV.

anitank: Ok Mr Chelsea,I know they can't be compared but I still prefer Eto to ur arrogant Drogba anyday

*goes back to my Kitchen*

why did you call Drogba arrogant? Well, Drogba is happily married and his wife is not complaining.
You ladies are always looking for spineless coward (mistaken for humble person) who you can control.

Tallesty1: There is nothing like Unconditional Love. It is just a lie that we like to believe.

Another proof

I have always tried to understand the meaning of the word 'love'. In fact, I am tempted to say, on many occassions, that love doesn't exist. However, I have come to understand that love have different categories.
Consequently, after many consultations and findings, it appears that 'genuine (unconditional)' love doesn't exist among human beings.
When next she/he tells you,"I love you", don't hesitate to ask him/her, "why do you love me?".
Underlisted could be the reason(s) why you love him/her:
1. He/she is beautiful/handsome
2. He/she is educated
3. He/she is wealthy
4. He/she is from your tribe
5. He/she is tall
6. He/she attends your church
7. He/she is generous
9. He/she is humble (sometimes, spineless cowards are mistaken to be humble)
10. He/She is God fearing, among others.
Surprisely, I have seen love disappear once he/she loses any of the attributes that attracted you to him/her in the first place.
Fellow nairalander, why do you love him/her?
Without reservations, do you love him/her unconditionally?

Maya2pretty: Please what is the duration for the test so I could walk around it in the office, thank you.

I am your secret admirer.

koyyes: You've just buttressed my point further. If a high school drop out can mobilize experts to help actualize his/her dream, imagine what intelligent people like the op can do with his level of exposure. My point is people like him shouldn't limit themselves. He was created for bigger things.

Do you have problem with understanding or what? Your type may be writing this trash from a comfortable office.
A graduate who can't boast of N1000 should start something with your head I suppose?
Do you know that there is time for everything?
Do you understand the meaning of the word 'ambition'?
If you expect a graduate to take the job of a bus conductor, palm wine tapper, errand boy e.t.c, then something must be wrong with that your thick skull that you call brain.
ONLY God Almighty can make something out of nothing.
Imagine yourself losing your job and all your money and then tell us here what you would do.
If you made 3rd class and managed to get a job through connection or merit, don't laugh at those who have better grades but are still unemployed. The truth is that, intelligence doesn't amount to enterpreneurial potential.

EngrDozzyMary: yap, nah me...

I see, my greetings!

Nigerians will soon blame Mikel for this.

bercarray: is okay o,let's see 4 hw long u'll b there,cos i'm not sure wht u guys wld play d nxt world cup

Nigerians will soon blame Mikel for this.

Are the opportunities meant for ONLY Engineering graduate and Calabar residents.

winiwini: MANY THANKS

You are always welcome

winiwini: Must marry WombMAN be that.... thats who my gal is

Don't EVER leave her. Above all always appreciate and adore her.

In the recent times, many relationships and marriages are not working. Also, many Nigerians who are singles are desperate to go into relationships while those who are married wish they never did.
The advent of 21st century marked the end of an epoch in marriage institution in Nigeria and in the world at large as the divine institution automatically transformed in nature and definition and diversified into unlimited groups such as "gay marriage, multiple wedding, co-habitation, white wedding and court wedding".
I am a man and would like to advise all the young men in Nigeria to look before they leap.
The Bible talked about a virtuous woman, who she is and what her qualities are.
Underlisted are the qualities of a morally excellent woman. It is advisable that when you see one, do everything within your power to get her and marry her. Believe me, she worths dying for.
The qualities:
1. Respect- A morally excellent woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and helpmeet (Gen. 2:18, 1 peter 3)
2. Faith- A virtuous woman serves God with all her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways (Proverbs 31:26-31)
3. Mothering- A morally excellent woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She is a mother to both her husband and children. She nutures her children with the love of christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom and trains them in the way they should go (Deut 6, Proverbs 22:6, Luke 18:16)
4. Health/Hygiene- She cares for her body. She prepares healthy food for her family (Proverbs 31:14-15, Proverbs 31:17, Leviticus 11, Daniel 1)
5. Homemaking - A morally excellent woman is a homemaker, she creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her (Proverbs 31:15, Titus 2:5, 1Peter 4:9, Hebrews 13:12)
6. Service- A virtuous woman serves her husband, her family, her friends and her neighbours with gentle and loving spirit. She is charitable (Proverbs 31:2, 1Cor. 13:13)
7.Finance- A morally excellent woman seeks her husbands approval before making purchase and spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs (Numbers 18:26, Eph. 5:23, Deut. 14:22, Probverbs 31:14-16)
8. Industrious- She works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks ( Prov. 31:13-16, Philipians 2:47)
9. Time management- She uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please God (Eccl. 3, Prov. 16:9, Phil. 4:
10. Beauty- A morally excellent woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. ( Isaiah 61:10, Timothy 2:9, I peter 3: 1-6)

Please Nigerian men, when God blesses you with such a woman, value her the way you value your life.
Source: A good part of this article was taken from www.africa-sweetheart.com/2013/02/relationships-ten-qualities-of-virtuous.html?m=1
with great modifications by me.

Adaeze003: He must marry a graduate... Graduates must marry tall men... And the world goes round and round... Lol!

When you have criteria 4 choosing a mate, you must bear in mind that others have theirs too.

very funny situation I must say. If I were him, I would marry an SSCE holder and make her a graduate.
However, it seems, the too much Nollywood, Hollywood that our educated ladies watch seriously make them think that what they watch are REALITIES. For Christ's sake they are fictions.
For me, 5ft 8inches is a good height anywhere. Although, we can't say he is very tall but he is taller than MANY people, the girl inclusive.

dridowu: If SSCE holder will give me peace of mind , then count me in but if Ph.D holder will give me war , then count me out.

I have tried repeatedly to make him reason like this. I also suggested that the girl can go ahead and obtain her degree after marriage but he didn't buy my idea. I am showing him all the comments here so that he can see that a lot of people corroborate my points.

dytbabe: *in igbo accent*
He he he, so now qualification is a criteria? Hian


Marry a woman that loves u and can stick by u
Dunno sef, sometimes u men reason like snail

Thanks for your contribution but why the insult on men?

He is a fresh graduate i.e B.Sc (Hons). He has completed NYSC and has gotten a small job. However, he is still searching tirelessly for that dream job.
Also, he intends to settle down soon. Unfortunately, the girl he is madly in love with turned him down simply because he is 5ft 8 inches in height and the girl in question is 5ft 6 inches. This young man is:
1. Very handsome
2. God fearing
3. Intelligent and smart
4. Industrious
5. Out-going and social
After our findings, we discovered that the girl he is in love with was influenced by her friends. According to our source, her friends told her that my guy is just 'average' in height and once she wears her high heels, she will become taller than him.

He has taken it upon himself that he MUST marry a graduate but it seem most ladies who are graduates in Nigeria have the same mindset. I have advised him to look for other girls but he said that based on his discussions with many ladies who are graduates, that it appears ALL of them are obsessed with 6ft and above dudes.

On the other hand a lot of young girls who are SSCE holders are falling on him like park of cards. He doesn't want to go into relationship with them simply b/c they are not graduates.

Is he right with his choice of must-be-a-graduate lady?

Should he go ahead and settle down with an SSCE holder?