EFULEFU1:
I saw my best friends wife in a hotel with another man. Since then I have not been myself

Should I tell my friend?

Since he's your best friend, mind if I ask, is he loyal to his wife?

1. If no, let them keep fooling each other.
2. If yes, he deserves to know.

PrecisionFx:


Ur white ancestors passed it down to u and ur fellow Christians.


My ancestors arent Adam and Eve so they didnt pass down anything to me

How are you sure? Cos you don't know the names of your ancestors.lol

Balaxx:
Wizkid nah small pikin for where Akon dey,even for money,hits,YouTube views.MI with e puff puff face

That goes without saying.
But this shouldn't be coming from MI cos dude used to be humble.
Ego and arrogance can be blindening.

PrecisionFx:





"Psalm 51:5 expounds this. Even little children "

Little Christian children, keep that madness to Christians pls.

""Meaning we're born with a sinful nature due to the sin of Adam and Eve.""

Adam and eve are ur parents that gave u ur sinful nature. Leave others outta ya madness

Ok i get your point.
Let me rephrase then, our ancestors passed it down to us.

jesusjnr:
I've been praying for you.

One thing I learnt during my walk with God is to never stop praying regardless of how bad, frustrating, hopeless etc., things are. Never stop praying.

Though I have never backslided since I began walk at the level of the Spirit, because God never let me descend to that level as He has always been there just before it got to that point, the lowest i've gone in my spiritual life is the time i decided to stop praying.

It was then I really got to know the difference prayer makes in my spiritual life, as it helps prevent some unnecessary issues and reactions.

So from then on I decided that no matter what, that i would not stop praying, and that's what I have been doing since then and it's helped me a lot. Because even when I don't feel like praying, and don't even believe in the prayer I was praying, when I start and keep going, at some point in the prayer i would notice that everything would just turn around and become completely different from the time I started.

So at end of the prayer, the prayer would have helped me with the strength i needed which I didn't have before I began to pray.

And fasting also helps as well, and it recently helped a bro here where prayer alone couldn't help him, so I would suggest that to you as well.

Thank God bro for His mercies and I believe that He'd definitely see you through.

God bless.

You're a brother in deed.
I realise my spiritual drought started with downward spiral in my prayer as I perceived God had answered my prayers already by Faith after about a year of consistency. So I decided to relax. Unfortunately, that was my mistake. Even though God had answered, my prayer life should be consistent.

Thanks for your prayers.

I lost the most important thing in the world, the conscious presence of the Holy Spirit and His direction.

PS: The Holyspirit has been the most Integral person in my renewed relationship with God.
So I am presently on the road to realigning myself with Him.
Keep me in your prayers.

PrecisionFx:


Nope, everybody isn't inherently evil. Christian's are inherently evil and carry around the evils of Adam n eve....pls keep that to urself n stop roping in others

Psalm 51:5 expounds this. Even little children practice evil. I don't know if you've taken your time to observe little kids lately.

Meaning we're born with a sinful nature due to the sin of Adam and Eve. But thanks to Christ, we are reborn into God's nature which is the Divine nature. Romans 5:12-21, Romans 3:23-24

Obi1kenobi:


There is not a single person in this thread who is waiting for God to come down and personally rule Nigeria into an age of prosperity. The unserious arguments here based on strawman distortions of the arguments of your adversaries are coming from you and you're projecting that unseriousness on others. The only serious context of that comment was on the futility of religion in a country where everyone is a zealous religionist, but can't translate their faith into substantive progress. If their faith is real, we expect to see it validated in wisdom and competence and cooperative harmony and mindfulness and selfless, altruistic service to the community, and virtuous living and transparency and accountability and everything that makes good leadership and engaged followership in a working, functional society. That is how we expect faith to manifest in our society if divinely guided. Not strawman arguments about God or Jesus personally coming down from heaven or something.



Being "neat and orderly" is a humanistic value of harmonious societies, so Japanese or Korean or Finnish or Scandinavian people aren't neat and orderly because it's some kind of religious duty. ANd you're correct that failing at this is our failure. Again, you're stating obvious things that nobody is arguing against and missing the crux of the argument. The crux of the argument being in what ways are our society materially transformed by all the religiosity? I went to missionary schools as a child where everyday, we had to recite "Prayer for Nigeria in Distress" and "Prayer against Bribery and Corruption in Nigeria". Every single day. I've been reciting these stuff even before perfecting my reading in nursery and early primary school. I just used to listen to people mindlessly chant the prayers in church and I could recite it. Over 2 decades later, and these prayers are still chanted in Catholic masses all over Nigeria and we're still as much a corrupt and as wretched and miserable a shiithole as we've ever been for decades. So why not simply be engaged citizens who try to reform or revolutionize the system with mass action? Why even bother praying about it when the efficacy of that is pretty much zero influence level?

There's a scriptural answer to almost all our questions.
This post is one of the few that have probed some salient biblical points.
However, God is not the problem, religion is.

One thing I relearnt is that God has everything planned out. We are simply here to make His plan unfurl.

One of the unveiling Scriptures for me was when God promised that Abraham would be Father of many nations but this nation (Israel) would be slaves for 400 years. Genesis 15:13

Now imagine Nigeria as the nation and God already planned 400 years of suffering for Nigeria. No matter the amount of prayer and fasting, it wouldn't change God's plan.

Why that analogy?

You said you as well as other Catholics have been praying for a bribery and corruption free Nigeria yet here we are... What if we're still within our God's stipulated time of sufering?

It doesn't mean that God doesn't answer prayers, because everyone who has testimonies knows he does, it's just that the prayer is incongruent with His plan.
Just as Jesus prayed for the cup of suffering to pass over him but God's plan was for Him to drink His cup of suffering and crucifixion. And Jesus knowing this knew it's not about His own will or desires but God's will.

What am I saying in essence?

Op is going through a phase, as we all do... I hope it gives him growth spiritually, experientially, emotionally, financially, and every way he desires according to God's will.

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

More importantly, how old are you?
We tend to be careless where age is on our side.
But time has a way of humbling us.

I will suggest you not only decide you need to change this mindset but more importantly, you need to start to act right cos your kids depend on it.

I know one of the hardest things is for a minister to acknowledge his wrong which is why it took a while for me to create this thread, i wish i did earlier before i became vulnerable.

But more importantly the essence of this thread is for those who have been in this position to give guidance to those of us who have now found ourselves in this rather precarious position.
It's a thin line between test and temptation.

Can you atleast correct your english so we can understand the message you're trying to convey? Your headling is more confusing than a half-cast.

Flyingngel:
You, better stop granting press interview before Buhari sycophantic foot soldiers misconstrued your statement to something else thereby take you back to that hole.

Why do we defend the same peope robbing us?
As far as I am concerned he shouldn't be celebrated cos he misappropriated our common wealth in the disguise of arms deal. Although if govt was holding him illegally, that's wrong.

Rapmoney:
Many self righteous religious folks will not be happy with this. The day Christianity and Islam are allowed to thrive in China, that marks the end of the stability of the Chinese government.

It's ok not to accept religious doctrines but to alter and impose your own socialist doctrines is not exactly right either.

Sabby1:
Regardless of date or origin, If I no celebrate Christ at least once a year, wetin I gain.

Happy Christmas Nairalanders

The question is how do you celebrate him?
He stood for love and sacrifice, hope you extend some sacrificial love to some one or some people as you celebrate him.

jesusjnr:
It is well with you bro.

I don't know how far astray you've gone, but I don't believe it too far away from where you can find your way back to your Shepherd's fold.

Just try and retrace your steps back to your Shepherd, you shall soon find Him because He'd also be looking out for you.

God bless.

Thanks bro.
Please keep me in your prayers. Spiritual drought is a very unpleasant place to be.

RoyalUc:


You are welcome brother.
I pray the Lord refreshs your soul and strengthen your inner man with might.

Grace!

Amen.
I sent you a mail. Would like us to discuss more.
The challenge is when a minister backslides, it's not so easy recovering. Like a doctor that's unable to heal himself.

I often preach that humility is the access to God's Grace. It wasn't a coincidence that you should share that scripture as it's my anchor verse so much so some have labelled me minister of humility. Yet some how, I seem to find myself now seeking access to God's grace.

I knew when pride started to creep in. In fact, I urged some friends and leaders to pray with me and pray for me. But over time, I experienced a spititual dryness and became vulnerable.

I guess I need practical steps.

RoyalUc:


A lot to say but time and space won't allow. Where do you reside? I will like to send you something.
But let me try and send parts of it I snapped. Don't know if they will be clear enough.

I've read it.
Thanks for sharing.

RoyalUc:
1. Acknowledge that you have fallen, which I guess you have done.
2. Understand Grace. When you truly understand the place of grace in your christian life and submit to it, you will be amazed how your life will turn around. Stop trying to do it by efforts or activities.
3. Be patient with yourself
4. Get close to committed, spiritual-minded brethren.

Thanks.
I believe number 2 is where the work is.
Can you shed more light?

I had been feeling a spiritual dryness especially in my prayer life.
Eventually I became vulnerable.
I never knew I could find myself falling back to what I was saved from.

Believers and especially ministers, how does one recover from backsliding?
Please help.

jiggaz:
Christ Jesus destroyed Sin and redeemed us from the curse of the law. He disgraced the devil and made a mockery of him and his principalities thereby rendering them powerless.

True.
Eternal salvation is genuine when we bear the fruits (evidences).
-John the Baptist calls it the fruits of repentance. Luke 3:8
-Jesus calls it Fruit of the Vine. John 15:1-2
-Paul calls it Fruit of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23

unstoppable51:
Does Revelations 21:7-8 teach that a believer can lose his Salvation and end up in Hell? What does the Bible mean by “He that overcometh shall inherit all things?”

Having believed in Jesus as your Saviour from sin, you have crossed from death to life and will no longer end up in the lake of fire. This is what the Bible teaches. That is God’s promise and in it lies our Faith.

I hope this blesses you. Glory to Jesus, our Saviour and King!

Believing Jesus Christ as the Son of God is the First Salvation- that is the Faith in Christ that saves us from from the First Death. The first death is a state of spiritual death for unbelievers and the carnally-minded. Where one is disconnected from a relationship with God.

The Second Salvation is where our Faith in Christ overcomes the trials and tribulations of this world. 1 Peter 6-9 It ends in the salvation of our souls. The trial of our Faith helping us to bear the Fruit of the Spirit Galatians 5:21-22, 2 Peter 1:5-7 having overcome the power that compels us to do the works of flesh as listed in Revelations 21:8 and Galatians 5:19-21.
That is how we are saved from the Second death.

I pray that we continue to grow in Faith and that Jesus Christ meets us in Faith. Luke 18:8

Grace, Mercy and Love to us all.

Klarge0137:
Thanks to you all and for taking the topic to the front page

Be careful with online opinions. Some are good, some are otherwise.
Be sure it's not a jobless person giving you employment advice.

Mcslize:


Sex bond a girl to a guy.

Did you read the post at all? Op just stated that some relationships seem to end right after sex.
There are different factors that can be responsible for this, no generic answer.

SalamRushdie:
And yet you supported Yahaya Bello

He should start from Lagos, we don't even know if we have a governor yet. He just knows how to give quotable quotes.

miqos02:
Not necessarily, the person you are introducing yourself to knows you are male/female

Exactly. The title isn't necessary. Unless situation demands it.
But Nigerians seem to feel less accomplished until they are recognised by titles. Pastor, Doctor, Engineer, Mrs, Barrister, Chief, Apostle, etc.
To each his own i guess.

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type.

It's a tricky one to judge.
I'm glad you're both believers, meaning you both would submit to the Word of God as I believe you intend to make Christ the Head of your home.

That said, one of the major things Christ does in a believer is make him or her a giver. It doesn't even matter if you're engaged or not.
The love of God expressed in giving His only begotten Son, breaks the hardness of a heart and makes us givers of our time, service, finances and even life.

No one is perfect but stinginess is quite a big deal regardless of gender.
The most important thing I believe ypu need to look out for is that she submits to God's Word. If she doesn't yield to the Word and Spirit of God, then there's an issue.
But if she yields, then there's hope cos we are all growing. She'll get there.

SpoiltVirgin:
God bless the man of God for the kind gesture.

Glory.
I believe with more good works as this, the church is being restored and the gospel becomes tangible. Jesus saves.

I love this thread and some of the replies so far have been edifying.

I believe the most important part of living the Holy Life is to detest Unholy life.
Until one hates sin and worldliness, he cannot truly desire to leave it behind. (Matthew 16:24-26)

One of the works of the Holy Spirit is to convict the world of sin, righteousness and judgment.
Meaning He helps us see the wrong in sin and the right in righteousness and to make better decisions/choices knowing Christ has already defeated the power causing us to sin and given us Power.

In conclusion, our Journey of Faith starts from the Heart (Spirit), then we grow into manifesting it.
One doesn't become holy by becoming holy overnight. Trust the process. There's a lot God reveals in the process.
It is instructive to know that when the Israelites entered the Promised Land, God did not take away all their enemies in one spell, he left them to overcome them with time so that the land truly won't swallow them up. (Exodus 23:20-30)

Just be sensitive to know what God is dealing with you per season and be growing in All Grace.

I leave you with the words of Apostles Peter and Paul.

2 Peter 1:2-9
Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.

But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins.

Galatians 5:16-26
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.


Keep growing in all Grace and as the Holy Spirit gives you instructions, obey.
Grace to us all as we continue to Grow in Christlikeness and Workmanship.

Mynd44:
Witches and Wizards have

1. Freedom of religion
2. Freedom of speech
3. Freedom of movement
4. Freedom of association.

All you snowflake Christians should go sit somewhere and allow people do their stuff. Isnt that the Love Jesus preached?

There in lies my dissonance with religious Christians- the double standard.

If this had been a Christian Conference being resisted, we would have called it Persecution. But now we are the ones doing the same to others.

They should let the conference hold. Those who wish to study wizardry or even convert should have their freedom.
No one is forced into God's Kingdom.

After all, how else does the world know we serve a superior God if we fear witches are wizards?

Are we still on this?

electroTech:
Churches these days preaches mostly about prosperity, fruitfulness, love, family, relationship, romance, politics, education, and other real life topics.

You rarely hear about Moses, Joshua, Joseph, Tabitha, Jabez, Nebuchadnezzar, Ahab or even Jesus and his audio salvation.

You know why?
Cos there's a wide difference between fairytales and reality.

Our subconscious knows the reality, but out of mental slavery and childhood indoctrination, our consciousness won't let go the fairytales

Explains our generation's low level of morals and high level of greed/covetousness.

Thank God for always keeping his remnants. There's still hope for as many as seek the truth and not pastors that preach what we want to hear but what we need to hear.

Almajiri1:

American businessmen and politicians commit far worse than you could ever imagine.

When they get caught, they also face the law.
Two wrongs don't make a right sir. Unfortunately we think it does.