Switruth:
May God give us the strength to avoid all temptations and may we have the heart to fast,pray and give. Amen.

This should be a Christian's normal lifestyle. We shouldn't have to wait till Ash Wednesday or a memo from our general overseer.
That's what differentiates religious christianity from a relationship Christianity.

OceanOfJoy:
Yup. Nigerians in Nigeria today marry for the wrong reasons

What is the right reason(s) if I may ask?

Amalekki:

No you bring another war 10 times & you will be crushed & black scorpioned 20 times over with all your empty chestbeating. Asari Dokubo dared your chief chestbeater the other time & he kept quiet. Instead of thanking Yakubu Gowon for ensuring that it wasn't an all out war you keep deceiving yourselves with your conveniently acceptable version of external forces as if your Ojukwu didn't hire mercenaries. Black Scorpion that showed you pepper na external force?

Igbos are the saving grace of Nigeria. Imagine the igbos accepted Islam like the rest of Nigeria? We would probably be Islamised by now.

On this note, while I condemn the Biafra war, I believe it's not a topic to gloat about but to reconsider our stance as a nation in the face of all the insurgencies, terrorism and poor economy. Are we a failed state together or should we consider retracing our steps as a Confederate when the east and the west recorded their greatest developments.

tsephanyah:
Fake news.. even the their hotheads miscreants youths like i-pot can't say this

I wondered too cos igbos are bearers of this brunt too.
God might be punishing Nigeria though cos it's not a regional judgment.

It's all politics.
Don't you know terrorism is a big business.

There are many reasons for divorce but marriage is the major cause.

deboysben:
Are you still doing campaign for crying out loud.

What kind of man is this

Lord!

I think he meant his govt will rid the country of Christians and Igbos.
Now I understand when the bible said it repented God that he created man. Buharii is a big disappointment.

olayemioshiyemi:
Good news and plus for our democracy. .....freedom of the press has come tostay.

How is this tyranny a plus for democracy?
Did you read the bail condition?
All cos the journalist was doing his job?

A plus for democracy would be the said governor being fined or jailed for abuse of power.

sammyfrosh:


Thanks for that, I made a mistake

How can you have a list of animals that doesn't include my ex?

OgunLaakaye:
His Excellence President Mohammadu Buhari (GCFR) should thread carefully and maintain pre-election agreement.

Any effort to trauncate this agreement will be met by an heavy blow.

Tinubu is the next president of Nigeria!

I just want to revel in the sarcastic undertone of this. Cos if you truly vie for Tinubu presidency you must either be a paid APC member or a fool.

I was shocked to find posters in Kaduna today of El Rufai already campaigning as the next president 2023.

I can understand if northerners are being northerners since reason and intelligence has never been their strength. But for a Southerner to vie for Tinubu or El Rufai for the next president is a slap on every educated Nigerian's face.

Righteousness89:
So Destroying your Health is now Freedom??

Devil is a Bastard in this Generation...

Freedom is having the right like everyoe else to do as you please especially if it hurts no one.
Their celebration isn't even the smoking but the equity in females being allowed to do what males do without legal or religious consequences.

While i don't support smoking due to its health dangers, I do support freedom and equity within the framework of sane human behaviours.

Splashme:
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No reasonable country takes Nigeria seriously any longer.

Buhari has destroyed this country

Truly, Nigeria is a shithole.

Buhari is a shithole

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Nigeria is a major terrorist watch no thanks to Boko Haram, ISWAP and other islamic religious extremist groups.
US is not going to take any chances especially now with all the Quds force cross fire when Nigeria could be an ally to Iraq.

masterP042:
I think something is definitely wrong with our reasoning here in nigeria, okay, let's say he tried to bomb the church, should his name be the bone of contention?
Is this how we should react to a failed terror attack? We didn't even ask his sponsors, his network, how he was recruited into the act, etc. we are just after his name..
This name checking of a thing is a serious sign of tribalism and religious stereotyping. It's frequent here on nairaland. It's holding us as a people back on the way of progress. It shows this country is not really one, the marriage don scatter since 1967, we are just deceiving ourselves.
We should look beyond the tribalism and religious nepotism if we want progress.

Wise writ.
Unfortunately tribaism, racism, sexism, religious stereotyping are consciousness that can't be undone. We can't pretend that we're the same, we can only accept our differences and choose to accomodate one another in a way none is superior or inferior.

And that takes a league of wise leaders to achieve not the bigots we're presently plagued with.

rafhell:
i usually don't drive my car on mondays due to lagos traffic.

i took a bus to obalende this morning and was forced to trek from obalende to VI.

To be honest i enjoyed the 35 minutes trekking.

As for me, i prefer the bikes and keke do not come back.

Lets trek as we use to do and improve our health.

Honestly you simply shared your experience like everyone else did. Unfortunately you're like the brilliant student always asking the teacher for assignment or test.lol No one likes that.

Bottom line, consider the plight of others too. The ban doesn't favour the majority.

punisha:


hope they died well?
Not to sound mean... But if only the public knew the body counts these guys rack up daily. They turned to judge,jury and executioner... Killing and setting up innocent souls for nothing.

I still remember a cousin who came back from Malaysia and was kidnapped playfully by his agemates cos he refused to come and show them love. Just because of 100k that he gave them (olopa) at the station when he was freed by his agemates (bought them palm wine and bushmeats they weren't even asking for much) ,these guys legit asked my cousin if they should kill and dispose their bodies...thank God for his elder brother who quickly refused the offer and just asked they hold them up a but n free them. Life means nothing to them.

Playfully kidnapped?
There's no such thing.
Those guys should be charged for abduction and extortion.

Ishilove:
Why do I have a very strong feeling all these viruses are being cooked up in a lab and Chinese people are the guinea pigs?

Yea, a classic Robert Ludlum prologue. Serum and antidote deal, either for business or population control.

JubrinElSudan:
Anybody that has a Wikipedia account can update any page nothing like one of their writers.

Exactly, it's an open blog. Although they have a team that corrects promptly.
I believe this is just some mischief making blogger.

IsraelOA:
What is the Christian view on gay marriage? Are spiritual gifts biblical? Can Christians drink alcohol? These are some of the topics that often cause heated controversy within the church today. Christians take very different opinions on these issues and both sides refer to Scripture to support their views. Discernment is certainly necessary, even among a group of believers in today's culture. Whatever your views on each of these topics, hopefully reading this list of the areas where the church often experiences division will encourage us as Christ-followers to strive for unity within our own churches and even across denominations, because although there is much division and controversy among the broader church, there are also core doctrines that unite us.

1. GAY MARRIAGE
Gay marriage and whether it should be allowed in the church is certainly at the top of the list of modern-day controversial subjects. One need not search current headlines for long to find evidence of this controversy.

This issue has caused division among many denominations. The Presbyterian Church (USA) supports it, while the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA) and others do not support it, for example.

But perhaps nowhere is the controversy surrounding this issue more prevalent than in the Anglican Church. In recent years (and even months), the Anglican Church has softened its stance toward gay marriage and gay priests, but there is still much oppostion. Some have called on the church to be more welcoming of LGBT individuals, some go so far as supporting gay clergy and granting them the rights to perform same-sex marriages, while others remain firmly committed to the traditional definition of marriage. The United Methodist Church is experiencing controversy over this issue. You can read more about it here.

2. ABORTION
At first, one might think this subject is not so controversial within the church as it is between those in the church and those without. However, as a recent Pew Research Center study shows, those who claim to be religious yet don't associate themselves with a particular denomination actually are mostly in favor of abortion, with only 17 percent opposing it.

Still, a majority of Christians are pro-life, but the subject remains a controversial one within the church, especially when it comes to the argument that pro-life should mean more than simply "pro-birth."

3. WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP
The issue of women teaching/preaching in church can quickly become heated. Again, more conservative denominations tend to be against women in leadership roles, while more liberal denominations tend to accept it.
Recently, there has been a particular crisis on this issue with the rise of Christian women bloggers. The online presence and followers these women have is substantial and has caused some within Christianity to question their authority, even though they are not preaching/teaching in a traditional church setting.

4. TYPE OF WORSHIP MUSIC
Contemporary or traditional? Hymns or modern worship songs? This is definitely an issue that tends to spark debate within many churches. It's often even a deciding factor when someone chooses a church to belong to. This issue also tends to divide believers between older and younger generations.

Even certain instruments can be controversial. A drum set might not be considered acceptable in some churches, while another church may have an entire praise band with a full range of instruments.

Some churches have attempted to resolve the controversy by using both traditional and contemporary songs intermixed during their worship services or even providing two different services--one more traditional and one more modern.

5. SPIRITUAL GIFTS
Although spiritual gifts are mentioned several times in the New Testament, different church denominations have different interpretations of what it truly means to have and use a spiritual gift.

The spiritual gift of speaking in tongues tends to be the most controversial of any spiritual gift. While Pentecostals fully affirm this spiritual gift, other denominations have gone so far as so say that speaking in tongues is offending the Holy Spirit.

Other Christians embrace spiritual gifts and even encourage congregants or church staffers to take spiritual gift tests to see where they are best equiped to serve.

6. BAPTISM
Although practically all churches practice baptism, baptism rituals in different denominations not only vary in practice but in theology. There has been a heated debate within the church for centuries on whether the Bible promotes infant or only believer baptism.

More liturgical churches even tend to give the impression that baptism is essential for salvation, while others don't seem to put a lot of weight on it. Some churches also baptize infants, but see it not as evidence of salvation, but rather as a commitment by the child's family and church body to bring up the child in the fear of the Lord. In this way, an infant baptism is more like a dedication of the child.

Still other churches only baptize those who are old enough to make a profession of faith of their own free will.

Chrisitans also have opinions on how and where baptisms should take place--by sprinkling of water, by pouring water on someone, or by full immersion.

7. POLITICS FROM THE PULPIT
Should ministers talk about politics or endorse a specific political party or view from the pulpit?

Churchgoers have very different views on the subject, but the controversy isn't confined to the church. Several months ago, President Trump signed an executive order ceasing enforcement of the Johnson Amendment, which prohibited a church, as a nonprofit entity, from endorsing and promoting a particular political party or candidate. Many championed the executive order, saying that it gave churches more religious freedom, but others maintained that siding with a certain political party is not something a church should be doing.

8. ALCOHOL
Can Christians drink alcohol? This question opens up all kinds of debate within the church. Many churchgoers believe Christians should completely stay away from alcohol, bars, and anything that has to do with drinking since the Bible condemns drunkenness and instructs Christ-followers to be sober-minded.

Other churchgoers, however, believe that consuming alcohol in moderation is not a sin. These Christians often argue their point from 1 Corinthians 8 in which the Apostle Paul says to "Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak." Many take this to mean, by the context surrounding it, that drinking alcohol is permitted, but Christians should be careful not to cause someone who is prone to alcohol abuse or someone who believes it is a sin, to stumble in his/her faith by seeing another Christian drinking.

A church's views on alcohol can even be seen sometimes in the worship service; some churches use grape juice for Communion, while others use wine.

https://590amtheword.com/articles/church/pastors-or-leadership/here-are-8-of-the-most-controversial-issues-in-the-church-today

Great post. Nice one OP.

owukpa:
Dr. Paul Enenche, the Senior Pastor of Dunamis International Gospel Centre, DIGC, has bemoaned what he described as war of attrition going on in Nigeria.
The fiery preacher during a communion service in the church on Wednesday, decried the level of insecurity in Nigeria, particularly the killings of Christians by those he described as anti-Christ.

He has spoken with so much passion and emotion. However, no word of exhortation or direction or prophecy.
I appreciate the fact that he didn't claim God said when God has not spoken.

But we do have the sure Word and this we know- That the church is being built and will continue to grow triumphantly and the gates of hell will not prevail.

ojaysam25:


you maybe right sir...it maybe be something spiritual...but what got me confused is that he lost his sanity while reading..

Spiritual attacks often exploit people's most dominant habits. Drinking, smoking, insulting, womanising, reading, etc.

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!


Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

You seem to be a good guy so I will oblige you.
It's easy to give advice, following through is where the work is.

Good thing you took the self-defecating approach by accepting the blame and owning up like a grown up to your mistakes.

Life is all about choices so i will present you with yours;

1. You can keep this from your fiancee and life goes on. You deal with the consequences in the future. Women often take this route.

2. You can respect your marriage and share the truth with your fiancee hoping she would understand but prepared for the termination of your relationship or marriage too. You will have to assure fiancee that you've turned a new leaf.

3. Have you considered marrying "Lola" instead?

Wow, the faith of this man, Nathan.
This family has been dealt a heavy hand by life but their resolve to maintain their faith is exemplary.

Leah is fighting the good fight of faith and it doesn't matter what happens now, she'll be remembered always as a hero of faith.

God continue to be with the Sharibu family and reward them beyond understanding in this life and eternity.

okeyumez:
Yet Nigerian musicians are here deceiving themselves with false celebrity attributes
Jumping up and down on stage with frog voice
Non sings music that last beyound 3 months
Good and philosophical music died long ago in Nigeria

Should Grammy be the body to determine the quality of African music?
Africans still running around with colonization mentality.

Nothing wrong in aspiring for a Grammy but in Fela's philosophy, a white man or body should not be teaching us how to be Africans.

Akpan107:
Every other stone is IDOLATRY.

The Ka'aba stone is special and divine, because it will have eyes and mouth and will be able to speak.

Can you produce any stone like it?

Has it? If all you have is future tense, then other idolators too can claim the same.
Religion is just self-contradictory.

Awol1:
Why does the far north fear secession like this?

There six geopolitical zones in this country, the West has said, "let's renegotiate our union", the East, South and Middle belt are in agreement that our union be renegotiated but only the North objects.

And why the decision of the minority has been holding this country to ransom can only be a wonder.

Nigeria is living on a borrowed time.

It's either this union is renegotiated and the country restructured or we go our separate ways.

Fvcck One Nigeria!

Cows!

Because they've strategically been positioned in power. And money (bribery) has a way of drowning the voice of opposition.

This is too self-contradictory I had to make the islam declaration just to comment and retort.

Is there any idol worshipper that you can convince that his idol is not special?
How can you claim your stone is not an idol because it is a specia stone?

Every other religion is idolatry except yours right?
Religion is truly blindening.

Akpan107:
Brother, it's not just an ordinary stone.

On that day, the stone will have mouth, tongue and eyes and will be able to speak.

So if you are unbeliever, the stone will speak against you on that day.

Kindly read the Hadith fully to understand.

Jami at- thirmidhi
Book 9: Hadith 155.

So, the stone is a special stone, but if you touch and kiss any other stone apart from this one, that'll be purely IDOLATRY.

Miffia:
Hi everyone... Good Afternoon

Your advice will be appreciated.. Thank You.

Good sex is definitely a factor to consider in marriage.
However your little portrait leaves too much to the imagination.
Now when you say he's a 1 or 2 minute man, my question is, do you only have 1 round of sex?

Statistically, local man is likely to hit the home run fast in the first round. But subsequent rounds should make up for lost time.

PS: Sexual experience can be improved with time if you're both open to it.. There's much more to marriage than sex. Are you both compatible? Does he take care of you? Can you make sacrifices for him and vice versa? Are you ok with his family and friends? Are you equally yoked?

NihiIist:
You invite a girl to come over, she promises you. Because of her, you quickly arrange your house, clean everywhere, wash your toilet clean, lay your bed and spray airfreshner. You even down a bottle of alomo bitters and all sorts of concoction just in case.

The time for her to come is here as you agreed and well you decided to give her about an hour or so maybe she'll show up but she doesn't.

You call her phone to ask her whatsup, she's not picking, some will even switch off their phone.

Pls if you know you wouldn't come, you shouldn't have made the promise. It's nothing but wickedness

You've not given her a reason to visit you.

-Some girls are motivated by potential (relationship or more).
-Some (most) are motivated by money.
--Some (very few) are motivated by sex.
-Some are motivated by fun.

Your presentation must correspond to her motivation.
Money and sex most times go together.
However there are those even money can't get you. It has to be some other form of motivation and stimulation.

Look on the bright side though; You have a clean room/house now.
Also some times, look beyond sex and you'll see more.

Garnishee Order. Funny term, brings back memories. First time hearing it in a long time.

Ogegeodey:
Why is she excited?

Any hope to get married?

She is a single mom, she has no business catching any bouquet.

Hanty leave am for the maidens

Actually it's quite interesting if you'd reconsider.
Some ladies want marriage just to get hitched and get financial security.
And here she is, she is financially secure but still believes in marriage. I think that makes her an amazing amazon.

Reffone:
Best advice comes from critics and people u don't know, no bad blood but we all learn daily

He's going to be exposed to a deluge of opinions. How does he know the best?

Now to my own opinion;
I have always been a supporter of "till death do us apart." However I do understand that situations arise which make this rather beyond unbearable.
The invader and daddy's new flame is more or less that, a temporary flame.
If mom can endure, let her endure and take solace in taking care of her kids and maybe some charitable service too.

If she has been doing that and thinks she needs a break from it all, then for her sanity, let her take some time off, if it ends in divorce then so be it.

God allows divorce on the ground of sexual infidelity. Matthew 19:9 (although it seems only the man is implied to divorce).

Topccy007z:
I wish it's true. Because to me rice is still quite expensive

Surprised too but it's actually true.