₦airaland Forum

Racoon:
Another aboki on the block and the nepotism continues.Sorry other non hausa-fulani Nigerians.

Another northerner, why are we not surprised.

GamalNasser:
They have burnt down the singers family house , they have arrested his parents , they have chased his entire family from Kano so what more do they want ?

Yet they said they have not taken the law into their hands. Ignorance at its worst.
Religious blindness kills. Unfortunately it kills the innocent most.
Islam, a religion of peace indeed.
Imagine if Islam was not a religion of peace?

peteregwu:
Am talking about moses and jonah in the bible. That was typing error. You should know that as well. Abeg save that your mohammed stuff.

Now moses was almost killed by God because of his delay in doing what God commanded him to do. Here it is:

"And it came to pass by the way in the inn, that the Lord met him, and sought to kill him. Then Zipporah took a sharp stone, and cut off the foreskin of her son, and cast it at his feet, and said, Surely a bloody husband art thou to me."
Exodus 4:24‭-‬25 KJV

What about Saul in the bible that became Paul. Jesus(God) blinded him in other to use him for his work. Remember he was the killing and persecuting the disciples of jesus at that time? But he later was arrested and used by God. The same eyes that was blind was later healed by Jesus at the time he accepted the call of God. Christianity is interesting. The God of the Christians is real bro make ko mistake about it. Whatever thay is happening in the Lords has happened in the bible.

"And Saul, yet breathing out threatenings and slaughter against the disciples of the Lord, went unto the high priest, And desired of him letters to Damascus to the synagogues, that if he found any of this way, whether they were men or women, he might bring them bound unto Jerusalem. And as he journeyed, he came near Damascus: and suddenly there shined round about him a light from heaven: And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? And he said, Who art thou, Lord? And the Lord said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest: it is hard for thee to kick against the pricks. And he trembling and astonished said, Lord, what wilt thou have me to do? And the Lord said unto him, Arise, and go into the city, and it shall be told thee what thou must do."
Acts 9:1‭-‬6 KJV

Ok. I get your point but it's not the same case here.
You initially said, he was almost killed for not answering God's call. That was the error I was correcting. It can be argued even that God killed Moses.
If you understand the new testament you will know that Jesus never kills and is in fact against killing.
And that's one of the differences between the Old and the New testament.

peteregwu:
Sorry, mohammed has nothing to do with the bible neither does the bible has anything to say o do with mohammed. They are both far apart and can never meet. Am not talking about moses in the bible and jonah.

It's difficult understanding you from your many errors.
Moses was not almost killed by God, that was Mohammed.

peteregwu:
Am not talking about moses in the bible and jonah

I take it the "not" was another error.

peteregwu:
What happened to moses when he was delaying answering the call of God? Did God not almost killed him? And what about jonah as well, who was swallowed by the whale? If jonah never repented in the fish belly, do you think he would survive? You want to joke with God? Jesus is the same as God if uiu don't know, so am talking about a different God am talking about jesus.

I believe you meant Mohammed, not Moses.

kelvine:
Niger Delta was safe. The militants received amnesty.
North, South, East and West were happy.
No BOKO, No IPOB, No Bandits, No killer herdsmen.
Now see where we are.

May our helper not die untimely

Amen.
His death killed a lot of hope for Nigeria.
One wonders why God allows such evil.
RIP Yar Adua, the only Servant-Leader President Nigeria has ever had.

vivalavida:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/news.yahoo.com/amphtml/virus-enigma-experts-ask-why-africa-seems-few-115150596.html

Good question though.
If the reverse was the case and it was affecting only Africans we would have been screaming Conspiracy theories.

money121:
Ok ooo

But when the angel appeared to her and commanded that She has been chosen to serve christ before she was even born, that she must quickly go to the Lords Chosen and serve him there or she He would kill her.[b]

So jesus now Kill his servant

Am not understanding oooo

Stop all this Lamba Testimonies jare

The vision dey cause division.
Bottom line, Jesus of chosen kills those who don't follow him? Yes/No?

worworbabe:
He lacks wisdom.

He donated the money without consulting his deputy. Now you see the kind of leadership he is going to run.

As a Governor of the state, that money should have been used for your people's betterment and not deposited in a church for a few men in gown to benefit from.

The concern is "without even consulting my deputy."
Touching the man's money without even consulting him.
Sounds more like a dictator than a governor.

Bervelyhillz:
This is a bit long but please bear with me.

I’ve been married to my amazingly beautiful wife for 3 years. The problem is she is very shy around me but at the same time seems to try to secretly please me constantly. It leaves me feeling guilty and I’m not sure of what to do next.

Backstory:

I met her through my mom. My MIL and my mom are childhood friends who grew up together. I never met her at the time since I lived in the US while She was in Nigeria. When I was 20 I saw her in a family friend’s wedding album. I was floored and my eyes were watering. She was the most attractive girl I had ever seen.

I figured out her FB and messaged her since I didn't want to initiate contact through our moms. I struck up a conversation. I soon realized that my mom fed info about me to my MIL which in turn got fed to her , so she already knew a fair bit about me. We chatted constantly, met up on my vacation to Nigeria , and hung out together every day. I learn she is still a virgin saving herself for marriage. I was still one too, mostly because A) I was chubby most of my life and didn't dare go near girls in that state and B) when I did start getting more fit, I already fell in love with her and it felt wrong dating at the same time. So yeah we had that in common.

Skipping ahead again to three years ago when I graduated from grad school. We met up a handful of times more, and things were awesome. She was outgoing with me, giggling over almost nothing and general silliness. We never did anything sexual, but we were intimate enough and honestly seeing her gave me goosebumps, so it wasn't on my mind. On one visit to Nigeria, she brought up the topic of marriage in a joking manner, something about how our mom's always planned it. I jokingly replied that I would be happy to marry her, then she got all serious and asked if I was for real. I said yes and, well, the rest is history.

The problem:

We had our wedding in Nigeria and, after the papers got sorted, she moved to the US to live with me. The first few months were interesting. She knows English pretty well and she majored in her native language, so she looked for translation jobs. She never got replies from employers, so I was getting a little suspicious, especially since she was an honors student at a pretty high ranking international university. I found out that she wasn't actually sending the applications out. I bring this up gently with her, and she starts tearing a bit telling me she wants to be a stay at home wife and that she didn't think I would be proud of her if she didn't get a real job. She says she was going to tell me soon, which I believe because I found a recent word document in our computer that was basically a draft of the speech she was going to give me. I don't mind her staying at home as I bring in enough money for the both of us and she is a really good cook.

This prompted me to sit down with her and figure out where our communication is breaking down. After a bunch of long discussions about this, I felt we were on the same page. She was still growing more timid around me and didn't start conversations easily with me, but she always seemed happy. I stepped up my displays of affection, showering her with compliments, hugs, and kisses. I would often catch her staring at me (usually while we ate), to which she would get red-faced and look away quickly. It’s been 3 years now and still does the smiling stare, except now she doesn’t look away when I catch her. The conversation starting has gotten a bit better, but nowhere near pre-marriage. While she always had this quiet peacefulness to her, I noticed she is intentionally not doing things that might get me worked up. Examples being: discussing politics (we have the same views), discussing my work problems, discussing anything philosophical in nature, etc. She will respond if I start, but she doesn’t take the initiative like before. I really miss that.

The sex is...interesting? As I said before, I didn't have any prior experience so I can't judge her, but she just lays on the bed and doesn’t move until I suggest to. She never initiates but never declines. I try to make it about her more often than not, but if I’m looking for feedback she quietly agrees with whatever I'm doing. After we finish, she lays in the same position looking at me, sometimes smiling, sometimes teary-eyed. I take it she likes it, but then again she never likes to talk about sex. From what I gather in our pre-marriage talks, she doesn't have any negative views on it and it wasn't shunned by her parents, it's just that she is shy. She doesn't like me seeing her naked even though I do (ha ha...:/ ). She is…shy very well proportioned…and I tell her how it is so she shouldn’t feel self-conscious. But she still covers up outside of sex.

Another issue is fitness: I work out constantly at home or in the park (calisthenics) and I invite her to join but she politely declines. She runs almost every morning so I thought maybe she gets enough from that. But I have noticed that my weight backpack at home is sometimes at a different weight than when I left it. I have also noticed She has made some serious butt/thigh gains which really stand out on her thin frame. When I ask if she is doing anything differently, she says “maybe it’s the running” then changes the subject. I don’t understand why she is working out in secret. This is most likely my fault though since I used to try and tease her into working out with me; I made a silly remark about how squatting/ham-raises will put more meat on her legs.

Conclusion:

Guys and gals, I need help. I love my wife dearly. She is funnier than any comedian, more disciplined than any soldier, and more beautiful than any celebrity. But she is making me feel weird by trying to secretly improve herself based on my preferences. Her shyness around me is awkward and I want a return to the easy-going pre-marriage . Has anyone had experience with this?

Also: she has made many friends here and still is in contact with a few back home. However she doesn't seem excited to be around them as much as when I offer to go out with her. She's always offers to cancel plans to stay in with me or go for a walk. I thought she might be depressed, but she is super cheerful even when she doesn't know I'm around.

If this is true story then I guess you should know it's one of the aftermath of marriage, after the honey moon phase phases out. Plus she might need you to put a baby inside her.
If it bothers you so much get a professional help from a good marriage counsellor.

Came4amod:
U dont believe..heheheh

If it were true;

-We won't have only one causality.
-We wouldn't have cured it.

Besides, how would the money budgeted for coronavirus be approved if this news and fear doesn't circulate.

kennyphilly:
Link not working, can you drop it again or send it to my mail kesbatbamz@gmail.com

I'm interested add my whatsapp

stmartins4:
Let's hope our government will be able to contain this because it is very scary.

I don't believe this news though.
But I know our politicians are too greedy to want to die so they'll fight this Corona virus with all they have.

So we'll be okay.

englishmart:
Lol. Branch had been disturbing me, they threatened to report me to credit bureau which I didn't care about. After 9weeks of threatening me, they went back to begging again, they were like "Don't let old debt stall till march". Damn, I thought you were reporting me to credit bureau? Why didn't you report na? Well, I just pitied them by paying them their useless 6k today. I thought they had anything serious to do to me, but they were just threatening. Aje kpako no suppose fear treats, it's our lifestyle.

True, it's a civil case. It's just better to pay up in order to avoid the unnecessary embarrassment.

SpecialAdviser:
We need the names of those killed to confirm if its the northern Boko Haram army members killing southerners as usual.

I pray for those waiting for when Nigeria will work well.

What you get when "repentant Boko Haram terrorists" are recruited into the army.

alsudan:
Boko recruitment form must be the juiciest in town, considering how the dullard rewards these terrorists that have killed, raped and maimed Nigerians.

Buhari is worst than Ebola and Corona Virus put together.

I gave up since news broke that repentant BH terrorists were even recruited into our army.
Nothing should come as a surprise again in this country.

The problem of this country is too interwoven to even know the solution.
Restructuring, Revolution, Splitting all have been compromised.

But something has to be done before it's too late.

Switruth:
May God give us the strength to avoid all temptations and may we have the heart to fast,pray and give. Amen.

This should be a Christian's normal lifestyle. We shouldn't have to wait till Ash Wednesday or a memo from our general overseer.
That's what differentiates religious christianity from a relationship Christianity.

OceanOfJoy:
Yup. Nigerians in Nigeria today marry for the wrong reasons

What is the right reason(s) if I may ask?

Amalekki:
No you bring another war 10 times & you will be crushed & black scorpioned 20 times over with all your empty chestbeating. Asari Dokubo dared your chief chestbeater the other time & he kept quiet. Instead of thanking Yakubu Gowon for ensuring that it wasn't an all out war you keep deceiving yourselves with your conveniently acceptable version of external forces as if your Ojukwu didn't hire mercenaries. Black Scorpion that showed you pepper na external force?

Igbos are the saving grace of Nigeria. Imagine the igbos accepted Islam like the rest of Nigeria? We would probably be Islamised by now.

On this note, while I condemn the Biafra war, I believe it's not a topic to gloat about but to reconsider our stance as a nation in the face of all the insurgencies, terrorism and poor economy. Are we a failed state together or should we consider retracing our steps as a Confederate when the east and the west recorded their greatest developments.

tsephanyah:
Fake news.. even the their hotheads miscreants youths like i-pot can't say this

I wondered too cos igbos are bearers of this brunt too.
God might be punishing Nigeria though cos it's not a regional judgment.

It's all politics.
Don't you know terrorism is a big business.

There are many reasons for divorce but marriage is the major cause.

deboysben:
Are you still doing campaign for crying out loud.

What kind of man is this

Lord!

I think he meant his govt will rid the country of Christians and Igbos.
Now I understand when the bible said it repented God that he created man. Buharii is a big disappointment.

olayemioshiyemi:
Good news and plus for our democracy. .....freedom of the press has come tostay.

How is this tyranny a plus for democracy?
Did you read the bail condition?
All cos the journalist was doing his job?

A plus for democracy would be the said governor being fined or jailed for abuse of power.

sammyfrosh:
Thanks for that, I made a mistake

How can you have a list of animals that doesn't include my ex?

OgunLaakaye:
His Excellence President Mohammadu Buhari (GCFR) should thread carefully and maintain pre-election agreement.

Any effort to trauncate this agreement will be met by an heavy blow.

Tinubu is the next president of Nigeria!

I just want to revel in the sarcastic undertone of this. Cos if you truly vie for Tinubu presidency you must either be a paid APC member or a fool.

I was shocked to find posters in Kaduna today of El Rufai already campaigning as the next president 2023.

I can understand if northerners are being northerners since reason and intelligence has never been their strength. But for a Southerner to vie for Tinubu or El Rufai for the next president is a slap on every educated Nigerian's face.

Righteousness89:
So Destroying your Health is now Freedom??

Devil is a Bastard in this Generation...

Freedom is having the right like everyoe else to do as you please especially if it hurts no one.
Their celebration isn't even the smoking but the equity in females being allowed to do what males do without legal or religious consequences.

While i don't support smoking due to its health dangers, I do support freedom and equity within the framework of sane human behaviours.

Splashme:
.
No reasonable country takes Nigeria seriously any longer.

Buhari has destroyed this country

Truly, Nigeria is a shithole.

Buhari is a shithole

.

Nigeria is a major terrorist watch no thanks to Boko Haram, ISWAP and other islamic religious extremist groups.
US is not going to take any chances especially now with all the Quds force cross fire when Nigeria could be an ally to Iraq.

masterP042:
I think something is definitely wrong with our reasoning here in nigeria, okay, let's say he tried to bomb the church, should his name be the bone of contention?
Is this how we should react to a failed terror attack? We didn't even ask his sponsors, his network, how he was recruited into the act, etc. we are just after his name..
This name checking of a thing is a serious sign of tribalism and religious stereotyping. It's frequent here on nairaland. It's holding us as a people back on the way of progress. It shows this country is not really one, the marriage don scatter since 1967, we are just deceiving ourselves.
We should look beyond the tribalism and religious nepotism if we want progress.

Wise writ.
Unfortunately tribaism, racism, sexism, religious stereotyping are consciousness that can't be undone. We can't pretend that we're the same, we can only accept our differences and choose to accomodate one another in a way none is superior or inferior.

And that takes a league of wise leaders to achieve not the bigots we're presently plagued with.

rafhell:
i usually don't drive my car on mondays due to lagos traffic.

i took a bus to obalende this morning and was forced to trek from obalende to VI.

To be honest i enjoyed the 35 minutes trekking.

As for me, i prefer the bikes and keke do not come back.

Lets trek as we use to do and improve our health.

Honestly you simply shared your experience like everyone else did. Unfortunately you're like the brilliant student always asking the teacher for assignment or test.lol No one likes that.

Bottom line, consider the plight of others too. The ban doesn't favour the majority.

punisha:


hope they died well?
Not to sound mean... But if only the public knew the body counts these guys rack up daily. They turned to judge,jury and executioner... Killing and setting up innocent souls for nothing.

I still remember a cousin who came back from Malaysia and was kidnapped playfully by his agemates cos he refused to come and show them love. Just because of 100k that he gave them (olopa) at the station when he was freed by his agemates (bought them palm wine and bushmeats they weren't even asking for much) ,these guys legit asked my cousin if they should kill and dispose their bodies...thank God for his elder brother who quickly refused the offer and just asked they hold them up a but n free them. Life means nothing to them.

Playfully kidnapped?
There's no such thing.
Those guys should be charged for abduction and extortion.

Ishilove:
Why do I have a very strong feeling all these viruses are being cooked up in a lab and Chinese people are the guinea pigs?

Yea, a classic Robert Ludlum prologue. Serum and antidote deal, either for business or population control.