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My greatest fear is not being able to achieve all I desire in life.. I really have big plans for myself and family. ..sometimes I fear if I can ever reach those heights? But yeah, I CAN!!!. ..
With God, all things are possible

Then, I also have this fear of whether I will make heaven when I die.. ... God help me..

butanep:
Wow. I am very impressed with your comment. It gave me a whole lot of factors to pounder on. Your analysis was very classic.

I have passion for teaching very well. All my students do pass their exams and do very well in school. That's the more reason parents recommend me to other rich parents that need the service of a home tutor. I still have my time doing other things. I plan to venture into a business related to teaching.


I really don't know what my task will be in the company but I applied for a supervisor. I will have to do my research about the company growth profile and ask one one two staff about the structure and staff growth.

@bolded , very wonderful. . You already have a plan to expand your business; the other offer isn't worth stopping your ambition please. ..
●You're your own boss! Nothing better pass this

●Excellent work-life balance! Unlike the other job which will give you little or no time to venture into other important stuffs. The other job will practically tie you down esp as you're to work on weekends too....

●If you do well with your plan, you may even start employing other graduates to help you tutor! You may even grow to become a known tutoring centre! From there expand to a school or even more!

● You also have passion for teaching...

● The new job wouldn't even pay you better. .

I don't even see any confusion here, except you ain't confident that your tutoring business will flourish. .

Whatever decision you make shaaa, don't throw away your entrepreneurial desire; not everyone is fortunate to have a 'good business idea'..... the "office work" you're considering is owned by someone like you. ...
All the best..

Ishilove:
Harambe was not going to harm that child. He was just playing rough play that would have killed the boy or seriously injured him.

I think the parents should face prosecution because their negligence has caused the depletion of the numbers of an almost extinct specie of animal

Exactly! The gorilla never wanted to kill the child, he was only 'playing' ... He was even 'safeguarding' the boy behind him....
Seriously, I pitied the gorilla because he was completely innocent... it was the boy that invaded his territory and caused him to be killed, really sad...

But yeah, the officials made the right decision. ..

Since your personal cab business isn't making as much, I suggest you take up the new job. . You must request for an official appointment/contract letter stating your position, responsibilities, working hours, renumeration. .ettcc.. it should be duly signed. .

After close of work at 5pm, you can resume your personal cab business(if you wish) and close maybe around 9 or 10pm....Then continue during the weekends too.. to add more money to ya pocket. .

Wish you d best...

Joysa:
yes, it was ok. d staff that attended to me were caring. I used a private room & it was cozy.

Alright. .Thanks for d info

Hahahhaha, that of food is so true..
they be serving parents/adults rice with moi moi, salad and many pieces of meat while you're being served rice with shapeless small meat on top

Chaiiii..just one reply so far.... but if na woman create this sort of thread, comments go dey flow, lol...

Anyway, I have no job man... God's your strength and I pray she gets something soon... all d best...

asadike:
my brother , it could be something d wife detest like blow jobs, anal sex etc

Anal Yuucccckkkk..chukwu jukwa

Nne, whatever the issue is. .how's cheating going to solve it? How can you be seeking solution by compounding your problems?

He should have found a way to lure his wife into doing what he desires. ... They're married and not some random people. ... There's no excuse to cheat! !

See how the silly man has disrespected himself and family infront of the whole world.. smh....

asadike:
Madam, i think your husband have some hidden sex fantasies you knew nothing about, find out what they are.

what about communicating to his wife if there's anything she isn't doing right? Is cheating the solution? The wife may not even know she isn't doing something right (if at all there's)...

Imagine if every spouse, both men and women start misbehaving because of some shortcomings of their partners. ..

Joysa:
who is like unto Thee? oh Lord my God. glorious in holiness & fearful in praises.. doing wonders!
lovely mamas, my baby boy arrived early this morning weighing 3.4kg.

Congrats dear.. God bless your lil one...

Did you still use st. Martins? If yes, how was your experience?

Happy birthday beauty. ..God bless you

absolutism:
cool it. I am not even in naija yet. But indeed he doesn't want me to stay in his house when I return

You want to claim independence and ''i am now a big boy kinda attitude" by disobeying your parents... now, your dad has granted you complete independence, why bothered? ?

What's with all these sad news about marriages breaking up in this thread? I have read not less than three within the short time I have been here
Which kind thing be this?

Chinwendyn was one of those that inspired me to join this thread, with her ever positive energy. .. this is really so sad to read...

No more 'sad' news bikonu ... Let's be more prayerful... and remember one another in our private prayers. .

We are all more than conquerors! !!!

This match is just uninteresting ... doesn't look like champions league final

Game on!!! Go Atletico

If your basis of comparison between a housewife and a working class wife is money, then you may be getting it all wrong because some housewives are way richer than some 'working class wives'... Some housewives' allowances are multiple(s) of what some working class women earn esp. in Nigeria where people earn as low as 30k or even less .. and yes they(housewives) have fatter account balances. .. Some housewives even have insurances to cover them in times of emergency. .. All housewives ain't broke..

For me, one needs to work to add value to oneself ... idleness no be am at all.... We just need to diversify/explore to make life more meaningful. ...
I can't totally exclude money, however assuming all working class women have more money than housewives is totally wrong....

Cc: EfemenaXY

I stand with Atletico

CR7 will go trophyless this season

EfemenaXY:
Agreed.

And that's why a plan B should always be in place. A safety net. There's no harm in a woman looking out for herself and her kids, should the unimaginable happen.

People change. Life happens.

Yeah. . A plan B is very much advisable. ..

EfemenaXY:
The responses on this thread!

Now this is exactly the sort of scenario I had in mind regarding stay at home mothers in Naija, 100% reliant on the man who go cap in hand begging for handouts while waiting meekly (and patiently) for him as he reluctantly counts the pennies / kobos for her to buy her sanitary pads.

Cc: Edwife. Kimoni. Byvan03. Mindfulness.

Your views pls.

Lol, funny.... how you get treated as a housewife isn't dependent on where you live... depends on the kinda husband you have....
Also depends on the value the woman places on herself, that you're a housewife doesn't mean you shouldn't have plans for your life...
People become (temporary) 'housewives' for many reasons. .

Anyone can be ill-treated irrespective of location. ..

quivah:
So, its wrong for your girl child to cohabit but the boy child?

@op I wont take it lightly if any of my kids cohabit, in the university or outside school..

@bolded, where did you see such in my comment? ....
barely gave an example

Imagine my daughter going to cohabit with a guy in the Uni...afterall she's an adult abi? Mtcheeew

At first glance, reading the subject alone, you may blame the woman. .. but reading the whole article, I think the woman did the right thing. ..

Their marriage was already in shambles with the man bringing in different mistresses..
Imagine if she hadn't secured herself financially, that's how the man would have thrown her out with nothing, then a small girl from somewhere will come and reap where she didn't sow... Very wise woman!!

The husband's ego is simply bruised knowing his wife is doing well!

If your fiance's parents are learned, they may eventually come around... but if they're typical traditional Igbo people, no 'Jupiter' can move their stance, they are even ready to disown their son.... My dear, you may just have to move on if his parents are so adamant except you won't be coming to the village after marriage. .then, God forbid if anything happens to the man after marriage, hmmmmm

Then, what's your fiance's stand thus far? Is he shaky?

Whatever decision you make, I will advise he gets his parent's approval before proceeding to marry you. . Forget about his siblings who are indifferent about the whole thingy, they'll take their parent's side eventually if all of you don't come together to agree. ...
All d best...

luccicouture:
i can't go and stay with my mum unless am planning to leave permanently, beside my mum is trying to sustain herself i can't go and become a burden

All advices given so far seem not to go well with you. .. so what options do you think you have?? And what exactly do you want Nairalanders to do for you?

Hmmmmmmm..Odiegwu

Hardeysolution:
so if i go for petroleum eng, can't i go for civil engineering for masters?

Someone answered you already na.. how are both related? ? You can't! !

Except you do a PGD...Then, some schools will take you if you have some relevant years of experience in civil engineering. ..

@ subject, .....Sorry, your brother is the one destroying your family not the girl.. a third party can't 'destroy' your family if you don't allow him/her.... abi the girl use juju hold am?

Your brother's attitude of selling your father's stuffs etcc further shows the kind of person he is... He really needs to work on himself. ..

when next you have a meeting with him, talk more about changing his attitude rather than focusing on the girl... let him know the problem is from him and not necessarily the girl... If he can get his attitude right, then he can probably take better decisions concerning the girl and your family at large. ..

Continue talking to him while still praying....

Then, If any of you can take your mum in, please do.. it's obvious her present environment is detrimental esp considering her health issues....

Hardeysolution:
does masters have to do with your bachelor course?

Yes! You "master" in something you already have prior knowledge of.... you just pick an aspect of your first degree which interests you most, then master in that...

However, there's PGD.. for eg, if you have a bsc in mechanical engineering, you can do a PGD ( normally done for a year, to give you some knowledge about your intending masters course), before you can proceed for masters in maybe chemical engr.....

All d best. .

If at all you must marry her, you have to allay your fears..... Don't go into marriage with so much fears, suspicions and distrust. ..totally unhealthy for you and your relationship..

All d best...

zaynie:
PresVA, abeg buy wooden. Or make. Correct one o.
I bought the wooden one for my first about 4 years ago, only the knobs are missing now.
I bought the imported plastic one ( 25k) for Atinuke 7 months ago and i just found out 3 out of 4 drawers are cracked and I am sure wont last a year before it tears ni . I am waiting for when I ship dem to their room before I make her another one.
I hatr my plastic wardrobe

Thanks a lot madam zaynie, will consider your suggestion. .

A wonderful birthday Adonye ... God's blessings!

So you and your fiancee can't reach a simple agreement on how to hold your wedding(s)... you want Nairalanders to tell you what to do? Smh. ..


Anyway, I did mine on separate days..reason(s) best known to me and my husband...

Go back, discuss with your fiancee and reach an agreement that will be for the best interest of both of you!