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12inchDickson:
You guys forgot that she was the first to break a bottle, however that said, let's all flee from abusive relationships.
Its not good for the body' at all

Read again, he beat her so badly that she in turn broke the bottle on his head in self defense fa.

gambia:
Everyone should be able to manage his or her anger so as to avoid such incident,

Yes, that guy should have quickly walked or run out before he could do what was on his mind. Anger kills .

febo15:
please what do you mean by "Buru gawa"?

It means "carry your wahala and go"

My roommates in 400lvl really used the phrase a lot as a joke and it stuck.

gambia:
Not all guys though.

Yes o, that's why i said some guys. Toh, i can't blame them though. It must be because that is what is passed as the standard of cool young guys. Trending guys. Guys that have girls to call at night and have sex videos from girls are very current in the general publics opinion.

Maybe that is why it is a must have to some guys.

That person calling by 1:30 has caused death now. Guys are so mischevious and troublesome. What happened to daytime now, why can't you call during the day? Must you call at night?

If it is not porn they are looking for, unnecessary videos of someone having sex, it is night calls. Midnight calls. What is wrong with some guys sef?

febo15:
okey Madam! I only said that to get your attention. Have a nice day. Cheers

Have a nice day bro

febo15:
hey! Viewing ur profile pics, your armpit looks darker than your body complexion, why?

Is like you dunno what is shadow ke? Abi na you shine torch for dere that the place go yellow. Why is it called armpit. Buru gawa

All of us average looking girls should go drown ourselves.


Yeah, you wish. You guys are not worth it.

foolbuster:
Forcing someone that has not comitted any crime whether male or female to be with whom they dont want to be with can never be right. You are wrong on this one sweetheart.

A womans body belongs to her, she has the responsibility to take care of herself and not forcefully drag another human being into a life they dont want because of her lapses.

I have my opinion but all in all, i cannot force anyone. Yeah women are responsible for their actions, i just wish the man had to feel the same too but i won't ignore your point, since it makes sense. Nobody will be forcing you guys anyway. Human rights abi? You can be grateful for that.

wirinet:
I am appalled that you happiness in the whole story is that the man is receiving punishment for having pre marital sèx for killing his forced wife and the baby.

You religious fundamentalists are just after punishments. You want to punish the woman with forced pregnancy and delivery to punish the woman for having pre marital sèx, you want to punish the man with forced marriage as a punishment for having pre marital sex, you want to punish the child with abandonment because the parents commited sin of pre marital sèx.
Maybe you guys should liase with your Muslim counterparts and impose sharia, so you can stone to death sinners of pre marital sèx ( including the baby.

Unplanned pregnancy should be the business of the couple's involved and their families, and not the business of some religious fundamentalists.

Lol i am a Muslim that is not very religious at all. Funny enough i am starting to like religion. You know why? Those old testament times, you could not use a woman and throw it in her face like the way especially black men are doing now. It is actually the women that are suffering in this new age. Who presses for the sex? Mostly the man. They decieve and insist and demand to no end, you are only denying the truth if you oppose to that. All i think is that the woman should not suffer alone. If she has to suffer a stigma for the rest of her life, society must join that man in too.

You know what freedom has done to men? They impregnate a girl and go laughing all round town and posting on social media. Do you know that men BRAG about it. They CELEBRATE it. All the boldness coming from where? A man will sleep with a woman in the same room with his own manhood and in that same room he will give her an ugly look and judgement as thought he is not the one that just slept with her.

That cage society put women in, you see that cage, i wish men will be inside it too.

foolbuster:
Empty response. You simply cant think of any justification. You are a woman does not mean you should be supporting nonsense.

Not all silence translates to defeat. I've stated my opinion and you have stated yours, the fact that i later kept quiet does not mean I have no more. Going on and on over a matter which cannot change by argument would be pointless.

foolbuster:
Is it fair that the woman willingly opened her legs for the guy, enjoyed the sex and allowed her self to be pregnant and then force the guy to marry her?

In this era of "feminism" and the internet any woman that allows herself to be impregnated by a man and then turn around to force the guy into marriage is selfish and wicked.

This topic pain una no be small ....

The man that killed his wife is also in a mess for life now, so yes, he did not escape. You must enter that marriage, if you kill her, you will still be in a mess for life, just as you left that woman with a stain for life.

Same way she is suffering for life is the same way the guy must be tied down for life too. Nonsense, are you boys babies? You want to go scot free

hashtagged:
He did not like her he saw her as a sex object.

Then he deserves that punishment. Nobody is a sex object.

MedicH:
What if he no like her.

Eh, he liked her when he was having sex so he should like her in marriage nah. Who told him she is his toy. Lol.

hashtagged:
In countries with firm Justice systems they don't force their men to marry pregnant women

But in Nigeria they love to shame single pregnant women, so that rule go bend still.

hashtagged:
It's her problems, it's not like she is a kid, she knew the consequences

Consequences, all of them, should be borne by both mother and father.

hashtagged:
So she knew the consequences and went along with it. Highest the man should care for the child.
Do women marry men they have chopped money from no.
If she knew she would face such shame why did she commit the act . She should not drag other people into her problems. In civilised countries like US, the man cares for just the child period.

After chopping money, is the man left with a child, no.

After pregnancy, the woman is saddled with a child.

So let him go and marry her as no other man would. Imagine, so as society often pets you guys, then that man will go and marry and have a family cuz society won't shame him. Woman is spat on and looked down upon forever. It's unfair and a wrong balance.

oyaaa:
one of the greatest mistake a girl can make is marrying a man that doesn’t want to get married to her
She will see hell

If only society was firm on men. If he shows her hell he gets it from the justice system. Then he will cool down and carry his cross.

hashtagged:
Why? She was not forced to have sex.

She was not. Both of them are to blame. But that woman will no longer hold respect in the society. In Nigeria, it is baby mama this, baby mama that, i can't marry after one. So he should marry her and cover her shame, instead of going scot free while the woman gets all the ridicule, lonely nights and co from society, mostly men.

Yes he must marry her.

Where is the father ? Why was she left to suffer and give birth in poverty so bad that she had to throw away her babies?

What is wrong with her family and more importantly, where is the FATHER? He is somewhere playing like a child amongst his peers and being called a don.

There is nothing wrong with her. Besides, what's with people these days? Why would you go out to pick who's ugly? Who can we create?

midnighter:
Gosh! Thats terrible, sorry

But you can still draw some other things, Islamic art is very nice

Thanks but deep inside me it just feels like i am suppressing myself. I can do that islamic art and all but i know how badly i want to do my style. Its OK, i will hopefully get to that point one day.

AryEmber:
Dear, you already know the answer to the why.There is one thing you were given, it's called choice, to accept it or reject it. The problem with people is that they take medicine on other people's headache, live and let me live, this applies to everyone. Some dude hugged one of my friends from behind while we were walking to class, my other sister hissed. I let her know instantly that it's not her body.I told the same to the man riddiculing my dressing, 'sir, it's my body'

Thanks Ary. Though I'm thinking of what I'll face when i meet God if this is the stipulated rule. But like you said. CHOICE.

This rule really upset me as a child because i have always been so so good at drawing. Even when i wasn't getting on very well at secondary school, one thing that kept my mates liking me was this DRAWING. Everyone since childhood said i was creative, everyone was wowed, said i could really draw. And i LOVED it, i loved to create and create images. I held back from going so far in it because of the islamic rules. I was really torn in my decision and miserable. I like to draw, i went to secular schools and i dislike to not be able to open my hair ( i almost always open it) - though i now see sense in the rule of covering. But this rule of not drawing....

But why this then? If I'm not allowed to draw, why do i have the ability, why was i allowed to have the creativity to imagine and these things artists draw are so beautiful! Same with MUSIC! I just can't understand WHY.

kelvinunilag:
She is even here on nairaland

Walahi, you are a foolish boy

So she should erase herself from this earth because she does not fit you guys style.

If people could trace every person spreading their pics and sue, the jokers would be in for it.

In guy's minds she should open legs because she is in a relationship. She should abandon strategy. So that all the boys in town can use and dump her.

ILoveLight:
Most of the comments here shows that this generation has totally lost it.

Please, where have we thrown our morality to? So if a person has been involved in sex before, she doesn't have the right to request for a no-sex relationship, really? Can't she make a turn? she doesn't have room for repentance? So she should continue having sex cos she was once involved in it. What happen to "can we continue in sin and ask grace to abound?".

Guys, it's not your right to be given sex, if you want it as a right then marry her. Cos both the christian faith and islamic faith advocates no sex before marriage.


Now consider this instance. She had sex with guy A after a while the relationship packed up, she moved to guy B, then guy C etc if she keeps having sex with them all, what will be her body count before she's married? You guys would still be the same set of people to criticize her on her body count. Now she came to her senses and decided to stop having sex after guy A or B and you guys still criticize her for that.


So because a lady is no longer a virgin, she should become a slave to your lust.

God's command on sex before marriage is clear. Let us return back to God.



And to the girls/ladies be wise. Haba !

Very sensible.

Angelfrost:
Really??! Useless??! That's the best you have to put up??!... What about the more useless parents who knew the unstable and fragile psychology of their young child, and failed to take proper rehabilitative steps to build her up and ensure she was on the right track??!...

I could have been like this young lady a decade ago... You put great contents online (Not just pictures) yet fail to get the recognition you feel they are worth. It takes a mentally strong person with good self esteem and focus to be unmoved, unperturbed, and move on.

Social media will continue to be the undoing of the jobless, and psychologically fragile.... It's a pity... A bigger pity that we underestimate the power social media holds over young people today.

Very sensible comment!