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erico2k2:
nothingn is guaranteed as far as man is involved.

Exactly.

DEMZEE:
It's makes sense on paper but that's not our societal reality

Well there's the truth but it's easier said than done.

Kudos to those who can do it though. I guess they're the ones who end up married.

erico2k2:
Girls demand you send them money wen they are not even in the same country as you the man, Una upgrade faster than Men ahahah, One girl can ask for N50k fro 20 guys may 4 can drop same times same alert 4 ti mes, man can only back one girl at a time in one bed same room! girls sharp sha,, I only pity brothers wey never see the light

The girl in question is not having a real relationship. Its people who are in real relationships and are worried about losing that we are talking about.

Anyway, your words proved the main point again. Some girls will scam their way to get money without sex. Meaning, sex is not needed or a guarantee in a relationship. ..To get what you want as a woman or not get it.

DEMZEE:
But men love sexually and women love conditionally

So it's kinda unrealistic to downplay the role of sex and money in a relationship

If we want to see road, everyone has to tone down on their desires. That's the beginning of the language of a true relationship and love : SACRIFICE.

Part of relationships is sacrifice for the right reasons. Not because he wants to have sex or because she needs to be spent on to be happy.

Its hard but both parties need to agree for something sensible to happen. And that's what shows they are serious, because they are ready to take that road of working together.

erico2k2:
we dey talk 9ja or abroad? no money no love 4 9ja period! with all these small girls with big god

Even so, sex is not a guarantee that she will get the money. Guys can have sex and find their way out of giving her any money.

DEMZEE:
But you want to receive commitment, attention and resources from the man and its also Not fair and favorable to him if he doesn't receive sex in return

Who said sex is an assurance that a man will give a woman all these? Are we not even in an age where men expect to have sex without a woman collecting anything, else she is a gold digger? Its not as simple as that..

No sex, no financial giving can be agreed on. Both parties can give attention and love without weaponizing it as a trade for sex or money. From giving love and attention to each other, they can see if they are compatible. If they are, good. If they are not, they part ways. This way nobody is severely hurt. Cuz everyone gave equally.

DEMZEE:
Exactly life aint fair

Nobody is a judge or been judge

It's all about choices and consequences

And that is why sex is not necessary in a relationship.

Because of choices and consequences. Of which the choice and consequence is not favorable to the woman.

DEMZEE:
That's the whole point of being a virgin, it has a good marriageable quality with it.

But there are also other marriageable qualities that she should also have.

If she doesn't have such qualities she will b bleeped and dumped

Who made man a judge
Through whom women pass
Losing their virtue if they don't pass a man's test
Being fvcked and dumped for nothing.

What right does any man have to run through someone's daughter and leave her without virtue?

OK life isn't fair for both genders anyway.

DEMZEE:
Lemme break it down for u

Wen it comes to marriage, MEN CHOOSE TO WIFE A VIRGIN AND ONLY HER CAN RECEIVE THAT TRUE NATURE OF MEN LOVING EMOTIONALLY AND SEXUALLY

We also have other qualities we seek from the virgin, not all virgins have marriageable qualities

Wen women look at men they don't get attracted to his penis straight up, they are attracted by his financial status

Wen men look at women we are not attracted to ur financial status but ur physical being (sexuality)

That's why women are sexual objects and men are success objects

If only men would just marry and love their virgins first and last. Oh well.

Lets hope all the remaining and upcoming virgins are only picked up by men ready for marriage who will wife them up and instantly love them.

Asides this, I wouldn't advice any virgin to give in believing that he's going to love her or something. Based on the deal, marriage first.

DEMZEE:
Men love emotionally on the condition she's a virgin. If she ain't a virgin then they love logically and sexually.

You THINK?

All women used to be virgins, not so? If we calculate by that, then a lot more women would be married by now. Because the men who took them first would have loved them and therefore secured more of them through maximum effort.

No.......a man can disvirgin a girl...... and feel nothing for her.

Absolutely nothing.

DEMZEE:
Sex is a powerful tool for women and if used carefully they can get the man of their dreams

Women love conditionally and men love emotionally and sexually

You think?

I thought guys are the ones that are better at having sex without getting attached. Even if a girl does everything sexually, they still love the one they love.

You're the first person that's telling me that guys love emotionally. I heard they are more 'logical' beings, hence can have sex and fun, but their emotions stay in check.

The best answer to this....

Is the answer a man will give to a daughter he cherishes and loves.

Not any random person, but if it was your daughter, as a man, what will you tell her?

There lies your answer.


Also i realize, if any guy gives you even his attention, a shoulder to cry on, it is at a price.

Though not all, there are better people, but most guys, even that emotional support, they expect something.

If you are not for sex, its better you state your position and leave or stay as the current goes. By current, i mean his reaction to your decision.

In my personal opinion, sex can never make a man love you, so its not a must. Sex does not prove, nor guarantee shiit. If you think it will help you bond, you're wasting your time. A guy loves who he loves, full stop.

I love the decency of this O.P.

Please do keep it up and pray before entering a relationship.

Some women help each other, most don't.

I really love her outfit.

No

Lol mind your business now. If this is a vengeful guy and he could actually find you and deal with you, what would you say was the cause of your woes?

Mind your business, no. You will go and borrow trouble that wasn't meant for you one day.

Cute, you are so creative. These are beautiful.

Wierdceo:
Girls live in a world of fantasies. Always listing qualities that they can hardly find.

I pity such girls

As for me, i am everything bad mentioned in this post. My house is very scattered. I eat and wash the plates after 4 or 5days.
I buy condoms frequently and just pile them up in my house and display it for visitors to see. Clothes fly around my room like mosquitoes. Books are all over the place and my bed is on the fvcking floor.

If u dont like it the way you meet it, you can either tidy it and stay or gerrout. Dont even complain cos i will escort u out myself gently. I hate rules.

Wierd

At least you are honest.

This is so pretty and expensive. Only top notch guys would be able to date her, I'm sure.

Sorry. I think you can talk to her about her attitude and if it doesn't change, you may have to break up.

She has an awesome bod, like wow.

There's nothing wrong with her working.

How do we stop this? Well I hope things can change.

I'm rooting for you.

True.

The legs are the best part of her body. She's looking good, like, can still stand and everything at ninety two, that's good.

What is wrong? So people won't know that make up is covering her face or what? Can most people's skin be flawless like that? Anyone that thinks that is her real face is the problem here.

Besides when the products are available, why not glam up? Who doesn't want to look fine.

How did you LOST your virginity?