₦airaland Forum

EriMma1:
The same ashawo that you patronize and pay (her bills) but cannot pay your wife who takes care of the home.
Ashawo go bill una for just a few mins and you men will pay but expect your wife to bring her money to the table. You see why I said better to put that your money to good use in the home by taking care of wifey.

Why should I be ashamed for wanting a good life? Is Regina ashamed today? Many women who's husband are taking care of their needs 100%, how many are ashamed? Rather it's the one who's husband can't cater for that faces disgrace and shame all the time where she'll be looking like a mad dog or a shadow of herself especially if she's not financially Independent. Or you'll hear husband kills wife because of pure water or agege bread. That is why you see a lot of women trying hard to get something doing Then whats the point being with a man if my life cant be affected positively by his presence and I still need to work to cater for myself?
What will he be doing in my life? No you tell me... Especially when there are other capable men out there. Spare me abeg!

franchasofficia:
To me, she is not entirely wrong for many reasons. Unless she is a materialistic lady before now, only you can tell cos you are the one that knows her better than we do.


Over time, I have come to realize that women of our time are more focused on their life goals than men.


Most women don't marry anyhow again unless they are getting aged and just need a sperm donor for procreation purposes, that is when they can settle for just any man willing to marry them.


But on a normal situation today, most modern ladies don't want to marry just anybody in the name of marriage, and I personally applaud them for that. Women are calculative when making marriage decision unlike men who make marriage decision based on how their dick rises and how their dick makes them feel for a girl.


Love is not enough reason to marry anybody in our current world and time. Love cannot pay bills. Love cannot pay rent. Love cannot feed a family. Neither can love pay school fees.


Don't be deceived by makebelieve movies you watch on Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood, etc films, their storylines don't always reflect the reality of life.


Many Nigerians foolishly believe that you can marry as a broke person and after marriage, whatever luck will shine on you and boom you blow and become rich and your wife that married you as a poor or broke guy starts to enjoy wealth, just as they portray in Nollywood films, but little did they know that all those things are lies, just mere imagination of the movie script writer which hardly happens in real life. I don't think there are up to 5% of married people that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in Nigeria. The number is very small and negligible to make any reasonable person to take such risk today.

And if you go close to those that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in life, you will discover that they were prepared for success, how? Most had a job and just starting a career, so it is normal for them to grow in their career with time. Some of them had business they were doing and it is also normal for a small business to grow bigger if managed properly. Some had saleable skills they were honing or grooming, some studied lucrative courses or were studying and in the process got good jobs and grew from there, so luck didn't just shine on them from nowhere without preparations.



If its true that after a broke guy marries, marital luck will open doors for him and he will start to succeed financially and become financially buoyant or rich, then we wouldn't have more than 100 million married poor Nigerians today. If life happens that way, your parents ought to be rich, your poor friend's parents too ought to be rich since they also married poor.



To succeed financially in life, you must be smart in your thinking, you must be calculative in all your dealings in life, and you must be very wise and realistic in all your critical life decisions like marriage.



Please dear Nigerian guys, don't marry anyhow again oh, life has changed. Opportunities of survival are reducing daily due to oversaturation in almost all human endeavors due to global overpopulation oh.


Don't marry a jobless girl in the name of you love her, she loves you....don't marry any girl in the name of she is beautiful, she is young, she is fertile, she has sexy shape, because by the time poverty and financial pressure hit you in marriage, you will hate her without even remembering how beautiful or sexy she is.


Don't even marry any girl just because she knows how to cook or clean the house or greet people, those are outdated qualities to use as sole reason to marry any girl.


Marry wisely for your own future and for the better future of your unborn kids.


Marry ladies with saleable skills.

Marry ladies that have good career.

Marry ladies that are financially productive.

Marry only ladies that are pursuing a career or a sustainable business or trade.

Stop marrying broke, jobless, lazy girls no matter how rich you think you are.


How many rich guys do you see marrying broke, jobless girls?


Son of former IG of Police married Aliko Dangote's daughter.


Son of Oil Billionaire Indimi married President Buhari's daughter.


Tinubu's son married the daughter of a global shipping line MD.


British Royal Prince Harry married Meghan Merkle who is an American A-list Actress.


Former US President Donald Trump's daughter married the son of a business tycoon. Where do I start or stop?


Only boys from poor families rush to marry broke, jobless girls without tangible career or saleable skill once they mistakenly hit money via Yahoo or one off business deal that makes them feel arrived, and few years down the line they go back to their poverty and financial struggle trenches just because of their mistake in marrying foolishly in the name of romantic love and showoff.


Nigerian guys stop marrying anyhow. Put on your thinking cap, stop encouraging Nigerian girls to be lazy and unproductive. That small millions you think you have is nothing when economic difficulty hits you.


Stop looking at flimsy things when picking a wife, we are no longer in the 1970s or 1980s, so you cannot marry for the same reasons your father married your mom, time have changed, global economy have changed, life is becoming more and more difficult all over the world, so you need a lady that is ready to work and partner with you in building a prosperous family, not just popping out kids every 9 months.


Marry a lady that can sustain the family financially if anything happens to you and renders you financially or physically incapacitated for months or even years.


And if you must marry a jobless lady, make sure you have the financial means to set her up with a profitable business or career or skill, and make sure she is ready for this and not just being ready with mouth, be sure she is truly prepared and ambitious to chart her own financial course with little assistance at the beginning. Don't think opening a supermarket or clothing or hair salon for your wife means she now has a job, most of the time, they end up squandering the business capital without anything to show for it. Consider all these things before you marry any lady today.



It is better they call you gold digger than for you to end up marrying a financial liability that will destroy your future.


Back to your topic, the lady is not confident in what you are doing now. She doesn't see a future in those things you are doing and she is scared marrying you may land her into another poverty she has been into under her parents. Its either you sit her down and explain to her why you don't want to rent a bigger apartment and also tell her your future plans, what you want in life, your goals, your financial plans, and while doing this, also ask her her own financial goals and plans in marriage. How does she intend to contribute in building her marriage, supporting her husband in achieving a successful family? Hear her out and also consider what she is currently doing, the course she studied also matters, the skills she has and what she has been using them for currently and her utterances. Her friends; what are they doing, how far have they gone in life?



Consider her family background too, can you cope with their own financial baggage, if any? Is she from a family that can support you or her in growing financially? Will they mar your own growth with their numerous financial problems and requests?



Marry wisely oh if not, you and your unborn kids go hear am oh.

BigBashiru:
Your post is one of the wisest I've read on nairaland in a while....I learned a lot from it...

LikeAking:
So it's dis easy to make money?

MITCHELL96:
This is weird, it's a shame for a parent not to know their child's birthday, I hear most people saying this particular thing.


Your parent are responsible for this, ask them.


You useless human being...so because some people do wrong things...is that ur excuse of repeating same wrong thing



MODIFIED: I just saw about 50 MENTIONS on this thread alone, I understand I made a mistake by concluding so fast, most of you must have done this too but will quote me and be claiming as if you're perfect.


The OP typed without leaving a f^cking space, it's hard to read things that are typed that way and my phone's font is on the smallest, I judged by the headline which some of you do too.


Well, at least, i didn't make a mistake of voting Buhari that made you guys jobless to quote me on this forum, most of you guys quoting will still go on to vote Tinubu Or Atiku, now between me and you, who has or will make the biggest mistake ?

Ponder on this..

Mtcheew!

Bvlgari:
You that have brain carry your change go buy house for banana island make them bounce you and my problem with people like you too is that you just open your stinking mouth waaa...cant u talk without be insultive...u insult me i insult u back...big fool

victooman:
God punish your mother,, Enugu behave like slowpoke and you behave like who? that l open a thread doesn't give some of you an audacity to say trash,, some advice are plain stupid and l am allergic to nonsense,, l took this same issue to quora and the responses were smart and eloquent,,how l wish there is a delete button l would have deleted this thread since,, some of you reason with your anus,, just look at the accusations and constant assumptions simply because l ask a woman to wait for me,,,,morons,!!, all of of you are financially stable in nairaland and yet will que and open different thread begging for money,, even those who never smells 50k a month are here telling me trash,, please if you are going to come here and tell me l am wasting her time ,,you will receive the insult of your life,, that statement is stupid and was not even the reason why l open the thread,,

victooman:
some of you need to be more reasonable and considerate,, haba! she was single until 26yrs l met her just last year and we officially started dating 5 months after,, why are u guys making it look like l am wasting her time? if marriage is easy why are all the single women not married? l am a man the majority of the responsibility of that marriage will be on my shoulder,, dont l have the right to make proper plan? u people keep shouting let her go,, let her go,, what if the other man she will meet fail to do the right thing,,is that how she will keep jumping from one man to the other?

quentin06:
Park and leave the yard or be a responsible tenant and fix the tap. You will see that the conflicts will disappear and your errant neighbor will respect you, quarrels will reduce.

Dont come to nairaland and advertise your stinginess and immaturity. How much is tap head, not more than 500 naira.

naija4life247:
Be a true woman, go there are beat up the nuisance. If it's a guy that is messing up, your husband would have gone to treat his fucck up. But in this instance, it is your duty to go and teach the nuisance a bitter lesson. Go and put on your jeans knicker, wear bra, wear top bra, pit on an inner singlet, then wear a thick top. Go there are keep the idiot shut forcefully.

zed7:
7k a day? Through betting? The girl deserves better. You are a low life. Marriage should be the last thing on your mind till you have a stable income.

My fear is that even when an income comes, you may still not have common sense. Imagine reporting your foolishness on a public space. Pathetic, spineless simp.

Your girl is looking for a way to dump you, she's just using marriage as an excuse. Who would want to marry a slowpoke anyway? Imagine this simp wants to keep a girl in poverty for years and be enjoying wifey benefits and when she has saggy breasts, you'll end up dumping her. She get sense pass you.

DontBullshitMe:
Enter into a plea. Don't waste their time with a trial.

Nonsense.

Arkmanbuddy:
Some of the artists here are either not consistent or not underrated.

Adekunle Gold isn't underrated, he's at the level he's put himself. Has he even got the number of collabos Mayorkun has got? He has to do more in the crossover with other artists to stand out.

Praiz: when was the last time praiz released a song. The entertainment industry is unforgiven, if you snooze, you lose! People get over singers pretty fast.

It's just unfortunate that Erigga raps in pidgin English and not Yoruba which is the official language of the industry.

Kizz Daniel isn't underrated, he's at the level he should be. More collabos with other top artists would help cement his position. If he let it slide, then he slides too.

Ferrytech:
bro keep hustleing dont give up (i do yahoo enter 6 month i no collect common card) but when i collect the 7 month na $50k i pick (no give up ,no plus your hustle ,stay away from locking any client )you go pick

Ferrytech:
how bro

Ferrytech:
bro when you use the right tool it will not move to spam box

Ferrytech:
bro learn spamming thank me later. with the current economy of nigeria only thf rich get a good paying job except God _allh_ogun day your back

Fearyourcreator:
Lolzzzxx.... Bet is in evrywhere around the world ... But you say make them close them down... Some of you will still beg government to come help una arrange una family

Fearyourcreator:
Its their business... Na mumu dey fall into addiction...

FalseProphet1:
Same here.

I do subscribe 50gb for 6k MTN. By dialing *121#

No matter the situation or condition I'm in, once my data finishes, 6k must prophetically appear by fire so that I can prophesy what I have seen.

This I have seen.

DenreleDave:
The small thing u can't read and understand....


Where you see gas Them say petrol, you dey talk gas...


Hiannnnnn

Carlyboi:
Haha!so you feel Kendrick who copied or most likely sampled keep ya head up should be credited instead of 2pac who originally used the line?second 2pacs keep ya head is a bigger,more impactful and more relevant song compared to blacker the berry by Kendrick Lamar.

And lastly the dude quoted the line the younger the berry I was the one who put the pieces together!do you get?

Macgyver1:
Abeg who sing this song again? Lol Wayne?

Carlyboi:
It’s actually the blacker the berry that sweeter the juice it’s the opening line from 2pAc Amaru shakur’s song “ keep Ya head up “ you got to pay for this extensive info tho lol

idahme:
The age of consent is 18, what is your problem here?

FreeIgboho:
But here is my question. Please patiently explain. If Ukraine becomes a part of Russia won’t the country next to it still be NATO - meaning NATO will still be at Russia’s doorstep!