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PeaceGord:
HelenMax did.
I least expected it that fateful day in May, 2009!


It's a tale of a lifetime!

And the cold meaness with which she looked me in the eyes?

Swallow my sacrifices!

Gosh!

Who is helenmax, you mind sharing the story

People will betray you, you can't escape it. What is more important is that you come out Better

Have you being betrayed before? Share your story, you might heal

Use share so others can learn


While I was working for a company. I got diagnosed of a kidney infection and was admitted in the hospital for two weeks. I was staying with my father’s elder sister at the time because my parents were here in Abuja

Two weeks of constant drugs,drips and injections on my *you know* and guess what, my aunt and her family never came to visit for one day. My friends(even tho I didn’t have a lot of them) were to busy to come see me. No company representative to pay me a visit.

Everyday I would walk to the little store close to the hospital to buy biscuits and yoghurt because no one would bring them to me.


Betrayal hurts so bad because it never comes from strangers but those of your household.

This is why I recommend people live like they are alone on this planet. Have zero expectations. Any human can become anything at anytime.When u expect so much from people, betrayal is inevitable. Live ur life without expectations.

T3ndrils:
If you wrote this from your brain, then there's still hope for these ladies..
Unfortunately these kinds are rare.

So, where did I write it from? You guys here are intimidated by intelligent ladies who are very articulate.

bodex196:
Here in Ibadan
Modina to be precise
it's 19hrs minimum.

Fair

Situation Report!!!

How's NEPA treating you this Lockdown period my Abuja and Lagos people?

How many hours do you have light in a day since the Lockdown began?

Me : Average of 4 hours a day�

What about you? ��

A few reasons come to mind:

Women are encouraged/allowed to be extremely petty. There is seemingly no lower limit of socially acceptable pettiness among women. This gives more tendency to find reasons to hate another woman.

Women are encouraged to take a victim mentality. And also to use claims of victimsation as a tool for manipulation, authority to tell others what to do, and bullying as an alleged self-defense.

Women are encouraged to be passive, dependent, and to avoid full responsibility, thereby increasing the victim mentality. This leads to hatred of other women who are actively control thier own life

A common resentment dynamic is a woman who buys into the LifeScript of getting into a financially dependent marriage, having children, and then feeling trapped. She then meets a single, childfree woman, and hatred ensues.
Women are encouraged to have a pretense of “cooperation” over competition. However, this can encourage the view that, another woman who excels (or even just shows basic competence) in any way, is violating the “cooperation” mandate. Which can become, “You are obligated to cooperate by sinking down to my level (finances, status, intellect, autonomy, etc), or I will enlist other women to cooperate with me in viewing you as the enemy”.

“Cooperation” is also linked to “fairness”, which can be twisted into everyone receiving the same results, regardless of personal behaviour. And hatred for anyone doing better through her own higher effort or discipline.
Women may use a false, “I am being compassionate and trying to help you” pretense as a cover for pressuring another woman to “cooperate”, and sink down. And then as justification for bullying the ingrate who refused to do so.

Women are trained to emphasise interpersonal relationships, including platonic friendship. And so will fear being cast out and lonely, and/or having low status in a clique. Which then rebounds to bullying another woman with threats of interpersonal/social rejection.

Male-style competition is the drive to get more (money, status, etc) for one’s self. While female-style competition is the demand that, another woman must be pushed down, even with zero practical benefit to bully. Men need to win, while women need other women to lose.

The pushing-down impulse has a common pattern where, immediately upon meeting, the first order of business may be to confirm that, the other woman is at the bottom-of-the-barrel socioeconomically/materially. If she is doing any better (through harder/smarter work), hatred ensues.

There is mass insecurity over appearance, and this goes far beyond competition for male attention. A woman who is already in a stable marriage may still hate another woman whom she thinks looks better. This includes not only face and body, but also things like health habits (smoking, exercising, eating).

Another area separate from male attention/resources is homosexual females. They can be amazingly hostile towards another woman, and it tends to be competition-oriented. A related point is the huge sense of fear and victimisation that accompanies the numerical difficulty in small social circles and mating-markets. They meet another woman who isn’t their “type” of prospective sex partner, and so then defaults to being a competitor to be bullied. Some of the most petty, arrogant, false-victim, gaslighting bullies I’ve ever encountered were women.

[quote author=oxiide22 post=87802696][/quote]Thank you.

Thank you.

coolestofall:
You need to first get a hold of your self. You sounding kinda too anxious or desperate. You wont want a guy to notice that especially if you are set to make the move. As your dad advised, let it happen naturally. You can position yourself such tbat it would give you guys the opportunity to bump into each other. All in all, just be tactful.

sorry i dont do pm

Freelane33:
Daddy freezes, Baba ikoko lol , bruh go do test #1500

Corona Virus has just fully confirmed to me that:

1. Nigerians just graduated from school. They are NOT educated.

2. Nigerians are slaves to religion. They are fools.

3. Nigerians have no leaders—from religion to government, we don’t have leaders.

Thanks.

AfroKnight:
First of all QuinModah, I love the way you stylized your username. I think it’s really cool.

Now, I’d advise you to make yourself available/visible to the young man. Don’t confuse him about your attraction to him. If you’re bold enough to embrace equality, tell him you like him. Be a man and express yourself. Or be a woman and hope he will look your way and brace yourself for the tears if he doesn’t play along.

Matters of the heart

There's this guy I have am crushing on in church
Well,we've never spoken to each other.
Sometimes I feel the guy wants to talk to me too cos of some instances.

I really want to talk to this guy cos I hardly have a crush,and when i do. I discussed it with my dad but he said I should allow our friendship to happen naturally.
But really I don't know how to wait till then cos it's taking like forever plus FCT don ban church program so iwont get to see him till God knows when.

So my question,what can I do?
You can imagine me seeing this guy in my dream

This is me being real. Please no insult
Sorry for long story

ah1?

Leezah:
y?

DenreleDave:
If u need, I can give u contacts of ladies that can give u 2 rounds for 3k

love-vendor spotted

Lol

WhatsApp

His money

czarr:
How do plan to make money from it?
How do you monetize the idea?

Is it free?
Then it is a waste of valuable time.

How is a waste of valuable time?
Is everything money?

Interesting

I cant respond

OcVoice:
Respond