₦airaland Forum

Yieldings:
You're a married man. What sort of conversations are you having with these ladies that they're asking you to "shine their congo?". You mean you had intimate female friends like these before you got married and didn't delete their numbers/cease communication with them when you got married?. Bro, if you haven't cheated on your wife physically, you have cheated on her emotionallly. Emotionally cheating/affair constitutes having sexual conversations with a woman/women other than your wife, sharing details about your sexual needs and wants with them, sharing details about your marriage with them, etc. Parties involved usually start off as friends, like you have, and the intimacy level of the relationship proceeds thereafter. Since you're doing these, how do you expect to have a healthy sex life with your wife? If you're being intimate with other women to the point where they're telling you things they want you to do them (knowing fully well that you're married) and you have the audacity to say you cannot change and get rid of them, your sex life and marriage as a whole will suffer because the emotional connection you should be sharing and building with your wife, you're giving away to other women. So, instead of blaming your wife, know that you are (also) at fault. If you want to see change, then you yourself have to change the things you're doing.

Twisting the subject on its head. No lady so far has come with a straight answer. Poster, the responses you see are the exact reasons for the issues you see, in that women by default are poor communicators and are serial mental compartmentalists, the first sign of trouble is the last warning you will get before it all implodes. You will have to communicate for yourself and communicate for her, that is you will have to talk to yourself to neutralise the deficiency. You are the husband, you are in charge and you do the commanding as God has ordained you to do. If you wait for her response, you will crash your marraige. She is acting typical of her genes, she is waiting for your keystroke. Donot let her genes take charge of your marraige.

cococandy:
How did those ladies calling you get your number? You're married and still distributing your number everywhere and have the guts to brag about it.
If you want to smoothen things over with your wife, talk to her about it not us. We can't say anything that will make her change Except you're going to show her this thread. And stop giving ladies your number.

So men don't know your number. Thought you will address the issue.

Hmmmm.....warris dis...

Ighalo and Ideye again. Frustration activated, 2018 world cup algebra classes begun.

Hmmm..... strong words from appeal.... the judiciary should get a washing machine and do their laundry indoors abeg.

Silly, thoughtless people.

Taich:
This story is not straight, so many questions.
How much is the Salary of an Frsc official?
How come she is her Boss Banker?
please they should complete the story with the true version.

Government people are business men and women. Always in one multi million naira deal or the other. Corruption can never end.

Woe betide any man that she accosts on the highway especially if your tyre bald like the man head.

But what the CBN can do is to go after the key bleeders of our scarce forex, giving the economic intelligence to FIRS and coming down heavily on them with massive taxation and floating VAT rates to further 'encourage' them to buy Nigeria. Let it publish these guzzlers of fx. You can never tell what info may come out from whistleblowers.

Nigeriatraining:
Bank sold dollar to me today at the rate of 300 per dollar.

What are you buying the dollar for?

bettercreature:
We must return the peg on naira otherwise this western people will destroy our currency like they did to zimbabwe

Are westerners the ones ordering for the dollar. Abeg use your head. Just look at Nairaland adverts and count how many items presented are made in Nigeria then realize that it is your fellow citizens to blame, crying about jobs on the one hand and complaining about scarce foreign exchange to BUY things that can be made on the other. Every major street front including residential premises throughout Nigeria, I mean every state in Nigeria are occupied by SHOPS. That is your problem not foreigners, because buying and selling is easier than making stuff. No be only peg, handcuff na. Peg means using every dollar in CBN savings to suport the importation of italian shoes, french perfume and swiss cheese, continu....

NoreenUG:
GBAM!
You have to understand that most Nigerians are INCREDIBLY ignorant because majority haven't stepped foot outside the country to experience how things really should work in a serious-minded society.
Can you believe that many Nairalanders' understanding of "infrastructure" is posting pictures of city aerial views without elaborating on how things work?

Does Lagos have a truly independent local government system? Can the mayors map out budgets, raise funds, embark on projects, and make decisions on their own without being appendages and EMPLOYEES of the state government?
Do Lagosians even DRINK or use the water from the Lagos City Waterboard? Does the Lagos City Waterboard EVEN adequately supply water to transverse the length and breadth of the area under its administrative jurisdiction?
A city of 22 MILLION people has no FACKING subway system of its own in the 21st century!!!

I live in Columbus, Ohio; a city of just around 850,000 people, but all these facilities are present: railways, road networks with subterranean water pipes, decent and well planned markets, CITY police (not even STATE police oh!) and on top of that, a network of primary and secondary schools that are CONTROLLED by the CITY (NOT EVEN STATE!).

But you see many Nigerians come out here and make noise about the gutter they live in while PRAISING their oppressors (politicians) for PATCHING up a road.

Infrastructural decay isn't even Nigeria's biggest problem.
The sycophancy, ignorance and moral wretchedness of its GOVERNED class, are the country's biggest foes.

You live in a 300 year old democracy. Nigeria's is just 17 years old. We will get there, just keep up the pressure.

They don't need to say that. Born there, but can't live there, its terrible. Your blood pressure goes up several basis points, the traffic, heat, crime, foul language everywhere...kai

cococandy:
The only thing I see wrong with that picture is the fall hazard they are playing with. You don't climb out of a pool, dripping wet to play such games on the slippery tiles. One can fall and split their skull open on those hard floors and edges. Shudders.

Meanwhile the sexual connotation attached to the picture is only for dirty minds. Those people need to repent.

Hmmm Coco na when you repent you go dey conscious of wetin you dey do.

NathanielJande:
There are so many hypocrites on this platform. Even when somebody raises a genuine issue, they want to scandalize the person. How can someone who thinks straight say that nothing is wrong with this picture? Even your biological daughter, there should be a limit to the intimacy, I mean, it should get level. Not to the extent of seeing your unclothedness, touching sensitive parts of the body, ESPECIALLY when girls reach the age of say 10, don't underestimate them. That is why we have many cases of incest these days(we have heard of fathers impregnating their daughter, brother and sister sleeping with each other etc. Note that a girl child is more sexually sensitive than boys in their early years. So honestly, for an adult to be handling a grown up step daughter this way, and somebody sees nothing wrong with it is height of hypocrisy.

Hmmm.....so how will you have fun with your daughter, wear gloves, use a sling....I have seen pictures of the royals, members of the British monarchy letting loose on their holidays and no one group could be more 'stiff' than them. By the way if you've lived around ladies long enough, you know one thing, they just love to be carried, hoisted in the air, dunno why.

Deilluminator:
This is a very fat lie. Only a fool will believe that the pick is that of a father and daughter. Fake story. Try again

Even if it is not, why not just debate the topic for what it is. You folks dwell on conspiracies too much, get lost in personalities and profiles and lose out in knowledge and exposure. This is social media. There are all sorts out there, filter the news, get the substance and move on. Life is not black and white.

Nothing there but.....the fact they are both unconscious is a problem in itself. Even if it is desirable to have a 'village' body strong enough to withstand mosquitos and well water, the vast majority will prefer to live in the city..... of consciousness and preventive medication all our lives..... because when it happens to the village man.... a new disease, he will not survive it. It is good to be free, it is better to be conscious.

Tad a bit early. Young men should not be signing long deals except one is not certain of one's potentials going forward.

Hope he used along spoon....

Garment, not textile factory. My question is this, how will the government get its money back because this is not what it should be spending its scarce resources on.

MinCeteris:
Fayose, a serving governor once wished PMB dead on national newspapers - All the wailing wailers never saw anything wrong then, in fact he was praised for being bold and courageous. Why all this noise now.

Only the almighty God can give and take life.

Fayose is a politician, not a civil servant. He relates with the President just like any civilian and he is a regional leader with regional influence only. This man is a law enforcement officer and a civil servant whose influence cuts across the country. He can be posted anywhere in Nigeria to serve whom and in whatever capacity the state instructs him to. Can he do that now. How about his relationship with his superiors, colleagues and subordinates. Where will his trust status lie after this. It is one thing to express these things in private, quite another to publish them for global view forever (which is what the Internet is). Has he not just committed career suicide. Has he not just buried himself in a glass casket. Fayose is on one side of the political divide. There is no divide in the civil service. You are not permitted to play politics.

I really don't know what to say here but.....I've noticed an increasing polarisation of 'government people' along political party lines, obviously spiced with ethno-religipus colourations. I was at a function recently where a group was enmeshed in the usual cross-party bickering, suddenly an immigration officer who couldn't take it any longer interjected and taking sides, forced through his argument with somewhat strong language (wwhich drew my attention). The fact that he was in uniform, making an official appearance, in public, in Abuja of all places was quite un-nerving and those around him for and against listened with rapt attention (obviously because of the uniform) with no one seeming able or willing to raise an eyebrow. Perhaps like me they were stunned or could it be that they considered it normal.

Where do we draw the line between politics and governance, what should and what shouldn't' be said and done by members of the government in whatever capacity. Me, I simply don't know because if the government cracks down wouldn't it be accused of silencing free speech/expression like the case of the Buhari dog owner. Where are the limits with people who swear to place themselves in the centre of the people, all the peoples aspirations and views. What I do know is that bad precedents are being set continually and we are testing the waters ever more often with increasing audacity. The question is can democracy cope with any potential fall-out.

Zoharariel:
They are waiting for Dangote. That means If Dangote dies, Nigeria is doomed!

It is a PLc in theory so it can get better or worse without him. But no doubt he is a visionaire extraordinary. Nigeria should actively build more like him. That is the task of the parrtnership between government and the people. Everywhere in the world, great industrialists have been built by such synergy.

frisky2good:
The solution to our problem is micro refineries. Deregulate it completely and allow anyone that is interested to open and operate a refinery. Some big companies use up to 1 billion Naira worth of fuel every year. They will be willing to finance any micro refinery that can guarantee them fuel at a reduced rate. 10 diesel suppliers can source for funds and start a micro refinery. All those militants in the niger delta that made money from oil surveillance contracts can open micro refineries. If we are waiting for someone to open one big refinery to satisfy us all, we will still be like this in 30 years time.

Good idea.

engrchykae:
the sectors that were successfully privatised such as telecom were successful because the Anglo American big daddies were not. interested in them.
but areas such as agriculture,petroleum/petrochemicals,ajaokuta/steel will never work because
_political friends are appeased with rice importation licences.
-tin gods of aso villa are appeased with petroleum products importation licenses.
power will not work because of mega power generator companies such as aggreko,john Holt,etc have a strong presence in Nigeria.
as a very big market as viewed by the West because they do not look at Nigeria as a people but as a market,Nigeria needs to be importing food which runs into trillions of dollars.
so all. the noise about agriculture,power refining petroleum locally will remain party manifesto for a long while

Sorry, but I am not a believer in all the conspiracy stories out there about sabotage by alternative service providers. Telecoms had numerous alternatives in the days of NITEL, there were local area networks, the walkie takie, short wave radio market was booming, then came Thuraya and others. Why aren't these alternate service providers and their 'foreign collaborators' not bombing solar and inverter providers, GENCOS and DISCOS or nuking Dangote's refinery being built. I once worked in a company that ran a combined capacity of 1 megawatt and had a reserve diesel fuel storage of one million litres standby and I can tell you none of the expats loved it. They were always at odds with the whole idea. If there was a conspiracy, they would know and will certainly not be a part of it because they equally suffered.

Koleman:
My thoughts too. What is wrong? Am confused really. Does it have to do with administrative bottle necks? or is the fault from private companies themselves? I doubt the later. How can u indicate interest and backdown when the licence is finally granted? 65 Different companies cannot just make the same decision except the reason is a from a common source. I think this govt ain't serious about boosting domestic capacity if not any administrative or Legislative bottle neck should have been dealt with by now I say this because one of the Potential investors in an interview on channels TV made these complaints. some existing laws will have to be changed or modified but I see no willingness from either the executive or legislature.

This is what I am saying. You cannot be an umpire and player in a game. The government should get out of business and stick with regulation, dispose assets and effect the necessary legislation (rules of the game) so that players know their limits and their goals. The worst virus that afflicts the cassava of business is uncertainty.'Will they, will they not'. If I put 2 billion dollars in Nigerian Crude Refining, what if government comes in and reintroduces subsidy, what if they build refineries and hand them out like candy to our competition, what if, what if....these are they causes of delay. Dangote is only building because he is like my folks in the village who sleep in the open and drink water from the stream, he has immunity from government flip flops and grown a cowboy thick skin and he is the prime shareholder in his group. Don't think everyone is like that. No one from Eskom or General Electric can take the risks Dangote can. Ghey will merely succcumb like Mungo Park did while exploring the River Niger.

Joavid:
You are right, the government needs to revoke the licences from unserious holders. because as far back as 2005/2006 about 19 licenses were awarded for refineries but these folks used it as a bargaining chip to acquire oil blocks and some even said if govt does not deregulate the industry they can't go ahead to invest.


but then, I believe there is only one way for infrastructural breakthrough in Nigeria. that includes, oil refineries, railway, power generating plants etc - The government should build those infrastructures and then sell them to the public. If that means taking foreign loans from ADB, IDB, or the World Bank, so be it. there is a risk that those loans may be squandered - as happened in the past - but that is minimal under the present federal government.

for instance, smaller enterprises in places like the U.S enjoy huge government grants and subsidies. If you take away government, America's active tech startup sector will shrink immensely if it didn't collapse. Tesla motors was given close to half a billion dollars loan by the Obama administration to develop their Model S. But come to Nigeria, they'd be telling you that government has no business in business.

As you said it takes alot of ground work to build a refinery, but unfortunately, we have only one Dangote.

And that is all we need, just one. We are self sufficient in cement, so he can do it. He has proven to be one basket that can safely keep all our economic eggs in. Ultimately it is risky but we cannot do otherwise. We have to grow Nigerian businesses free of interference, politicking and patronage. it is the only way to true prosperity. You ask government to build these things and watch and see how politics, religion and ethnicity ruins everything. It is not today that government has tried unsucessfully to re-enter into business. When the Telecos were privatised government kept a licenses for M-Tel, how many lines do they have fourteen years later. Do they still exist. How many lines did the defunct NITEL have despite trillions spent since independence. Do you know that cement was an essential commodity when Buhari was President in 1983 despite the sixteen cement plants owned by government at various levels at that time. Today our population has almost doubled the figure in 1983, Dangote does not have up to 16 cement plants but he together with other privates have turned an essential commodity into an export commodity but it didn't take just the three years, it took decades of investments, of political battles, of rough economic terrain to get there.

So what government should do is not to change the game. Steady power or local refining doesn't require decades to achieve. It requires constant and consistent government nuturing. The farmer doesn't grow the crop, he nutures it. Government should apply the economic fertilizers of sound and monetary and fiscal policies consistently applied and remove the weeds of red tape and other anti-business legislation. Investment will flow naturally and timely.

Joavid:
This month makes it one year since 65 companies were granted licences to build modular refineries in Nigeria.
So far only one company was in the news when it claimed that it's refinery will be ready before 2016 ends. They later moved it early 2017.
and this has confirmed my assertion that private enterprises will not solve Nigeria's infrastructure deficits, and the way out is for governments to build those infrastructure and then sell them to the public. If that means taking foreign loans from ADB, IDB, or the World Bank, so be it. Yes, there is a risk that those loans may be squandered - as happened in the past - but that is minimal, understanding the present federal government.
But then, I expect such things to be important enough for Nigerians to keep track of their progress, but over time we got distracted with what Ayo Fayose or Dino Melaye is saying. I think we should keep our eyes on the things that matter most.

#justthinkingaloud

No ma'am, you canot run/manage/operate what you have not built effectively except you were part of the system that built it. That is why the only privatisations that have worked in Nigeria are not of physical plants, industries or ventures but of systems and licenses and fanchises. The telecos were privatised but NITEL remains dead. The GENCOS and DISCOS have the same problems, the petrochemical and fertilizer plants have the same challenges so are the much maligned steel plants. We have this problem of lack of capacity and it doesn't come easy, it will be a slow learning process which we must endure.

Amongst those who bought into power, how many had previous experiences running plants. None. They are all hybrids of politicians and ex-political leaders in colabo with white collar (and I say this with all conviction) foreign mercenary operators, not the blue chip energy companies that can properly invest and have the know how and international connections to make the system truly work. The Mike Adenuga model was just a one off, serious businesses like power and petroleum/petrochemicals require the likes of an MTN or an Etisalat type of investor and they will hardly want to take on local assets with their chatacteristic problems but rather build their own.

We cannot expect miracles within a short time. We just liberalised our fx market a matter of weeks ago and the petroleum sector months ago (even though these are not fully deregulated) so we are in a period of wait and we have to wait for the injuries of economic somersaults to heal sufficiently for more investment to come in. But like a farmer we cannot continue to dig up the seed to check whether it as taken root lest we lose it completely.

My advice to government is to stay away from enterprise CONSISTENTLY, and make the public know that businesses is their (public) not government's responsibility. What the government has to do is to invest in infrastructure and create the enabling environment by sound, business friendly policies, programs and reforms. That is hard infrastructure such as roads, rails, ports, etc and soft infrastructure such as the foreign reserve, sovereign wealth fund and a healthy debt portfolio.

Dangote is a lead, a necessary one. Others are watching and will dive in if he suceeds, but will run if he fails. We as a nation have to hold our nerve and make that lead succeed at all costs. Telecos and power out of government hands has saved us through the treasury trillions over the last decade. We may not appreciate it now but just imagine if those bills were still being paid by government, both the legitimate ones and the corrupted ones, surely we will have been far poorer than we are now. Please don't bring that era back, no matter your interests.

JUSTEES:
Pls nairaland,is he proper for husband and wife to be using one toothbrush.

No. Except you have the same DNA, you could be courting trouble. All pun intended.

DesChyko:
This news dey somehow o

If they hacked the couple to death and made away with the children, then who was the source of the information that they molested the wife in front of the kids

But.. This world wicked!

C'mon. You mean you can't see signs of rape and you can't see signs of forced abduction. Are you a child

You actually made me open this thread in forlorn hope. Damn you

mensdept:
But he is right though. They have a country, and we pretend we have a country. They sing in a European tongue their anthem and we...we too sing in a European tongue our anthem.

So from the very foundation we are backwards and as a "people" centuries behind. No wonder we struggle to do very basic things

No sir, he is not absolutely right. There is a high level of skill, strength and tenacity involved in sports which are naturally endowed by God and are territorial. No amount of science can give the Caucasian German the fast twitch muscles a sprinter requires to win the 100 metres sprint and the last time I checked Jamaica is as disorderly as Nigeria, certainly no where near Germany or the US where there are blacks. How about Brazil winning the World Cup in 1958, 62 and 70. They were 3rd world then and under military rule (I think). How about Nigeria defeating these same Germans in 1985 under the same Head of State.

Sports and the arts is one area exempt from technological superiority and that is why it is a unifier and hope for all nations. Fiji won gold at rugby 7's ahead of Great Britain. Fiji is a tiny country of ocean islands. Reconsider your stand. We know why we lost and it was down to us. Our lack of preparation, our chronic maladministration, and perhaps the misapplication of our cultural diversity in the form of quotas, not the Germans or their 'manshaft'. C'mon we beat the Swedes with their 'Volvos', remember.