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Only heart to heart discussion will solve this

You said that he is intelligent, hardworking, therefore it is time to awake that fighting spirit in him.... He is demoralized/ frustrated at the moment therefore talk to him in the middle of the night... ask for a way forward.. Stroke his ego.. let him know that u guys can do it again... That's what a good wife will do...


Leaving him now will be really bad... any ear that hears it will jump into conclusion that because the going was not good and you decide to run.. when u were drinking pepper soup, eating isi ewu, you did not remember to go.... (Just kidding on the peppersoup part)

Please talk to him. not in anger but with love and respect.. I believe you guys will rise again... Good luck

jacoik:
guy you just said it all

My brother thank you ooo

I wish this thread was not created.. There's this guy that I usually enjoy his write ups... These thread has exposed him big time..
Seeing his write ups today just makes me wonder if I can ever spare the time to read his post again without using this

Someone on another thread yesterday said that he regretted going to school

Now can educated individual think like this.. receiving cow, goat etc from prospective suitors is that how to get rich?

Ishilove:
No wonder your mindset has been warped

I'm so loving you already u deserve daddy's hug..

merieam16:
@op follow this advice at ur own peril

Do you have a better solution? We are family here, that's why we are putting our heads together to help a knight in distress...
Now the platform is yours dear.. drop your own better solution

Lawsaite:
Lolz, I was in op shoe. Just last year. I was 21, my case is my step mom. She still flogs me like a criminal, worse still in front of her own children. I couldn't take it and and I did what you said, tho twas while defending myself.
That was my last day in that house. Only God knows what she told my father to make him ask me out to literally nowhere the following day.
Life has been hectic, but God has been Good

I'm sorry about your case dear but sometimes it's better to eat mushroom in freedom than to eat meat in slavery..

In Op's case, I see it as bullying.. @ 26, what kind of correction was that.. What about ABC, I have warned you not to return late in the night, if anything happens to you, I will not bla bla bla..

Without some kind of stubbornness, he might still be flogging him at 40..

You are his son.. there's nothing like I have no place to go.. Display a little madness one day and it will stop... Everyone has that in him or her but we all control it..

he should have stopped doing that nonsense immediately u clocked 20 @ most.. It's in your hands to stop it... If he tries to do it next time shove him a little not enough to make him fall but enough to let him know you have had it up to your neck... let him know that that madness got to stop...

If he asked you to leave, tell him u are not leaving because u were in your father's house and if he's not he should point who your father is... I'm just mad right now at your docile way and
When you realise that your dad is bullying you and not correcting you,then it will stop..
mchwwwww!!!

Hallucination Bro. .. sorry if I find it unbelievable. .. You may have thought of this a thousand times based on what you discussed with your mom.. it's now playing on your subconscious mind..

If someone says take my child abroad... Just say yes or no I don't have the capacity OK..

The boys has done it again

Tomblaize:
because Igbo women have high taste. They will cheat on u or even divorce you when u face little challenges. Igbo ladies don't like to suffer. Listen to your mom, she is speaking from experience.

Did u just type that Igbo ladies will cheat on him?

So there's a tribe in Nigeria that doesn't cheat? All of them both male and female migrated from heaven?...

And all the tribe in Nigeria has endurance absorber when there are challenges except the Igbos according to u right? SMH

I don't like domestic violence... it is not the best thing in the world... if you get provoked leave the scene...

I for one don't do it but let no woman slap or hit me first (that's what I usually say from the start)
because hmmmmm!!! I am equally human. The way she bruised easily, that's how I bruise too..

I am a perfect gentleman but touch not my anointed or Elisha's double portion of blessing awaits..don't hit me first thinking I will say honey did u just slap me? I will slap u twice before I even say did you hit me? because it's an involuntary action.

<<< He doesn't have any certificate except a diploma.. Hmmm!!! I'm hearing it for the first time that diploma is not a certificate is this supposed to be a criteria to accept him.. check

<<<< Unemployed... is this suppose to be a criteria to accept or reject the Null hypothesis considering the fact that it's not a permanent thing check

<<<< He left u when u needed him the most.. is this a good and valid criteria to reject him.. check

<<<< Do u still have feelings for him after treating you poorly? Do u see a future with both of u together? Do u think he has changed and ready to make amendment/ settle down without taking off again? Check

<<< you are the only one that will answer these questions.. don't let anyone do it for you.

So Manchester City got Fans in Nigeria .. wow!!! That's cool.. I have no idea

madridguy:
Are you sure you never make any advance to her? check your closet and be honest with us

Like He who comes into equity must come with clean hand and "new underwear incase of exposure "

He should have left the adulterous woman and the marriage instead of soiling his hands with blood...

Now that he will be cooling off in prison, is that the best...He will be silently watching his daughter grow up and possibly visits him once in a month for 30mins, in prison.. she may not even visit depending the lies the mother told her as she grow.. was that worth it?

She will now look like a saint in the eye of the law.. but she engineered this whole thing.. she was the root cause of the problem..

There are certain things/ information that you knew that someone that didn't go to school doesn't know....

U think it was a waste but I believe it always comes handy when u want to make certain and important decisions in your life..

The fact that you can't find a job now does not mean that all u learnt from uni was not important...

These three people way dey ahead of me, if this question na exam, una don score 100%

What about Macedonia.. there must be an ancient city there that could be 10000 years

Alexaonfleek:
Congrats op.
I think this should be moved to fp if it's okay with the op.
Not everyday we will be solving family wahala on NL.

No it won't make front page because the OP is not seeking for an advice on how to divorce or looking for a way to beat up his wife.. Only bad news sells.. Good news are always swept under the carpet.. That's the sad world we are in

The dog was not properly trained..

At least they wanted to eat something which was noddles.. For me, that was a heavy plus..

Go to the hospital and see where parents were just praying for their kids to get well enough to even drink beverages or eat any soft like the noddles.. Please let them be.. cook what ever you can.. if they don't want it, give them what they want if you can afford the time to prepare it...
don't beat them because nobody has beaten u up when you were going to the restaurant to demand for some certain food/ services difficult for the restaurant owners to provide.. they don't force anything on u

This is beautiful... Congratulations... May God bless you and your family man..

It's not easy in this era of Igando magistrate court.. whatever you are doing, u are doing the right thing in keeping it together... once again, congratulations.

That's indeed a worrisome pic

You are too young to go into diabolical stuffs..

Just correct me, Is IFA not a native doctor?.. is IFA forbidden to be rich?

Don't do anything stupid at the moment please..That's what I have to tell you dear

Festival of Goals

Gbest90:
This Liverpool third kit sha......
Does anyone know the name of the colour?

Ojuelegba Blue

This is just wonderful...

Kulas:
Anybody that have never been in this man's shoe won't understand or may even be doubting it. Please what this man is saying is nothing but a truth. So if you don't have advise or solution to propose to him,please just read and pass and don't comment rather than adding salt to an injury. The man needs to be encouraged in proffering solution.
I repeat, it's only those that have never experienced or pass though this can joke with the post.

OK so what you were implying was that indeed a spiritual husband is making him not to complete a project right?

But the spiritual husband did not hinder him from having children which should be the biggest slap on the spirit's face? (I don't even know if a spirit has faces )

Instead it is interested in making him not to complete project.. reason this thing now haba!!.. Don't you think he should evaluate himself? Instead of pointing unnecessary fingers.. besides, have you seen a genuine preacher that ask money for deliverance.. my bible made me to understand that salvation is free..

Is she studying in a boys college? ... how come there were no female in the pic.. wishing her the best..

Mchewwww!!!! Too much of nollywood movies.. biko stay off it a little and it shall be well with you.. ..

Oga, u are the spiritual husband.. if you doubt me, read your bible, u will understand that you are equally a spirit made from God's image..

If I were u, I will sit down and ask myself were I have gone wrong.. I will start with the first building that I didn't execute to completion .. I will ask questions.. it could be that u don't take instructions well, it could be that u have the I know it all kind of behaviour.. It could be some minor annoying attitude that you have that 'pisses' your clients off... Go and ask questions about where you went wrong from your clients.. your solutions is not from the pastors.. by the time u asked up to 9 to 12 of your former clients and they are pointing in one direction, u will figure it out.. which kind mumu spiritual husband be that