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Be extremely nice to the young girl as if she was a project that you discovered.. Talk to her and praise her any opportunity that you got. She will confide in u and u might draw a better picture / conclusion of what the problems were and on how to help instead of assuming

Have u considered the fact that that music was just for your own consumption and listening ears only.. Why do u think u were doing the neighbours a favour by playing it loud enough for them to listen?

Though she can't evict u... She can only give you warning... she can only evict u if u don't know how to read contracts and u signed some junks while moving in ... She may have made use of the money you paid..
especially if it was one year contract or above..
Just try and give the neighbours a bit of peace. It's not too much to ask..

Think9ja:
I simply cannot allow myself be in that kind of situation.

Even if it's 5k, I must earn more than her.

The day that stops happening, I will quietly pack my things and go back to my father's house. Or better still, I will just rent another place and leave her and the children. We will still be married of course, but we won't be living under the same roof.

I just cannot be living under the same roof with a woman who earns more than me. That automatically turns you into the woman of the house.

Most 21st century 9ja ladies are just looking for the slightest opportunity to boss over the man. And she earning more than you will present her with the best opportunity. I can't let that happen.

There are good women around that loved their men no matter the income. So u might be lucky enough to find a good lady.

Though it's like fetish on many ladies.. They loved to be controlled by guys born with silver spoons in their mouths... no matter how ugly or ill mannered the guy is, it has no importance.. though the more handsome those guys are the better the submissiveness works ... it's really pathetic to watch.... But a broke man with good heart dare not come close to them... they don't even want to smell broke guys 5000 yards away..

Op Your friend should take her for a trip to Singapore. As u are going, buy her a lot of chewing gums. When she gets back from the trip she will be allergic to gums

In terms of your decision, I will say that you are on the right track if that's what you wanted. at least for your sanity..

I was just wondering what you guys were doing during courtship though. Or was it marriage at first sight?

when you noticed from day one that she's not a good person, why in the name of whatever you hold sacred did u get married to her? Even if she was the only woman like in the days of Noah after the floods...what were you thinking

Don't make me start searching for your dad to "high five" him biko.. I'm kinda blown away

I also think u should start learning how to kill a snake. Aje-butter days are over. There's a gentleman here on nairaland people usually call when snake topic appears. Ask him, I guess he won't mind teaching u

What has this question got to do with his previous posts? All these unnecessarily fishing is the reason why 1 person creates multiple accounts...

Anyways OP, you can Google the reasons. I was 24 when I saw one of those @ my "junk status" u know where right I didn't even have any on my head, it just appeared there.

Anyways, i can't tell you how painful it was for me.. it was like seeing a ghost.. I only felt happy when my niece was born with it.. she came into the world with grey hairs.. Also Google helped too to calm me down those days .

Wetin come happen to your mouth now.. if it's too much, declare yam festival in your home now .. haba!!

I'm not so sure. I guess he was the one that sang free Mandela

Now now now now, colonial master
Heey eeeeeee free Mandela

If she will make him happy why deny him the "Blood tunic " then?..

Just saying because on his demise, u guys that blocked his number now will be shedding crocodile tears, professing how much you loved him..

Oya now is the time to show and demonstrate such love. Are u gonna deny him just this one wish?

What was the problem Dear? Because I can see three issues.. so rank them according to your scale of preference....

<<< Was it the fact that he saved your name as Victoria Benin (which is kinda funny though ) and not my love as u expected?

<<< was it the age differences between the two of you? (Considering what u typed up there, If u are really serious that u can hardly find a Nigeria man in his 30s who is not in a serious relationship, that means Nigerians are trying as far a committed relationship goes..)

<<<Was it the fact that he takes permission from his mother for every single decision? Which one do u want to solve?

cococandy:
Many of them had slave owning great/grandparents. They and their own parents are still actively in the ku klux klan.
It’s not a question of being bullies. It’s a generational need to keep the black man down. They pass the teaching to their sons and daughters.

One way of maintaining this power is by joining the police force. So they specifically join the force for this reason. Look at that killer’s face. In public. No fear of reprimand even when he knew he was being recorded. You have to know something gives him the confidence that this is okay to do and as we say “nothing dey happen”.

That guy practically made my blood boil.. The idea of kneeling on some one's neck when he was handcuffed is what I don't really understand up till now.. he has been subdued so why all that

What kind of candidates do they hire as police over there.. former high school bullies? Because the video suggested it.. no empathy nothing..

Alphafeezay:
Mehn..... 15years lost in prison? Gained 10m dollars. Not bad las las o

You can just use this corona virus lock down to test how prison was... People were in their various homes and It's not even up to 7 months citizens all over the world were feeling restless and caged not to talk of 15years.. U mean u can endure 15 years in prison with hardlabour if offered $10m?

I love the fact that you took them as your siblings. It's heart warming .. Don't control them.. just tell them as a big brother that.John, Joy or Cynthia please stop doing this, and this might be the consequences within the family if u continue and dad won't like it.. approaches to issues sometimes matters when handling issues..

considering the fact that you were not biologically related, u have to bring in your maturity card and play it at all times.. Be subtle about it with the knowledge that one of the Elders of the house does not approve of the authority u have in the house. She might conspire with one of your siblings to frustrate u or bring you down in front of your Dad (uncle ). Taking a deep breath before doing anything is important in that house so that you can coordinate your thoughts..

Untainted007:
Op! Op!! Op!!! how many times did I called you? Who asked you to put the state it happened and who asked you to put the name there? Now you have made it easier for Name Checkers Association Worldwide chapter to derive a conclusion again now.

was that the only problem? If he knows their state of origin, he should have also searched/ research for the boy and his dad's age

charlesELIKIBA:
you are still but a child.
I wouldn't trade words with you.

He is not a child Sir that young man is telling you the truth and it is bitter...

In your write up, u made us to understand that you were more successful than your cousin, that was an unnecessary information as far as I'm concerned. u were not in competition with them. they have their own destiny and u got yours..

They might not even be aware that you got such a competitive spirit. Also, If you were really nice and appreciative of what you uncle has done for u, you would have cautioned those ignorant family members that feels that if one got a cancer or bedridden, it means that he may have done something wrong. U should have defended him..u are a graduate, u were expected to know better... but u kept calm... people that took u even when your parents were alive cloth u, fed u,..

Besides, if u don't dream about the people that u know, are u gonna dream about those that you don't know? How is it that someone you grew up and happens to see as a mother figure all of a sudden became Satan that when you dreamt about her u panics.. was that what the church u have been going was telling you that it was wrong to dream about a passed relative or was it the local movies that you have been watching or was it the ignorant folks that u surrounded yourself with and were brain washing u.. which was it?

In terms of relationship situations, Every one knows what to do to get an upper hand. In her own case, she uses silent treatment to bring you to your knees. And I believe you got your own weapons too that works for you.. Asking that she let go of the only weapon that she knows how to handle very well is not gonna work believe me..

All u need to do is to find a way to counter the ammunition .. maybe make the weapons flowery or develop thick skin without any care in the world...Some women if their husband has weapon of rejecting their food and refused to eat during family situations, they won't even bother cooking..they act as if the man was childish.. Some will tell the man when you are hungry, call me

Start practicing how to be jolly as if u don't know she was angry since she doesn't want to speak... buy something that u know she likes (food) bring it to the table, invite her, I know she will refuse, invite the kids to join u deal with the food.. make some annoying comments to the kids on how sweet the food was.. and the kids will agree with you because they wanted a next time 'treat' from daddy..

Stop waiting for her to change she will never leave her only weapon or card that when she plays it, it brings you to your kneels begging. For ten years you should have known that by now.. Even if u want to die, just write your will first before you go..
FYI, this your emotional / suicide card won't work.. it's obvious that your weapons in your marriage is weak.. that's why u were acting as if your happiness depends solely on her..

I don't know what they usually tell them.. that African got super power or what... if u have restrained the man with handcuffs , why the pressure again on the neck?

OP got blown away with a perfect customer service.... Mistaken it for affection.. u might be surprised when you meet her one on one outside work environment.

When she eventually comes out, he will still take her back... he might even be going to prison visitation as time goes on..

When a dog wants to die, it doesn't hear the whistle/ calls of the owner...

He's Probably destined to die in that woman's hand.

Desecrating a resting place is just an act of disrespect..

Even in death, no respect whatsoever... which kin thing be this?

But the OP got his message right?..It's not as if he was speaking Spanish or Latin..

Thermodynamics:
Yes, as insane as it sounds, the lecturer will either fail you or give you ""

in some cases if you try to take up the case, the lecturer will get someone to write another script and present it to the school disciplinary committee. You can only get take a lecturer to the school disciplinary committee if you have another staff fighting for you, and 99% of the time, you'll loose, and your fate will be sealed because you'll write carry over till Jesus come.

The school is that bad, you can never understand untill you attend, some faculties are worse than others, like faculty of engineering.

See, some lecturers set obvious wrong questions in the exam hall, I mean they literarily remove some data in other for the question to be unsolvable, tell me, how do you handle that? even Einstein can't solve an Engineering problem with incomplete given data.

How many students has actually ever reported lecturers for all this allegations?

If any student thinks that they were rubbed by lecturer or given a low grade because he/ she didn't do some sorting, what stopped the student from reporting? Or is it because the students themselves were not bold enough to defend their script/ write ups?

If the case was reported and u discovered that the evidence which was the written script was tampered with, what stopped the students from reporting their suspension? Is the trial before the Senate or the disciplinary committee done in absentia?

Just asking because I know that college way back when it was at independence layout.. and I know that students who didn't pass very well has a way of making up unsubstantiated stories just to cover up their inadequacies and justify the reason why they failed...

Sometimes during examination, some of the students will be going to one lecture hall or the other preaching.. u just wondered.. during exams? Why can't they sit down and read?.. but when the results comes out, different stories will be flying around.. when they should have done the right thing..

Wow!!!! Love has entered engineering, chemistry and physics too...

Now that electromagnetic, spiritual signature, solar energy and lunar don enter the equation of the already complicated story of love, wetin we go do now?

If they were working towards the same goal a purpose which was to make Nigeria great, why the power tussle? Especially when they were working for the government

They should stop acting like landlord and tenant

Thermodynamics:
I graduated from Esut, the school is very corrupt, if not for God, I would have had an extra year because of some selfish and corrupt lecturers.
I really suffered because I refused to be part of their corrupt activities, I had a lot of poor result because I refuse to pay money to some greedy lecturers. God just helped me if not, the school is just too corrupt for a Christian or a straight forward student. Thank God I managed to graduate with a Good result at the end of the day.

If I have my way as the Governor of the state, I'll sack like 70% of the lecturers there and even arrest some.

What the OP said might be true.

So are u insinuating that if you have written an examination or a top notch research for instance and you knew what you have done was right and can defend it anywhere, the lecturers will fail u because u didn't offer a bribe?

You said you were a Christian. I expect that u tell me the truth on this..

Spadelicious:
Regina Askia has just been unlucky as far as relationships are concerned.
She was one of the first babymamas when she got pregnant by an expatriate Frenchman working in Lagos . Unfortunately he abandoned her and returned to his wife in France. She had the baby called Stephanie and had to raise her on her own.
After she left Nigeria to conquer Hollywood without getting nowhere, ended up with this bouncer and limo Chauffer called Rudy Williams and the rest is history and she had to settle for all kinds of odd jobs to make ends meet. Her case is a pitiful one, which proves that the grass is not always greener on the other side. At least she is now living in America, which is what she gain from it, but she lost her place in Nollywood.

You knew her more than she knows herself Chei!!!

OP, I was shocked when I read where u said that any woman can be paid to perform the role of a mother ... a lady doing her job as a nanny is different from a mother that was emotionally attached to their kids..

Just do a little research on kids who doesn't know their mother, who had all the comforts that money can buy.. but one thing is missing...

U think throwing cash around to hire a world class nanny would replace a mother's love?. . It doesn't work that way..

I understand what you meant when you said some men can't stand the idea of taking care of another man's child but.. but things are a bit different now. Some % of men won't mind

The MOST WANTED and FULL MOON lady those days...

How i wish that u can Just calm down... Go away for a while, cool your head and do some thinking, remove the cobwebs on your head and go back to your man..

U have made it this far, with determination, u can do it for another decade... Just one of the movie goddesses that made my day those days while growing up ..