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Its either you are having Sex or Masturbating . I know which I am choosing !.

For someone who has had two cousin crush on.... I understand where you are at.
To tell you how beautiful one of my cousin was at the time, she came runner up to a beauty pageant in Badagry. ( I wont mention the year).
Whenever my uncle came around for the weekend during festival periods, It was insane !!!
I mean she would lash onto me like Velcro.
When we had to give food out to neighbours she would offer to go together, do chores together, sit close to me or on my lap. It was nothing I had experienced before.
She would hug me - full frontal not the side breasts, full breasts. She would kiss me on the lips with her tongue.
I couldn't even play soccer with the rest of my cousins, and if I happen to play and was fouled by a dude, she was up in arms Immediately.
Anyways she would lure me to vacant plots on my street for some heavy petting but stop short of intercourse, I wasn't interested nor seeking. I just remember that after such episodes my fingers would be sticky with her fluid.... ( fingering !!!)

How did I make it stop ? The next time they came around , I told her that I had a girlfriend ( I didnt have but I lied) - she was furious and turned like a jilted lover. She was cold and bitter. Following that, whenever my uncle would come around, she stopped coming. Her excuse was either she wasn't feeling well or had cramps. We have a relationship now and I don't regret ruining the relationship at that time. It was just inappropriate.

I'll talk about the older cousin at a later time.

I actually have to apologize to a lady on this forum who’s post I called the dumbest. This actually takes the holy grail !
Let this be a lesson to all men. This man’s example/legacy to her daughter was 419.
What legacy are you leaving to your daughters?

Yes, She loves to death !
I mean, common man Are you in Secondary School ? Having the Puppy Love experience ?
Are you her father ? Her Sponsor ?
Does she need to milk you dry before you realize she's just in for the money ?
Grow some balls and move on already dude !!!

For starters unless this was a special needs class - The kid should not have been in the same class as regular kids.
That being said - corporal punishment should be banned from schools. It is the duty of the parents to discipline their child.
If a kid disobeys send him along with the class tutor to the principals office.

I'll tell you a story - We had this corper who taught in our class, - maths. Maths was my fav subject and I was always over prepared. I had finished the whole syllabus before the school started. Not sure if any one of you had colleagues who would correct the teacher in class and wasn't afraid in solving maths problems on the chalk board, well I was that dude.

The corper came in that day and was just blowing smoke, so I would correct him, Politely, Sir you are wrong , or Sir, this is the answer. He got fed up, wanted to lash at me but repented mid-way and said, he was going to report me to the principal. I said sorry many times but to no avail.
So i get home that day and while , we were having dinner . Mom, Pop, myself & Siblings - my dad tells a story of the corper coming into his office , saying , Sir, I want to report a student to you. the student was rude and condescending and almost slapped the boy but decided to report him. And so my dad asks for the students name to write in his book . He tells him Charles X , to which my pop says , that's my son. ! He said he started apologizing. We all just laughed at loud at the dinner table.

Let parents discipline the child. Report stubborn kids, the principal could wiggle away from controversy you as a teacher - your career could be over.

Baitullah:
I couldn't finish the epistle but in summary, your wife hasn't been faithful all along

Exactly too long !

Simple - Ask her ? -
How do you want me to love you ?
Same thing with Sex - Hard, Soft, Slow, Fast, Anus, Vaginal.
Just be a gentleman about the whole thing.

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

Are you marrying the man or his father.
I would ask the mother with whom you are close - what the story is ?

Personally, I haven't spoken to my old man in 13 years - I send allowance to the family, my g/f talks to him. Life goes on.

Do not open a shaken bottle of soda if you are not equipped to deal with the mess.
My advise let sleeping dogs lie and concentrate of your relationship & marriage.

What you may not see or know is that
- He may have seen the dad hurt his mum and was unapologetic.
- His dad hurt him and was unapologetic -
- He is breaking a cycle of something and wants nothing to do with the OG. -Doesn't want to become like the dad.

If you truly think he's the one, don't dangle/loose/sacrifice all the time you have invested in the relationship because he isn't talking with his dad.

There is no story here.
I've been keeping malice with the old man for 13 years. What's new !!!

Well, this is either staged or the woman is going to be in some trouble in the future.
I mean there is no creativity in the proposal. Slapping other women would automatically ruin the whole "romantic atmosphere " and if I was there, and that was my sister, I would retaliate before you said. "Wait"

Flipping this around, if my gf would slap me, I would be anger and pissed for most part of the day and so the proposal would not happen anytime soon.

So in conclusion - This was staged !

I never really set out to have 2 gf at the same time. If that happens, Its very likely, I split with one and quickly rebounded with another chic . But the previous one realizes that the grass isn't greener on the other side decides to ask for forgiveness.

The solution is easy - What rule of thumb says that you must go out of the 14th by force ? As an example, this year, Val falls on Monday. I will inform the ladies that this Monday will be very stressful at work and that it would be best for us to go out on either Friday, Saturday or Sunday. The side chic - We go out to a fancy restaurant on Friday and chill on Saturday. The Main chic I take out on Sunday . I will call them both on Monday and wish them a happy valentine's day. I could even surprise them by making sure I visit on my way back from work.

It cant be every day but if it is then whenever you go to her place just dash the mother the cost of the Items. That way your conscience is clear . I personally never want to hear a woman say, she fed me or brought me this and that if we ever break up. Or better still grow some balls and tell her to stop especially if she loves you and that "taking" from your mum to gift you without paying for it is tantamount to stealing and trust me, when $hit hits the ceiling the mob is coming to your house.

Lucasmuyiwaa:
Please don't mind my grammars but I will try my best to make readers understand what I'm trying to say.

I met my girlfriend at the time I was being disturbed by my parents to bring a wife. But then I was not really ready for marriage and this girl I met during that time happens to be the girl I love most.

I showed her how much I love her and I know she really loves me too. I've tested her love for me many times and I can proof how much this girl loves me.

To cut the story short, we had a misunderstanding couple of months ago and it lasted for two weeks befre we settled it. What really caused the fight was a guy that I feel like they were having a relationship and I confronted my girlfriend. She said they've known each other befre she met me and they weren't dating anymore though the guy has been trying to come back to her but she just decided to keep him as friend according to what she told me.

So this particular guy again I saw him coming to ask of her in her house when I was there and I did not feel good seeing that guy. I had to leave and didn't pick the girl call for some time and she stopped calling me too. Though I know I'm gonna call her back when Im done angry and I was even expecting her to call me more and maybe I would eventually pick but I didn't see her call for a week.

So I started feeling somehow when she uploaded that particular guy pick on facebook and tagged it "my love." She uploaded it both on whatsapp and facebook so that I caN see it because I stopped checking her whatsapp status. When I couldn't feel okay anymore I decided to end the fight jokingly with her and it worked then I asked her after few days of settlement why she had to put that guy on her status but she said she did it because she saw where I also put some girls on my status and me putting love emoji so she retaliated with that because it hurt her.

We settled the fight and we agreed never to get mad at each other again. But just of recent I heard it from her sister that the guy I always see with my girlfriend has come to their house to see her parents and I shoudnt even waste my time with her or tell her. I was not okay when I heard that story and coudnt believe until I asked my girlfriend if she's hiding anything from me but she said No.

After asking her so many times she finally told me to ask her whatever I heard and I told her. She answered yes and I was shocked. I asked her why she had to do that and she explained how her dad had been insulting her at home to go and marry and even transferred the aggressiveness to her mother if she fails to bring a man befre this year though, she always tell me everything her father is doing with her at home and always cry when telling me but I keep telling her to please have patient that we will go to see him very soon.

So the second thing she said was that when we had a misunderstanding for some weeks and we didn't talk she believed I've done with her and she can't wait to loose both ways even though she loves me more than the guy. Now the guy had gone to see her parents but my girlfriend said its nothing that she can't get married to the guy and that meeting is nothing, so I fell relaxed and asked her what we are going to do. She told me to impregnate her and then she will go and tell her father that she is pregnant for another guy and not the guy that came to see him. We had sex but unfortunately she didn't get pregnant. So she decided to tell her mom what's going on and how much she want me and her to marry. So the mother took her to her father and told her everything my girlfriend said that it's not the guy that came to see them is her husband that the main husband is coming to see them but the father changed it and got upset with them that why and what's the meaning of that nonsense, if she doesn't love the guy that came to see them why did she introduced him to them.

She recorded all the insults the father said and played it for me. I was so shocked and this girl started crying to the extent that I had to take her out that day to feel happy. She said she doesn't want to marry that guy but that guy had come with his parents to see my girlfriend parents.

Now I don't know what to do because my girlfriend said she will kill herself if we don't get married which can't even happen. Whenever I tell her to please let peace reign that she should go ahead and marry the guy she will get mad and would never talk to me anymore until I beg her. And sometimes when I jokingly tell her that I will also go and see another girl parent so that I won't loose at both ends she kneel and start crying not to even do so. She always tell me to put mind at rest that we would get married but I don't see it working at all because those guys parents will be making preparations day by day. My girlfriend tells me most things the parents say and I always feel bad.

Plz ineed ur advice because i'm confused. The only thing that could help us was the pregnancy but when she did the test she was told she wasnt pregnant. Now she is regretting her actions because she never knew all these could happen. She's confused too because she cried everyday because of all these.

Before I lambast you or slap you across the face, I will say you appear to be a very caring and loving dude. But that's all the sympathy you get from me.
The truth is that she never loved you at all ( Ok, maybe she did but not as much as you loved her) . If she did she would not have moved on to Option 2 that fast.
So you dodged a bullet !

This is what I would advice -
The fastest way to get over a heartbreak is to find a one night stand.
After that - there are many fishes in the river, so grow some balls and date again. Life is too short , love again !

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

Well, Its because of people like you we have the likes of Adele , Toni Braxton and Mary J.
The reason is quite simple.
You break their hearts because you are afraid they will break yours.
You either witnessed a break up or separation of a close couple or you were jilted in a relationship.
I will also put your age at late 20's to early 30's ( Pure conjecture)

I used to be somewhat like you but mine was pure conquest. I would make advances to ladies, date them and " ghost " them before ghosting became a thing. I was all things to all girls . I could carry a tune and serenade a lady, I was educated and loved my Mills and Boon , JHC ( James Hadley Chase, SS ( Sidney Sheldon) Agatha Christy. I could quote the bible - if it served my ultimate goal. I was not rich but I could yarn my way into any conversation. You had a boyfriend - not a problem !
Why did i see girls as a conquest at that time ? Because some dude told me that a particular girl he was dating was beyond my reach !

There is always a reason - Go into Sherlock Holmes "mind palace" mode and rewind.

How did I break my mode ? - One lady "stood her ground" she said later to me when I asked her why she didn't fall . " Charles, It was the hardest thing for me not to give in, you were relentless , cunning & sweet but she was determined to save our friendship at all cost. " She knew if we did it, I was gone with the wind. We are still friends today. !

How do you break your mode ? - Its a cycle you have to break.

Merlin started the sequence for a lot of other TV series - smallville, Gotham

Titanic - Made most people shed a tear with Celine Dions “ My heart will go on” and Jack Jack wake up . And the famous Kate winslet nude.

Jack Bauer - Now that’s a TV show that had 7 seasons or so. With the famous ring tone, raspy Jack Bauer voice, CTU, Jack saving the day and president. Also with the time on the screen.

Last one - unfortunately never saw it and therefore IMO doesn’t cut the muster.

The favourite has to be Jack Bauer. Titanic may have made a lot of money but everyone young and old knows Jack Bauer !

Just a jobless idiot who wants to eat meat that he did not contribute to buying. Nothing to see here.

exactly !! Hilarious . I am sure the dude doesn't even eat half a piece of meat in his own home ?

Hmm so this is a tough one.

The story itself get as e be. Did the offense occur in the matrimonial bed or the living room. ? Or is the Matrimonial bed in the living room ?
Leaving my supposed inconsistency Issue aside - You shouldn't be the first to tell the story.
This is what I would do. After asking her why, how long and if there are any others ?
1. Give the offender the option to inform your brother - Let her come out and explain to the brother why , how long and how many others ?
2. May sure you are there - Do not let your brother become a murderer by either killing his wife and himself.
3. If there are kids involved have them stay with someone for a while ?
4. I would get the man's number and ask from him how long he had been dating her in order to cross stories and make sure that she is in fact telling the truth and the whole truth.

From my observations men are more prone to having extramarital affairs than women. So for a woman to do this in her own house - I'll be curious to know why. And I know a lot of women who know that their men cheat and have come to the resolve that as long as it is done outside of the house and not inside, as hurtful as it is - She is still the queen. Doesn't make it right, just saying.

Now, what would happen if we flip this story around and it was the wife's sister who caught her brother in law with another woman ?
How you answer this may be the way to address & answer the initial story.

Slaysor:
Thanks for this..I will focus more on my self

Dude I know it hurt and it does because you loved her and have invested in the relationship, for her to behave as such means she never truly loved you , never did or believes she might be "settling" with you.

See if she apologizes and you want to continue - have a heart2 heart discussion with her on how you want to be loved and how she wants to be loved. Respect must be paramount.

Good Luck

dkickz:
You are indeed one of the astute individuals this forum is lucky to have as your analysis is unparalled and void of sentiments but facts.
Please do well to respond to my mail. It'd be nice associating with brilliant minds like you. Thanks

I am just here eating humble pie. . I'll look out for the invite and respond accordingly.

AdaNri1:
When you get the surrogate will you not pay her? Or is surrogacy free? Then you do it 2-3x how much will it cost you? But you’ll marry a woman and expect her to pay 50% of the bills while you use her body as a free surrogate.
When you buy the food won’t you cook it? But when you want a special meal you’ll still go to a restaurant and pay to be fed the same quality of food a wife would have cooked for you.
One way or the other you will pay, wether in marriage or out of it you will pay. If you don’t pay it in your home you will pay it out of your home.

No woman will sit at home all day being unproductive , but no man should think his only job is to provide 50% of the money either but expects to be treated like a Lord.

Madam Ada - But thats not what the OP is saying.
I am simply saying, I don't want the traditional wife who just goes to college get a BSc and plans only just to "Process" what I "provide". Like I am some magical unicorn that just provides and she just " processes"
I am not saying I wont provide, far from it but it must be joint or close 50/50 . The areas of provision may differ , let me give you an example with my live in gf.
I have an excel sheet which details our expenses
So rent for example 2.5M I contributed 60% she pays 40%
Food I pay 100%
Misc She pays 100%
Cars I contributed 70% she 30% . If we split we keep are separate vehicles
Outings We contribute to a savings account - Joint 2 signatory
Kids We contribute to a savings account
etc
The rational behind this - I wont spend what I dont have and It makes her feel like she is contributor to the success of the union . A co-owner. I have seen men work their ass of to provide for family all alone. He gets sick and dies and the woman's life is ruin - because she was just a processor and not both. Women can both provide and process.

Slaysor:
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What is the meaning of this Bros? ...who is the fool

My Dear Slaysor - It means you have been played for a fool. It's an Idiom.
You may feel emotionally drained and hurt but you just saved yourself a ton of heartache and dodged a bullet from a possible manipulative and loveless marriage. If I felt she was worth it, I would egg you on but she aint worth the hassle.

Focus at the task at hand - your work, job and Grace will bring the right person to you.

ObamaMessi:
Few days ago my elder brother went with his side chick to visit his friend only to meet his girlfriend in his friend's bedroom.

He is seriously heartbroken and he has been crying all the time since then.

Any advice?

Why does this comment have this many like ?
Your elder brother went his side chick to visit his friend only to discover his friend's side chick was his own gf ?
What's the difference between side chick and gf ? What's the ladder - side chick -gf- fiancé- wife ?
Haven't you heard that one man's trash is another person treasure ?

Slaysor:
Good evening nairalanders,
I will try and make this as short as possible,i and my girlfriend have been dating for three years plus,, initially when we started dating, everything was rosy,she will call in the evening and we will speak for hours,she brought food for me each time she came to visit,she made a very nice cake for me during my birthday that year and I also got her an expensive wrist watch during her birthday. I felt I had met my wife,the mother of my children....
She insisted that we wouldn't have sex in the relationship,that she wanted me to have a taste of her Honeypot after I had paid her brideprice and we settled down..I begged her most times but she refused,there were nights when we were alone and my thoughts wandered and I became hard and I will beg her she will refuse,I promised to send her money,she accepted but after I transferred she will start laughing and tell me she was just joking,then sometimes she will pity me and allow me to touch her body parts... I stayed without sex during our relationship because I hated cheating...
Back to this year, I was discussing with my girl how I was planning to come meet her people so that we could get married(konji wan kill son of man)
Me: babe I would like to meet your people,so that we could start preparing for marriage.
Her:which marriage?
Melaughs) which kind question be that
Herhisses) jamb question
Me: I am serious here babe.
Her: you never dey ready to marry,phone wey you promise to buy me since last December where I'm dey?
Me: I thought I told you my salary was delayed
Her: na why I talk say you never ready to marry,you want marry me,you still dey collect salary,go join boys learn work
I felt insulted
Her: how you wan take pay brideprice abi you wan make my people wait make them pay you salary
Me: I am not happy with all this things you are saying
(She kept mute,as she was smiling and typing on her phone,I stood up and made to drag the phone from her,she put it inside her bra,I put my hand there and grabbed the phone)
Her: you dey crase?...when that one start?
(I went through her chat and found out she was chatting with a intimately with a girl)
Me: who is this you are chatting with
Her: you don see am, na my grandpa
(I seized her angrily)
Me: are you stupid? Who is this?

She struggled to free her self but she couldn't, then she spat into my eyes,freed herself and gave me two hot slap at both cheeks and zoomed out of my house,I regained myself and ran after her,I got to her before she left the gate,I held her dress and went down on my knees and begged,she removed my hands and stormed out
I went inside,I tried calling her several times but she didn't pick,I sent messages on whatsapp but she didn't reply. I later reached her friend and asked her to help me talk to her that I am sorry..her friend told me that my girl told her that she was done with me...I told her friend that she should tell my girl that I am sorry and I will get her the phone she requested...
I later got a call from my girl and we discussed
Her: hello
Me: baby I am sorry, I never meant to act the way I did
Her: it is okay
Me: where are you?...can I see you please
Her: I am busy
Me: tell me where you are please
Her: I said I am busy
Me: I just want to see you
Her(sighs):are you coming with the phone
Me: which phone?
Her: the one you promised to get me
Me: alright I will come with it
Her: I am at sunshine eateries
Me: okay
I checked my balance on my union account,it was up to 250k,which I had plans for. And which I was using to hold myself as I didn't know when salary will be paid...I left the house and got to the store I was to get the phone...I went in and asked for a Samsung s9,the man there told me it is 130k,I tried negotiating but he remained adamant...I paid and left there..I got to the eateries some minutes later and approached my girl's table,she was eating peppered chicken with spag and a pack of chivita juice..I knelt down and started begging her,she told me it is okay,she asked for the phone and I gave it to her,then the waiter came to our table and asked her for money,she pointed at me and said I will pay, I was surprised but I still asked the waiter how much...he said 3,500, which I paid for. Then she picked up her bag and told me she had to be somewhere urgently.
Later that day,I tried calling her,she didn't pick,I tried texting on WhatsApp and I found out that she hadn't read my previous msg.
Some days later she called me and told me she needed to fix her hair as the one she had was old and bad,I asked her how much....she said 30k..I screamed and told her I didn't have that money,,she said if I wasn't ready to give her the money I should forget about her...I still told her I didn't have that type of money,she hisses and cut the call ...my neighbor was with me that day and my phone speaker was on,he heard everything and he asked me who was that....I told him it is my girl,he asked me why was she demanding such from me..then I opened up to him and told him everything...he then told me that I should forget that girl and delete everything about her as she was only using my head, he collected my phone and deleted her number from my phone,then he told there are millions of girls out there and I should stop wasting my time on one
I haven't been able to call her this past days and she hasn't contacted me,I feel so sad bcus I know how much I invested,my time,my emotions now I am hurt.....

I am not sure this falls under romance.
But the title of the story should be " A fool and his money are soon parted "

obynzo:
Look it is people like you that settle for crumbs instead of demanding for better governance. He waited until now to do his job because he wants to give you people a semblance of him working because 2023 is at hand. That is why the country is the way it is we keep celebrating mediocrity someone build roads as a governor you must sew Asoebi and cut tape. what rubbish, that is why we will not get to the promised land until we start holding these guys on a high standard of accountability.

And what have you gotten from those you have demanded better governance from ? Go down the list and tell me who among the govs have given the state something lasting. There is no harm done in being appreciative to someone for actually doing something for that great state.

Dizzyyish:
Only women are allowed to criticise women. When a man does it he's perceived as a bully."
- Dr. Jordan Peterson

And when women criticize men, how are they perceived ?
Btw - I don't see that quote ascribed to the Canadian anywhere ?

obynzo:
Bros when did we start having trucks on the expressway? was it like that during the military era. Abeg stop this eyeservice it stinks

Your comment is irrelevant to the Q . The Q at hand was - Is there cause to appreciate the work that the Gov is doing or not. I say , Yes. Unless you see a conspiracy somewhere that others don't. Eyeservice or not. He's moving the needle. Siphoning funds or not at least he's making the investment to the roads and infrastructure.
How else should truckers convey goods and services to the stores and companies ?

I'll be frank and not coy. You must be the dumbest woman on this forum.
However, my senses are also telling me that the nonsense you dropped is just to seek out attention.

You have no idea what feminist means - equal opportunity for male and female. To them there are no male only roles and female only roles in society. What a man can do , I can do better - My response - You CAN"T.

" we are not created to provide but to process " No feminist says this. This is where you lose your diatribe.
Then you quote the bible and mention Eve. Like she is the best example out there. Her husband gave her detailed instructions of what to do and not to do. Yet she couldn't keep and relay simple instructions.

You not subscribing women to bring anything is what makes women, illiterates - not being sent to school. if all they do is sit down at home waiting to be impregnated , or given money to make food , turn a house to a home.

I do not and will not be involved with a lady who doesn't think she can do more with her life than what you mentioned. She is to be a "helpmate" an assistant. Both contributing with their skills to the success of the union.

I can buy groceries and cook so why do I need you to process.
I can adopt a child or get one through surrogacy, so why do I need you to process.
I can stage a house and buy homely stuff, so why do I need you to process .
When I get frustrated, I will go see a therapist, so lady why do i need you to process?

I do more than " bring the money" and when I decide to settle down - She better do more than "process"

Anyways, If you want to escalate your backward thinking to a voice call , I may be available.

longetivity:
God knows dem never born the girl wey go dey give me restless mind

Savage

As much I as would like to bounce on you for not seeing this as a red flag. There's always two sides to a story.

That said, This advice not only goes to you but others who might come across this article .
Push/inspire /encourage your gf or wife to be employed either self employed or an employee. I can't imagine a gf asking me that she wants me to give her money to buy panties or bra for her own body. Are her eyes your own ? If i passed away tomorrow are you implying that she won't have any financial recourse in replacing her own glasses ? Plus being an Ingrate, impatient and seemingly entitled ( not picking up your phone calls ).
Dude, the ratio of boys to girls is like 3 to 1, that I will never lack a girl to be with ( and everyone said, Amen!). When a relationship leaves the bootycall stage to bf/gf there are just some things I don't want to hear. If I have promised to assist, It will be done in my time and at the time of my choosing.
What you ultimately do is up to you but you have to draw the line in the sand and say, this is how much I can put with. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Man Up !

obynzo:
wasn't it not what he was suppose to do since. there is no smart work there it is his responsibility abeg stop all this eye service abeg

Give kudos when necessary. There have been many Govs before him smart military men and civilians who have lacked the initiative and drive to see anything done. Don't muzzle the cow when It is treading out the corn.

You're just a bitter o' fool. And a fool at 20 is one forever.
Let me guess ....
You're still not engaged ?
Got dumped by your gf ?
Never had a gf ?

Why not address the root of your real problem instead of blanketing a whole species with your sarcastic remark !!!