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Danny50:
thanks bro I really appreciates

All the best Chief !

This has nothing to do with the state of the country but rather the state of the mind. The amount of suicides that occur daily in other countries is staggering . Posting this on You tube actually doesn't help but rather elicits copy cats who may "attempt" suicide. only to receive money etc.
I suspect that this will grow in the next few years.
However, if this cry for help is real. Then Nija will need to start taking Mental Illness seriously and start teaching it in schools and colleges around the country and pump money to diagnose and treat such people.

Simran94:
Lol, then you have not met people at all.

If a lady tells a man I buy my drinks myself, these same men will come online and say the lady has pride and she rejected his offer.

Sometimes guys will approach ladies trying to buy stuff and say they would pay, the girl will insist on paying herself but no Oga will still pay for it. When the lady says thank you and starts to leave, Oga will carry phone and ask for the girl’s number and when she declines, these same people will come online to insult the lady that why did she allow him pay for her goods if she wouldn’t give him her number.
Some men are confused

True Talk.

This is laughable - It tells me that she is either a virgin or is delusional.

Only hookers have sex - unhealthy sex with no emotions attached and with different men. No pre-intimacy just BBBJ , condom , insert , pump and bye and onto the next client. But to have sex with the same man, 10 times a day is physically impossible even on the weekends.
There is just so much to life that at times you are emotionally drained to love . Even with Viagra ( someone says) you need libido ( sex drive, testosterone ) to want to do it.

She should have just said - I want a healthy sex life and I would have believed u.

The body needs time to recover. There is a saying that goes like this "familiarity breeds contempt". The more of a thing, the less of it you want - you get bored of it. So spacing is required .

hahahahaha5x:
I shouldn't stress myself writing epistles.

I met a girl recently where I went to chill. I got there and ended up not spending a dime for myself. So when I approached her she asked for a plate of pepper soup which I got for her 500 naira. Lol

The next day while we were chatting she told me she was out of data so I transferred 500mb to her from my SIM since I subscribed 40 GB.

PS that's how I transfer data to people daily. Both guys and girls. It depends on the first two people who ask me since there's a limit.

When I went there later she was singing that she was hungry. I didn't wanna answer her because she was beginning to piss me with her beggy beggy attitude lol. After much consideration I gave her 2h to buy snacks and she got it.

Today she told me she's always bored whenever she's at work so I felt I should go check on her. I started taking some bottles of beer while chilling with her. Not long she started telling me how she's damn hungry lol. I jokingly told her she hasn't come to know my house yet o yet she's always telling me to do this or that for her. She just told me "I nor dey come person house". I then asked her "yet you bill people abi?" She said she'd return all I've spent on her. Las las I've collected my money and she has stood up from my table to be alone. In her presence I've bought drinks for two guys.

Nb: For those who would come here to tell me today is a working day. I make my money online. I'm a crypto trader. I can trade and make money anywhere.

I like a confident dude. I am yet to hear a lady say. No, I buy my own drinks. That's a lady who's more intriguing.
Btw - Id like to learn more amount Crypto Trading, I feel there's more to it than I know. DM me if you're not busy "Player"

I'll echo what someone has said - This is something the whole world doesn't have to see. Why are we so concerned with optics. Marriages that last kept this private.
Its a private matter and it remain so.
You don't see senators calling for a vote on an Issue without securing the votes.
I would have asked the lady something like this ...... babe how would you feel , If I came to your school all dressed in white , with a bunch of white roses and proposed to you ? depending on her answer, I will then proceed with changing a few details and then proceeding.
Or ask her bestie ! of how she would react.

But your question is if I propose and she embarrasses me - well that's the end of the relationship. No woman has the right to anoint me with milk or douse me with water. She can say no and walk away and depending on who's paying the rent. I'll leave or she does.

Anndrew:
lolz..u get bad breath,ur girl get poop for ass....this get me laughing hard...

Ah you read that one

LOL !!
Are you kidding me. If you can't tell her that she has bad odour, how are going to address other concrete issues in your relationship. Like Finances, Sex. Thanks for dinner honey but its too salty !. Dude dont walk on eggs in a relationship both of you must be free to discuss issues in love.
Remember - Do it in love.

I'll tell you a personal story.

I had a fair complexion gf. She was igbo, her dad was rich and took care of her . She usually doesn't leave the house under the hot sun but if she did , she had to walk with an umbrella so that she didn't burn her skin . Her skin was as smooth as butter, in fact she looked like butter. She was beautiful, and as i type, I am trying to remember how met her. Must have been at a friend's party. Back in the day, I used to be the MC and DJ. I had a cousin who sent me mixed tapes and I could spin yarns back then . In any case, I digress. Two things messed up the relationship well 3 things. She felt entitled, we were not on the same wavelength intelligence wise and thirdly bad breath.

Dude when we kissed which I avoided like a plague it was horrendous, It smelt like she had eaten/swallowed garlic . I couldn't brush the smell off for days.
I carried a handkerchief on me back then and still do to spit in it when the acid reflex tried to escape my mouth . Whenever we had sex and she tried to kiss me , I went down on her tummy instead , I would grab her breasts with one hand and suck on the other with my mouth and straight into pump and grind action. I even tried licking tom-tom while kissing her ( this worked but not sustainable) , I tried chewing gum while kissing her, the chewing up would loose its taste immediately. When It reached defcon 1- I decided to tell her.

SO I did some research and found possible causes ( Its been a while) and scheduled an appointment with a doctor for the next day.
On the day prior, I sat her down and ask if she trusts me - She said Yes, I asked If she loves me - She said yes. I asked her if she thought I was capable of hurting her ( she said, yes ... I was in University and she was still in SS1/2) lol . But besides her fear she said no. I then proceeded to tell her or remind her if she recalled I had a bunch of tom-toms , chewing gum and had to rush to spit in the bathroom , she said yes and then I told her its because she had bad breath. I informed her that I had found a doctor and would like for us to visit the doctor. She pushed me away for a sec , out of shame and then she said she was sorry and that her previous bf had mentioned the same thing but when I didn't mention anything, she felt it must have gone.
So we went to see the doctor, who almost fainted when she opened her mouth. Asked her to start flossing, prescribed some medication and we cured the issue together.

Moral of my story - 1. Try and see if you can make it inclusive ( making it about you both )
2. Must be in love - I told a gf once that she needed to have a shower before we have sex cause I was smelling poop when doing doggy style the other day, she replied well you also have bad breath. I said, I will brush before we kiss next time.
3. Try and lighten the atmosphere there are 90% she does right - lets do this together.

Good Luck

danot1030:
Messi has brought bad luck to PSG. French football no be laliga. Ronaldo conquer every territory.

I think you forget that the clubs Juventus and PSG are two different clubs with different stars. PSG has never to me appeared like a team but rather a collection of stars who still need to decide who is the alpha dog. Is it neymar, is it messi or Mbappe. Once they decide who handles the ball the most or whom gets the ball in the 4th quarter ( Basketball analogy), they can be dangerous team.

This was one of my tricks in my bag for a girl playing hard to get.
Ill tell her my dreams come to pass and that we both got married in it. And if my dreams do come true why are we delaying what God has ordained.

21savages:
Never had sex before.

Dont need to start but when you do.. USE A CONDOM !!!

LOL !!! This is hilarious
I am surprised we don't have a doc in the house who can explain why.
There are some women who don't moan or groan. Most of them that do on the porn site you visit are actors./actresses putting on a show for you. Its entertainment.
I remember 2 gf's I had. One asked me the same question - she said the men she has been with do not derive pleasure with her because she doesn't moan during sex and so she wanted to set expectations before we had sex . So we tried and crap nothing - She just laid there like a piece of wood - we tried different positions - she on top, I on top, from the sides, one leg up etc nothing. I was just pumping until I came.
Then I came across a book - The act of marriage and I started ready and he mentioned Dr Kegel - Kegel exercise. So we practiced and noticed that after 2 weeks the muscles down there became stronger and gripped my girth that it started hitting the walls. And she without knowing started moaning.

The Second gf said the same thing but it just turned out the dudes she had been with were not experienced. Women are like fine cars that have to be fine tuned and warmed before use.

"The women vagina , clitoris etc is sensitive. When the muscle is so relax that there is no pressure on the penis during sex, the man is labouring to cum and you are just hitting a big hole. But when the muscle have been strengthen either during kegle exercises of the lady still has her elasticity you will both enjoy the relationship with her moaning and you hitting the walls of the vagina. "

I am beginning to get tired of this lame questions.
I hope this is loud and clear !
OF COURSE DELETE THE NUDES !!!! and get off my lawn .

Dude - you went out of your way to ask a girl out. You gave her 2k and now you are asking if she is serious about the relationship.
Well I thank God, Such useless relationships haven't crossed my path. Plus I know my value and no one who asks me for money is immediately cut off, ghosted.
I'll give you 2k, if you promise not to ask your silly question here again. You are the proverbial " Mugu " I think it's written.

Not sure I should spend time replying cuz she may have left the forum.
But just incase you repent here's my 2 cents.
1. No one gives you attention
2. Because you havent finished degree.

This sounds like a confused person who doesn't know what she wants.
- Why are you looking for the living among the dead ? Why are you seeking attention here ? How about all those dudes who have been asking you out and are declining. You need to boost your self worth. If you don't know what you are worth, you'll be undervalued and unappreciated. So first love yourself. Say positive yarns to yourself in the mirror " I am valuable" " I am dependable" " I can do great things". Once you have self worth and confidence - you wont rely/depend on others.

Again what has 1 got to do with 2. You are not specific on what is holding /stopping you from finishing your degree ?
Specify the Issues , Itemize them and you may possibly see the Insurmountable mountain fall like pebbles. I lift up my eyes until the hills from hence shall my help come from !! You just never know.

One of many things I dislike - Is when someone is asking for practical ideas, you smack his/her head with bible scriptures.
Someone was hungry - In the bible , it wasn't prayed away- the physical need was met.
It's all well and dandy that you have quoted scripture but unless you are a recovering " masturbator " you are of no help.
Unless you are a recovering alcoholic you do not know the temptation we face.

So some practical steps
1. You cannot do it alone.
2. You need a male accountable partner. - Someone who will not judge you but will be able to counsel you.
3. You need to fast and pray . You need to fast because you need to break the circle, It is said that a new behaviour is learnt in 21 days and average of 66 days for it to be fully formed.
4. There is a book entitled Everyman's Battle read.
5. Know that you are not alone - This affects members of the church up to 50% , the world about 66%.
6. Its a battle that you will fail at times but I love this scripture - " Although I have fallen, I will rise again, though I sit in darkness the Lord shall be my light " . Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.
7. You need to change your behaviours and friends - What you are viewing, listening to .
8. There is an accountability software you can install on your phone .

I would request this be removed by moderator ! Create a reddit post and ask there.

Don't do it ! Don't do it !
What is google for ?

Dude ! You crack me up !! Let me tell you a story
There was a time when I brought my gf home - My first gf - She would be my first but I know I wasn't her's. We had been fore playing and as we were about to do it, my mum comes from no where and says " guys, I think that is enough". I was flabbergasted and blushing whilst my gf was embarrassed. She said Sorry ma, and I walked her home. We ended up making love at her place a few days later where she was in control of the environment and no surprises. Till we broke up nothing transpired at my place. She would come and we would play but nothing intimate.

That being said, - ( ALWAYS USE A CONDOM !!!)
1. I wouldn't push it - She isn't denying you sex, she just prefers home court advantage where she is secured.
2. But if i were to play devil's advocate, the reason she may not want to come could be that she has a lover in your area.


" I wants us to sleep in mine so that we can enjoy the night better and talk about future" Yeah Right!

I am not sure what the insult is about. Ask her to come during the day instead of the night or has she never been to your place ? If the Issue is simply that she hasn't slept over then I would say which is detrimental. She not sleeping over or not having sex ?

hmm.
This ask is 10 years too late. And your best friend depending on his emotions could kill your cousin, himself and you.
If your friend had known earlier, he would have gotten over it and see the kids as adopted and therefore his own but for the 2 of you to hide this from him this long is terrible. And can you imagine the number of times, he's left you alone with his wife ( your cousin ) and the number of times you guys must have shagged behind his back. Even if this was not so, The thought / the seed has been sowed.

Solution
1. Do a blood test to confirm if indeed you are the father.
2. If you are the father - Then know that your friendship that day has come to an end. Likely that of his marriage. as well. If he loves the kids he would still support them and if he loves your cousin, he will eventually forgive the betrayer.
3. You have to get some elder and family members involved to act as intermediary .

If you are someone like me that doesn't talk much and lives in a different country then just cut off all ties and keep the secret to the grave. But if you are still in contact and are present in their lives - bring the Issue to the forefront and deal with it .

Wear a bloody condom guys !!!

I'll be frank
1. Behaviour - If you aren't teachable or can have a stimulating conversation - Ill get bored and won't invite you over.
2. Faith or Belief - Why do you believe what you believe ? We must be compatible cause tough times are around the corner.
3. Smelly kitten - This should be number 1 but i can also work with you on this, if you are willing/teachable we cure this, if it becomes a habit then i can't and wont have you back.

Did I see a question somewhere ?

I'll always remember " wait for me " KSA and Dame Onyeka Onwenu. Congrats !!!

I am surprised you are still with him .. oh let me guess - you are unemployed and depend on him for money.
Quite an unfortunate dilemma you are in but staying is not the answer - You have opened the door to a circle of violence that the children will perpetuate on others or that it will be done on them. Saying this behaviour is normal.
Do you have such low self esteem that you are still with him ?
This is where your male friends or his family members ought to beat him to a pulp or report him to the police that one more scar or mark on your body will be met him an exceeding punishment.
Don't you have siblings who you can put the kids with ?
Whatever you do - If you don't leave - He will be your demise. Also the kids, won't forgive you .. Have the kids record the incident and make it public. There is power in social media.
It is not wrong , no matter what you may have done, he has no right to lay hands on your body.

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I think you know the answer and are just looking for an alternative. I can tell of countless relationships were the girl sees potential in me and she takes care of me when I am down and low and vice versa. What broke us up were mainly distance or compatibility Issues. So I would suggest that you cut her loose . Don't tie yourself down while trying to stay afloat. Get rid of the dead weight. Don't carry something heavy while paddling with one hand. There are many fishes in the river and if she is the one, it will work out in the end.

One of my girlfriends after we split she introduced me as the one she was supposed to marry. She is happy and so am I and the memories we shared, we take them to the grave.

Who are you replacing him with ? It's not that there is a long line up of coaches waiting for the job. The Nigerian National Coach is the hardest position to fill because of all the off the field stuff you have to deal with - The Lack of infrastructure, corruption , social -economic environment. With the abundance of talent we have, there should be a long list of coaches wanting the job. All these ex-players just babbling - they all at one point in time contributed to disastrous results.
Good Luck.

Since you guys are talking about it. I will give it a go this evening.

DonSpankie:
Even here in South Africa, the eggs have expiry date Nigeria is totally backward in everything.

Savage Quote You should be arrested for speaking the truth

Dude - I will kill you if any harm comes to your daughter. I will search you out and make your life a living hell.
If you want your business to succeed.
Do the following
1. Give up your daughter to your wife.
2. Agree on a certain amount to pay your wife for her ( daughter's upkeep )
3. Change church.

The reasons to hide a death are manifold. As the main wife, you want to make sure that you have access to all his accounts and have transferred money somewhere else. Once a man dies, vultures will start coming out from no where making false claims and accusations.

GOFRONT:
Hmmm.....@King

Truely, Religion is the opium of the people of africa..

Btw, what's with male folks wearing earrings even on both ears and then proceed to dreadlock their hair Hanty Anita??

Some even patronize wools and Lush just to keep the dreadlocks. ...

Well, I hope these guys wont run away when God would want to create Menstruation period as a part of their body system since they all want to act like Woman these days..

What I dislike is that the dude wearing the earring does not know the origin . It started from the prison in America and It is meant to indicate that someone was effeminate and available.