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Just get an expatriate company in here to get it working for at least 25 years. For a giant like Nigeria with international travelers not to have a fully functional and reliable fleet of aircrafts is not a surprise, its heartless and terrible.

Drsnives:
Good morning nairaladers, pls pardon my errors.

I met this girl late last year, she's nice, godly and has most of the qualities i want in a wife. i love her, though her dad is late and her mum should be in her late thirties.

Yesterday we were chatting and she was like her dad didn't do the necessary rites on her mum and hence according to tradition i will have to pay her mum's bride price to her family before i will be allowed to start her own (my babe) marriage rites. I just weak cos have never heard of such. Where i won see the money for double bride price?

Pls nairaladers, have any of you come across such ridiculous tradition or she's making it up herself cos i feel like quiting the whole thing.
I just tire. Your opinions are welcomed

Modified: she's from obiaruku in ukuwani local government area of Delta State.

Them don't see mumu ! Soon they will say you have to pay for the younger sister as well.
Just cut your loss and move on Bro ... the family no good.

CatANDratTHEORY:
He claimed that there's no heaven and hell but contradicted himself by saying that heaven is on earth.

He's kinda confused.

If heaven is on earth, then where is hell?

I would say Ghana !

Nice setting, where is the place. ?

Wonders shall never end ...
So he wants to get all the things he bought for her. hmm!.
Does she get the all the "Whoopie" they had all this while.
Or all the km or miles he used on her kittycat !

Dude, walk away - while you are still called a man !

helpee:
I agree with you.... You don't have to greet your boss although if it becomes persistent, it puts a strain on the work relationship. The problem here is.... the boss actually asked him why he didn't greet him meaning the boss was not expecting a confrontation. The OP immediately confronted the boss in the presence of others. If the boss didn't say anything, it is different. Finally, the culture abroad is different. You call everyone by their first names but not in Nigeria. The OP should have considered the environment and not disrespect the boss like that.

I guess you can say .. too much Netflix. Yes, he should have considered the environment and culture.

helpee:
Nigerians misbehave because we lack the culture of reference and can easily forge it. If it were to be in a developed country, OP may never get a job in the corporate world again. Employers usually require recommendation from your previous supervisors. Your employment is subject to a good reference. Same with getting accommodation in some countries. New landlords will confirm from your old landlords your attitude and debt history. You may never get accommodation to rent in a good place again if your former landlord paint you badly. How can you say your mind is not at work in the presence of visitors? You don't even know wether they are new business partners, investors etc. We claim right while we are toxic. I pity your next employer because he has no way of cross checking your record from your previous place of work. You must work under people to learn and courtesy demands you greet them. Even if your boss is proud, it is not an excuse for you to be rude.

I see your point but in a developed country, this is not an Issue to start off with. I have been to my managers office with people and once I enter he says, Charles, could you do this or that. I look at my boss directly and if others make eye contact, i say hello. It is not written anywhere that I must greet my director, it just etiquette which should not get someone fired. The boss could have asked, if everything was well with him for his mind not to be here, was he depressed, death in the family better still look to inquire why the behaviour.
I know he comes across rude but to berate your employee infront of your guest is a power trip !

Ok, this is tricky. And hear me out.
So directors , managers and co-workers can be arrogant. I was brought up to say hello to everyone. To strangers, as long as we have an eye contact, I will nod back or smile but people are not the same. To managers, directors, I will say hi . I have literarily said hello to someone and the person turned or reacted like I didn't exist to them.

With regards to your case...
I think this has been going on for a while and culminated on that particular day. ( Maybe unpaid salary)
A typical response when your director asked the question would have been - Hello Sir's and Ma, I didn't want to disturb the flow of the meeting or sorry about that. Your continued ebb and flow with him showed that you were kind of eager for that confrontation.
A different manager could have called you in the office after the incident for a one on one to discuss. He certainly took a different route.
If you were valuable enough to the company, this could have played out differently.
If you were in a developed country - this is certainly not an Issue or worth discussing.
As long as you are in 9ja and reading your side of the story, It comes across as being rude. and you will not win the PR or popular opinion battle.
What I would do, Is serve out my suspension, get my arears and perhaps look for another job.
Why spend money on court actions and lawyers and then be still out of a job. ?
And if you win, why would you want to work for the same director again ?

Why not go check yourself out.
If you are not doing drugs - Do you masturbate a lot ? 2/3 times a day -if Yes, It can cause you to loose short term memory.
If not then try some exercises
- like jotting stuff down or writing on your note on your phone.
Good luck

Apologies this may be long ….

Dude,
From someone with similar experiences. Once you have tasted the forbidden fruit and have had an extramarital affair. There is no going back without serious sacrifices.

People cheat on their spouses even when in the same city notwithstanding you separated with ocean and time difference.

I have a friend who sent his wife to give birth in Germany, due to immigration he’s still in 9ja and guess what he has a baby mama with the baby same age (4) as his kids in Germany. They are still together because he confessed. She’s even met the step-child ( video conferencing) .
She made him promise not to bring any woman to their bed. “ Go screw the maid she said but not on my bed” He’s quitting his job and relocating …..

Back 2 You…

1. As long as you are separated by that distance, you will do it again. It’s easy, you have no accountability partner, no one to ask where you’re going , you have no responsibility- taking kids to football practice or separating quarrels between your kids. You’ve got time , money and space in your hands.
2. Sacrifices - Make you peace with God but you have to tell your wife. If you don’t tell her you will do it again. - It’s sweet , she young and does things the wife won’t do ! And even says “ thank you Sir , will I see you again sir . You will even try and rationalize the situation ( the money she is getting is helping her pay for school, so it’s quid pro quo!
3. If you can’t afford to tell her, You have to quit your job and move back abroad, if you don’t , you’ll do it again. And it may escalate - one becomes a party becomes Lasu girl etc .

Todays isnt about me and so I ain’t gonna share .
You’ll regret the affair(s), go to church , repent and stay firm for a while but then temptation will come again and you’ll fall because you haven’t dealt with the root of the problem ( loneliness, we are not built like women , to go long without intimacy)

I don’t care if you are a pastor or know the bible. The devil knows the bible also !!

All those Catholic " Fathers" have my respects but it’s from such that we have all these child abuses cases all across the globe and sexual immorality.
Peter the apostle had a wife. Moses had 2 wives. Paul and Jesus didn’t. What am I saying ? it’s unnatural for you to be separated with your lawful wedded wife unless you are “fasting sex” for a while but then quickly come together so you are not tempted.

I could tell you stories of men - expatriates who come and work in this country who pick up our girls have sex and give the girls good money. It’s not a Nigerian thing , it’s a human thing.

Those that keep out of this sin have a strong regiment and are likely have a busy schedule after work so no time for “ hocus pocus “

Don’t wait till someone sees your vehicle somewhere and calls up the wife.
Take control of the narrative and inform the wife and die at her mercy. You don’t love the side chick and it wasn’t the devil . I failed you , I miss you and thought I could compensate the lack of intimacy with the fling. I am sorry.

Affairs don’t start like wildfires. It starts with a seed that grows when nurtured.

What a shame!
We don’t know if the baby was born alive and dropped there or dead on arrival.
Whatever the circumstances, it’s a shame that in some parts of Africa it’s still a stigma to have a child out of wedlock.
There are orphanages that would have welcomed this child and she could have reclaimed the child when back on her feet.
What trauma the woman must be undergoing to have decided to do this !
Just a loss-loss situation!!

Kobojunkie:
Isn't it cheaper than having a woman?

lol Savage Comment

Common Dude - Put your best foot forward ! There must be others that can fill this position. He isn't fit for office. You guys laughed at Biden. He will be the laughing stock - Unless you install a lift in the airplane, this is a disaster waiting to happen.

This is a fun topic ! I had to dig deep to find this short story.

Well, I had been dating this lady from my days as a corper in Auchi. To back up the story, we met at the NYSC camp in Benin and had our fling. It was just pure physical. I remember us jumping over the fence multiple times to a nearby lodge and just going at it like dogs in heat, again and again and again . After the 2 weeks, we said our good byes and departed - She was posted past the way to where I was ( Igarra) and I was in Auchi. She said its close, I couldn't care less but said I would miss her . She was from Benin whilst I hadn't left Lagos since I was born. As luck who have it, her bus broke down on the way and the whole contingent about 10 others sought shelter in the Auchi Corpers Lodge for the night. Immediately she saw me, she informed her friends, " I don find the bed i go sleep tonite o " She immediately showered and the whoopie started. After that encounter, I got her phone number and address. She asked that I call before coming. I however decided to surprise her ( Now, what usually happens is that you go to camp with basic necessity, report to your posting, return to your home base, say your final goodbyes to your family and return to your posting with your belongings) So on my way home to Lagos, I arrived at Benin late , on purpose and as an excuse ( for those of you who know the Benin -Lagos road most drivers do not attempt to drive that late. circa 2005 ) to visit my fling . Low and behold, I was not prepared for what i saw.

I would say Guess what ? But here it is She was married with a 2 year old baby. I had travelled 132km's for some kitten but left empty handed.

HA ! Let's restore Nigeria's former glory
Lets rejuvenate the days of NCNC - National Council of Nigerians and the Camerouns
Lets Invade Cameroun !

Pregift:
Promises made during sex are usually not kept bcs they were made during the heat of pleasure and passion. So many women make promises to their husbands during sex such as I will never disrespect you again, anything you tell me I will do. After they cum that's the end.

Nice to read a lady’s perspective.
I don’t make New Year resolution so I don’t expect promises to be kept

perambulator:
I mentioned it a few weeks ago that he suffers from an illness but i deliberately will not reveal it but now that Reno has come out, Tinubu has Parkinsons disease, I was told this a few months ago, those in the know know.


Bottom line is, If the party decide to field him, he will win Parkinson or no Parkinson! In fact his ilness might play into the hands of those who may calculate that he will be incapacitated in office and forced to hand over to his VP!!

I agree with your assessment.
Why must his first mandate be about his health - Yaradua, Bukahi . And so will Tinubu. We have seen no such videos of Atiku or others. Let Tinubu nominate someone else.

Is Bola Tinubu the only candidate we can present as President ? I mean the videos doesn’t lie. As much as we all thought MKO Abiola would be president. It wasn’t in the cards and so it isn’t for Chief Tinubu.
Let his Medical Adviser confirm on National TV that Tinubu is fit for office.

Kuriosmynd:
In our world of today, young ladies feel the world owes them diamond, while ladies above 28 feel they are now a renewed virtuos woman, whose past has been erased, that they should be taken seriously. Unfortunately your past is part of you.
You see, when trying to date most ladies below 25, you realise they are so materialistic, entitled, and unreasonable without plan for future...But by the time they are getting around 28 and above they want we all to take them serious..like worship them and give them engagement ring within the shortest possible time of dating.. otherwise you become the scum.
To me, it's unfair for a young man with fairly promising future or who is just beginning to make good cash for himself to take those old ladies serious in relationship for marriage.
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What did they do with their period of excess, when guys were tripping over just to call and date them...I feel this is particularly more relevant for pretty or endowed ladies.
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I don't care how beautiful they look or how successful, once a single lady is on that panic mode years of husband consciousness, I don't feel pity or need to play into their game of manipulating one to engage them.
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Young men too deserve brand new, or unspoiled woman with less baggage.
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Men should stop marrying those old ladies...we shouldnt normalise the idea of marrying a woman after wasting her youthful age in frivolities and debauchery.

Not sure why a lady hasn't taken the time to respond to this and tear it to shreds.
Age is nothing but a number. It's really about how you feel on the inside.
Not all ladies waste their youthful age - And even if they do, they do it with whom ? Its a dude.
Just last week someone posted a thread where she was suing her b/f of 8 years for wasting her time and quitting the relationship.
It is a man who will complain that the woman isn't "putting out" and when she tries and preserve herself for marriage , you will call her all sorts of names.
You want to marry an older lady, they are matured and don't have time to fool around. Most of the are successful -( Money, house and Cars) and were working on furthering their career before children come into the picture. They will do anything to keep the marriage and relationship spicy.
Nothing wrong with marrying a younger lady - Just keep your options open.
If you haven't met cougars or matured women - change your friends and mindset.

AbijaJ:
I wonder what part of Africa these mercenaries were operating in.

Let me guess Boko Haran ?

doctokwus:
Makes sense.
I always doubted and just couldn't believe flogging could have caused the death of that child and I said as much.
Many kids in Nigeria are flogged,even more severely than that baby was,yet survived to tell the tale.
I also voiced out concern that we must do some serious soul searching in this country if 2 hospitals,including and particularly a teaching hospital (DELSUTH) could manage a child flogged in their facilities and yet that child died.
The challenge now is finding out if the baby sustained any injury during the time he was flogged,just as Oromoni junior had an ankle injury,that wasn't managed and caused sepsis.If he did then it could be that the wound caused by the flogging was the originating cause of the septic infection and poor medical management as the contributing factor.
But if there was no noted external injury during the autopsy,then the flogging had no part at all to do with his death and that teacher should be discharged.
We must always open our minds,rely on facts and not allow emotions cloud our judgements,lest we punish innocent people for crimes or deaths they had no role in.

Apologies from being Rude - But you are stupid and a degenerate.
This is a baby for crying out loud not a toddler ( kid) . Someone that can barely walk , talk and potty trained. That can't even put on his clothes. Can't feed themselves or explain their behaviour. And you are suggesting that we find out " if the baby sustained any injury during the time he was flogged " ? - You must have been dropped on the head as a kid.
The parents put this baby's life in a teacher's hands - You are to impact knowledge .
I would sue and prove Manslaughter.

Septic shock or not.
The Issue I have is why is a teacher "flogging" a 19month baby ? ( Whatever the excuse, I don't want to hear it )
I am so furious and angry, I feel like reaching through the screen and strangling the teacher.
A baby that can hardly walk and talk .
I hope the teacher is locked up and keys thrown away. He is not fit to live among humans.

Solofresh2:
Such a bitch
Why is she covering her fallen olimpus

Let's see yours ?

blamingthedevil:
Fake News... Putin boy

Exactly and how we was able to gather 100+ likes is frightening.

Karemarealty288:
This is why I love Nairaland political analysts....

Some history here…
Do you realize that in 1991 Ukraine when they split from USSR had the 3rd largest stockpile behind US and Russia.
Those 2 provided security guarantees that there will come to Ukraine aid if and when attacked. And so Ukraine agreed to destroy their stockpile. Who’s breaking their agreement ?
From 2010-2014 Putin installed his puppet in Ukraine - Yanukovych ( something you conveniently avoided to mention )
He was removed during the Orange Revolution.
There was a president from 2014-2019. Ukraine needed funds from US for defence weapons - Trump ( Russian Stooge) withhold funds for 6 months because he wanted dirt on Biden.
The people elect this current president who favours democratic institutions and now he’s a US pupit.
No matter that Russian issues are Ukraine have not bombed Russia or sent secret incursions into the Russia.
I want for Russia to invade a NATO country and let’s see how he would like the dance. All he has done is make countries want to join NATO or spend more on their defence capabilities .
These are actions of a bully - why couldn’t he apply sanctions like US have done to Cuba , Venezuela and other countries . Armed conflict are actions of a bully

Truthisunique2:
Putin don dey beg China to speak Against sanction on his behalf

If Ukraine is a sovereign state then it has its right to determine who it alligns with

Swallow your pride and woo Ukraine, everything no be force

Perfectly said !
They Ukraine have every right as a sovereign state to ally to whomever they want. You ( Russia) have proven to be a bully and reason why they don’t want you as ally. Democracy May be flawed by why would you choose Dictatorship as an alternative ( China + Russia) .
The fact that you have serious security concerns does not give you the right to invade and occupy a country.
I Dare you Putin to Attack a NATO allied country and you’ll get the war you have been itching for.

MadamExcellency:
Leave sexual harassment on the loose? Who does that?

We don hear.

Maybe I have become liberal in my thinking but I have learnt that a lady showing her boobs does not mean that I can touch . Its her body and she can do whatever she likes with it. There are just too many this that need addressing that having a lecturer check that you are wearing a bra is just meh ! If it were a femail lecturer but 100% this is a dude.

tonididdy:
Are you saying Putin is a coward?
No matter how you paint the West, their true colors is unveiling before the world.
You say the reason for Iraq invasion was because of 911,a war we all know clearly was fought by the US and "forced" Iraqi forces .
They got their target many years ago (Osama), did they leave?
All I want in the world is for power to shift hands. Let it be centralised, Europe has licked too much of Western axx.

Yep, he is bully and a coward.
They didnt get their target with Bush remember Obama finished off the job.
Europe would rather be a democratic than dictator which seems to be path the EAST is China, Russia, Japan.
Why must Power change hands - This isnt MFM

Frank2021:
Good morning guys, please I am a confused situation. I have a girlfriend but her attitude towards me can really be annoying so I met another girl and she has another guy who wants to marry her but she is not ready for him because of his fetish background.

She tells me everything, I lied to her that my girlfriend and I are no longer in contact and she believes me. She comes to my house so do I, she cooks and we eat but I never tell her that I have feelings for her because I don't know how she will see it because she is still dating the other guy.

Yesterday she came to my house in the morning, we are watching film and she slept off in my bed.

To my out most surprise because I talk with my girlfriend early she told me she was going home from school, so I text to her on WhatsApp that I cant wait to see her not knowing she mistook it to "I have something for you" omo this girl come to my house by surprise, I was dumbfounded when she saw the girl on my bed sleeping, she continued watching the movie on my laptop. I was so tensed I was sweating, the other girl woke up and saw her. She prepares and left.

My girlfriend was angry. I tried to convince her that nothing is happening between us she said no problem but inside me she is not happy, i later called the other girl she didn't pick my calls. Please what should I do because I am confused. My girlfriend said the day I visit her and see another guy laying on the bed that I should know how it feels.

You forgot the song by Shaggy ! It wasn't me

BigTableShaker:
Well said, but I'm standing with Ukraine.
No matter how the Russ obliterate Kiev, there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel.

So am I bro... So am I

tonididdy:
Go brush up your history kid.
Go read of why and how the US crippled Cuba till date!
As for your claim, unlike Ukraine, Mexico will not even speak to Russia let alone agree to such suicidal plans.

Since you know a lot Dad ! Has it worked ? Their Crippling Sanctions since 1960 ? Or is your Alzheimer's kicking in ?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_embargo_against_Cuba#:~:text=The%20United%20States%20embargo%20against,trade%20embargo%20in%20modern%20history.


The argument isn't if they will argue but if a sovereign country has the right to do what they want and trade with whomever.

VEHINTOLAR:
What exactly do you guys think Donald Trump would have done ? You're all jokers if you have that faintest idea that Trump would have sent in American soldiers to defend Ukraine ! Ni bo nbe ?! Perhaps,some of you did not know or must have forgotten that Trump made spirited efforts to pull United States out of NATO ! You all need to be reminded that Putin and Trump were quite close and had cordial relationships while the latter's administration lasted. Have you all forgotten so quickly that the Democrats accused Russia's Putin of meddling in the electoral process that saw Trump emerging as the President of the United States ? Trump is a reasonable person that would never commit or risk the lives of American soldiers in a war that's not winnable. A war between the U S and Russia is not a winnable war for either side and that's a fact !

If Trump was still in the White House,Russia would not have attacked Ukraine because Trump would have talked to Zelenskky to bury the idea of ever wanting to join NATO. Trump would consider whatever that's happening between Russia and Ukraine as strictly "internal affairs" of two Slav's brothers and would not meddle in it. Putin would have achieved all his objectives as regard Ukraine without firing a shot !

You all need to understand that Russia is not Iran,Iraq,Libya or Afghanistan. It is a country with tremendous military capabilities and capacities. Putin can only be stopped from within ( by the Russians ) ; no external threats can deter him from achieving his set objectives in Ukraine.

I agree with all your points but the last one.
He wouldn't attack Germany or a NATO country without consequences. That is why the US has troops in Germany . Recall the France foreign minister just reminded PUTIN that NATO countries also have Nuclear weapons.
US has always been Isolated, I mean we are across the Atlantic ocean, we will see the weapons coming and retaliate. Going back to WW2, but for Japan bombing Hawaii, US were not going to be drawn into the Euro theatre of war, Churchill came to ask for help, the US just sent money but when Japan did the unthinkable - US congress unanimous passed the vote and till today they still commemorate the bombing of those 2 cities in Japan.
This is where the UN ought to show their muscle. Plus, once resistance fighters are set in Ukraine, weapons and financial aid from US will assist them. Russia is not a democracy but dictatorship - So all internal squabbles are being squashed as we speak. ( Do you think Nigerians toppled Abacha or IBB nope, It was God's grace that killed one and made the other to pass power )