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I use to admire a girl named TOYOSI20 who was here on Nairaland as far back as 2008. . . I was so in love I cried when she stopped coming online[/quote]DAYOKANU'S WOMAN.....he stopped her from coming online.

agabaI23: Odunnu(not sure it is a secret)
hbabe(taken)

And what about HOURGLASS?

Hey guys, how are we all doing....my motivation for this week is low because of my job, have been short-staffed so am doing more than my regular routines, nevertheless, am still fighting the good fight.

logs for tuesday 30 minutes cardio, it was not so great only because i felt i did not burn enough calories as i would have expected.


Yesterday....was too tired for any cardio, work was stressful for me so i resulted to doing 40 minutes yoga, i was stecthing and all those tight joints, loosened up.

Am hoping will have the strength to jump around today, will do somethings with the dumbells.... Hope to see you all tomorrow through my computer, love ya all!!!!!

taryour: chie!!! madam ronke,dat kegal wey u teach me sef,i still dey gbadun am 24 7. Na u beco.

Now i will teach you how to 'milk him' when he is about to pour' infact!!!! he will just lie flat and will not be able to stand up when you are done....that one, shaa! is for another day ....am glad you are enjoying the kegel thingy, but that enjoyment should be more for him.

taryour: eeewooo, u women don corrupt me oo. Lol

Yes oooo and i mean to the 'gagging point"

armyofone: i can't imagine having that in one's mouth.

the thot of swimming tadpoles alone, you should see them jumping in the microscope. i saw one the tail cut off, some disfiqured.
miraclous!

You will, unknowingly though; when the time comes, at least that should be on your resume of bedmatology

Agiboma....really i have been following your advice on this thread, and my question is 'really'??

armyofone: maybe nasal congestion
you no fit draw plenty for ya side and smell am ni?

abeg do and tell us. me sef wan know so that i fit keep my oga to be under check
i go just put funnel for my nose to absorb am.

Don't worry i will check tonight, to know what it smells like,...i can tell you the taste though!!!! salty!! FYI

kilimanjaro: This reminds of a guy that boldly said he wears a pant for a week. When asked why, he said - "aha, the thing no dey dirty now".

LMAO ..............THIS is so funny!!!!!! OMG!!!!! some people are carzy.....

How does sper.m.. smell abeg i don't know how it smells oooo, abi i have smelling issues ni?

Hmmmmmm!!!!! oga oooooo!!!!

jason123: My woman, we are all humans. As humans, we have emotions; happiness and sadness, joy and sorrow, laughter and anger.

Now, anger is divided into two: 1) Implosive anger and explosive anger.

I'll advise you to appreciate a man that has explosive anger rather implosive anger.
The women who get killed by their husbands is due to implosive anger. They kept the anger bottled up and in one day, they let it all out and do crazy things.

Explosive anger is done by shouting. You need to let out the steam in one way or the other! Shouting is definitely better than violence or keeping quiet!

We have to be pragmatic with these situations. He is human and he exhibits his emotions and pains in the right way for her to get the message.

But because we men also love our women, we feel their hurt. Therefore, we apologize as soon as we realize that our woman is not happy. A happy wife is a happy home!

You are right Jason, but whether implosive or explosive, 'shouting' unnecessarily is a 'behaviour' that was acquired over time and has become part of the "shouter" (if english will permit me to use that word), now the "shoutee" is receiving different signals from that behaviour, i think as matured people we should learn to control our emotions, doing that separates us from animals. Especially when you are talking to your spouse. As a human being that also has an 'explosive emotional make-up" i don't expect anyone to shout at me if you are not my parents, that 'shout' can bring out the beast in me.

I love this thread!!!!!infact, it shows that not all 'nigerian-men' are the same.

^^^^^^^^^ why should he shout in the first place, is he in the zoo? that 'being quiet' until he calms down, works definitely but such attitude will never cease, he will always shout and end up apologising. why shout then?

ijebabe: LMFAO! What a cheapo! Common cornflakes! LOL! How will she even start to tell people the story of her breakup

I know!!! right!!!, the worst part is that she does not even eat cornflakes, she only buys it for decor, that was when we were back in school, she said she was stepping on me so that i will understand the scope, common now!!! really? i can never understand that type of scope. , i just spoil the whole show for her oooo.

taryour: madam ronke its been very long my hubby got angry with me cos i av learnt not to get him get him angry anymore. And pls my hubby does not rant. Tnx ma

Ok, i did not use 'rant' in a derogatory way, i just equated his anger with how the words will be coming out of him, there is no way you can talk or advice in a subtle tone when you are angry. Oh well!!! i get the he does not get angry anylonger part, but i still wondered what you did that made him that angry.

It is not that people or marraiges do not go through rough edges, we all go through marital problems, but there are different levels of problems. In my home, we correct with respect, my hubby cannot shout at me, i can never shout at him, no matter how angry i am, 'i take a deep breath, then say, you know! you should not have dropped this here or there', and let me tell you, that,'notshouting thing did not just happen in one day, my hubby is very demanding, but God gave him a wahala woman, so we are rubbing off eachothers' ego. He knows better than to shout at me all in the name of "correction". Then to say as if shouting is not bad-enough, then you will add kpankere ontop? HMmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!

taryour: my God am loving this.

@op. Let me teach wot works for my family. Eact time my hubby is mad at me, i simply keep qiute,listen to him,say less,pretend am not angry,at d end i apologise even it am not wrong. All d while i was quite i was takin good note of all d complains so i dont repeat them. I cant stand my hubby anger so dats wot ido,i predend am not angry cos i also av a bad temper,now imnagine i reply or argue wen he is angry n corecting me,ofcourse he will get more angry more n my own added to it will simply bring down d roof on my head and i will eventualy get more bitter. If dis should go on in a marriage will destroy d love n peace i dat home. So i av learnt to keep quite,listen,takenote of his point,pretend am not angry.
Ater his anger must av gone down,he is more relaxed after a warm bath,i serve him his meal. After eating i bring up a joke or we plane our ps2 together, while d joke is on i simply in a very humble n respectable way ask him " baby dont u thgink u were to harsh on me wen u were angry ?" while i say this,i watch out for d expression on his face,if i read any signs of anger coming up again,i keep quite n change topic. D rest will b solved inside d bedroom on our bed as usual. Some times i dont even raise d issue untill he goes out,then ui invite him for a chat were we iron it out online cos we chat alot. We as women could make our man apologise to us even if they did not ofend us. I can proudly say since i got married,i an never shouted ,argue,talk back e,t.c at my hubby n it as realy help me. D onky pple dat feelk my anger are those outside my home.

Tayour i really do not know what you do to your hubby that makes him so mad to the point that he would start to rant on you, why you keep quiet and listen? i am trying to think, the only time i can see my hubby displaying is when i bring a man home to our matrimonial bed or steal his money to go and build a house in lekki< or else i really can't remember my hubby shouting at me as if i was a little child.

taryour: ronke don kill me with laff today ooo.
But madam dont o tink dat would anger him more,n dont forget he is alot more stonger,d more she fight back d more she gets beating. Wot is she dies ( God forbid) in d procces

Oh so you have not seen where women beat their hubbys' to coma right? my dear, they are many outside, some of these men with their bragodo, get flogged by a woman and not all men are stronger than the women. At least even if she does not win the fight, she can match up to him. It is nonsense to be receiving beatings from a man who is supposed to be your husband and not a father!!!.Any woman that receives a slap from a man and stands there quiet, is digging her grave, small-small.

This money issue, is what is still causing misunderstandings between my dad and mum, my dad feels he needs to know the in and out of my mum's money and she is like; No!!! you can't know what i earn and how i spend my money.

That is their own wahala, i don't hide what i earn from my hubby, he knows how i spend my money and not that he cares a bit, at least when it comes to money, we are open to eachother, that will be '-1' of marital problems.

I do not think any woman should hide her earnings from her hubby,only for reasons that might affect their pockets, example, if the guy is a compulsive gambler, a drunk, a sex addict (who loves to visit brotels), and so on and so forth, apart from these reasons, i really do not see any other reason a woman will be financially stingy to her hubby.

I had a friend who lost her boyfriend over a pack of cornflakes,can you believe that? the guy came over to her place and wanted to have some, and she lied to him that it was mine, as God would have it, i was actually going to her room at the same time she said no to that guy, on getting there, the guy asked me if he could drink some, (meanwhile my friend was stepping on me) and i innocently removed my feet and said the cornflakes was not mine but hers' and i was looking at her, like 'why would you say it was mine, the guy got up and never came back, who knows if he was just testing her. Well, i felt bad afterwards, not for me though, but for her.

[quote author=Hour_Glass]@all, two news

First news
I started my week 4 today in my running plan. It was quite demanding running for 3 mins and walking for 2 mins all for 25 mins, the challenge was in running for 3 mins at a stretch between 7-8km/hr. Right now I can say am running for endurance and not for speed (I will surely grow into it). Am enjoying every bit of this challenge and eating well. The lady trainer told me am weighing in at the end of the month (am so waiting,hoping I won't be disappointed), lol.

Second news
Resumed back to work after 20 working days leave today, and the comments went gaga. I need to tell you this, compliments in my dictionary is flattery except if it comes from someone who is not really fond of me. So today, I tend to regard the comments and reactions of haters today more than my friends/lovers. One of dem haters said, "I am going for my own leave sooner than I expected", 2nd "lemme check your cheeks *she kept checking for almost a minute* nothing really different only fresher", one could not afford to even answer my greeting, oh I loved all these (am I strange?). If I had resumed looking like a sack of garri, they would have been around me jeering and later finish their mama for back. I am really happy with myself and my body and that is what matters for now.

Week 4 am hereeeeeeee!!!!![/quote]MY DEAR that is so great, am so happy for you....infact my heart is beating for you ooooo inregards to the weighing, but am sure you would have lost close to 5 pounds with all the exercises and training. i am keeping my fingers crossed for you....you need to see me when i try to weigh at the end of each week, i will be praying and doing the sign of the cross to weigh.... i so cannot wait to reach my goals and just keep fit with my subsequent exercises.

Hello everyone how are we??

@ HG, that signature was not easy ooo, some people were making me go gaga, so i had to let them know say, i am not 100% a good girl oooo, they should not have the wrong ideas at all...just trying to be better!!!.

@Uche, i do a little bit of everything oooo, i get bored esaily doing the same thing over and over again, so i try to change things up, a little bit of dance routines, yoga, pilates, core strengthening, cardio, so i do pretty much every...

@ Logs for friday 2 hours muscle tone, i was lifting and dropping, pushing and pulling....it really helped me.

No exercise for saturday and sunday, had enough on friday for the whole weekend.

logs for yesterday 30 minutes total body cardio....was sweaty.....but it was great.

@ Poster...just invest in a 'karate school" and learn how to fight.....when you are ready, take your kids away from the home,as in keep them away form the boxing arena,. get gloves and nice sneakers, and both of you should fight wella....when you do this for the next three fights beating his arse too, he will stop beating you, violent men only know one langauge, 'violence"!!!!!!!!!. No matter how submuissive you are, you will still receive slap for forgetting to put water on the table for him to wash his hands.

^^^^^^ I love that Jenny,

NL is not enough, if i should start saying what i have gotten away with in my marraige that i know, other men with krace will not take, i always Thank God, my hubby is very hot-headed too oooo, but krace dey bow for krace, moreso, he is not given to violence, i will just stay in one corner and vent and will want to keep marlice, trust my hubby not to allow that marlice to take place, that is when i will be angrier even the more.... i love to always have my space once am angry, and he won't give me that space ooo, i won't have a choice than to just calm down by force by fire and we will laugh over the whole wahala i just caused.

jennykadry: Lol @ richy. I trust you to show up. Oloshi. A man held me to calm me down for 2 minutes lest I throw a heavy bedside lamp with glass at him and you are here saying assault, do you know how many times I out of anger tried to throw deadly weapon at him? Just because I did not get my way? Haaaa bless the first year of my marriage, no dull moment in that house. Do you know how many times he just grabbed me and held me so tight so tey I no fit move until he see say my breathing don cam down before he release me and waka? Define assault, lmao Nigerians and their illiterate brain. The more reason why I love that man to death, men like the posters foolish husband might have given in and slapped me one or beaten me blue black but the dude who went for anger management one off class with me, took the advise he was told there and practiced it and it worked, so sweetie it is legal. Abeg make I hear word, the smart dude calculated the distance from his location to the door and see say if he rushes for the door he might not make it alive hence his second option. God punish the man that will physically fling me on the bed like the OP or hit me, slap me or even shout at me in our house, e go hear am.That day you go bail yourself for jail.

Women do not allow men manhandle you oooo. Speak up and kick any mans azz that abuses you, else you will all end up like titi and OGO. Women that get punched everyday and beaten blue black do not deserve the eediots that do that to them. My mum was never hit by my father and she told me never to allow that happen in my house and so far I bless God for the real born again Christian he blessed me with. A man that will rather walk out of the house than stay one minute to forget slaps on my face.

Lol@dayo

JENNY TWO OF US NO FIT LIVE FOR THE SAME HOUSE, WE GO BREAK THINGS TIRE!!!!

meetmeonline: Can you use a hired wedding gown on that day?

Can you use an old bouquet for it?

Will you accept to have your wedding reception in the premises of an old government school?

Will you say “yes I do” to a guy of only 26yrs who believes in early marriage but earns only N50,000 at the moment?

If he plans a “family-only” traditional wedding and a low-key church wedding (just to start this journey on time) will you go on with him?

Hi ladies, please air ONLY your “SINCERE VIEWS” on this…put your current condition and experience in finance, education, exposure, age and belief to test on the above and tell every one what you think

Hello guys, let the girls say their mind shhhhhhhh don’t blast anyone back please!

My dear before marraige, i would have said No to all the questions, after the wedding, it is yes, was so angry that i spent so much money for 1 day.

- if you have money for a new dress, you can buy 1 if you don't, rent it, big deal....who will know you rented it.??

- i don't know how expensive bouquet are, mine wasn't that expensive, i used the artificial ones, go to the market and select N50.00 worth of flowers, join them together and yeah!!! there you go!! you have a bouquet.

- I paid a lot of money for the hall i used, all for what please use that school oooo and that is if you don't have money for a hall, even if you do, don't waste it. Get good decorators and nice chairs and canopies, you will be so surprised how everything will turn out well.

- Now do you work? your salary will compliment that of your husbands' to be, all you have to do is cut your coat according to your cloth and with time everything will ease out. Now if you don't have an income, i don't know how you both will survive with 50,000 naira. Well i guess some people don't earn up to that and still survive, it depends on how you want your future to look like. There is no rush in marraige, because you have the rest of your lives to spend together.

i WANT TO SELL MY WEDDING GOWN....IT IS JUSTING SITTING IN MY WARDROBE, I PAID HANDSOMELY FOR THAT DRESS AND WILL BE WILLING TO SELL IT AT HALF THE PRICE I BOUGHT IT. I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT I CAN DO WITH IT LATER INLIFE IF I DON'T SELL IT. AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY IT IS A VERY BEAUTIFUL DRESS. SO FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT BE INTERESTED, INDICATE YOUR INTEREST AND I WILL TELL YOU HOW WE CAN GET INTOUCH. I REALLY REALLY NEED TO SELL THE DRESS PLEASE....SOMEONE!!! ANYONE!!!!