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Hey guys, how are we all doing?, i can see we are all making progress!!!!
@ HG, good workouts there.wish you luck.

Logs for wednessday, 30 minutes total body workout and 25 minutes pilates.

logs for yesterday; 30 minutes extreme cardio burn with kick boxing routines.



Everyone please have a lovely weekend.

lastpage: [b]Why to an extent? [/b]Are you saying you are naturally disrespectful of people, .....for no reason?
What kind of "tasteless joke" is this? Who are you warning? Me? My wife?

(Anyway, Shakes head and moves on )

Lastpage!

I can see you take offense at evrything i say....if you think you are too old for this NL and people cannot joke with you again, please open up "old men Forum" by the way- i wonder what my dad would be doing on a forum like this??

And i do not disrespect anybody.....if no one insults or disrespects me it will be odd and silly of me to throw the first insults.

So!! why not to 'an extent'? do we know eachother? as far as i know, you could be 19 and claim 50 behind the computer, this is a faceless forum remember

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ No guy worths my extra time on NL....what will i do with e-boyfriends that one trouser is longer than one, with dirty singlets and dusty sneakers!!!! hmmm??

lastpage: You are very funny, dayokanu!
Not in this world or another, you need to see me in real life to debunk that joke! (no offense at her)
l have outgrown such "business" and handed it over to my son (he is probably doing exactly that at this moment)

See, l noticed the back and forth between her and my wife (we post on just his single i.d) and advised her to ignore the rant as she is obviously more matured, "life-wise" and she concurred and has not commented since then.
So,l was very miffed when l posted a comment on another entirely different Topic and without invitation, she trolled-in, quoted me and then made that "Eeyaah"; just that!
She could just have ignored my post as it was directed "@Carssa" and in no way inviting her response, you know what l mean?

Anyway, l get your drift as per the humor, l will pass it on "appropriately"

Lastpage!

Eeeyah,,,wahlai i am a spirit, you know that night, i wanted to comeback to say that was 'lastpage's wife', but my hubby was looking at me with one eye, i just logged out fast! fast!!, i know last page will not always throw the first insult....and i will not insult his wife, because i respect lastpage to an extent, but that should be a warning., that does not mean i will stop saying 'eeyah'' at your post...... whether you all like it or not. And stop denying me as if you are not my Aristo......don't save face because your wife is watching your every move....

Am suprised we are still here trying to justify what the hubby and his sister have done. I naratted the whole scenerio to my hubby at home and asked him what his take on the whole thing was, his replies were in 2 sentences

1. women should not marry a man for marrying sake.

2. A woman should marry a man she knows has a quality of a protector in him (exactly in his own words). and that was all the reply i needed.

Roki,...this is a simple thing.

tell him you have heard. and full your system with birth control pills, when you are ready...then stop taking it and continue your kpekusing, as long as he does not see it. infact go for 'mirena' and remove it when you are ready...nobody we know nothing. You are a woman, solve your problems without raising an eyebrow..

@ Poster, what advice do you think people can give you?

Because you are scared of loneliness, you do not want to make a decision you will regret and you don't want to be sexually starved.

We have people that married older men and are having fun in their marraiges. just weigh what you will gain and loose, if you take any decision, and that should help you. But know that everything has it's own consequences whether good or bad, and don't be afraid to launch or take a step because of the fear of the unknown.

armyofone: Ronke, haha so funny. By the way, i saw ya spark last week. Kai! i was like wetin ya oga allow you drink
wey come catch you like that
dem don lock that fire on the mountain thread sha

My dear no mind me ooooo, na bi-polar self was at work that day.....Once she comes on she no dey gree oooo, especially when someone throws insult at her first....Ronkelu would nod, smile and take it in, but Ronkeshi, for where? if not some of my better people pinged me and sent me e-mails, i for show them say i fit do this kain thing for a whole month and will not be tired. My hubby does not have an idea of what goes on, on NL oooo, i bet if he did, he would have banned me from NL.

THE WHOLE HAIR ON MY BODY IS STANDING UP.....thank God you did not put a picture here. God forbid bad thing.

chaircover: Im fining her 2 LV handbags

OMG!!!!! SEE proper wobia, 2 lv and 1 gucci, really >? nO problem infact i will add chanel ontop.

armyofone: i was missing that moremi ajasoro omo oriki then suddenly Suzan!
welcome back and hope your guys don't catch you. where is Saga sef.
i like the way you fight wifey beaters keep it up pal.

[s]but come to think of it, he might have been using another moniker[/s]


where do one sign up to join the cabal
who do i consult, jenny, ronkelus, BB or tani now?
you all doing a great job moving millenial women forward

Don't worry Armyofcabal....we need a soldier in this club....i will ping you the full details.

^^^^^^ Feminine A, i agree with majority of what you have said. But the issue of allowing anybody to go into my pot of stew or soup is out of the question, personally i will not say anything if she did, but it is very disrespectful for someone to just work into my kitchen, open my pots and start to dish out food, and giving me attitude while doing it. Omo, even my sisters are properly trained to want to get permission from me, infact all they will say is "sister mi, come and dish out my food ooo, am hungry" and i will tell them "" go and take it yourself". it just shows respect, not for me alone but also for my husband.

I also think she should tell her people, her hubby and sisters need to understand that she has family too that can have her back in a situation like this.The hubby needs to be jolted back into reality.

Bobajo: So the fact of a man impregnating another girl make him irresponsible? I dont understand that kind of logic. MKO is irresponsible? Alhaji Bakare of the Ojomu Chieftaincy Family is irresponsible? I can mention several, and all of the ones i know provided for their families excellently (including even extended family). Underline the word excellently please.

I had a girlfriend while i was in the University, a beautiful half fulani girl who told me, with all seriousness, that her life's ambition later in life is to be the first of 4 wives, and boss all the junior wives around. The thought of her being an only wife has never even occurred to her based on her upbringing.

It is all relative madam. 'Bi a ti nse nibi, eewo ibo mi'. And impregnating somebody else can never ever be equated to being irresponsible.

There is a big difference beween what A wants and what B wants, the Fulani lady has already carved her future around several wives and am sure she is a muslim. islam allows a man to marry more than 1 wife.Now in the case of a christain marraige where a man is allowed to marry only one wife at a time, and the agreement from Adam between the couples is be together for "better for worst" with the latter being 'childlessness' in the case of the poster and that is for now!, no one says she can never have babies again in life.

I want you to tell me what is responsible in the case of the poster's husband and the way he went about the whole thing.??

Just so you know!!!, impregnating another lady outside our 'marital vows' is the height of irresponsibilty. how would you feel about a wifethat has been committing adultery or has decided to bring another man's child home to her husband? what do you call that? is that not also the irresponsibilty? I just want us to be fair in all our arguements.

^^^^^Lol...........

stillwater: Don't apologize, you would only be feeding his ego if you do so. You have to deal with the domestic violence issue first before any reconciliation. Do not joke with domestic violence, he's started a pattern, better deal with it now. Make a lot of noise over it,do not keep quiet about it, he probably doesn't want people to speculate his wife is being abused, that's why there were no punches. . .yet. All the families must meet. After that, you can begin talks about apologizing and reconciliation.

thank you stillwater!!! see me see trouble.

Jenny lets even leave the hubby out of this matter because they will end up settling it with sex, moreso he is not wise enough to be able to balance the conflict... It is those sisters of his, infact (i dey shake my whole body. really my junior for that matter, as in the poster is older than them sef!!!!Anyways, they know they can try that with the poster and get away with it, some of these sister-in-laws' know how to pick their battles and whom to fight with.

jennykadry: Listen to me(I still need your answers to my questions) but sit your husband down and talk to him, order him to stop being silly else the next time he handles you the way he handled you the previous night, he will have to eat sand and garri to see his child again.

Don't you have sisters that can come to your house and throw those girls out? what is this? why are you acting so soft? they declared war on you the minute they decided to wanno take over your child. FIGHT BACK DAMMIT

Jenny i tire oooooo.!!!!!!

Wonders shall never end....i wonder why i do not see all this nonsense?

Hmmmmm!!! in my own house, my own food, my own bed?? Above all my own BABY?...hmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!! wahala go dey sleep, iyanga and stupidity will wake the trouble up....

i don't have beef with the hubby oooo, but that sister will see wenh!!!!

ifyalways: ^i thought he was behind the "neyotisca" Id

Oh no!!! they are two different people with different personalities and point of views.

moremi2008: Who wan jail me for this land?!!

*beats chest and roars*

Things got a bit busy and hectic so I took a break. I would come in here occasionally to see what's up but the template change really pissed me off so I didn't reply threads. How have you been, madam? Still seducing your husband with ponmo and sexy alanta dance?

...you already know!!! (**winks**) everly keeping my corner!!!....there must be no crack on my walls no time and patience for unnecessary alangbas'...

@ Poster, nice one....God bless you!!!Majority of Nigerian men need to be taught and brought up in the right-way..i think they do not know what their role in marraige is. I really do not want to blow my trumpet, but i married one of a kind, my hubby is so matured, so understanding, so accomodating, so LOVING, he has his own wahala ooo, but i think his parents did a fantastic job even though he is an orphan now, i don't think his parents would regret giving birth to him.

I have another friend, who confided in me and said Ronkeshi, "my husband is the best thing that has ever happened to me", they have been married for 7 years now, she has two kids (a boy and a girl) and this lady so much respects and loves this man....

I have another friend, who said she wakes up every morning kneeling down to greet her hubby and say " thank you for being the loving and caring person, thank you for being my hubby" (when she told me, i could not fathom it, i tried to picture the whole thing but i just couldn't understand) it dawned on me later that the men definitely would have done or are doing something good to the point that the women could boast about it in a very humble way.

Now do not get me started on others that are nothing to write home about.

wow!!!! my relaxing lounge ( that is what this thread is to me)

how is everybody, i see we have alot of followers and newbies, am glad, welcome aboard everyone....

@ Carlosdoipip..thank you for the eye opener that is a great post.

@freshface....i enevy you ooo, in a good way though!!! just as Babs2011 has sadi, you need to increase your calorie intake more, remember just breastfeeding alone, helps you burn some calories,the more food you eat, the more calories your body will burn.

@ Babs2011 longtime dear...glad you are still going on strong.

Logs for monday; 45 minutes total body workout with Chris Feytag.that lady is a silent killer.

logs for yesterday...30 minutes pilates with Addriene, please guys, for those looking to have a flatter tommy and nice abs, incorporate pilates, do it everyday for 8 weeks, you will see the difference.it works.

Am so afraid to go shopping for lesser sizes, i am cofused, my pants and skirts are beginning to fit too loose on me. Actually am waiting till it starts to drop by itself . i hope we all have a lovely day.
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jennykadry: They both crack me up.

I am just seeing Sisi-kills' remark.....don't mind me and Lastpage jare!!....e never see anything yet!!!

Bobajo: I am sincerely happy for your Uncle who had twins after 14 years. I pray for your Aunt who has been married for 10 years that God will answer her quickly. I applaud the spouses in both cases. But this is the problem; you are assuming that every man will be like your uncle, or your aunty's husband? That my dear is unrealistic and unachievable. Without barrenness of any sort in any wife, my grandfather had 56 children from 26 women, and honestly, i still have not met any of his direct male children (the ones i know) who has children from only one woman. Cultures differ madam. People have totally different standards. Some of the things you consider abnormal 'ti di baraku fun awon enikan'.

You are right BOBAJO, no two people can be exactly alike, just pointing out that there are still men out there, who are responsible and will take the feelings of their wives into consideration, and that is real love and respect. I think if you truly "love" someone you will not do anything to hurt them, irrespective of whatever stress or duress the person is under, whether from family, friends or society at large.

moremi2008: Geez, anybody would pass for Solomon to Nigerians these days. She's pretty much on point most of the time. Other times, she's just your typical naija market woman.

This section has been pretty sad lately. I just got tired of all the horrific stories with little sign of progress so I voltroned and traveled to another section for a while.

I missed you though!!!! thought you were in jail!!!

dayokanu: This was so worrisome to his mom and younger brother.

He is usually one of those guys that have been useless from teenage, he dropped out from all school, dropped out from all trade.

His mom thought by getting married he would be more responsible.

She even sponsored the wedding fully bought Asho ebi and on the wedding day, Bros was in a beer parlour arguing about Obasanjo and Atiku while wearing Shirt and trouser

i had not seen or read the rest, before i knew "he had been followed and they are still following him"

^^^^^ if you check that man's history he has been "cursed"" by awon iya.

jennykadry: Rokiatu

I am not God that gives children but my advise will be one of you finish school, get a good job and then start a family my reasons are as follows

1. Financially it might be too hard for you both seeing that he works part time.
2. You will have to stop working and stay home until that baby is old enough to start school or you pay for daycare which is like a 100 dollars per day here in western australia, I don't know about sydney.
3. My husband could afford taking care of me, so I did not have qualms conceiving whilst in school BUT he was very supportive especially during my exams, at some point he had to take the baby and they spent a night in a hotel just to allow me study.
4. You might miss a few semesters if you are not getting enough support.
5. The reason why I asked where you both live is to know if you both pay your rent or live with a family member, renting in australia is expensive can you both handle that?
6. Huggies nappy cost heaps and I am seriously telling you both that you have to be ready for that.
7. One of you need to be done with school atleast and have a good job, I know how much pharmacist assistants get per hour hence my point. A good career earning job gives so much security
8. I know if you are a PR or citizen center link helps very well for low income earners, so maybe you guys might be able to get by financially.

If he wants kids, he needs to be sure of himself and I don't think he is yet neither do i think he is mentally ready for kids. You know why? cos he is more concerned about having kids early, being the youngest dad, working on your body now than later, than having kids for really wanting them because you think it is time. I think he is in a phase right now that MIGHT fizzle out

I don't know what you both wanno do but I love kids and would advise every woman to taste what motherhood is all about.

You have given her the best advice, Roki, that man does not know anything yet until the baby comes then he will withdraw and leave you with stress....Just let him know he will have to wait till you finish your school and tell him in the best possible way....he is trying to use that to tie you down.

apocalypse: I will answer your question on behalf of homerac7

1. Yes I have a brother who was married for 7 years before being blessed by a baby boy exactly 2 weeks ago and I never advised him to impregnate or marry another girl during their trying time

2. What is permissable and what is legal ? Don't you think both are entwined ? Traditionally it might be permissible but is it legally ?

She has the right to opt out rather than bear the shame and humiliation , assuming she still doesn't have a child in the near future will her role as the first wife be recognized . Let us face reality , her days might be numbered in that house if the situation remains the same , only the wearer of the shoe knows where it hurts and only she can decide whether to opt out or not ( after considering all factors )

i feel your post.....i also have an uncle who has been married for 14 years, and had twins just last year....2 handsome boys....who did not go around testing his sperm on every young girl. i have another aunt, this is my mother's younger sister, been married for 10 years now still no issue, has fibroid problem and the hubby still adores his wife till tomorrow, and he has not gone out to impregnate another girl outside. Both are still holding on to the faith that they will be parents to their children someday.

lastpage: What is wrong with you this eediot?
Dont you have anything else to do than respond to "our" post or is it my fault that you cant write well?
Get a life, okay!
Mtchew.

LastPage

no need to get aggravated.....the eeyah, was for something else....must you guys always be the first to throw insults?.....
i must be pressing the wrong buttons....which i like.....

I actually have a life...thank you!!!! no need to insult you back....this post is for Carsa and am not ready to turn it to a ''me''post.

the truth is, i think the lady has personal beefs with you, it might be what she heard or has seen that has not been communicated to you, yet. So the easiet way is to give you some attitudes that will make you know something is wrong somewhere.