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[quote author=R3tr0st^r link=topic=883914.msg10316955#msg10316955 date=1330717735]Smh Stop it because you're spewing BS and you know it, Why shouldn't he be bothered that she followed her mother home after giving birth? And you really expect him not to know if his wife had complications after giving birth?? I really think that you should stop being sentimental because last time I check you don't live with him and unless his wife can tell her side of the story, just drop it already. BTW the op's MIL and your mother are two different ppl, Uhmm Missy, he was referring to his MIL in that post and not his wife,[/quote]And how are my replies to the poster affecting you even the poster himself is not using paracetamol, on all of my replies. You want  me to tell him to knack a heavy log of wood on his MIL, Like i said before and will say it again and again, he has a problem with his wife and not the MIL.

That is why, as a woman you have to do what you have to do before you start to make babies, once pickin enter, matter don finish!!! Do introduction, traditional, registry then church wedding, before belle!!!! . infact, registry before traditional wedding gan sef.

So poster because your wife wants more of you, she is now selfish ?

Hmmmm oga oooooo!!!!!!

emmatok:
You don't need to be sentimental here.

The MIL is a criminal and she has not stake in that family.

The MIL can take her daughter if she want, but that child's custody should be decided in court.

Emmatok, nope!! am not being sentimental, just saying it as i perceive it, i don't know what the MIL has done that is so wrong !!! she is protecting her daughter and grandchild and that is wrong her daughter just put to bed, whose mum does not take care of her daughter after she puts to bed in Naija, they usually go to the daughter's home, but if the atmosphere in the home is not conducive, then she has every right to want to go with her daughter. Now!! her daughters' agreeing to go with her is a different case.

My Husband is my best friend, he is my gossip buddy!!! he loves to gossip!!!   , we share virtually everything, he is not afraid to wear my shorts even if it rips while he is trying to squeeze into them.

Moreso, your wife just put to bed( or why is she in the hospital), you should be thinking about her well-being and the baby's not for you to be concerned about your MIL attitudes. Who can take care of a child if not the mother? seriously? why are you angry that the her mother wants to take care of her daughter, do you know if she had complications during child birth, nope!!!! you are just bothered that she followed her mum home.

Naijaklef:
@ronkebp, I lyk your response, i think you need to read my post again.
Question: if were your brother, , would u advice your brother to take instruction from his MIL?
, would u advice him to please your MIL at the expense of your home?
, would u advice him to give his salary to MIL when she doesnt aknowlegde or appreciate the little you give?

These are my rules,
These are the rules that made me a criminal abi?
, LOL!

What are her instructions?? don't get me wrong Naijaklef, the problem is more with your wife than your mother-in-law. You think your MIL is the problem, nope!!!! your wife is the problem, beacause if you are innocent as you claim, loving, loyal, caring to your wife and she inturn just packs and follows her mum, then she is at fault; you are at fault.

Fhemmmy:
Nice Fart . . . .

EWWWWW!!!!!! nasty!!!

Okontami:
I love the smell of clean PUNANNY alias KPEKUS it smells like peppered chicken

debrief08:
So why do some moms make this statement? " After everything I have suffered for my sons sake, some body wants to reap where she didnt sow" The aim of having a child is to love and prepare the child for a life of his/ her own to the glory of God and not to replace the spouse. In my own Oppinion.

Only because they lack understanding.

Naijaklef:
@ronkbp, I dey laugh ooooo,

WHO'S RULE DO DO I LIVE BY? , MINE OR THEIRS?
, ACCUSING OF ME OF LIVING BY MY OWN RULES OF RUNNING MY HOME?

Na wah for you ooooooo.

It depends on what the rules are, is your wife happy with those rules? this is not really about your MIL now, it is about your relationship with your wife. I can't imagine my mummy coming to scoop me up away from my hubby's home without a reason. Think about it too, you know whatsup, your wife is definitely not happy with some of your ''so-called'' rules.

Zilja:
The only way to solve a problem is to have a solution.

This man is seeking for advice . . . . .NOT to be scorn from you people.

Apparently if he had the answer he wouldn’t be on this thread asking for advice. What’s done is done and your silly questions are not helping him in any way.

Give the man some advice that he can use and not shred him to pieces.

You can start yourself, by giving him the advice he desperately needs.

emmatok:
And what crime did he comment.

You snatched my child and you asking if I am innocent.

Innocent of what?

Innocent of whatever the family is accusing him of.

The poster is not married yet, and she is already talking about sister-in-law, you don't have any inlaw yet, you are making yourself cheap already, by thinking he is your husband when he is not, Am sure his family is thinking you are trying to tie their son/brother down with the pregnancy. I don't know when women will open their eyes and wise-up.

emmatok:
You really don't know what you are talking about.

kidnapping is a crime irrespective of who commits it.

@OP

Just get a lawyer sue both mother and daughter for kidnapping your son.

Get your child back, while they go to jail.

Simple.

HE CAN DO THE BOLDED ONLY IF HE IS INNOCENT.

Any good mother with the daughter's interest in mind would want the best for her, and if it is carrying her away from any abusive relationship, then so be it. Really are we going to just hear from the poster alone and conclude that the MIL is bad i personally don't think so, there are so many NLanders that are abusive and would come here and feign good husbands, i still believe that something must have happened for his wife to pack-up and follow the mother.

@ Poster, it is your wife you will talk to, not your MIL. Ask her what you have done to her or how you have offended her??

Maybe you really cannot take care of your wife and kid. Which mother would let her daughter or son suffer all in the name of ''marraige'' Moreso there is more to your relationship with your wife, if not i can't imagine your wife, just packing up and leaving just like that.

Poster did not use condom, she is lying!!!!

y me:
[b]I love the smell of sand when its about to rain to the extent I pack sand from the ground to chew. . . . Gross! [/b]I love the smell of emissions from cars. . . . .
I love cigarrettes smell tho I hate smoking with passion

Am with you on this one, love the smell of sand/dust, especially those fine sands, i used to eat sand too when i was younger, i loved the taste.

Unless you all want to tell me that the love you have for your children is the same with the love you have for your spouses.

kokoye:
This is the whole point of the thread.

Nope it is not the point of the thread, that!!!! right there is a different isssue entirely.

maclatunji:
No, more like disappointed that two women are asking a son to cut-off his bonds from his mother and father. I am sure OP would value a good relationship with his parents but you guys are making it seem as if it is beyond his reach when it is not impossible if he would apply uncommon wisdom.

Cut-off for awhile in this case is acceptable, forever Definitely Not, Our culture will not allow anyone to raise his/her voice against their parents (that is when the woman will start wailing and beating her chest)b but the son has to let his parents know that what they have done to him and his wife is not acceptable at all, if ignoring them and giving them the house would make them come back to their senses, so be it.

1. God

2. Prayers!!!!( with it, you can change the mind of Nebuchaddnezar (not sure of the spelling, can't be bothered though) and Jezebel.

[quote author=Miss_Ife link=topic=879000.msg10296504#msg10296504 date=1330499312]I guess i would [i]think [/i]about it before doing it, It sounds weird, but this is the way I feel, I can't really explain it myself. though c;four has raised a very good point. I love my husband deeply, but if things were to turn sour between us, I don't know how long this love would last bur has for my children, my love is unconditional, whatever they do, whatever they look like, this love is even stronger than me[/quote]Worded!!!!!! nice one.

Happy Birthday dear!!!!!!!!!!!!! many more years to come in Jesus Name, Have fun.

^^^^ MY dear, my own husband worths it more than one billion times, i have a man that every woman would want to have, and that is not an exagyeration, I just love my son, it might be different maybe when he grows up, but my little soldier is my Prince, but just so we are clear, no one takes my hubby's place, everyone of them have their own place in my heart.  

kokoye:
Ronke, he wont be easy to ignore, especially when you share the same kitchen and bathroom.

[b]@ op, sorry but I think the guy will have to move out. But seeing as your husband is able to tell you to keep quiet in this situation, I am truly sorry for you.[/b]You need to face your husband . . he has to talk some sense into his brother until he changes . . or the brother will have to move out.

exactly why i said she should ignore him, this is her husband's family and if the poster does not want problems in her marraige, she should ignore him, let her do her thing and leave him out of the whole situation, she should just pretend as if he is not existing.

Ujujoan:
As far as you are concerned, submission means losing one's self. I disagree.

You can be submissive and still maintain your individuality.

Only men who are over bearing will expect their wives to be doormat . . .  or maybe men who married dunces!  

My husband values my opinion, he doesn't make a decision without consulting me because he knows I have a lot to bring to the table . .  . I on the other hand respect him, not just because he's my God husband, but because he's 5 years older than I am.

I am all for a woman being feminine. But being feminine does not mean being weak.

WORD!!!!

Just ignore him and face your family. As in ignore him to the last.

Pennywise:
So u advocate that the wife should retain her skinny outline even after having kids. Supposing he is in the mood for orobo?

Then she should robo-up, it is all about understanding what your man needs, and will always advocate that women should take care of themselves even after having kids, your hair, nails, body tone, dress-codes, nice fragrance (not smelling like iru always), nice gait, i guess am vain, but i like to look good.

Pennywise:
^^^
Shoooo. U with ur good looking self. There is already a relationship. Unless if u are saying u will forgive him bc he looks good

Even if you have won his heart with your first appearance, i think women should still keep it up, especially after marraige, it is not the time to start looking haggard and unnecessarily fat because you are now married and have kids, it will be easier to start noticing the lepacious ones outside when you have a ''very fat one'' inside. It is a different thing if he married you fat or heavy.

1. Good looking
2. Submission (total respect)
3. Good looking
3. sex (excellent sex ooo, not just opening and closing legs)
4. Good looking
5.  good cook
6. Good looking
7. Ambitious (career wise)
8. Home keeper
4. Godly
5. Good looking
9. Neat ( someone can be very dirty, ewww!!!!)
10. Good looking.

rhymz:
okpari!! exactly what you need!!

I know!!!!! getting the help i need under/above/beside/between my hubby

Yorisb:
Lol. Ur mata don tire me sef.


@OP

Aqua di Parma is the sh[i]i[/i]t for any woman. . .

However, If you'd prefer to be 'eaten alive' _{by HIM} then go for Jasmin Rouge Tom Ford perfume 2011 and don't forget to thank YORISB later.

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Noted!!!!!!