₦airaland Forum

@ poster, like someone already mentioned, your life is in your hands, thank God for the friends that helped you with your HND program, don't take it hard, you will be fine, you all will be fine, forget that your brother would be of any assistance, mind you, he is just getting to know you all. So do your thing and leave him out of the whole picture.

Poster, you should have married a ''worker'' instead of taking style to complain that your wife is eating (chopping) your money, were you blind-folded when you asked her to marry you?.

I can see some men do not know the meaning of marraige!!!!! This is your WIFE??

Infact!!!!!!!! the truth is you are stingyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!! if you weren't you would not complain, you don't want to share your money with your wife, what do you want to do with it? and you will expect her to share hers' with you? Abi no be so

debosky:
He is relaxed but he is worried - persistent lying is something that can shake your trust in an individual.

This really isn't about money. For me the issue here is that this lying is a fundamental breach of the basics of a relationship - which is honesty.

Debo haba!!!!!!!!!! which wan be your own naaa?? , am sure the man has already forgotten, only if he is still growing that he would dwell on such. Things happen, people betray our trust everyday and life still continues!!. This is marraige, the earlier they make-up and forget this money thing, the quicker they would be able to fight another one!!!

MY opinion goes beyond my personal experiences for the ibos' and hausas' but the Delta and Edo guys MMMMM!!!! they are cute, unless people just want to lie.

debosky:
So a man should not concern himself with prices of what he is paying for? What if his income is limited and he is trying to manage his expenditure? What if he is trying to budget so that the little money he has goes round?

Do you think the man enjoyed finding out his wife is lying to him about prices?

No one said the woman is not big enough - that is not the issue here. After all, the man still gives her the money she asks for. The issue is, why should she persistently LIE about the prices? It is dishonest behaviour pure and simple.

That is the issue you ladies have ignored - you've concluded it's the man who should give the wife a break. How about the wife being honest with her husband in the first place? Is honesty too much to expect from your own wife?

yES IT IS!!!!!!!!!!!  
I GAT YOU DEBO, BUT THE HUBBY SHOULD RELAX!!!! AND STOP SEEING HIS WIFE AS A LIAR. SINCE HE DOES NOT LIKE IT, CORRECT HER AND MAKE EXTRA MONEY AVAILABLE TO HER, SIMPLE.

^^^^^^^^^coogar God bless you jare!!!! ;d ;d ;d ;d ;d

Debosky what is his business with the price of ''baby formular'' in the market?? what is his business with the price of maggi and pepper, so the woman is not big enough to buy things in the house and spend as she should. There are so many times that i go to shop and i end up buying what i did not have in mind from the beginning, especially that Niaja market, You will go to buy baby food, from there you will see bib, soap, baby lotion that you know the baby needs and it is not on the list. So the guy should give his wife a break abeg!!!

;d ;d ;d ;d ;d ;d big lie!!!!!

^^^^^^^^^ you are right!!!!

Delta and Edo guys are the most handsome guys in Naija, and that is from my own observation, they are the cutest and sweetest, they know how to make a lady feel hmmmmmmmmm (leave blank), so>>>>. i would go for them anytime or day,

Yoruba guys are not that bad, at least all the yoruba guys i dated are lovely too and handsome.

Ibo guys, for where?? i am not always attracted to them, i don't know why>>>>

Hausas' are good spenders, they know how to spend for that babe ooooo, gba!!!!!

^^^^^^^ Naso , Sometimes it is not all about how bulky the pocket is, but showing care and understanding at the smallest things.

jennykadry:
The dude will dive into their closest first 10 neighbours trash cans just incase she dumped em into one of em bins .

LOL i know!!!!!!! right?

debosky:
Not everyone is as well off as your husband - some people need to monitor their finances closely to make ends meet. Should a man with small resources go bankrupt just to prove he isn't stingy?

Debo how will he comeout of financial difficulty, if he keeps count of trivial financial issues. ??

I tell my hubby the correct price of whatever i buy, because he does NOT CARE, if it cost millions or .001 cent, he does not care, we both shop for the house when he have the time to, i am working and he still gives me money, i don't even have to ask.


The poster's friend, am sure snoops around the house picking up receipts, just to get the actual price of things bought. Tufia!!!!!!! i can imagine him, diving into the bin/trash-can to get receipts.  

jennykadry:
[size=30pt]SINGLE LADIES. PLEASE DO NOT MARRY POOR STINGY MEN[/size]

ABI OOOOOOOOOOOOOO MY SISTER!!!!!!!!!! TELL THEM!!!!!!!!!!!

The wife should start writing out list for him so that he can go to the market and shop for the house. STINGY MAN!!!

debosky:
Na so Patricia Etteh start. . . from stealing 500 naira from pampers to stealing hundreds of millions in Abuja.

Let's deal with the raw facts - if Pampers cost 2,400 and you say it costs 3,000 you are lying plain and simple, especially when you insist on collecting transport fare separate from the price of the Pampers.

Whether she is a wife or not, honesty is not too much to ask.

Fine!!!! she lied to get 500.00 naira from her husband. . what a sad life she is living.

debosky:
Interesting choice of words. . . .do you regard LYING to your husband and dishonestly INFLATING prices as simply 'saving'?

Are you also 'saving money' off items in your home?

Lying so because she saved 500 naira from her baby food she is now a liar?? who knows what she wants to use the money for?? but seriously, how much is 500 naira, after all this ''woman'' is supposed to be a ''wife'' and not  a stranger.

Big deal!!!!!!!!!! she is saving money from formular!!!! and so what?? won't she get by anyway anyhow!!!!

@ Poster, it is your friend that you should talk to, his wife definitely needs money that is why she is saving money from ''baby food'', haba mana!!!!!,.

Thank you got it!!!!

Been trying to get intouch with ma sister, i might have to send the money directly to Jarus, or it would be in latest friday, and that is the latest. In the meantime, i would also like the paypal info, just incase!!!!! R231 or OAM4J please send me the paypal info.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=808452.msg9603923#msg9603923 date=1321902518]Read the last one again, she only does it when other men are presence even in your home. Your male friends come to visit you at your home right?

Let me paint you a colorful picture.

You and your woman are at home watching soccer. Your friend call your line announcing his arrival and your woman jumps up and run to the bedroom.

Your friend arrives to your abode and she is wearing clothes only your eyes should see.

Now you get it?[/quote]LMAO, that woman dey find trouble now.

I really do not want to bring in religion, but what law can match the 'law of God', He created ONE man and ONE woman from the beginning, there is nothing like ''naturally men cheat'', what is so natural in that??

Even in the new testament, Christ allowed divorce on the point that if the man's wife commits adultery, but they should remain single after the divorce, because whoever marries the ''divorced woman/ or man'' is committing adultery. Only because he recognises ''the union between a man and a woman should be forever''. That was God's intention from the beginning.

Richy i can tell you that those laws were created out of selfishness, i did not want to say that but i had to, what kind of a religion would support that a man should marry upto 4 wives. in those days (when the laws were wriitten or handed down) the men were incharge of the whole affairs, women were second class citizens, and that was why it was easy for them to make-up such laws. But it would be easy in that same religion to stone a woman or cut off her hands if she decides to have an affair outside her home. Tell me is that not selfish??

jennykadry:
Before Nko, who no like berra thing?

True though, I think every couple should freely talk about sex. Talking about it makes it a lot better and spicy, the best of them all is talking during the action Not guilty

I am imagining s-ex without talking with my hubby, how would it be like i just wonder

dillydally:
@ronkebp

Most people (men and women) are naturally possessivve. There is nothing wrong with that. It is part of se-xual love.
I am possessive too lol but I am also a free spirit who wants the best for his wife. Sex-ual love sometimes blocks other more enduring love from deevloping. That is why you see men who divorce or kill their wives over s-ex and other silly stuff. My wife is my LIFEpartner. Nothing changes that. Even merely thinking about this has moved me to a far more confident in my marriage than I would have been. Trust women, my wife never plays with me at all because she knows I won't develop a heart attack over her for anything. I love and respect her and she does exactly the same to me!

Perfecto!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and that is what love and loving is all about.

dillydally:
hahaaahaa!

Yes ooooo, that is why i personally avoid trouble. He wants me for only him and himself alone!!!!!!!!! no sharing!!!!! And i think most men are the same, now!!!! if a man decides to go ahead and fullfill fantasies, am very sure that marraige is over; you should have watched ''indecent proposal''??.

dillydally:
Yes, but I love my wife a lot that is why. I'm also a strong believer in unconditional love. Most people can't think of love without the idea of se-xually colonizing another human being. I believe that a marriage is only built on unconditional love because se-xual love will fade with time. I didn't go through with it because i don't want kill a fly with a bomb. For now, it won't happen, but I have a strong feeling that SHE will ask for it soon because of the type of a man I am. Most men are tyrants and their wives can't even think of such thing, but they become surprised when they divorce anyway.

i am imagining my hubby thinking the way you are thinking, it would be too funny, ,i would have to go out and check if the world is still living or it has suddenly come to an end!!! not because he is a tyrant but because he is very possessive and cannot imagine me laughing with another man,(young handsome, six packed abs, tall) talk more of fullfilling fantasies,   . He will break to pieces.

^^^^^^don't sleep yet now!!!!!!!!!!!!!! , No one is disputing the fact that some christian men are useless, even some pastors, what we are syaing is that, that act is a SIN. If you want to marry another wife, bring her in and stop spreading useful ''sperm.s'' around.

The way women are a weakness to men is the same way money is a weakness to women. But majority of these women know how to discipline themselves in the face of ''smiling money''

I do not joke ooooo, my friends children' no better than to misbehave in my house, i do not hide my feelings at all, na for my eyes they would know if am joking or not, i use my eyes to control my people (siblings and my 15 month old son). He knows when mommy is not joking, he stops whatever he is doing at that moment and turns his gaze away from mine, stealing quick looks later on. So  parents have to train their children, or else the woman ''don carry yansh born fire'' be dat.

^^^^^^^^ You sound like a very good and matured man, and i commend you for that, some men would see her weakness as a stepping stone to indulge, she would just be fine, i used to be very troublesome too despite my social exposure, my hubby cut all my wings but i allowed it only because i had a better understanding of what marraige really is and i made up my mind to change, make my hubby happy and make my marraige work, and things are better between us. Your wife would be fine, and she will completely change (positively) Time, is the key.