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frozen70:
Your religious background and upbringing was to model you as you grow and not to decide for you on how to live your life as a full grown man

What if you see a woman you loves deeply and she doesn't want to go to Deeper life church with you and ask you to choose another church both of you will be identified with

What will you do

Move on, you already have the fear of God in you

Change environment and mix up you will see the difference

So what does the bold means now?
How woman should now be making decisions for op?

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Tapout:
Na person wey chop belle full dey struggle with peer pressure. Some of you can't actually afford that lifestyle yet, so you have no other option than abstinence. Those who can afford it and still abstain as much as they can, Congratulations.

God bless u!
So much sense in the pic u uploaded.
Person wey never see money take feed dem say him no go carry ahewo, no go enter club, wait till the money comes, only then u will know what u are capable of. A lot of people doing these things once said they won't do it, until they made money. U can only relate if your hand don touch small money, these temptations becomes very hard resist. Money change a lot of things.

HUSTLER001:
If that man is 33 then I'm 13

Omo the age tire me o lol
I guess he meant to write 1978 lol

vickydankal:
I've been married for close to a decade, I have 2 children and expecting any moment. I noticed some things are consistent in all my pregnancies. Some men will be toasting me even with the pregnancy, I don't go out without my ring. I dress responsibly as a married woman but I wonder if these men are high on something. Today's experience left me wondering, I was thinking maybe I need deliverance or these men are ritualistic, many thoughts were going through my mind.

I was taking a walk with my children as exercise is good for expecting mothers, when I noticed this man following us, hey fine girl, hey young lady can I talk to you. I politely said yes, I thought he needed directions, he started what's your name, I see you and I like you etc I told him can't you see I'm Married and pregnant. he said it doesn't matter. This unfortunate man follow me home seeing my husband at the gate he drove off. I kept thinking what's going on with these men, what do they want.

How can you be asking a pregnant married woman out ? Who does that?

Lol this is funny

frozen70:
I asked you a question, have you seen anyone carrying women matter for head

Nature has designed it the way it should be

The same way men flirts around same way women will remain drama queens

Are u this biased? Jeez!
And women are cool with their husband flirting around & they don't complain about it right?? Didn't u read where he stated his wife complained he was looking at ladies lustfully??

ademidedavid:
On getting there, she complained i was looking at some ladies lustfully which was not at all.......just trying to figure out some important things in my head. After which she complained that i was drunk.....lo and behold i wasnt because i dont take beer, i only take red wine, bullet and spinnorf......which i took a red wine and bullet before leaving the house and also took 3 bottles of spinnorff ( I was never drunk with all of those)

If his wife can start accusing him wrongly of lustful acts, then op should be the one to keep cool receiving undeserved insults simply because he is a gentle guy? Learn to apply fairness in your views, it will make u a better person.

rex21:
Use my head you say ??
Your words are myopic and rather lugubrious to say the least. At her age, what does she need that much money for that she couldn't get from him. Only her surname could fetch her what ever she needed. My brother, she can still get whatever money can buy and still stay married to him. My guy, be open minded and practical. You dont have to sound/act African in everything

You are just beating about the bush and didn't even answer my question! How else would she have gotten such percentage of bill gate wealth if not through divorce? Do u think love for money is limited to age?? A lady who went to rent a private island worth USD132k per day is that the type of woman u say what she would need that amount of money for? I laugh u...

rex21:
"Was the only way she could get money from him"

Abeg, in trying to defend our claim, make we dey try scrutinze our words properly

How else would she have gotten that percentage of wealth from bill gate if not through divorce?? Please don't quote me if u can't use your head!

generalwo:
.... This man has to be feeding on dog shit.... Gayism is evil and personally I condem it but then Americans never forced anyone to practice Gayism its a choice..... They have not killed people who fail to practice Gayism unlike the Muslim radicalists who kill people daily that fail to pray towards mecca.... Before America went to Afghanistan, was the taliban not in existence? Were they not killing and maiming people? Let us leave Afghanistan and come to Nigeria where USA don't have a base.... Are the terrorists here not killing people in their numbers every day? Do we have gay laws supported by the Americans here? Since the Americans no dey, who do we blame for the killings in Nigeria carried out by these terrorists?

One thing I have come to realise is that, some people will always support evil. Even this boko haram we are talking about, u will still see people that will support them. Reason there can never be peace in the world.

Idiko1:
Do you know how many Nigerians who will scramble to board a plane for US or developed countries? Yet how many are complaining?

Why didn't they scramble to board a plane to US before Taliban took over??

Adisa89:
In a sense he's right. You can't claim to be civilized when you approve same sex marriage and condemn polygamy. The former is unnatural while the latter is natural. Do your civilization and let them do their Allah Akbomb in peace. After all, Afghans are not complaining.

They are not complaining?
Why the desperation to leave leading to many falling of the plane? Or u didn't watch the video? The issue here is not even about polygamy or gay, but repressed people.

Smh

Swinger60:
smiles, this your post Sha.

can you please explain to me why Bill gate even with his money still got divorced? (I think I read one time that his wife is dating a high school teacher).

His money couldn't keep his wife.

what one should be praying for In this life..., is that we marry our person, who will love and stay loyal to us through thick and thin.

Money doesn't stop any Nonsense in marriage, trust me. Nonsense bound to happen in marriage will happen. Money or no Money.

Divorcing bill gate was the only way she could get money from him. It is still all about the money. Their way of life is different from ours, if it was in Nigeria, she wouldn't do that as it will make her poor. Money is very important in life, let alone marriage. If u are married, let your husband stop providing money for basic necessities like subscription, light, feeding, education etc and how your attitude will naturally change towards him.

frozen70:
Have you seen any man that wants to kill himself because you of women and their mouth

They still remain drama queen, so, she is entertaining him at home

Even when a man decides to have a side chick, mistress or girl friend and baby mama, he is still with a drama queen

It's now left for the man to be a beast as you said

Women are made for men

If you can't manage them stay away from the them

Stop using drama queen as smokescreen to mask bad attitude! Were women made for men to verbally abuse men? That is a woman with a bad attitude & u finding it easy to justify her verbal abuse is my issue with u! What is bad is bad! No human deserves hurtful words, it cuts deeper than sword! You think men are immune to abuse?

frozen70:
That's very good of you

Just be calm while she ragges, with time you will understand her and how to avoid funny drama from her

Women are drama queen's

Stop being biased & say the truth for once!
That woman is saying hurtful things to this man & u think it is cool? These hurtful words are gradually affecting this man emotionally reason he created this thread & u think such is good for his health? Would u say same if reverse was the case & this man was the one saying these hurtful words to his wife? Does anyone have the monopoly of using hurtful words on another? Why would u justify what the wife us doing by saying women are drama queens? So men can't be beast? I don't know why u women are like this! But I only wonder why God will create a woman for a man when has a son Jesus, but doesn't have a wife & Jesus also coming to earth but choose not marry bespeaks there is something odd about u women.

ademidedavid:
Its not a matter of being weak or a simp its just appreciating and treating your woman right especially if you are brought up that way.........whats the essence marrying her if you cant make her feel like a queen only that shes feeling like a king in her queen's zone

I never wanted to comment on this thread, but u are not in charge of your marriage at all....You sound too fearful for a man haba!
You are intimidated by your wife & it is written all over your post! I see no reason bringing this here if u were in charge. Mind u, putting a woman in her place doesn't mean maltreatment, it only means telling her what she did is wrong & not pampering her even when u know she is wrong! Same should also apply to your sisters. You fear women!

NNEWIsuper:
What's your tribe first let it not be I'm arguing with someone whom I have no cultural similarity with.
And again you lied about me not been married and that invalidates all you've said already. Enjoy your suffering in peace

U are the one spreading suffering!
I am with the op!
A man should avoid marriage until he have a moderate inflow of cash capable of providing the basic necessities for a family. You are promoting entering marriage with poverty with the hope of not having kids? Who is with poverty mentality here?

NNEWIsuper:
Again you judged from the poor and miserable population you know and for you to say I'm not married without even knowing the reality makes everything you've been saying void. I have colleagues who delayed conception till they made arrangements for the babe financially. I guess you're very much low on the social class and that's what happens amongst you all. Continue to swim in your poverty and miserable lives.

I say again u are not married & u are the one with poverty mentality here!
If u can jump into marriage when u are not financially buoyant, is it in marriage u will be able to stay without kids?? If u don't want to spread poverty stay single till u have moderate inflow of cash enough to cater for the basic needs of a family like op rightly pointed out & not rushing into marriage with the hope of staying without kids when your wife can even take-in from frequent sex or u want to continue abortion in marriage? People rush into marriage because they want kids considering their age, so they can start raising kids. U that don't want kids, why will u be rushing into marriage with poverty? To have constant access to sex that the end result can only bring about children? Use head for once!

babyfaceafrica:
Very True.. Even your wife will not let you rest

God bless u!
My friend who got married in April this year had this kind of arrangement with his wife, i told them it wasn't going to work. I am even with him as I am typing this & we are just laughing at those saying stay without kids after marriage. Just less than 2 months around june his wife told him they should go for fertility test, my guy was shocked! This was a girl who said no kids after marriage & now she is pregnant. Lol

NNEWIsuper:
You're assuming Wrongly, what makes u think I'm not married, I guess you will now change your line of argument to suit u. Leave talk, plan it with your wife, no one said u should plan it alone. I Don tell u if u prefer poverty due to what society will say or not Goodluck to u

U are not married!!!
No married man will spend more than 6 months in marriage & his wife will not start pestering him for kids in this part of the world! Someone that is unable to stay single even when he is not financially buoyant because he sees her mate getting married, is it in marriage when she sees her mate carrying their kids she will stay without kids? Family will use talk to finish your life & u will begin to doubt your fertility.

babyfaceafrica:
True.. Its easy to say marry and delay child bearing. By the time they enter, they will know dating is different from marriage

Exactly!
I just know those of them saying that are unmarried. Ask me why are they rushing to enter marriage even when they are not financially buoyant? Because most of their mates are getting married, same will apply when they see their mates carrying their kids. If u can't stay single because of pressure, is it after marriage u will stay without kids? Your parents will finish u with talk, even mistake can come from sex as it will now be very frequent & u can't abort. Saying u won't have kids after getting marriage is like saying u will not eat meat but decide to share it with your teeth. It is more easier to stay single than to enter marriage without kids.

NNEWIsuper:
You rightly said it, I don't just understand this nonsense craze to start popping out babes right after marriage without proper planning is wrong. I hope Rubbiish can see your write up and learn new things

Oga u are not married so u will not understand!
Ask married men around u!
If u don't want to eat meat, do not use your teeth to share it! If u do not want to have kids, do not get married, it is very simple! Only married people can relate! Even your wife will mock u & question if u are fertile when it gets to a point.

NNEWIsuper:
My man you summarised it so well. The problem is that people get married and immediately start pumping out kids, doesn't work that way. If people can just marry and stay like they were while dating then all these wailing won't happen

Lol
Marry first before u start talking
We all sounded like this!
If u are not ready to start having kids, do not get married! A marriage without kids is not a blessed marriage! Not even your parents will support u on this. U must have at least one kid to bless that marriage. When u marry without a child, that marriage will so empty, only married people can relate. Why do u think everyone end up having kids after marriage?

sunkieisland:
As much as I agree with your school of thought, I also think that there are some outliers in this case. A man might be struggling financially, marries someone that loves him and he loves; someone who is willing to also support him; meeting him halfway and build the family together, then something good can happen to them if they continue to work hard.

However, if the said man is a slob and the wife is someone with an entitlement mentality, who is also lazy, he's entered "one chance" already. He'll struggle to make ends meet and be miserable all the days of his life.

What many of u don't know is, it is very difficult to sustain love without finance! No matter how genuine that love is! When u start failing in everything that is expected of u as a man, that love go begin dwindle, no matter how good that lady is. Any woman wey like her man, means the man is trying, he may not be very rich, but he is able to provide the basic necessities like bills, shelter, feeding, education, health. If any of these things are missing in a home, even your kids will not be happy with u, let alone your wife. In short, u will not be happy with yourself if u have conscience!

1onebigman:
Though am not married but I have stayed close to lots of married couples and I can tell you this inside' poverty,poverty dey..if you can feed your family and afford to pay all your bills even if you are staying in a one room apartment your marriage might not be all rossy but yo will still have respect and some joy but you see that kind poverty wey you can't even afford to feed or pay your family bills, everything will change name it,respect , honor infact everything that makes you a man will lose its value when it comes to you..so in essence guyz make we hustle hard even though we no become millionaire but atleast to have thousands enough to before thinking or going into marriage.

@bold Exactly!

aod1:
Let me buttress your point, No matter the amount of money you think you need to save or success you need to have before you marry, what if after the marriage, life happens, I mean you may lose some money, job or the success. So there isn't any guarantee whether you have made money before you marry or not that all will be rosy. The most important thing like you've said is for the couple to make proper plan accordingly. And on the issue of God not blessing/manner, your unbelief has made you not to experience it. I'm a living testimony. Before I asked my wife to marry me, I get 2-3 gigs a year. From the day I sought permission from her parent to marry her, I've not had a full 1 month rest. It's been from one gig to another. You'll be blessed as much as you believe.

Because u can lose your job after marriage is not enough reason to enter marriage unprepared. We humans can die at any given time, that is not enough reason not to prepare for life, we struggle for education, skills etc some of us may end up not using. Planning our retirements of which many won't even get to old age. So losing your job after marriage is unforseen & it is totally different from entering marriage unprepared financially! It is just like saying kids should start impregnating their girlfriend since it is possible they may be unable to give birth after marriage which is very possible, such unplanned mentality can only bring about untold hardship.

Vultron101:
no mind the senseless guy.

Honestly the guy is just talking like a 5 year old kid! Education, health, feeding, in-laws, shelter which of these doesn't involve money? Marriage without moderate inflow of cash is worthless. No one is saying u should be rich like dangote, but there must be moderate inflow of cash, else your wife go change am for u & life go tire u.

MrBrownJay1:
money doesnt solve cheating, money doesnt solve a disrespectful wife, money doesnt solve bad health, money doesnt solve ungrateful family/friends, money doesnt solve stupidity, money doesnt solve accidents and unforeseen tragedies.... etc etc etc

All these things can occur as result of lack of finance in marriage, money will go a long way to reduce the negative effect of these things u listed on the family.

MrBrownJay1:
... and how exactly does MONEY solve the above issues you just stated?!?!? the above has absolutely nothing to do with financial stability, as a fake/disrespectful woman will be the same, whether dating or married....

U do sound like an unmarried man!
Ask your elder brothers & married neighbours, money solve 70% of marriage issues. Without finance, the rate at which that tingling love feeling will decline will shock u. Ask your parents!

Pochettino:
We women were created to bring down men & destroy their destinies.
I wonder why men don't know this yet.

Lol u must be a guy behind this moniker

nyiamfrank:
If it's just to have sex with her, then approach her on a one time deal. Dating her for long may bring trouble to her, you and her husband.

If she agree, chop one time on code, because as you claim to love her, you should equally do everything to protect her marriage.

Many may not like my view but you should understand that we are mere human beings, whether married or not.

Haba bros lol
What if she was your wife? Would u say same?
Having sex with her once will not quench op desire, it will even make it worse, sex is another form of bond.

Liliantalks:
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