Yeah, be careful, just like every other addiction. Anything your partner do while dating will most likely continue in marriage, be warned. I had sex an explosive sex life with my wife when we were dating and few years after marriage. We makeout everywhere with any little opportunity. Now we are almost 5 years in marriage and things have changed, though it has been coming gradually.
The last time we had sex was like 3 weeks ago, make I suck, NO, make I use hand, NO, and na she give me signal to come do ooo, I vex run my thing, cum and told her sex with her is now more of work. she got angry, I no send. Later in the morning, she brought the matter and I told her yes, she is making sex look like work, that she probably don’t enjoy sex with me anymore. She started saying its pressure, stress,….but I know it’s all lie, I had my suspicion (she doesn’t cook nor wash, virtually does nothing at home now aside her work which closes early and baby who we all look after). 3 days ago, I had a dream abut her, I prayed about it, she asked me about it and I refused t tell. Guys, throughout yesterday, conji wan kill me ooo, I just busy myself with phone. Later in the night, I came in and saw her sleeping, I surf net small , come sleep. I had another dream about her, woke up and time check, past 1 am. I saw her pressing her phone, probably doing her facebook as usual, that her fav app. Na so my suspicion start to play ooo, she started masturbating right there again, I vex but keep calm (this is not the first time ooo, normal level).
Now, this is why I’m angry, I LUV ORAL too much, its my favourite part of love making, for sometimes now, anytime I start my movement going downward on her, she will stop me, make I use hand na, NO, but see Aunty put her hand for THERE now. I’m not surprise, why? Because she confessed to me when dating that she is addicted to masturbation but working on it, that she will stop. Out of love I didn’t judge her, no one is a saint, I also saw it as maybe we can work things from there, bringing it in to our love making to spice things up in our sex life but now, I see my wife prefer masturbation to my oral and sex in its entirety. Guys forget, I’m not hyping myself but I dey try for oral. I can be there, 30min, 1 hr doing my thing (magic), and the result Is always awesome, as I gain more satisfaction in seeing my partner having orgasm than anything else.
Prior to now, because of excuses and stuffs, I have stopped asking for sex but anytime she gives signal, I go deliver. Now, I have made up my mind kind of, make she continue her masturbation, anytime conji hook me, I will find someone to give me mouth action till I’m relieved and movee. Worst case, 3k or 5k. You cant be starving me giving excuses while doing your thing. After all, this is one of the sins of marriage we were told during our class and she know. I’m not a fan of f*cking outside, I neva enter another woman since we got married though I had enough changes and the pressure and I still don’t want to, not because of her though because she probably doesn’t deserve it but I’m going to get my BJ and have myself relieved issa decision I don’t think I will stop unless God says otherwise.
I will continue to be the loving husband she know, I wont change, I will even get better just as she continue to be the loving wife that she is, but we all have urge to be quenched. So guys, don’t overlook anything you cant overlook in marriage, e get why! Once most people get what they want, they tend to change or show their real self and marriage isn’t an exception. Some just want the name “married” and have kids (like my wife, after all, she don marry, don get pikin) and once they achieve this, anything can follow though it ought not to be so. Its all my fault sha, I overlook everything ( probably because I know non is perfect and I saw some good traits in her) I wanted companionship as my main reason for marriage but hers were different(though see like attention die), I should have known better. Please marry who have same marriage goals as you.
Finally, this is not to discourage anyone from marriage , marriage is a beautiful thing and I’m happy I’m married and I love my baby (make una no think am oooo). Just pray and marry a good wife like me (even better).
#Peace!
All this marriage stuff keep hitting me everyday. Gets scarier by the day.
Edusouls: thunder fire u and and forgiveness u idiot , if it’s you would u forgive? See the calamity men marry and call wife.. she should divorce the animal abeg..
My brother is that why you had to hurl insults? This faceless forum He sought advice and I aired mine. You were free to air yours as well so why this feral display of yours? Until reality hits you you will kno that in dealing with situation mature minds apply reason instead of emotions
co787: She is 2 years old my wife is still in detention I will bail her next week I haven't arrested him yet because I am in Lagos there are in nnewi I am planning to go there next week along with my wife to arrest him and I will return to Lagos alone she will stay with her people
2 years! This is bad and sad.
But divorce is not the best thing for that daughter you love. I don't think your wife deliberately decided what her brother did. She might have been devastated too...
Besides no sin is unforgivable.God has always forgiven us. Forgive her don't divorce otherwise it will still affect your daughter you want to protect. She must have learnt her lesson by now
We are having this kind of attack second time this month and the pattern of the attack is exactly the same.
Due to farm invasion of our livestocks, we only allow them to graze at night and leave them till daybreak while we let them into their cage.
The first victim of this wild attack was Huda ram, he was sick and want missing, after about the third day, we found him with his head ripped off from the neck, likewise the second goat, brought in for mating about 12 days ago, felt sick, recovering, went to graze and the second day we met him this way.
We are currently working on installing perimeter net for the first part of the land we intend to use for livestock, that's about 3 acres, it separates the farm from the remaining land meant for crop plantation.
Which animal do you think is on the prowl? Kindly suggest how to capture or kill this animal.
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Police are always the victims. Hope it begins to sink into their head to stop risking their lives for the so called big men who have made the society hell....
thesicilian: It's a nice gesture to take care of the weak, widows and other less privileged ones among us. For this I highly commend her selfless act.
But if my debtor uses the money she's owing me to feed the poor, I will get her arrested and charged to court. It doesn't matter how rich I am.
The same thing will probably happen if you refuse to pay your taxes because you are using the money to take care of the poor.
Not everyone must give tithes. But if you claim to be a Christian the Bible makes it compulsory for you. Whether tithe money is misappropriated by men who claim to be God sent is irrelevant, if you don't trust your pastor then switch your place of worship.
Tithing is not for Christians. The Bible (New Testament) doesn't command it. It was for the Jews
I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.
Let me cut to the chase.
I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.
I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.
don't. And NEVER try lesbianism! That's not how God intends it. You have some values don't throw it to the dogs. Advise that your friend if she continues giving you such advice, dump her
I’m not married and I don’t think I’m ever getting married.
I get easily irritated with women being around me for long.
I’m just comfortable with fvck and go.
Maybe if I ever decide to marry, my wife would be staying in Enugu while I stay in Lagos. I will just be visiting her once in a month and sometimes 2 months.
Anything other than that, I might seek for divorce within one month.
We can all subdue our emotions rather than allow our emotions subdue us. That's the power. Learn tolerance and patience. You can do it
Raycelove: 8 important ways we can totally be delivered from sins as Christians
Here are eight ways we can receive our liberty and be delivered from sin and bondages as Christians
1) By confession and believing in Jesus Christ as the Son of God and receiving the spiritual baptism of the Holy Spirit.
2) By attending church services to receive the baptism of water, fire and knowledge of God.
3) By fully repenting of the old ways of sins, lusts and pride from our heart through the revealed Word of God.
4) By submitting ourselves to the will of God through prayers, fasting and the meditation on the Word of God.
5) By having the fear of God and purity of heart.
6) By meditating and abiding on the Word of God to build up our faith in Jesus Christ.
7) By being humble, truthful, discipline and diligent in all our activities.
8.) By seeking more knowledge and understanding for our self development.
Amen.
Most importantly by Being baptized for the washing away and forgiveness of your sins (Acts 2:37-38; 22:16). Then locate the CHURCH OF CHRIST nearest you for worship.
Now look at that man dancing. we've gone past this primitive charade. We are issue based. We are talking economic challenges. Our economy is dipping everyday. How are you going to a fix that? We are talking climate change and environmental degradation. What laws will you make to address that We are talking wild life being threatened. What will you do?
Insecurity food shortage. An average Nigeria is hungry. Herders farmers clashes. How will you address that?
You are there dancing. When you and your party have failed and caused the hardship. We are wiser than all this now.
FeliciaOja: It's my mother She will cry and roll on the floor if she hear I chase him out. I still blame her for over pampering him. Always giving excuse for his bad behaviours now she has left me to deal with him. I really want to send him back, what happened last night almost drove me mad. Now he has comeback and still ignoring me. Like seriously, I'm the one that should be ignoring him for what he did last night. It's just becuz of mama that I trying my best to tolerate him.
bushjeph: Beware of men that stares alone. How old is he? Staring at you for almost a BUHARI year? Doesnt add up. Tell him he is making you uncomfortable then see his response.
Madampauline: Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.
He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.
I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.
I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.
I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.
She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.
I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.
Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.
Advice me please
Do anonymously then let her know later. Most important thing is God is watching God bless you as you do it
Are these people not ashamed? How many British MPs visit over here for anything? Nigerian doctors are getting licensed in the UK why can't you empower them to have world class hospitals here?
Registeredguest: I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says "I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough.
Have you ever asked God for forgiveness? How many times? Did you still sin after asking for forgiveness? Of course yes!. Even refusing to forgive is part of sin. People make mistakes and change. If your husband has apologized, forgive him and go back home. Learn to let go, build your home.
Because they visited Tinubu you think they mean well for us. The white man has not truly meant well for the black man in the real sense of it. They want to keep controlling us, milking our resources and making us dependent on them. Check history how many African patriots who rose for Africa died. Fingers are always pointed to the West and America.
Anything that will liberate us they dont really want it and will do anything to stop it....you dont expect them to be going to Obi who means well and wants to liberate Nigeria. Liberating Nigeria means Africa is liberated. They don't want that.
Bro it is good you kno that you have a problem. Knowing the problem is already the beginning of solution. For typin this it means you are still coherent and aware. Dont be angry and too harsh at your parents. I believe to them it was love, care and protection.
Seek for a counselor. Pour out to him. Or her you will fine help and God will see you through but NEVER think suicide
Welkincollege: There's this school I previously worked as a Teacher about a year ago. I was asked to stop work because of disagreement I had with the Vice Principal. Now, a year later, the school is recruiting for Teachers with their vacant positions advertised on a banner and I am currently looking for similar positions to apply for.
My question is, will it make sense to go back to that same school and apply for a job?
If you have been able to build a good relationship with them over the year and have changed from what caused them to lay you off, you may apply. I worked with a colleague who was reabsorbed after being layed off
Thinkfree: which of the cardinal points does middle belt falls to? The four points that are used by geographers north, south, west and east. So choose your point from the above mr middle belt.
Mr geographer, for you to have four points, there must always be a middle. If you have north ,south, east and west, that middle part connecting all of them does not belong to any of them and is independent
Salvation is through the name of Jesus Christ. Jesus said one must be born again for salvation. To be born again is to be born of water and the spirit (Jonh 3:1-5). To be born of water and spirit means to be BAPTIZED for the FORGIVENESS of your sins ( Acts 2:37-38). Baptism is immersion into water (Acts 8:38ff).
Interesting15: Last week, I wrote about why the average person is usually grieved after indulging in an illicit sexual activity that is against God's perfect Will. If you have read that post (you can do so here https://www.nairaland.com/7292060/why-feel-remorseful-after-certain, you will see these sexual blunders (sexual sins) highlighted.
Salvation is through the name of Jesus Christ. Jesus said one must be born again for salvation. To be born again is to be born of water and the spirit (Jonh 3:1-5). To be born of water and spirit means to be BAPTIZED for the FORGIVENESS of your sins ( Acts 2:37-38). Baptism is immersion into water (Acts 8:38ff).
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