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Guys have you dated a female narcissist before.

I once dated one, she love bombed me at the beginning of the relationship, so when I became addicted to her, she started her usual manipulation and control, that was when I knew she was a narcissist.

Have you dated one, do you wish you dated a female narcissist? Tell us your experience with a female narcissist.

Tupac10:
I date a girl who's more older than me in age of 5 years gap and also a water child, from Anambra tribe, she's 36 years...

In my experience, living with older women will exposed their true characters towards you, cos they're controller, manipulative, have higher pride, higher arrogance, jealousy, impatience and egos.

A day will also come they will tell you "I'm not your mate" I'm older than you... All the love they have been showing is blind love and only want sex all the time...

You can never find peace dating an older woman, especially those with high numbers of age gap.

You a dating a narcissist.

plaindealer:
Not a fan of Reno, but I see a lot of sense here.

Peter Obi and his followers are always dodging Mondays. Why? Una dey fear your own people?

You lots are funny and ignorant of Igbo, without sit at home on Monday, Monday's are for business, no Igbo man will abandon his business for any activity on a Monday morning, be it religious or political or cultural.

Hello romance landers.

I got into a discussion with a guy, and he said he has been with a woman for years, almost 4 years without having sex with her or any girl based on respect for her decision as a Virgin.

Now, have you had any reason to date a girl (Virgin) for 3, 4 or 5 years without looking for sex outside the relationship? can you go into such type of relationship?

AbuMaryam1:
You are blind folded with those figures. If Kaduna gives Jonathan 1.4m it signifies all it's christian votes.. And I don't know how you get to know Gombe is 55% christian. You just made mentioned Kaltungo, Billiri and Y/Deba and call it 55% of of eleven local government. That indicates you knew nothing regards to Gombe state. And for for your information, Dadin Kowa is under Yamaltu Deba. Akko local govt is bigger than those local government you made mentioned, in population and landmarks.
Stop circulating lies. Plus Kaduna, you don't know anything about Kaduna... You are here spraying lies.

I don't like replying ignorant people like you but I have to this once, the the 2011 election results are all over the Internet, go and check. Buhari won KD by almost 1.6 million votes while Jonathan won by almost 1.4 million votes.

Akko local governments you claim is bigger comprises of Gombe capital, the population of Akko local government is found in the capital city of Gombe, where you have different tribes and religion.

if you have been to Pindiha, Kashere and Tumo....... You will know that Akko local government only ends in Gombe capital.

I invite you to Gombe for a tour if you believe muslins are majority in Gombe.

AbuMaryam1:
Why foreingners comment on Nigerian forums..?? Where did you get 55% in Gombe, where did you get 1.4m in Kaduna south. You didn't live a life with reality

Don't get into my mentions again if you lack common sense.... In 2011 Kaduna gave Jonathan almost 1.4 million votes, it's there, go and check.

Gombe state is 55 percent Christian, for that Muslims rule politically in Gombe, most of Muslims you find in Gombe town are mostly settlers. How many Muslims are in Kaltungo, Biliri, Dadin kowa, Yalmaltu deba and other local government in Gombe?

kingzjay:
Get your information straight. Don't hurriedly post lies to misinformation. I stay in that area

The place wasn't a room as you claim. It was a prayer house. One of those mushroom prayer house where "assignments" are performed. She couldn't meet up with her rent and the court came to take her valuables. These ones were the ones considered not valuable and thrown outside.

Sadly, they were fetish showing she was using church as disguse to perform her evil deeds

So what's the difference between what you said and that of the OP?

GenderMix:
No doubt money is very key to sustaining a marriage. Infact it's one of the key ingredients that can help grease love. The lack of money can make love go sour...lol...

Having said that, marriage has an ultimate aim which is for companionship. As far as both of you have the drive to succeed and are not lazy and can cut you cloth according to your size then the amount may just be inconsequential.

If the man earns 100k, he has the qualities you like and is focused then you can start with that. Just ensure he has common sense and listens to advise. It doesn't matter if as a lady you earn higher than him. You guys should have plans and execute them together. Just encourage him by supporting him financially. Just assist him but let him be the one to take care of the major bills.

Plan around the money you earn. Don't live above your means. There are pragmatic means you can adopt to cut cost. Forget the pressure around, most of what you see are illusions. Just focus on your happiness.

I wish you best of luck.

You are saying this as if men give a Bleep about all these evening newspapers lamenting about a guys income. When real guys want to get married, there are good, hard-working and responsible ladies who will marry a guy earning 50k .

Bunnybee:
Op you are right. If he can cut costs for ordinary diapers. I wonder what he will feed the baby with given the high cost of baby food in the market now.

My daughter is 3 and I still give her aptamil milk for toddlers which costs 11000. She drinks 3 cans a month.

Please we should all endeavor to be able to give our kids a better life than we lived. Good food, good clothes, good education shouldn’t be a luxury.

My sister son is same age with your daughter, and guess What, they are just managing but I bet you that boy is so healthy and smart than your fair can ever be.

90 percent of Nigerians have less than 1 million in their bank accounts, everyday people keep her married and giving birth to healthy children... Mindset matters, mindset.

Rubbiish:
At your age u don't have a child, no husband, you are fast approaching menopause & ur fertility rate is fast dwindling. U think worrying about a married man with an understanding wife should be your problem now? Wait till u get to 50 years body go tell u.

I was once like u & hated poor people going into marriage till a very close friend changed my mentality. He got married with virtually nothing, but today he is hitting contract worth millions. A lot of us were raised with napkins, even when ur parents got married there is high chances they were still managing, but they raised u. U think u are doing anyone by posting nonsense about marriage?

U are no longer far from reality, u are already in ur 40s, just 10 years from now, u will understand what it means be a single lady without a child, husband or family. Those u are mocking now will look far more better than u. Keep on deceiving yourself...

Haaaaa oga easy on her abeg, no be her fault, she probably is used to following big boys who only use her and later marry a responsibile woman.

madridguy:
Nothing one will not see on this platform. I never knew using napkins will make life unbearable for a baby is God not wonderful. So an intending couple should not get married because of price of diaper at the market.
Life is all about adjustment and we that they used napkins on us we didn't die nor carry deadly disease.

It is better to use napkins to save cost rather than to put yourself in pressure.

You dey mind them? if you check very well, they hardly feed well in there house.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
somebody here said 500k is not a enuf to run a family (man, wife and baby)

Most of these girls you people are quoting are girls in their early 20s who are still flexing around with big boys, you will not get any knowledge arguing with them as there mind is made up.

When they reach 35, jobless without a husband, 50k will be enough for a family of 10 to them.

Prolific007:
You're making noise... Benue is for Peter Obi. Kogi, Plateau, Nassarawa, Abuja, Taraba and Kaduna state

If you read my comments again, you will see that I am not talking based on newspaper report but as someone that has stayed in those places.

Sannisege:
Abuja people will never vote for Obi because of the “ we no dey give shi shi” mantra. Abuja is populated with corrupt people who are endeared to Atiku

Please who are the Abuja people you are talking about, do you mean the less than 5000 people staying at Area 1, of the less than 3000 people at Asokoro or the empty Streets at Utako?

Come over to the slums of Abuja and mention Atiku of Timing and see.

Minjim:
Bakers are cashing out these days.

Imagine a loaf of bread for 1k. Bake 100. That 100k

A bag of flour is 29k, bag of sugar is 32k, a litre of gas is 900... they don't really make it anymore, and mind you, you have to replace any bread not sold by your customer.

dennis3888:
Good day everyone please i need your candid advise and opinion

Am about to leave my bank job of seven years with a salary of 100k for a new business note the business has already been set up already

my fears is that am married and you know what that means i have ready responsibilities. so am now having fears that what of it doesn't work (which have been praying about seriously).


probably the fears is just in my head. your opinion please

You shouldn't had set up a bakery without seeking for advice, raw materials for bread is damm expensive now, flour, sugar, gas etc are now out of reach, people hardly buy bread because of it high costs.

Never the less, just start and work smart to break into the market. Good luck.

jumper524:
k let me tell you this.
Majority of people including those who don't want Obi would say Obi but truth is if you look well, you'll realize more than 70% of pro Obidient don't have pvc in Abuja.
The parties with structure always have its way.

Which Abuja are you talking about... So you interviewed all of them to know that they don't have PVC? I am tell you that those people who have been voting for PDP in Abuja are now for Obi and you are talking about PVC...

what did they use in voting Atiku in 2019, do you even know that Atiku got most votes in Abuja because of Obi in 2019?

FreeStuffsNG:
Below is the over all picture from Google map compared to Ibadan city at the bottom of all the SE maps.

From the Google map, you will realise that there is no high population density in the SE states as a whole sir. Development is just concentrated around certain streets and areas. That explains why it is true fact that Igbo population is a minority population and clean data of national demographics even from INEC have since confirmed this.

Those storeyed buildings pictures remind me of Isale Eko family houses especially those around Iga Idungaran. Those are not skycrappers, if you want to see skyscrappers come to Lagos Island and Victoria Island, Lagos.
Even Lekki, Ikoyi, Ikeja and Yaba still has more skyscrappers than all you are showing there sir.
My advice to the South East states governments including Anambra state is for the state government to improve security in those expanse of bare unoccupied places and encourage people to move there. There is so much undeveloped spaces because the population is small despite the small land mass.

Oga come to Onitsha and see for yourself, there is no unoccupied land in Onitsha. if there is tell us where, I am looking for cheap land to buy in Onitsha.

Onitsha is the Lagos of South East, everybody from the region want to hustle there, that I'd why it is almost over populated. Even those communities close to Onitsha like Npkor, Obosi, Ogidi are more developed than some states capital.

jumper524:
Fct na pdp.
Though many says Obi but majority of those talking are pvcless. I go with pdp to win Fct.
But dey still have good growing apc in gwagwalada and bwari.

There is something you guys don't understand, Peter Obi has taken most PDP supporters, those people you are calling PDP supporters don't want to use eye and see an umbrella again. Hunger, insecurities, inflation, poverty has reset many people brain.

it's not about which party controls a state now.

garfield1:
Peter obi will clearly win benue.majority here are Christians and hate anything fulani.obi will have 60%,tinubu 25% atiku 15%.
Obi will win the fct with 40%.tinubu and atiku will share the remaining 60% equally.with plateau being a Christian dominated state,obi might just win depending on where ex gov and ex convict dariye supports.if he supports or joins labour,obi will win plateau.as it stands pdp has no senator in plateau.their only senator istifanus gyang from plateau north has joined labour.therefore plateau north which is mainly berom who are fierce Christians will divide votes.plateau central will go where dariye wants while plateau south save for langtang will go apc.obi should gave 40%,others share 60%..
With Christians making 55% of taraba,obi will do well here.the people are tired of pdp and gov Darius.if gen t.y danjuma supports obi,he might just win but this is not certain....




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Obi will not win Benue, Benue is sure for Atiku. Taraba State is 80 percent Christian, the Muslims you find in jalingo are merely settlers Jos like Jos.

The only place you find Muslims in taraba is Gembu ( Fulani), Lau local government and Karim lamido local government.

Peter Obi we win Taraba by at least 55 percent.

plaetuea votes will be divided but mostly between Obi and Atiku, but Obi will win narrowly. Forget Lalong and dariye.

Another place Obi might get 30 percent votes is Bauchi (Bogoro, Dass, Tafawa balewa and Wargi local government areas) will vote Obi if CAN ask them to.

Again Gombe, Obi should reach out to CAN and EWCA pastors and the deal is done... 55 percent of Gombe people are Christians.

and then Southern Borno, Christian make up 30 percent of Borno but sadly people don know.

You forgot Kaduna, Kaduna Christians can give Obi more than 1million votes. they gave Jonathan 1.4 million in 2011.

Unzerious:
Nigeria needs to Export more... But when he was a Governor, what did Anambra Export?

What percentage of the Dollar Reserve did his state contribute?

Amambra state is exporting cars to other African countries because of Peter Obi good industrial drive. go and verify.

incandescentena:


Chris Ngige is the most stvpid minister of this useless Apc government


That man is evil

He didn't make the offer, the minister of education did. You guys should know these things before castigating, the ministry of education is the employer of lecturers and decide their salary.

Loveurneighbour:
https://punchng.com/miyetti-allah-rejects-obi-says-ex-gov-represents-biafra/

How many Fulani people do we have in Nigeria?

Before any Tinubu supporter quote me, make sure you have stayed in the North before.

SafariHunter:
I am obedient but I actually agree with Adamu Garba when he said the ASUU strike has political undertones.
The FG has met their needs to a very large extent, 100% pay rise( excluding state uni which is very understandable as most states haven't even implemented minimum wage).
TET fund has released billions.
Earned allowances have been paid.
UTAS is at final stages of testing...



ASUU doesn't care about us, they have a sole responsibility to students and not telling us to vote out APC which we will already do...

Just NEgedu ASUU matter

Oga those are all government propaganda, non of their demands have been met, earned allowance they agreed in 2021 has not been paid, ASUU payment software is taking 2 years to approve, the salary increase is audio, Buhari has refused to sign the agreement.

stop listening to these politicians, they are all liars.

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

My guy, I know that we should atleast give love a chance in most relationship because no one is perfect. But your situation is hell fire, if she doesn't respect you and insult your parents, cheats and still don't see any thing wrong about it, then you should not only take a bow.

Invite her , eat, drink and have a hot BDSM sex with her and never pick her calls again, but make sure u use condoms.

H100:
According to the trends data, using the past 7 (seven) days' filter 03-08-2022 to 10-08-2022.

OVERALL AVERAGE

Bola Ahmed Tinubu (49%)
Atiku Abubakar (26%)
Peter Obi (48%)
Rabiu Kwankwaso (3%)

There are still about 6 months before February 2023, but I can tell you that the significant contest will be between Bola Ahmed Tinubu, Peter Obi, and Atiku Abubakar.

There are also going to be lots of surprises, more swing states or battleground states are emerging.

Bola Ahmed Tinubu leads with about 15 states: Ekiti, Oyo, Osun, Ondo, Ogun, Kwara, Lagos, Jigawa, Plateau, Niger, Kogi, Kaduna, Bauchi, Borno, and Taraba.

It's good to share that in Lagos, Bola Ahmed Tinubu had 41%, while Peter Obi is at 38%.

Can Lagos be a swing state?

Next, Peter Obi leads with about 13 states: Edo, Delta, Benue, Nasarawa, Rivers, Akwa Ibom, Cross River, Imo, Bayelsa, Abia, Ebonyi, Anambra, and Enugu.

Do you know that the FCT will also be a battleground?

Bola Ahmed Tinubu 37% and Peter Obi 37% each, according to the trends at this time.

Next, Atiku Abubakar with about 8 states: Kebbi, Yobe, Katsina, Sokoto, Zamfara, Gombe, Adamawa and Kano.

Yes, I was equally surprised with the traction from Kano - Atiku Abubakar 33%, Bola Ahmed Tinubu 26%, Rabiu Kwankwaso 24%, and Peter Obi 17%.

It’s good to share that Kwankwaso’s highest traction is from Kano, but they also have been growing in Jigawa, Katsina, Yobe, Bauchi, and Borno State.

SWING STATES OR BATTLEGROUND STATES:

(a) Katsina State - Bola Ahmed Tinubu 40% and Atiku Abubakar 41%.

(b) Yobe State - Atiku Abubakar 47% and Bola Ahmed Tinubu 41%.

(c) Lagos State - Bola Ahmed Tinubu 41% and Peter Obi 38%.

(d) Kebbi State - Atiku Abubakar 51% and Bola Ahmed Tinubu 49%.

(e) Edo State - Peter Obi 43% and Bola Ahmed Tinubu 38%.

(f) Plateau State - Peter Obi 37% and Bola Ahmed Tinubu 39%.

(g) Jigawa State - Bola Ahmed Tinubu 40% and Atiku Abubakar 39%.

(h) FCT - Peter Obi 37% and Bola Ahmed Tinubu 37%.

(i) Borno State - Bola Ahmed Tinubu 37% and Atiku Abubakar 36%.

(j) Benue State - Peter Obi 41% and Bola Ahmed Tinubu 36%.

(k) Nasarawa State - Bola Ahmed Tinubu 36% and Peter Obi 39%.

(l) Taraba State - Bola Ahmed Tinubu 36%, Peter Obi 34%, and Atiku Abubakar 30%.

Data Spreadsheet:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1xcoddwJ21tVzj9n0EtJgBPN-jrNWIPSzPp2ssxoC8os/edit?usp=sharing


Credit : Aderogba Otunla

these people should start traveling, don't just stay in Lagos, read newspapers and do junk analysis.

Peter Obi will not win Benue.

APC can never win Taraba and Pleatuea.
So because Pleatuea state Governor is APC campaign DG, they believe APC win the state. Just like saying APC will win IMO because Hope is APC DG.

Taraba? hahahaha if it's the Taraba I left last month, APC won't even get 20 percent votes there.

Kaysalas:
Interesting! Who did the counting? You and your immediate family

2023 will surely clear your ignorance.

tesppidd:
40 percent in the North and 70 percent in the South West is enough to win the Presidency.

Besides i repeat you can never wish away the structures the governors have, and the herd mentality and followership Buhari has.

Even at their point of death due to hunger, many up there will still chant sai Buhari.

I lived in KD for 20 years and i schooled in Minna for my first degree, Ain't shit you gon tell me about Northern politics.

All these people you are claiming "people are saying" are not up to 10 thousand people.

20 million people will vote across Northern Nigeria.



Lastly i won't vote in 2023. Osinbajo and Amaechi were my candidates.

It is not everyone that tries to analyse objectively that Tinubu will win that you begin to assume to be his supporter.

i am not supporting Tinubu. if i was i'd say it proudly.

Hahaha soon you will come out openly and support your candidate, just like I said, no one is stopping you from supporting your candidate.

The Hausa Fulani in the North will do anything, like anything just to support their brother, they will do have for Atiku or Kwankwaso and not a man from Osun who they don't even know.

I bet you have never been to the North, though since this is a faceless forum, you can even claim to be born in the North, someone who has been to the North will know that those governors you are calling can never win APC president with a southern man as candidate.

Buhari is no longer on the ballot, an average northern man will never pass Atiku or Kwankwaso and vote for a southern man, an "Arne" , be you a Christian or Muslim from the South, you are an Arne to the average Hausa man.

For what the newspapers are telling you,come down to the North and see things for yourself.

tesppidd:
He is not my candidate.

So you think that a Yoruba Christian would put Religion over Tribe? And vote Obi over Tinubu? Lol.
Tell yourself what you want to hear, continue.
You're playing yourself bro.

Tinubu will clear SW votes, then you will tuck your tail in.

As for North, you should know by now that Nigerian politics goes beyond "what people are saying"

People will still collect 5, 5 k across the country.
In fact very many people are still ready to collect 5k.

The only way Tinubu performs badly in the North is if the Northern APC governors betray him and Shetima.

But if they don't and work for them, Tinubu and Shetima will still defeat Atiku in the North.

Tinubu is not my choice for 2023 but let's use our heads when making analysis.

read my comments on Nairaland, I don't make newspaper analysis, I don't do politics based on this governor or that Minister, politics in Nigeria has changed, you saw what happened to Jonathan and sambo, those APC governors you are talking about are all irrelevant in North politics, all of them, Zulum, El rufai, Ganduje, Bagudu, Badaru etc came to power because of Buhari....

Come down to the North and see, you will know that those governors can not influence northern votes, in 2019 most of these governors narrowly won their second term, including Ganduje, Muhammad in Bauchi state even lost, that's to tell you how irrelevant they are.

I am typing from Bauchi state in the North East, and I tell you APC will not get up to 40 percent votes in the North.

Between, no body Will kill you for supporting a particular candidate.

Oblongata:
You make mockery of a man from southwest and you want southwest to support you? We are looking and seeing things clearer now. A true Omoluabi will never call BAT a Cassava and Agbado munching Gorilla. We don’t insult our elders. You keep making a mockery of BAT and we don’t really care because just as Biafra noise died a natural death, so will all these noise by next year. Help us divide Atiku’s vote(The real threat) in SE and SS. Thank you in Advance.

You don't insult your elders but you insult other people's elders, kia these people eh.

Lewisalexander:
The fact that people still want to vote for APC is my biggest surprise since i was born... Nigeria is a weird place. I wish you all the best

Some how I pray that APC wins this election, we warned them in 2014, they refused, they are making same mistake now, anyway, na everybody go suffer am.