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efficiencie:
Because marriage is an institution of light but fallen man is steeped in darkness and sold to sin. The Father has been with the Son from eternity past and they have never lost interest in each other...this was the model of marriage that though the man and his wife are two persons they shall become one and inseparable...but when you throw sin into the mix marriage erodes and eventually dies. You cannot be doing hookup and sustain marriage. You cannot be sleeping with your maids and coworkers and sustain a marriage. You cannot be selfish and seek your interest alone and expect to sustain a marriage. Marriage is of the light and to sustain a marriage both couples must make conscious efforts to mirror the LORD Jesus in all they do because in Jesus is life and that life is the light of men that sustains all things that are of the light, marriage included.

� Correct.

Many people are Christians by mouth, they're not truly saved.

Yet they want to reap the benefits of people who are saved.


Both male and female, humans are now comfortable living in carnality, yet they want to reap spiritual benefits.


Long lasting, happy marriage is a result of putting the flesh under, which is impossible for those who derive pleasure in their flesh.


I pray that God will sustain the marriages of people who are His true children in this corrupt world.

zedegit:
Well, in recent times there has been an increase in the number of single mums in the society who are looking for "kind men" to look their way.
I must say I find some of them attractive. Here are reasons why men find it difficult settling down with them despite the attraction.

1 They bring liability: Some of these ladies have 1- 5 children. Since the economy is bad, it would be difficult to fend for the extra mouths she's bringing.

2. Infidelity: She already has children which she had with someone else. It would be silly for you to accuse her of cheating since you already accepted another man's child.

3. Inconvenience: As a newly married couple for the first 1-2 years or more in case of delayed conception, you have the house to yourselves and can even walk around/play naked but this would be difficult as her child would be a distraction.

4. Impotent stigma: In case of delayed pregnancy after the wedding, you as the man would be blamed as being impotent. Why not since she has already proved herself as fertile by conceiving already.

5: Ex Interference: Don't suppose that she's done with the father of her children even if she tells you so because Okafor's law is still valid. She can go back to him anytime to either collect one round or money as the guy still knows her mumu botton.

6: Misunderstanding: You can't even interfere, correct or send her children on errand without her seeing it that you hate her children. You will have a lot to prove that you don't do otherwise.

7. Wasted Effort: The children could go back to their real father no matter how many millions you spent in their upkeep. Your wife can equally go back to her ex. because deep inside her, she still loves him.

8 Sleepless Nights: Since you already know that you are building a house in the air, how can you sleep? The law of gravity would drag the house down, it's just a matter of time. The uncertainty when it would be is enough to give you sleepless nights.

9. Jealousy and Competition: When you eventually have your own children with, as the children gets older, there's likely going to be that jealousy and competition between them as each of them jostles for attention and dominance. This could affect your relationship with your wife if unchecked.

10. Reduced Self Esteem: You will feel inadequate knowing that you are marrying another man's leftover (apologies) but that's what it is. You'll feel people are gossipping about you whether true or not. That can make your ego as a man to suffer.

There is an increase in single Moms, but there is no increase in numbers of single and deadbeat dads, because those women impregnated themselves abi?


Your celebrity role models, your uncles and fathers are roaming round the country leaving behind thousands of women to cater for children all by themselves.


Your redpill gangs are going the baby mama way.


Yet somehow, those women are your problems?




They don't deserve to be loved because they are taking up the responsibility of two people?


Ah, I remember, you said those children are a distraction for you, right?



Say amen to my prayers this morning:

May God remove "distractions" of children from your life, may you never hear the cry of that "distraction" in your household


May you marry a woman that will never be able to "distract" you with children.


May your household be neat and void of those "distractions" for as long as you are alive.


May the Angels bringing those "distractions" always avoid your household.


May God repay you for the hatred you have shown all aye this morning. Every woman you have brought pain to, may your pains be returned double on your head.



Say Amen.

fadilaMaikiriki:
I'm in my twenties. But, why did you ask though?

You seem to have little experience with men.


That guy is not in love with you.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Thanks. But, it's not been long we met, though.

How old are you?

Zarzah:
SMH, If she had remarried first, would you have spilled this B.S

Did you forget that they've been separated for years. Or you think he married the next day after their seperation

He admitted he made a mistake, and if the wife doesn't want him again, shouldn't he move on?

Cheating is not a mistake

Oboh662:
Yes marriage is about 2 people and when one dies the remaining one should continue taking care of the children , he can't run away from his own responsibilities for me who is still struggling to carry it on his behalf no way

Sometimes you just have to be the bad guy.


Support your in laws with the little money you can afford, and if they insist, tell them that you will accommodate the children when your wife gets a job.


Tell your wife that she is free to bring the children when she gets a job paying the same salary you have.


She will keep quiet.

ZIMDRILL:
what do you mean invest in 9 month, there is not investing there its natural process there is no two ways about, if you want to have a child naturally nature lets you carry it for 9 months

Looking after a child is not an investment thats what you are meant to do

No wonder your children will value their mother more than you.


You are very insensitive and ungrateful.

jimmychang:
I will get a submissive woman definitely no cap.

You mean you will get a dodoyo, okay

jimmychang:
Like I said she did it for my dad LOL.she said it herself.You think you know better.You haven't answered my question.If you made money as a wife and you think you are now bigger than your husband then you should divorce him.You don't need to disrespect him at all.

Most Nigerian women aren't submissive,if they have money they will show their true colours.A submissive woman is a woman who has money or can be dangerous and choose not to.She still obeys her husband even if she has the money or capability to go.That is why I date girls who have something going for them lol.

On the part that she suffered and raise the children and bla bla bla.The husband didn't raise the children too right?.She was the one that impregnated herself I guess When she had nothing, didn't he provide for her or sacrifice his time for her and the kids lol.He never said he was irresponsible.She is the ungrateful one.All the times he sweated to provide food on the table is now nothing right?


Who cares if women have money Most times they don't give it to their husbands it is for themselves.While the husbands money is for the family.Some are so stingy that they still ask their husbands for detergent money even if they have millions.

Men like me don't give a Bleep if their wife have money

You will continue in your endless search for submissive women until you realize what you need to do.


Keep wailing.

jimmychang:
Like I said she did it for my dad LOL.she said it herself.You think you know better.You haven't answered my question.If you made money as a wife and you think you are now bigger than your husband then you should divorce him.You don't need to disrespect him at all.

Most Nigerian women aren't submissive,if they have money they will show their true colours.A submissive woman is a woman who has money or can be dangerous and choose not to.She still obeys her husband even if she has the money or capability to go.That is why I date girls who have something going for them lol.

On the part that she suffered and raise the children and bla bla bla.The husband didn't raise the children too right?.She was the one that impregnated herself I guess When she had nothing, didn't he provide for her or sacrifice his time for her and the kids lol.He never said he was irresponsible.She is the ungrateful one.All the times he sweated to provide food on the table is now nothing right?


Who cares if women have money Most times they don't give it to their husbands it is for themselves.While the husbands money is for the family.Some are so stingy that they still ask their husbands for detergent money even if they have millions.

Men like me don't give a Bleep if their wife have money

You will continue to search for submissive women until you realize what you need to do.


Keep wailing.

jimmychang:
You don't have a father with this above statement I have concluded.The fact that you tell someone before hand doesn't automatically mean you have been given permission.Use your head.

Funny thing is that he has been allowing her go out since without problem.Just this once he has his reservations she disobeyed.Isn't that a red flag to you?(ungrateful)

My mum was humble and submissive and she never remarried again.You see the love and respect.Even in death my dad is respected.

Like is said most women are too emotional and ungrateful.Once they have money their husband becomes their houseboy.Shalom.

So, your opinion is that women should not have money.


Because you insecure, immature man-babies need someone to rub your fragile ego for you.


It's such a pity that you had to drag such a responsible woman who chose to focus on her children after her husband's demise, and refused to remarry into such an unnecessary online banter, I'm talking about your mother.


Can't you see that you're the ungrateful one?


She sacrificed her financial prospects and the possibility of becoming richer on her own because she didn't want to share you and your siblings for your extended family to turn you to house helps.


She didn't do it because of respect for your dad, she did it for you.



You need to use your brain better, women have the power and right to make choices, and your mother's case is not the same for all women. Some women are fortunate to have money, some chose to struggle to have money, and they end up rich, if you can't swallow the reality, look for a poor woman and marry her jejely.



Stop crying in our ears, pick your type of woman and face front okay?




Now, don't you ever mention my Father anymore unless you want me to change it for you.

jimmychang:
You obviously don't have a father in your life.You won't be spouting nonsense if you had.You sound like a teenager.

You this ant, what is your problem?


If I have a father, a responsible, honorable man who taught me that you and your types are the kind of men to avoid, how is that your problem?

If your own father never valued your mother, how is that my own problem?


If your mother never stood up for herself and she was treated like a rag by your father and his family, how is that my own problem?


If you cannot get a quality, intelligent woman and all you have is broken, emotionally unstable women who don't know their left from right, how is that my own problem?


Stay in your filthy environment, roll with your dirty low lifers, and maintain your lane, okay?

jimmychang:
So the fact she has a business,above 40 and has kids in the university gives her the right to disrespect her husband


Women will neve have sense.So if I am a man and I am 50,I have kids in the university and i am wealthy.
If u want to go out ,i shouldn't inform my wife or explain to her the reason I need to go If she doesn't want me to.

Women can't handle power or money, they will burn everything to the ground .So it mean you won't have respect again.


MEN MARRY WOMEN WHO RESPECT YOU.WOMEN DON'T LOVE MEN.THEY ONLY RESPECT YOU

You were so much in a hurry you just pulled out a response from your anus.



You didn't bother to read the original post properly, neither did you understand my response.


You didn't see the part where the man said his wife informed him about the event before attending.


You just want to vent your frustrations on someone abi

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

What you need is a job

knowhowk:
Saint Mary ..i sight you ...Men are Clowns ...But your Dad too is a Man now ...Your brother too abi they are excluded from the above listed ..droopy Testicles ..tell me something.

Let me educate you.




Testicles are covered in skin, like a pouch, naturally, as you grow older, the natural collagen that keeps your skin elastic breaks down gradually, causing wrinkles, now for men who sleep with anything in skirt, when you're busy thrusting in and out, your testicles swing like a pendulum hitting anything in it's way, it makes you feel good, right?


What you don't know is that, the more you swing, the faster the skin breaks down over time, that is why you should only have sex with one person, your wife, because you will keep your body for her and she will accept the natural gradual changes.



Now, I am fortunate to have a honorable father who kept himself only for my Mom. It was a beauty to watch. My Mom is one of the luckiest women in this world.


Likewise for my elder brother, he is following my Dad's footsteps, and I'm happy to watch how things turn out.



As for the rest of you, if you overuse your body, you are clowns.



Now you see why they are excluded from your clown's club?

ante56:
What would you do if you are married, but your husband isn’t nice to you
Doesn’t show you attention, care or love but he has time for the ladies around him, gives them enough attention and care even though he claims he is not cheating
As a married woman who is lacking all these from her husband, is it okay for me to cheat on my husband?

If you're not wanted in a place, leave.



It's not childish advice, it's meant to teach you to value yourself.



You have low self esteem, that is why you can open your eyes wide and marry a man that refused to help you when you were sick.



Is he rich, are you poor, do you have a job?


How old are you? How old is he?


Leave him, don't try to change him because he never loved you and he will never love you, he has the right to either love you or not. It's up to you to respect yourself and save your tattered dignity.


Take it from me as the Cardinal Truth:



You will survive.

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

If you're not cheating on her, and she's not cheating on you, the only solution is to hold your peace.


If you need someone to flex your muscles on, face your kids.



At that age, you shouldn't even think of controlling your wife. She has sacrificed so much to give your kids a stable childhood, the least you could do is let her have some peace in her life at this stage.


She didn't steal money, she didn't beat your Mom, she only attended a party, why are you looking for trouble where there's none?

Bananapill:
Looks are good but every young man out there should look properly before marrying a lady. I repeat look well.
The freedom the man gave her was too much and probably she has been socializing without the husband even looking. That is the reason she could flout the man's instruction
And to young wives, don't do that because something might happen when you disregard your husband's instruction just for the single reason of disobeying the head over you.
The man will have to sit the woman down and tell her the reason he didn't want her to go out and puts down the rules for her no more social outings if he's not going to the same place.

Why don't you lock her up in the house?


This woman has kids in the university, so she will be above 40. She has her own businesses, a fully matured elderly woman.


You want to be ordering her around like a 16 year old?


You people are not ready.

nahzyla:
Men don't age like wine, I don't know why you guys like saying that thing.

Nobody likes an old, wrinkled, balding, pot bellied guy. The reason young girls follow them is for the money they dash them.as sugar daddies.

They like to deceive themselves.

Their wrinkled skin all over their bodies
Droopy testicles
Farts and pooping problems
Erectile dysfunction
Reduced stamina in bed.

Amongst many other issues.



Now, the only ones who have the capacity to accept all these men body changes are the same wives who they have chosen to disrespect everyday by pointing out the changes brought out by the same children they are so desperate for their love.



Omo, these men are clowns.




Thank God my parents deliberately chose to stay faithful to each other, so, I won't accept any less.

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.
Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time. After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.
I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.
Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.
I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.
The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.
My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.
The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do. Please advise me.

I really wish you can get justice for your child, but Nigeria get as e be.



I can't imagine the horror she must have passed through.


But, I believe that time will heal her wounds.


If you can contact a therapist or counsellor, please get help for her.



In the meantime, just keep being the amazing mother that you are.


P. S. I hope you have no plans of ever setting foot in their house again..

Rich4god:
The benefits this singular act will bring to Nigeria is far better than the benefits we have gotten from some of our leaders in the past 10 years.

This is because we are the true leaders.

litigator:
I do agree with you to an extent. But then we have the Calhoun’s rodent utopia experiment which sorta suggest that this will have nothing to do with the scarcity of men. But have more to do the lack of desire for mating and raising a family.

I think this is becoming a reality. Men world over are having apathy for marriage.

Those who got married are seeking divorce and returning back to bachelorhood. And the Western world and Asia is dealing with low birth rate and a declining population growth.

My take is the it has more to do with Calhoun’s theory or not scarcity of men. And the economic reality et wokeness is not having Issues.

Don’t you think so

That your theory no reach my side o



Because my husband has lots of friends and they all married in the space of 4 months.


I'm talking about nearly 15 guys.

So, if you're apathetic towards marriage, just speak for yourself.


This lovely afternoon is too good for vawulence

ElSudani:
OBJ who wouldn't support the man he picked as his running mate. The man who was his vice for eight years! This is like Obama supporting Donald Trump against Biden. So much for endorsement.

If you have spent nearly 8 years working with a person, and you have seen that he cannot be trusted, then it is wise to speak out so that others won't make such a mistake.


I think Nigerians should listen to the former President on the aspirant's character.

peepydelano:
Women that bring things to the table are always wild and unsubmissive and can hardly keep a marriage, more reason why some men run from them.

Those men should stay far away.

SerikiFulani:
She'll still end up in the Kitchen even if she becomes a Professor All those degrees don't matter in marriage

And you have never stepped in the kitchen all your life?


What's wrong with owning a kitchen?

Southboy:
Thank you. I guess u didn't comprehend my post before typing.
I never said I'm not going to take responsibility.
What I need answer to is if the law says she must stay with me during this pregnancy phase.

You now remember the Law when yawa gas abi.


What's stopping you from accommodating the pregnant girl?



Shebi you males are polygamous in nature

AyemafugeILAJE:
Lol...dealing with me ke
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I'm only astounded at her behavior..infact I feel sorry for her cos no reasonable man will date her type for long...na to fvvck and go...I hope u are not like her cos na ur pvsssy go suffer

You're the one in your endless search for the perfect woman.


Focus on your impending nightmares.

AyemafugeILAJE:
So because I was traveling to a particular place, I began to chat with gals from that area on Facebook.
On getting there I called this gal in that area so we can meet, hangout and talk.
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Before I could order, cos I quickly left to pee,

she don order beer for herself... Lol...I was like omoh....gal no dey dull at all. I used to think most babes they like form....not this one.
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While we were drinking and gisting...she gave me a hint that she won't mind peppersoup. So we ordered.
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After the peppersoup, she called the waitress and asked about their chicken. Obviously, she wanted a taste of the chicken.
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So I obliged. I was just too surprised to say otherwise. Now . It's not about the money, I swear, I am just surprised she dint even exhibit any form of inhibition or shame.....At least , we are meeting for the first time
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This gal is radiant and pretty, doesn't look hungry at all. A black and shine bbw babe with great curves and you know, big curved yansh...and some mesmerizing dark and white eyeballs....she doesn't have this Olosho vibe o...looks like normal gal.
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So after we discussed for a while, I told her about my status...she was like, ka ma la ara wa...lol...mẹaning : Lẹts be fucking ourselves in a friend with benefit tone...very casual tone...
..I was like omoh....this gal no geh time o...
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She can't be older than 23...but she's got this big elegant body..
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Well from my scrutiny, she's not so schooled.
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Then a call came in, she left for about 20mins before coming back...I was just amazed at the series of bad behavior a gal will shamelessly showcase meeting a guy the first time.
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She later asked about where I was based , I told her, then she says she could visit if I don't mind...lol
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I was like, do you like travelling so much..she says yes..that she had only returned to the base just two days ago....I said okay
In my mind I was like, no be my place u go come...lol...And she really meant it ......when I expressed doubt about the possibility of her coming cos my place is like 8hrs far, she was like she would come if I promise to pay her tfare...she even asked me to stake a bet... I remember joking that if she came, that I would give her belle within one week...we both laughed
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Omoh....I shock o...the kind gal wey dey these days ehenn...
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When we were to leave the bar, I try to cash from an ATM nearby to pay our bill... unknowing our bill was bigger than I had calculated. She chimed in and said she collected another extra Chicken...
haaa...lol....how? when, was it when she went out for 20 mins? I was little embarrassed, not even angry, but she was not....some babe no geh shame o...
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Before we left during our conversation, she asked what I do...I said I sleep for living....
.she laughed and gave me a disbelieving look...
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This is why most guys fvbck those gals and close mouth. Yes I could have done so. But I wasn't Hot or interested all along...... I was only enjoying her company. She was fun and free though....ready to follow me anywhere I was going that day.
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While we were leaving, somehow, she cornered, a particular amount, remant from her paying our bill...I think like a change...we both know, but she just felt so comfortable and entitled to hold on to it..lol....
Gals dey o..
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I doubt if u ever met a shameless girl as this.
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And when you see a good girl, you will cheat on her.


I love the way Karma is dealing with you people.

Why not simply have your own kids?

jimpix11:
No, it's because they can cheat the system

That's the way of the world.

Vintage100:
The real rich people don't relocate abroad. No Nigerian billionaires and millionaires relocate abroad. Will people like Adeleke, otedola, Arthur Eze, Obi Cubana for instance relocate abroad?? To do what?? They only go their for businesses and vacations.

Because they have created their own version of "abroad" in Nigeria.


So, they can be comfortable anywhere they are.