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wazzihu:
They will still call to tell you how hard it is to cope with Bill's in UK, if you want Japa, go to Europe or America/Canada,. UK na advanced Nigeria

I observed the same thing.

Apparently, lots of people view relocation abroad as a success milestone.


Since it's what the majority wants to achieve, doing it ahead of your mates or family is seen as success.


I think I'm indifferent to it.

Hychineson:
This boy is not in any way in resemblance to Yul Edochie. DNA needed.

He looks like his original daddy.


Somebody is doing the job of "alágbàtó"

Signum:
You are the agent of darkness and distribution embodied with mannerless.. woe betide any woman who would follow ur bitter souls and mess up their homes.


I am too small to attract your attention? Lolz, you quoted me first and your here crying a river out of ur soul.. abeg getat!!

Your sisters and daughters are our unwitting disciples, so, you have declared woe unto them even without a word from me.


I didn't mention your mother and those of your ilk, because they are already living in their nightmares.



Only the emancipation that comes from enlightenment can deliver women from men like your type and those who are unfortunate to lack proper instruction.



Shoo. Stop tickling my indulgence.

ibrahim55:
how is he a left over u can only say the is about if it was a lady not a man ok u might want to read that again and then ponder over it

They didn't tell you that paternal sperm DNA is the source material for placental foundation materials?


The older the man, the lower the quality.


Have you forgotten erectile dysfunction so suddenly?



His biological clock is ticking too

peter0071:
wahala brewing.... social media inlaws will come for her soon

I am Lola's online inlaw, so, I'll follow her lead:


Patiently wait for Karma to do her work.

Signum:
Madam saintmary, Do you think every woman is a spoilt brat or a stupid feminist of sort? There are still ladies with dignity and values. Give peace and you'll have it.. give love and it will be urs in full.. in as much as there are stupid men who you can't do anything to please, there are still some mannerless women too who mess their marriages up due to their characters.. that you are a woman doesn't mean you have to think women don't mess marriages up too.

Get sense for once or keep wallowing in self deciet..

You, are too small to attract my attention this afternoon.


Retreat into the shadows where you belong.


Begone, you wisp of darkness, never to be seen again.

Signum:
You just spoke trash sis.


Watch urself, maybe you are your own problem.

Many marriages are flourishing with love, understanding, forgiveness and blessings. Learn how to respect ur man.., you'll control him even when he's not knowing you are doing.. but you've stated ironically here that you want to be the man instead.. many of you are into this boat.

Dear Pickmesha, Pocohantas has been an upstanding individual who has never been afraid to speak the truth even when it's not comfortable to hear.


Marriages that are working are being worked on by both parties, any suffer head woman that tries to carry a marriage by herself will only breakdown over time. This is her message.


Now go back to your group of pickmeshas and continue your gossips since that's all you can do.

pocohantas:
The only people that would see this beautiful picture and get angry are the gender that doesn’t benefit from marriage. The gender that claims they cheat for peace of mind, leave them to enjoy life with the side-chick and they start another wailing like Yul Edochie is doing now. They don’t gain anything from marriage, but they won’t stop haunting single ladies to marry them.

Never seen a set of men as confused as Nigerian men. Scatter things and blame everyone but themselves. If y’all want this marriage thing to work, you have to start telling yourselves the truth and stop looking for women that would ENDURE like your mothers. Women have looked at their mothers and aunties and they didn’t see any incentive for this ENDURANCE. Or maybe you men can do the ENDURING if it is such a nice thing.

The only men in the world that look for women that can ENDURE are black men. Is marriage a concentration camp?

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I don’t trust Basketmouth though. He took down the post that started this drama for reasons best known to him.

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Merry Christmas to sane Nlders. Enjoy the blessings of the season.

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Watch them quote me with insults. That gender can never take correction.

I am their pariah, and I have accepted the job description with a cool head, as long as I and my female progeny will never become their victims.

Indeed ,they behave like bats, blind and useless, they can only navigate by groping around in clusters, that is why they band together against any voice of reason. No matter what you say, they will not listen, because their minds are already shut by the hatred consuming their souls.


Ever noticed that they cannot come out of the shadows? Most of them are invisible, inconspicuous individuals with no distinct characteristics with which you can remember them by.

Happy Christmas Pocohantas.

Oluneutral:
Funny enough, mama could have just given spiritual reason to dissuade him from bringing those used clothes for her and her daughters. She might have wondered what could have led to a total stranger offering to give out her used clothes to her and her daughters. So, in order not to sound rude or ungrateful, she might have just given that spiritual gilberish as an excuse.

My assumption, please.

Very plausible perspective.


No one has ever offered me used clothes as gifts, even new clothes will be be scrutinized.


Cash, fruits, beverages like wine and fruit juice, these are sensible gifts to make good first impressions.


My personal observation is that the lady is very impulsive and shallow.


On the darker side, yes, I absolutely believe that people can use gifts to lull people into manipulative situations. And jazz is also a possibility.



Not every gift comes from good intentions but oga is in love.

She still dey ask questions?


She never ready.

Sad story.


But why is the man staying in a toxic marriage?

Oluneutral:
@op, personally, I'm looking at this scenario from another perspective.


Don't you think it looks and sounds somehow for your girlfriend to have started giving out her used clothes to your siblings? To me, it's somehow degrading.
Somewhere in your write-up there, you highlighted that you didn't like how your siblings dressed when you visited home. How did your girlfriend knew about this and how did your discussion ended up with dashing them her used clothes?
Isn't that selling your family cheap?
You know women now, the day you both fight, ehn, the first thing she will use to abuse you is how she rescued your siblings and mother from wearing rags.
This is not a good way to allow your girlfriend get closer to your family. This is nothing but see-finish syndrome,ie you have allowed your girlfriend to see your family finish.
Your girlfriend hadn't seen your sisters, even for once but she's already aware that they are short of beautiful dresses. Do you always discuss everything about your family with this your girlfriend?
What happened to fruits on her first visit?
How did she even know your sisters need clothes.
Even though, I don't buy into your mum's spirituality, but I love the way your mum dignified herself by rejecting those clothes for herself and your sisters.


Think about this.

Your post is very sensible.


I think the OP is getting carried away.

Supreme145:
you funny abeg, I no be Tony Umez,I am just concerned that she's reading meanings into a little act of kindness

Your Mom is wise, please don't accept any gifts until a proper relationship has been established between your Mom and your lady.


If Mama says no based on spirituality, please consider her opinion.

I suspect infidelity

Flysinglemom:
See how God works, the one whom they hated for making his choice is still with his wife while the one that married the "anointed bride" has now split up.

The Karma-lover in me would have loved the mother in law to be alive to see the results of her manipulations.



If not for an iron will, Lola would have walked away for no valid reason.

Stay and fight for a better future, mbanu


They only exist to complain.

CodeTemplar:
Some rat faced tribe from one or two state feel their next point of conquest after the Itsekiris is Yoruba and naturally don't see anything bad in constantly dragging the Yorubas. This won't the first or last.

I really don't want to fight tribal wars, I was just pointing out his snooty condescension towards a tribe that has done him no ill.


Unfortunately, he never caught my point no matter how many times I repeated myself.

BigBashiru:
Girls no longer get married young.... so that verse no longer applies..... wen last did you see a 21 year old getting married??

So, you want God Himself to update His commandments because you are in your 21st century?


Wetin I no go see for Obodo Naija?


Pekele pekele

Wiseandtrue:
You should have been open with your wife from the beginning!

No be polygamy them dey call this kind thing, na deception!!!

You're correct.


He should have been a proud polygamist before marrying his wife, so that she would have made an informed decision to either stay or walk away.


Now, after getting 4 kids from her body, used her in all kinds of ways under the pretence of a monogamous husband, he is now showing his true colors.



Bible says "do not be treacherous against the wife of your youth" but they won't see that part of the Bible.

Truvelisback:
There are more virtious men than women. Nowadays, it is very hard find virtious women for wives.

I've not seen a more false statement.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Let's be honest to ourselves. Can we still find virtious women in our time? According to Prov 31:10 downward. I have come to realize that it is damn hard to find one in our time, considering the unique qualities of a Virtious wife. As a matter of fact, men are now hopeless and helplessly tired of searching for Virtious wives because of its scarcity. Infact, many men now are just getting married for the sake of sex and child bearing.

Virtuous men should find virtuous women.



It is a virtuous man, who has obtained favor from God that can find a virtuous woman.

But you men have forgotten God, who helps a man to find the right kind of woman, and you're now tired?


You think God is not watching you?


Why would He give you a good woman so you can destroy her with your lack of fear of God? His own precious daughter?




Repent first, start living in accordance with God's commandments, then watch how He will favor you and turn your life around.

Felimax:
Calm down, you are not so smart!
I have been married with four kids and this month made it six years in marriage.

Kemi till now is still a very good friend.

So, because you have a wife with four kids makes you think you are smart?



They didn't tell you that stupid people also grow old?



You, in your egotistical little mind, you expect the entire Yoruba race to find and cook your type of food because you are who?


An entire culture dating back to prehistoric times should pander to your whims because you want food?


To top it all, I was trying to point out the foolishness in your post to you but in your great elderly stupidity, you can't even detect it.



The distaster in growing old without wisdom is that you will not only be the one affected but the innocent children who did nothing wrong to deserve the kind of foolish guidance they are inevitably going to be saddled with for most of their adult lives.


So, don't bite me in your anger, for the sake of those innocent little ones, get sense.


Summary:


Age is not what makes you wise, it's the application of what you have learnt over time that makes you wise.


How do we detect wisdom: the content of your words.



I'm done with you.

melonsgroup:
One of my rich uncle takes breakfast by 10 to 11am

Their breakfast is always two slice of bread and a miserable cup of tea

And the yeye children will ba asking you,

Uncle can you finish it?

100 percent true.


They expect everyone's bodies to metabolize just like theirs.


Extremely self absorbed individuals.

Felimax:
She was rich and quite an amazing woman! I knew Lagos but she showed me more. I fell in love but she told me she was a single mum and still holding and hoping her baby's daddy will do the necessary.

She was so unique with quite a unique voice that complimented her stubborn nature.

Understood, nevertheless, the fact that you're in love with one woman, does not give you the right to paint all other women with the same brush.


You're free to stay in your rose colored love-bubble until you chose to respect yourself though, not that I have any interest in dragging this conversation any further.

Felimax:
That is exactly my point.
I was trying to explain to Kemi but she refuse seeing reasons with me.

Why are you bothered about what Kemi says?

Is she your wife or you're in love with her?

Felimax:
You understood me out of context. I am not saying Yoruba woman don't know how to cook. Was only saying the kind of food I like and cook are usually not common within the Yoruba culture and in Lagos you can only find few Delta kitchen around and their foods usually expensive.

Like a portion of Banga or Owo soup could go for up to 3k then I don't know for now. Starch making and those beautiful delicacies from our region are what I was talking about. I never said Yoruba woman don't know how to cook.

I appreciate your explanation, but, may I remind you that people who grew up in other parts of the nation have different upbringing and experiences from those who were brought up in Delta state?



How can you expect them to cook food they may have never seen or eaten?


It's like expecting Delta women to cook Tuwo Shinkafa because a Hausa man is missing it, does that make sense to you?

Felimax:
Very common with people from the west most especially Lagos.

They prefer buying food to cooking at home. My colleague Kemi in the office then will say I cook and bring food to the office because I don't have money that I am managing the resources I have with me.

Every effort to convince her that in the house where I grew in Warri it was a taboo to buy food from food vendors fell into deaf ears.

She will conclude by saying you can take the boy out of the village but you cannot take the village out of the boy.

I simply conclude by saying no Yoruba woman can cook my kind and taste of food and still have the boldness to come and sell it. It will be too expensive.

So, because of one Yoruba woman, you decide to insult millions of Yoruba women all over the world, right?


And you want to convince me that you have sense?

dforever:
Husband cheating or wife cheating: Which is more painful.

So, with the number of cheating husbands and wives getting murdered daily in this country alone, you still don't know cheating is painful to both men and women alike?

KimFab:
How does she lack home training?

Women were created as men's plaything. Great! That includes all women in your life, too. No exception.

Rest. Learn to talk like an educated person. I sure say this one pain you. Abi, is your mother a man?

Thanks jare


It's exhausting, having to deal with these uncouth elements crawling all over Nairaland.


The worst part is that they are probably being fed by a woman.

Jovialjune1:
Alailopolo Asinwin, you are the one lacking home training

You said women are created for men to play with, therefore, your mother, a woman, is also a play thing, so why the pains?

Thanks Sis,


These small boys ehn, I hate giving them the training their parents refused to give them.

pocohantas:
Lol. The N50 own is still there. Superyogo and triangle is N200.

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