₦airaland Forum

UndauntedYOCA:
Agriculture!

Subsistence agriculture is equal to poverty. Write it down

Donating or taxing? The word must mean a different thing

Digmygold:
Palliatives are very necessary and i really don't understand what the problem of this government is in that regard.

They're not giving to anyone that I know. I've seen churches giving to people.

Digmygold:
I hope you wont mind being part of the unfortunate ones that will catch it.

I hope I don't catch either. But let's be considerate. You don't trivialize the sufferings of the poor

Austineva:
don't say what u don't know Oga. Am from Ebonyi state. He is d best governor we have had so far

He's trying with infrastructure. But he sounds crude and dictatorial in his utterances. Can he be polite? Abi, is he Wike's brother?

Digmygold:
Your mannerism exposes the porousness of your fish brain.

Will you STFU! When fools like you begin to pick dead bodies of your corona virus victim family members from the streets you will then VOLUNTARILY opt to stay home and fast for 40 days and 40 nights.

If Buhari dims it necessary to further extend the lockdown, please find sniper around your rural hood and end your apparently very meaningless and worthless life.

Why all the abuses? Death by hunger is certain. Not everyone will catch the virus

Digmygold:
Face mask is no 100% gurantee against corona. Which lockdown in America? Did you not see them come out in their hundreds protesting against the lockdown and going against the social distancing directives? Americans can be crazy and carefree.

Lockdown is the solution but because people are not adhering its not working. When people start to see dead bodies in Nigeria they will VOLUNTARILY stay at home and fast and pray for 40days and 40 nights like Jesus did in order to get healing.

Lockdown is solution if there's massive testing and palliatives. Otherwise it's not sustainable

wonder233:
Stop threatening him. He said the truth. Disease, starvation and conflict are peers, none is superior to the other. What we have is a catch-22 situation: the disease is here with us, continuing the lockdown as a way of curtailing the disease is choosing hunger and invariably conflict. This is counterproductive because then, all three will afflict us. But if we open up the economy and lift the lockdown, we would have put hunger and conflict at bay, which puts us in good stead to tackling the disease. There are alternatives to lockdown - you can still ban parties, religious gatherings, concerts and large assemblages, you can disinfect public places, enforce use of face masks and sanitizer, etc.

Lottery infection (because you may or may not catch it) or certain starvation. Choose

So why will our governors continue the lockdown when they're not even testing?
What's the lockdown intended to achieve?

Amarachi

Sweet name

Micology19:
Abag,, local man is confuse here... what is water everyone is talking about being broken

Amniotic sac . That's what holds the baby in for the nine months. It bursts at the early stage of labour.

Sheriman:
Surely it happens in every home especially African home.. parents do love one child over others. Joseph was his father favorite amongst his other brethren. Though if it too much it can cause jealousy and hatred

That's not true. I have four children and I love them equally and they know.
The favourite child is the child of the moment. If you're sick, happy, or sad, you become my favourite for that moment. If you don't need me for support, you fade a little and create space for the child that needs me. So each child feels special.
My mother didn't have favourite child either.
Causing unnecessary sibling rivalry is not normal.

I thought Shekau was seeking for amnesty?

dobrinswizzy:
the man told her that his wife hadn't given birth, maybe the man dey find another wife wey go give am pickin

Tell her to suggest IVF to the man. By the time she goes in as Number 2, the man's wife will fall pregnant and they will turn her to a house girl.

Both of you are young. She's 20 and you're 23. You shouldn't destroy your lives

Farki:
Buhari in his mind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fU_fuJXJmL4

This video always cracks me up!

Post-covid era officially begins!
Thanks be to God

Never heard of her till today.
Where is she sharing this philanthropy?

xcelentattitude:
You're free to believe whatever you want sir. As far as I'm concerned, remdesvir has always been around before the day one of the corona outbreak. Just watch how it'll become the official cure for Miss Rona .

What was its brand name before corona?

linearity:
Not true in all cases.

Some communities found out that, men have been using this to hold women down by making themselves perpetually unavailable to collect the bride price.

So in many communities, the woman only need to return the bride price to the traditional ruler of their community e.g. the King, the King’s mess angers now contact the man to come to the palace to pickup his bride price...irrespective of if he picks it or not, the marriage is dissolved according to native laws & customs.

Good for everyone

lonelydora:
I still don't understand why many of these indomie generation kids are leaving their marriages.

On Easter Sunday, a woman with 2 kids ran away from her home abandoning her kids with the husband. Why? We are yet to know.

Why can't girls of nowadays stay and make their marriage work?

The men want to continue cheating and beating their wives like their fathers did. After all you're married with children and can't leave. But the women don't want to suffer and die in marriage. They want to be alive first, inside or outside marriage.
Until the men realize that times have changed, we shall expect more of such happenings. One mother ran leaving her five children. The husband who's combining father/mother roles has told everybody that he caused it. He's pleading with her but she's yet to forgive.

Will it make Papa not to extend the lockdown?

PapaNnamdi:
you cannot give names in your country,

but u are giving out names of people outside Nigeria that died of covid (4)19

Scam Nation

Exactly my thoughts! Did the families ask FG to keep their deceased relatives anonymous? Others are publishing names

helpishere:
Interesting!

German writer Esther Villar, in her book "The Manipulated Man" that caused outrage and hostile criticism from women, explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves. They have pretended to be the oppressed sex while, in the real sense, they are the oppressors. She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like courtship and finally marriage, hence the saying "a man chases a woman until SHE catches him"
In her book she explains how the man is tricked to care for the woman and her offspring all his life. He rolls the stone like Sisyphus and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure. We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the women uses and has used this for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.
She goes ahead to explain the rivalry of women, how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for her alone. Like a slave owner, she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.

Esther Villar’s sentiments are captured by Nigerian poet, critic and Writer Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book "The anatomy of female power" (AFP) and Will Farrel's "The Predatory Female”. They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. Matriarchy has ruled, not through brawn, but wits and tricks, women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).
Chinweizu calls the ritual of dating and courtship training, like that of a horse. It’s during this time that a woman, having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.
The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the woman and her friends where they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a slave. The man, on his wedding day, waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a Sisyphean life rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon, having society and the government checking him and always ready to jail, shame or exile him for absconding his duties.
Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her slave in check.

Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to tame men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother, how he is shamed for cooking for himself and doing other domestic chores by his own mother who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule. By getting the man to hate domestic work and having this hated by enforced by culture, which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing laundry etc., the mother trains her son for the woman who will captivate him and, when the time comes, his wife takes hold of the man's stomach and, by getting him addicted to her body, she holds him by the two, in bed and in the kitchen. With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.
In the "Myth of the Male Power", Esther Villar's " A man's right to the other woman" "The polygamous sex" the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women and, by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world

Presidents, Emperors,Kings are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule by pulling the strings from behind the curtain.

Chinweizu is a crack head. I remember having a good laugh reading his Anatomy of Female Power

Not hating, but it's simply a questionnaire

Not true.
See the latest WHO report for the past twenty four hours

Vavevivo:
Op thanks for sharing. Your story has given me hope. I contemplated on ending my life today because everything seems to have fallen apart.
My wife will put to birth this month and I have not registered her in any hospital because no money. I sold my laptop two weeks ago just to get us food for the lockdown and my rent will expire on the 17th next month. I’m just hoping for a miracle

Don't even consider it!
Reach out to family and friends.

Tankunland:
if only you wouldn't abuse me and read were I said I was gonna do a paternity test on the kid when I get some money. Yes I made mistakes not because I was gullible as you said but because yes I loved her and she sacrificed a lot for me but it's fine I guess I learnt in the hard way. Goodnight

Your story is good material for a novel.
It will make an interesting read.
I'm already thinking about it

I think police and army have killed more people than even the covid they're trying to prevent

Barton25:
I consumed carrots, Vitamin C, Blackseed Oil with honey to fight the disease, says Makinde
“My very good friend and brother, Dr. Muyideen Olatunji is the one in charge of the Primary Healthcare for Oyo State. He came to me and said, look, I am going to send to you this black seed oil, it boosts immunity. So I mixed it with honey and took one teaspoon in the morning and one in the evening

Blackseed oil, carrot, vitamin c and honey.

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

This is a whole textbook. How do people find time to make such lengthy contributions?

I want somebody to come and tell me something painful.
It helps people to learn and improve

They seem to be in top spirits.
I wish them a quick recovery