danigbo: Could this Professor be right? Please be your own judge.
A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can't have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex. Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuses her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.
Men don't equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn't love her. That's why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men. But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrate some hidden secrets concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband). She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband.
For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things. For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.
The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn't mean he has stopped loving you. But I can't say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again. And she can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him. If your wife starts cheating, you should be a lucky man not to die in less than 10 years. It has been found that 95% of women who cheat wish their husbands dead. That is the main reason why it is dangerous for a man to continue staying with a wife who cheats on him. That is why it is now encouraged everywhere in the world including in the Bible, for a man to divorce his wife only once she starts cheating on him. Cheating women are more deadly to husbands than ordinary criminals or weapons. There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and eliminate her man and police officers plus relatives can't detect this as the same woman tend to moan more than any person at the funeral so as to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.
That's why psychologists discourage women,more than men, from cheating.
Women can't handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating.
That's the reason an observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife has started cheating on him once he starts doing it because most women tend to lose respect for their husbands and try to avoid sex with them in most times.
Cheating Women will even be giving excuses for not wanting to have sex with their husbands. Study has revealed that nearly 90% of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife's behavior with regard to sex start changing. But a dull man can never detect this and always tolerates fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.
Women can't cheat on their partners with people they are not emotionally involved with. They attach emotions to everything. That's why you can't always trust their judgment. When a joke is cracked,most women who laugh are not laughing because the joke is funny but because they like the person who cracked the joke. If they don't like you, no matter how funny your joke may be, they won't laugh, but when a man laughs at a joke, it's because the joke is funny, not because he likes the comedian. Men are not always sentimental and emotionally involved.
Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them true love. But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remain the same.
I repeat, nearly 100% of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce to have unlimited sex freedom while nearly 100% of cheating men can't wish their wives quick death or divorce. That is why most men can't allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends. Men will always stand for their wives.
A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is true with cheating women.
Once your wife starts sleeping with other men/man, just know that your death is near.
R.M - Professor of Psychology Ohio State University - USA
Where do you people pick all these trash from? Plus fake statistics? If you're looking for how to justify your adulterous behaviour, please continue. Just know that what you sow is what you'll reap. You can't build a beautiful marriage on infidelity.
urahara: When you buy t- bills at a specific interest rate , aren't they supposed to give you your money at that same rate irregardless of whether later on the interest rate changes.
This new rates don't affect previous investments.
Let me explain to those asking whether it's good or bad. TB means lending money to government for 90 days, 180 days or 364 days. The interest rates differ. So the longer the loan (tenor), the higher the rate. People have earned 18% on one year TB. With this new policy, they will earn between 7% and 10%. So it's bad for investors, but good for government that will pay cheaper. The interest rate is paid upfront and the main money is paid on maturity.
isthatso: the problem with your line of thought is he asked for my opinion! he came on nairaland and asked and I gave him my opinion. If he had stayed and thought of a name himself and in the privacy of his thoughts and inner circle decided to give his child a slave name then it is not my business, but you cannot take your matters out in public and then say it is not my place to comment.
If you dont like public opinion then keep your private matters private and dont ask for public opinion.
Personally, I dont know what kind of person asks strangers for names for his child. Your childs name should be something that has deep meaning within you not strangers.
Actually he didn't ask for your OPINION. He asked for names. Other people gave him NAMES and we've been enjoying their humorous suggestions when you came with your OPINION.
We the strangers are enjoying the thread. I don't know him but I feel connected with this great joy that has happened to his family. That's why we are a community
isthatso: Congrats on your new babies. You are clearly a man with slave mentality, inferiority complex and la k of self worth who has no pride in his heritage and since you are determined to condemn your children to a similar lifetime of inferiority and lack of self worth, may I suggest you save yourself and your children future pain by simply calling them Dumb and Dumber. They have deep meanings. At least the children will know early on what destiny their father intended for them.
Do you see English people calling their children African names?
How about letting people be? You can't force anybody to think the same way. The twins are his. He has the right to name them whatever he wants.
Sivou1: I don't believe in a forced marriage, marriage is something you need to consider very well before entering it. You don't get married to someone because pregnancy is involved, it is your personal life and that of your partner, your happiness comes first as couple before that of your parents. I was once in your shoe, I got involved with a lady and she was pregnant, someone advised her to abort it which I kicked against, I went to her parent to claim ownership of the pregnancy and promised to be responsible for her till delivery and take care of the child, the father is a pastor like yours too, he insisted on marriage to cover his shame, I told him that will not be possible because if I am not happy in the marriage I might end up hating the so call baby that made me to marry the mum. He wasn't cool about it, he called my brother and every member of the family got to know, we went their and he still insisted on marrying the daughter, my family asked if I wanted that I said no, because I have someone I wanted to marry.[b][/b] At the end my family said they can't force me, the man said if I was not going to marry the daughter I should forget about the baby which the daughter too supported. That was the end of it all. [b][/b]Your happiness and that of your wife comes first in marriage, not that of your parent, you don't correct a mistake by making another mistake my brother, ask God for forgiveness and grace to love your wife instead of sleeping around after marriage.
And you imagine that's the end of the matter? It's too early to conclude that you've escaped
I know of a marriage that scattered because of this. The fiancé insisted on meeting the lady's paternal family, but she vehemently opposed it. She felt they didn't deserve the honour. The man called off the marriage. He said he didn't want to wade into a troubled family.
Op, give the bride price to your Dad and his relatives in a quiet ceremony. Your maternal uncle will walk you down the aisle on your big day.
I work in the oil industry and can tell you that there were job losses across all oil producing and services companies across all oil producing countries of the world between 2015 and 2017.
To claim the Nigerian recession was the cause is highly irresponsible.
Oil companies are divesting away from onshore assets especially as they often produce less and as well, they are fraught with various community related problems.
For the offshore assets, oil companies do sometimes sell stakes for sundry reasons, such as to raise funds for other ventures or simply because the dollar doesn't make sense to them.
Note:
Addax sold to Sinopec in 2009.
What could the reason have been ?
Recession?
On the contrary, the Telegraph is telling the truth. The OICs had serious job losses in other countries because the fall in oil prices meant little profit for them. They could continue their business in Nigeria because of the relatively cheap cost of labour. With this change in government policy, their bottom line will be negatively affected, so they need to evaluate the business. It's not looking good at all.
manontree: For those of you saying they are even, sorry to disappoint you, they arent! The OP is perfectly in order to feel aggrieved
And yes they both cheated. In our immoral society most men cheat. The society is just that badly skewed. Most women even before getting married knows their man has chains of females. Most even bulldozed their way to end up his wife and suddenly expects him to be any different in marriage?
The major issue here is this. A man can sleep with a woman today and not even remember her name tomorrow. In my practice, I have treated several men who can't even remember the woman that well just days after the act. They are out of town, go on a fun roll and get laid...end of....Its like a beer hang out, well sort of...Just for fun
For women it's entirely different and more so in marriage. There is a saying that you have to win a woman's heart to win her body...No saying is truer especially for a married woman...Think about it...For a married woman to do this, it's not just for fun...Something deeper is involved
In my practice, the most common reason women do this tend to be money. Aside this , they do so cos they fell for the man and would gladly do it over and over again as long as the man is interested. This is one big reason African culture frowns at a woman cheating, and infact why it is seen as a taboo whereas a man's is tolerated.
I am willing to bet most of the women on this forum screeching that they are even, would be the first to push out their sister in law who cheats on their brother, even when they are the one arranging their friends for the said married brother
Now for the OP. This is my advise especially having had numerous experience treating STI for married women who must confess to me and who are desperate for their husband not to know about such infections
(1) Insist she tells you about all her deeds. Insist you just discovered it wasnt once like she said and you "Miraculously" or "spiritually" whetever found out she lied about her singular affair...You might just be surprised how clean she comes. Act mad and really mad and talk like how can she withhold such critical and vital info. If you must, act weird and demand full disclosure with a threat of walk out
(2) Be sure to know who the person(s) are and go through their conversations via her phone. Check her honesty that the relationship is over by using her phone to chat up the man/men. See his/their response...This is vital as an adulterous woman, if she must be forgiven, must come clean fully and you must have all the information. There is strong trust issues that must first be resolved.
(3) If this stray was just once as she claims, and no evidence of further likely acts, move on from it
From my experience, women that stay apart from their husband , eg living in separate cities, tend to do this more
Rephrase this advice for the woman. I thought you would suggest their doing tests together for STDs and agreeing to be faithful to each other. Instead, you're still justifying the man and blaming the woman. Continue
DeeMain: You have no honour. You have no respect for her nor for God. You gave her your word! And those words mean absolutely nothing to you.
Brother, I am angry. Two, I am ashamed on your behalf.
You agreed to wait till wedding night and now you are shifting goal posts, playing the victim and manipulating and blackmailing and guilt tripping her just so you can have your way.
This case is not about whether you are legally married or not already or if she is a virgin or not so don't try to bamboozle us with extraneous materials here as someone like me will call you out on your BS. This issue is about an agreement to wait and a promise not kept.
And the guilty party is YOU.
You see the way you do one thing is the way you do so many things. If I were her, I will begin to have serious doubts about your character and wonder if I've made a huge mistake.
Naansense and manipulation!
Thanks so much! I blame the girl for accepting to marry someone who doesn't share her godly principles. I guess she was desperate to answer Mrs. See him exposing her and her value system to ridicule. I hope this is a fake story. But if it's real, she will learn a bitter lesson on how not to be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever. My spouse and I chose to honour God by waiting until after we have stood before God, said our vows before God and man, and received the blessings of family, friends and the elders of the Church. We have a very happy home.
Edusouls: Mama saw a sinister hidden in this your girl soul, she tried to save his son from the impending disaster but usually men when they fall in love their brains deactivate..see it now..in Igbo adddage what an elder saw lying down the young would climb up the trees but won’t still see it, what killed ur husband only you can answer that, strange women everywhere
I feel sorry for this mother in law. She lost her only son, is estranged from his wife, is accused of being a witch and has no access to the only product of the union to console her.
She smelt this girl from afar. Her maternal instincts flashed red alert. But her love-blinded son couldn't understand that this girl was bad news. Here is a drama queen, possibly deluded by a fake prophet, accusing Mama who's grieving too of killing her only son.
Merciful Heavens, please may such a daughter in-law not come the way of my sons. Op, if you know her, show her my post. She's evil or plain foolish. Mama lost an adult son. Can she birth such a child again? This wife is young and can remarry. Who has more reason to grieve?
davies: My girlfriend of a 7 years relationship just told me its over despite the fact that I'm about to meet her parent soon. Its been a devastating week for me & it's affecting my social output cos I can't just imagine it happening.
7 years is a long time. You can't blame her for running out of patience
sinceraconcept: To some people, you have to have those stuffs to be considered living that life, other things you consider as end of luxury and possession are child's play they've already been having since they were teenagers. I'm not talking about his age. Since you were acting like it has never happened before for a 26 year old guy to achieve what he has achieved. Zuckerberg was 23 or so when he became a dollar billionaire and one of the 100 richest people on earth under the age of 25 and Americans were not saying "Yay,no be the same head I get this guy get? " Davido has actually tried for his age and that's what you should have said and not treat him like God. Life is all about levels and the way each individual adds value to the world. He also has some people he looks up to and humble to. Instead of thinking you can never get rich or that you're not destined to be as rich or richer than Davido,why not just concentrate on what you do or do you think you can't make it in life again? Some people are not as rich but have surpassed him in terms of achievement and imparting in people's lives, like the girl that busted that Lecturer for example should be around Davido's age but she has surpassed Davido in terms of achievement because what she did is potentially beneficial to every woman that is aspiring to go to higher institution,but,I know it won't be anything to you since you Nigerians see wealth only as the ultimate success in this world and see other achievements as nothing. Davido's music and endorsement is only beneficial to himself and his family, if hin no sing, another person go sing.
Me treating Davido like God? It's good that it's an anonymous forum. You have no idea who you're talking to. Thanks all the same for making me smile. It's refreshing
sinceraconcept: There are many things he can't get if he wants. I He can't get a megayacht, he can't buy a small isle in Palm Island and archipelagos of Dubai,he can't buy a floor on Trump Tower,He can't buy a 767 Gulfstream,not even his father can, he can't buy a Pablo Picasso painting, he can't buy a Michelangelo or Leornado Davinci artwork and many more things
Are those your definitions of wealth? Must he own those things? Are they his priorities?
For a 26 year old Nigerian boy, Davido is doing well. This decision to settle down has endeared him to more people and that's good for his professional life
The Europeans are at it again. Hardly has the useless BBNaija ended that another episode of trash has begun to grace the dailies.
Let me first ask critical thinkers? When will Europeans release a full documentary or do undercover agency to nail the underhand government officials in the corridors of power?
When will Europeans release a full documentary detailing how oil is being illegally siphoned and how dubious, overbloated oil contracts are awarded? Hmmn, just maybe they're beneficiaries.
When will these Europeans release a full documentary detailing how they took for themselves our Benin artefacts, as well as old precious works of art for centuries without returning them?
When will the pinkish-skinned masters release a full documentary on how their men invaded Africa and sowed seeds of discord, pitting tribe against tribe, supplying ammunition and creating wars within us, while shipping our resources to hinterland?
Are they also ready to tell us how they came and took our ancestors, with their utterly useless bible in one hand and a gun in their back pocket, how they promised good life but took our men to become tireless slaves in their plantations; punched holes in their lips and padlocked them so they couldnt eat even a seed ?
Are they ready to let you know how they took our women, our mothers up to the third, fourth generation... and how they turned them to sex slaves?
With all their media brainwashing of the perfect model body that is characterised by a slim lady with no breast and nyansh, you only have to feel for them because that is the best they have to offer on the average. Their women no deh get nyansh, no deh get breast, yet their pictures would grace the magazine covers because of their deluded sense of self-worth and racial superiority.
On the contrary, go to a motel and you would see how their men pursue black women. Our women are thick and endowed and that is just how they love it despite the pretense.
I want you guys to know that the whites and Europeans back then did the most unimaginable things in the world to our women. They bleeped them day and night, at will - practically stripped them off of any sense of worth left, and made them feel completely inferior. There were just no cameras then to record all these things.
Now I wonder what gave them the effrontery to step foot in Naija and begin to do nonsense undercover agency when there is still oil theft, corruption and other pressing damning things pushing Nigeria to the brink of ruin.
Yes I get it, there are many bad Nigerian lecturers out there, taking advantage of our ladies.
BUT WILL THEY ALSO DO A DOCUMENTARY ABOUT LADIES THAT ARE DETERMINED TO F**K LECTURERS, SOMETIMES JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT?
Sometimes for the prestige, say "I dey date lecturer"?
And just so you know, many of the sexual encounters that occur between lecturers and students do not always involve 'marks'. In the lecturer's mind, hin just dey chop fresh fish. Na only the bae dey always dey think say because she serve punna, her score go boost.
How that one con take be lecturer fault? He's simply committing fornication; that's it. Oh because he's a lecturer, he should stay faithful to his wife -- same wife wey over 100 various d*cks don tidy when she dey her 20's?
Make una dey use brain abeg.
Attached is a picture of a 'moral' European adulating our mother up to about the fourth generation.
It's a bit difficult to understand you. If some Europeans were bad in the past, does that justify irresponsible behaviour on our part presently? Does one evil justify another? Who abolished the slave trade? Did Africa contribute anything to that? Were our ancestors not disappointed that the merchants were not coming so that they could continue to sell their relatives for gunpowder, sugar and more wives?
When the women were begging you to be faithful to them, did you agree? You told them to shut up because you paid the bride price so you're the man and can do anything. Now many of them have opened their eyes and are covering their tracks very well. Ndo!
Angelfrost: Two hypocrites??!.. Do you know how many decent men marry such cheating women, and get saddled with the responsibilities of raising kids from other men??!... It would have been nice if it were 2 duplicitous individuals, but we both know that's not always the case.
You're right. It's just annoying when you see the number of men bragging about their adulteries and throwing it in their wives' faces as if the women can't do anything. Looks like the women are beating the men in the game
Angelfrost: Those cases are few and far between, as most hospitals now have CCTV... What would most nurses gain from swapping babies??!...
Let's be real... The promiscuity and duplicity among young married women of these days makes DNA test not just necessary, safe, but even mandatory!!! You really have no idea!!!
And the women are promiscuous with who? See, what you sow is what you reap. You want the women to be faithful while you throw her adulteries in her face? No problem. She will take her revenge, but continue her pretext of being a virtuous wife. Men pretend there's a double standard. There's none except that the women are more discreet. And they die with their secrets. Demand fidelity when you start giving it. Until then, two hypocrites are good at the game
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