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I can’t believe what I just read @ op Abeg ooo how old are you? If ur under 25 I understand you’re still learning how to handle ladies but if not then unfortunately your brain cells are dead. Go and read Ubanja miseducation and librate yourself from ladies mind games and how relationships really work not that Nollywood crap you watch.

Nina4u:
just had some liposuction to remove some fat to look good in a bikini ...

You’re looking good girl. I hope no complications?

robertmugabe:
Pls moderator, help a brother by pushing this to front page...thanks


I am writing this with sadness of mind and a sense of worthlessness. Standing tall to see my self as a loving man that lacks capacity to take care of his lovely woman by averagely acceptable standard continues to tie me to perpetual tragedy that can only be wiped out only, as of now, if miracle happens. This decision I am about to take
is like committing suicide but at this point in time, it is worth taking, in the spirit of selflessness. I have a very beautiful girlfriend, so charming, respectful, well mannered, God-faring, submissive, caring to me like my mother would, not money freaked and above all, consistently committed to Gods things. I can boldly say, she is fit into the dream woman of any sensible man alive. I do love her dearly and in her I found a cushy and scenery environment that persistently dispense a fragrance of love comfort.

As it is, I am 32 years old, dangling in the middle of hopelessness of everyday living and meagre finance that hardly accommodate my personal feeding and support my struggling activities to make fortunes. I have been struggling and trying hard to hit the jackpot and yet to no meaningful results. You know life can be so brutally funny especially for those who comes from the lower cadre of the societal strata.

I can hardly point to anything tangible I have brought to the table since the inception of the relationship which is running to a year and four months now. This sometimes calls me to shame and constantly configure me to think of not worth the girl at all. Till today, some of my friends still they tell me say ah get luck with my babe. How else should I describe a babe who is in the middle of many compelling and intimidating options and yet still firmly stand by me.

As I am writing, I am planning to breakup with her for a number of reasons which are summarily analysed into two;

1) I can not afford her to be the first to breakup with me when the time to do so presents itself. Though I am not sure of this but I once had a dream in this regard.

2) Even if she decides to stay and marry me, I can not afford watching her living a tattered life which i can only afford for now. And if care is not taking and I insistently decide to take her under my roof, I may be forced to engage in illegality to scoop money that can take care of her soft textured skin and at least propel our union to standard.

Some may call my decision a product of inferiority complex but I call it an act of selflessness.

If I post me and my babes pictures here, you may likely have a practical and nucleus understanding of my explanations so far, but I will not do this for safety of identity. I can not just withstand seeing her without adequate and proper care. I think she is too good and beautiful to share in my fate of economic koboko. Someone like her deserves the best hands and i can therefore make bold to recommend her for any upright and economically buoyant man alike. So, I better not waste her time further.

My plans after the breakup, is to find another babe that is compatible with my real value and with thick skin that is absorbent to the middle class suffering that I have to offer for now. Or better still, a ready made woman who does not even need me to live a life she so desire.

It is far from my wish and a sad one at it, to take this decision of alienating my self from someone after my heart, from someone that i think of almost at every idle moment and from someone who has seen my naked soul completely many times over. However, if I really do love her, then it is just doubtlessly and fundamentally worthwhile to take the decision to save someone I love and somebody's daughter from impending rough and emaciated household economy. I am not a pessimist though. I am just a realist. If ah eventually make ham and she is still available and I am still available as well, maybe we can still come back together, but if she is taken, then so be it, but I promise to stand firmly by her in any scheme outside her matrimonial relationship...

I LOVE MY OLUWATOSIN...

Pls how best can I breakup with her ?

While some people might praise you I see your decision as selfish and a narcissist all you think about is yourself. Didn’t you know you were broke before you started this relationship and to top it off you want another relationship with someone with a tough skin. Something is definitely wrong with you. If you said you breaking up with her to hustle and make yourself better I would understand but no no you want another relationship. ODE

ePoster:
that a man and a womans body arent the same. For beauty is an important quality a woman greatly needs and it is gradually lost with each time passed.
3.) it takes time to become financially independent. A man can be in his single for most of his life, hoping for better days without the risk of not finding a woman when the time comes. A woman cant do the same. If she does sacrifice so much time, she is deemed 'unmarriable' by the society.


To nairaland men, whats your ideal woman,
A youthful beauty in her twenties, who isnt financially independent but physically appealing.
Or
A mature woman, whos lost some of her attractive qualities(has a couple stretchmarks, etc) but who doesnt care a dam.n for your money?
One can have both, but that doesnt happen easily, nor often.

I can not speak for all men but myself. My woman doesn’t need to be independent when we meet but she has to be hardworking and have goals which I will gladly help her meet.

ENGINEERG:
Currently, I have over one million naira outside that people borrowed from me , but I have less than N10,000 in my account now..I do pity people and trust people , but it is painful, many friends have turned to enemy because I want to collect my money back..I decided not to lend money to people again, but I don't know how to do it, pls which method can I use so I don't have mercy again on people to lend them money ?

Eayah I feel your pain this is the thing in order to be financially ok you need to learn how money works and rules of money. Don’t ever give out what you can’t dash out am sorry to say you won’t get back all the money. You have to safe guard your money otherwise a person who loves it more will take it with any means possible. From now now always tell them you are not a bank if they need to borrow money that’s where they should go that’s how I deal with mine. Funny thing is you might think you will loose friends if u reject them money but reverse is the case instead you lose friends trying to recover your funds

Christiana24:
My girlfriend Dont like us taking pictures together.
Aside that, she's 100% caring. She does what a girl in love would do.
But she Dont like us taking pictures together. When i questioned her, she said in their place, it's a taboo for a woman to take pictures with a guy she is dating that has not marry her.


Should i react and see that as a scam?

I wanted breaking up in my mind but her kind heart never wanted me to. Shest too kind and caring (don't say "this one is in love that's why he is praising the girl saying she's too kind", I'm just being sincere)


Advise Plz

Which yeye place is that where they don’t take pictures. That is a big red flag monitor her closely, I think you are the associate BF

Shibaraba:
Brother go hospital. No dey use preek matter play abeg
Preek business is serious business


From experience sha na when you wound your preeq. And e no heal well or scar well. Some injury na inside. But try see doctor

You better go hostipal wetin u expect from nairaland before ur preek parkup

yenereal:
It is a joyous thing to behold and great feeling of ecstasy when one gets married. However, some certain things do prevent guys from getting married apart from getting to find the right person to marry.
Some girls say a man must have everything (job, car(s), house and money) before they get married. My question is: if a man must have car, house and job before marriage, what must a woman have before marriage?

Don’t let anybody deceive you, you need some of those things not all. But the woman must submissive sha

Billionsclub:
My cousin is a graduate from AAU. He is working and they are paying him in 5figures. Anytime he want to receive,he will usually fall in love with a girl. he will use his earnings to take care of the girl he is in love with but the relationship always ends after the money is finished. This usually happens every time the money is about to come. And it usually happens with different girls at different time. whenever he want to receive, he must fall in love and use the money on the girl. Next week, he is going to receive again, he is already in love with someone already, the girl is asking for house rent and want to expand her business. The girl said she is ready to settle down with him but the boy is afraid that history might repeat itself. He wants to start a big business now but he wants to use almost half of the money to pay her house right rent and invest on her business. should he invest in herHow will he know if the girl is the the other ? what test can he give to the girl to be sure she won't run away

Your cousin is a fool that’s if the story is true ooo
Just tell him I said so ur welcome

yazga:
Dating rules.

Dear Single mothers, do not date men who are broke. Don't date any man that you would have to feed, clothe and pick his bills. It is a recipe for disaster. You have children to take care of. You don't need an extra grown child.

At least, date a man who picks his own bills, even though he has none to offer you, but let him not be a burden to you. The only people permitted to date broke and hungry guys are strictly single ladies.

At least they can afford to drink ijebu garri together. You have rent, fees, feeding, clothing to handle for yourself and your children. Don't add to your burden by dating a hungry man. Your self preservation should be at the center of your dating decisions.

Don't make life difficult for yourself. It is not love. You have nothing to prove. You are not his mother.

Some of these men are actually very inconsiderate. I don't actually know how a young man will feel comfortable feeding off a woman that has children to take care of. Always ensure that the guy has his own money before you date. Think about your children. Don't put them and yourself in harm's way. This advice is not popular.

Are u a single mom yourself? In Nigeria I don’t think single mom have the luxury of choosing men like single ladies unless ofcourse if they have money

ZaOzaRoom:
She initiated sex everytime before but stopped all of a sudden because I stopped giving her money as before.

The solution is right in front of you, how do u want her to be happy when you’re not giving enough money. She is try to weaponize sex and I guess it’s working because ur complaining. Give her more money everybody is happy

TheGoodJoe:
I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was working me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the altar. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her upkeep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled but she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

You are too harsh I think you over reacted next time try to punish her in other ways like making her jealous or something to anger her before u breakup she might change

Algorithimz:
You are quite right bro and I understand your point. But let's view it from another angle. You started somewhere too and now you are here and still soaring. Keep helping people within your capacity. I wish you best of luck in your endeavors always.

Bro I still do just don’t want to add to it. Wishing you the same

WhereIsOldRoger:
You want a Friend or a business partner which
..cause all your requirements are those of a business partner.

All am saying is I don’t a parasitic friend that’s all. Don’t you have things going on for you or are u looking for a friend to help you with money?

WhereIsOldRoger:
If you're feeling lonely or whatever like you wanna be friends I'll like to listen to what you have to say... cause really my life is boring and I've never really had friends. So maybe you could email me or drop your fb name or what ever.

I am also looking for new friends because am tired of all this greedy friends I have that only know how to ask and not give. You have to be financially well off because I am. If you are business minded that’s a plus. Student or unemployed, not a business owner pls stay off.
Abeg if you meet my requirements and want a friend to talk to and sometimes hangout email me @ samdavjustin@gmail.com

Link to ur previous work

@op nawa for you ooo if I were you I will be more worried about my job than one stinking hoe

He is a member of a WhatsApp group I belong, he has being avoiding calls for a while now he’s looking guilty by the day

Very good God don catch them how ironic

If you’re current location is bad try relocating, and accept any job you see. As you’re working keep working on your dreams goodluck

I guess you’re still a kid because based on your message you don’t have any game at all. Even if all you want to do is chop and clean mouth you atleast have to make her feel loved temporarily. Anyways that girl doesn’t sound like she will miss you so it’s for the best

@op yes you will get hurt again but that’s the price you pay for being in love. Is she the only girl in town or you just have low self esteem

udoekere:
At times i'd wonder wether musicians are that rich coz no be everybody dey download their songs...

They don’t make money from downloads they get their money on concert and endorsements deals.

Business is brutal no doubt about it but the reward is worth it that is if you’re successful

Nawa ooo scammers everywhere

Women are emotional beings learn how to use that to your advantage, and yes relationship is a game even while married you better how women think so that you will have less problems.

Martinez39:
I had a friend that was studying Marine Science. I asked him what his job prospects were and he started telling me that jobs are plenty and that he can work in blah blah blah organisation and blah blah blah water cooperation. I tried telling him that jobs are scare but he blocked me because he learnt from his prosperity preacher and motivational books that he should avoid "negative energy and vibe". Lwkmd . The guy is now a photographer giving motivational speeches on his WhatsApp status. Though we later made up but now I am careful not to be a "negative energy and vibe".

Guy you are absolute right, in this life nothing is given you have to fight for whatever you think you deserve. The problem is our youths are just unaware how messed up the country is so they believe their case will be different.

taiwo03:
TBC is cash now...

What do you have for sale in your store

How much is your diesel