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chicfarmer:
Three mistakes were made
1. He should have been allowed to study his preferred course- Computer Science
2. You guys should have grabbed the pastor's help to enable him launch his football career.
3. Your husband should NEVER have brutalized his own son whether by himself or hired thugs. That has broken the young man.

Possible Solutions:
You must try to reach him emotionally, connect with him no matter how hard it may seem. You the mother have a very important role to play here. Get him to open up and start talking. If he keeps bottling up his anger, he is gonna blow up one day. I do not wish you this.

His father owes him an apology for getting thugs to brutalize him. You must convince your husband to take this first step to aid his healing. His father should be his protector, not his tormentor.

You may also need to seek professional help to aid his healing. Show him more love.

You've spoken well.

Sadly, the kind of father in this story may not want to reconcile with his son. He's a proud man. I suspect he's a cultist. Because I'm still wondering how a man can be so heartless to cause his son so much pain.

I usually pity women in this kind of situation because most times, they don't have a say, especially when they're only housewife and completely dependent on the man.

@op, I feel your pains as a mom. Take heart dear. Your husband messed up that boy. The way forward right now is reconciliation and the object in every reconciliatory process is apology. Your husband must apologize to that boy and draw him to himself.

I don't even know where he got the idea that studying Pharmacy is better than Computer Science. I sincerely don't know who told him that. I don't even see any course better than Computer Science in the university right now within and outside of this country. He was only trying to use his myopic mind to suppress that boy.

How much the f*ck is NDLEA paying Pharmacists? Are they paying them in FX? No! But an advanced Computer Scientist can be paid in FX in this country. Even as it stands, that boy can still study Computer and become better than that man in the next 5-7 years.

I'm glad he's still got age by his side. The only challenge right now is to get him out of depression and sadly, it's only your husband that can play a good role here. In any case he refuse to make amends with the boy, just ask him to step aside and leave the boy for you.

If the young lad is still interested in Computer Science, get him to do it and I can promise that you won't regret it. I won't discourage him from pursuing football but you guys should ONLY consider that option if there's someone to facilitate playing in Europe for him. You may also consider getting admission for him in a football academy in Europe.

All the best to you and your family

Portable the drama king

incogni2o:
you cannot buy time.

Most Parents don't have time for thier Kids

A child will not turn wayward overnight

Single parenthood is the worst: whether the parent is rich or poor.

tommy589:
Sometimes it goes beyond learning bad behavior or good parenting. How come some children from useless parents surprisingly turns out well

It's still about parenting. God's word can't be broken. It says train your child in a way that he should go and when he grows up, he won't depart from it. When you look at spoilt children closely, you'll see how their parents contributed directly or indirectly to them going astray.

And the matter dies there.

OtuologyProf:
Chai. This case is so straight forward as there is no single technicality to swindle this one.

It's just like when a man is almost nabbed in another man's matrimonial bed, runs off, leaving his boxers behind.
The boxers is the forfeiture. So if you know it isn't a crime but a harmless gift which the man doesn't like for his wife, go back and claim your boxers

Your analogy is funny but that's the truth.

donbrowser:
The prayer is simple and straightforward. I will be more successful during Tinubu's tenure. Will you be more unfortunate?

I stopped my dependence on Nigeria since 2017. I care less about whatever useless government you support. I earn FX throughout. Can you say the same?

meum:
Zazzu from the zoo😂

Nope! You got it wrong. I'm Zazzu. I live in the zoo.

everythinggirly:
What exactly is his offence?

That guy don see shege for naija

MufasaLion:
Very deadly!!!

Especially when there's no enough money to give to all the wives as they want.

GeneralPula:
Nonsense..

If they wanna mourn, they should mourn in peace..

People wey Dey die for USA due to gun attacks and all, nah USA fail them?

Yes. The country failed them because gun attacks is something they can put under control.

Seun:
Fellow Nairalanders,

We have noticed the use of ethnic slurs and other derogatory names by a small but persistent group of political actors and trolls.

This practice of derogatory name-calling adds no value to the forum. It's bad for our mental health, our harmony as a community, and the reputation of Nairaland. It's simply toxic. It's absence and the absence of the people who use those slurs will not be missed.

Therefore I have decided to ban the practice entirely. I have instructed dominique, mukina2, Lalasticlala and Mynd44 to ban anyone who uses an ethnic slur or derogatory name on Nairaland. The antispam bot will also contribute to the effort. Please report any case that you see.

- Seun Osewa, Founder of Nairaland

How about beggars? You've got any plans for them? They also make the forum a turn off. Some even wrap the begging in a comment.

pek:
Very mature and true. Can't add a word more. If you are in Abuja or anytime you are in Abuja, would love to give you a treat.

Wow! Thanks guy. Sadly, I only visit Abuja once in a while. I stay in Calabar.

emmanuelbrown26:
Ok

Most urchins are online beggars. Fact!

Naija na cruise

kellyjc:
Recent happenings have shown that Nigerians are tired of the current political class . The people aren't sleeping anymore.

So what can they do?

kellyjc:
We the concerned Nigerians will not rest until we see some of them behind bars.

E go hard bro. Within Nigeria there's no justice while US/UK don't really care.

Yedidea:
I'm Solomon an Ibgo from my father's side,and my mom is a Ghanaian, My mom took me from Nigeria to Ghana ( UNAWARE ) of my father as I was a baby so I have never seen my own biological father ever since Born, and I have tried all humanly possible means to find him but not avail, my mom have declined to tell me every Truth about my father, after all my pressure on her to tell me where my dad is until now no good answer from her, but I'm desperately want to see my dad.

The only information I have about Him is- my mom told me that His name is Paul Peter She said she has forgotten the sir name of my Dad, and she has also forgot the Nigeria state my dad comes from , My Dad was then a mechanical engineer in Lagos in assembling excavators ect..there was a pictures proofing that but she seized it, and she failed to tell me.

The Company name, I have my father's very old picture with me, posted with my mom, I'm now at age but I sincerely want everyone who will come across my massage join the searching help till I find my real family, my mom name is Grace , that was the name my Dad was aware of.

Please my precious reader help me found my dad and my home back in Nigeria, this is my Ghanaian number for call and WhatsApp -+233553121901 , God bless you and your family for helping me Amen.

Why are you keen to meeting the man? You think you'll be better as a Nigerian than as a Ghanaian? I'll suggest you stick to Ghana. At least, there's sufficient power supply there and you are better off a Ghanaian. Don't listen to the hype bro. Hang in there as a Ghanaian.

Obinoscopy:
I picked my sample from ALL the States.

Your analysis is poor. You can't analyze a bad data. Data on IREV is largely manipulated to favor Tinubu.

Feyisera:
We upload pictures in real time on Instagram and Facebook. With all the billions Mr Mahmood was given, why didn't the pictures upload in real time? Why are they still being uploaded little by little? Simple things shouldn't be so complex. Even though I support Asiwaju, I blame INEC's inefficiency for all this uproar.

Had they made this whole thing seamless, it wouldn't leave any room for suspicion and scrutiny.


May God raise a kind hearted person to assist you dear, and may divine help locate you. Amen.

I've never seen beggars with ability to make right choices that's why they'll remain beggars. You supported Tinubu and coming online to beg. Online senseless people will give you their money. Idioot!

Do the crime. Do the time. UK no be naija

gaby:
Next time when you come across my moniker, you'd mind your shitty life and business.

Non-entity.

You're a nobody bruh. You're a fu*kin' motherfuckin' retard. Kiss ma ass. Dickhead!

gaby:
Thunder pieces your moronic skull there...useless thing.

You dumbskull. You are messed up bruh. I'm right here grinding. Deal with it

gaby:
You moronic waste of sperm where are you? I hope you have been crushed to death by a well-loaded Dangote truck.

Aschlock

Asshole! Get the f*ck off my mention.

TheDEVlLHimseIf:
ok that should be Obi's problem not you nor Reno

For what I know, if nothing would come out of that prayer, they won't list it. Obi isn't just listing things, he knew that the election will end up in the court so they had planned for the court even before the election. This is what people don't know.

Again, at this point, the lawyers truly know what will fly in court and what wouldn't fly. They are not children. All of them have sat and looked critically at each point. These are guys with so much experience so there's no cause for alarm.

They'll argue the case in such a way that the Supreme Court chief can't say no to them. At least the electoral law was grossly violated. So I strongly believe Tinubu can't get away with most prayers of the Labor Party.

gaby:
No mind them bros.

Na hunger and hardship dey frustrate them..plus boredom.

Enjoy your wife, family, and life.

There is more to life and marriage than beauty, looks, and academic qualifications.

Happiness and peace of mind comes first at all times.

Human beings are serious hypocrites. If it was the other way round where the man is the older partner like Regina and Ned, they would look the other way, but here's because it's a woman they are now seeing it like the guy married a much older lady. Meanwhile, we know how women ages fast. If you check well, those guys are within the same age bracket but they are age-shaming the woman.

SmartPolician:
That FCT 25% NONSENSE sounds absurd to me. FCT is often separated from the 36 states because it's a territory, not a state (they cannot call it 37 states). However, as far as the election is concerned, FCT is like every other state in the country.

BTW, if Peter Obi is hoping to use that as basis to upturn Tinubu's sham victory, then I am afraid he has no case against the Druggie because it won't work.

Nope. The FCT isn't like every other state. Guber election wasn't done there. Think of FCT like the electoral college in the US. Whether the law made a mistake when it said "And FCT" is unfortunate because the law is the law. People read it and it was passed. And for that reason, the court must uphold it. They can choose to repeal it later but for now, it's "And FCT."

kingreign:
Contrary to what toyota or other manufacturers tell you, Automatic transmisison fluids are not meant for life. They are meant to be changed at some point in time, usually 30k miles.

Hmmm! But wait o. Shebi the car can throw a sign on the dashboard or blinks the drive light to show there's something wrong with the ATF? Or does the ATF just spoil the gearbox if it's bad?

kingreign:
Wrong advise!

Mbök, explain.

Peacheree:
A true woman of substance


May God raise a kind hearted person to help you, and may divine help locate you IJN amen.

@ Seun and mod

Here's another format. This time she chooses not to come direct but hide under praying for the beggar meanwhile they're the beggar. Nuisance everywhere.