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LOL. Another of my mottos is revenge is a dish best served cold (although sometimes emotions may get the better of me).

C2H5OH:
Sapphic,
I don't think it is your lack of maturity. More like it is their lack of maturity and initiative. The funny thing is this "thing" did not even bother calling to say da da da just popped up, and I don't think I am going to make it.

Walahi, this reminds me of back in the day when I was dating this Hausa-Fulani guy called Adamu. An asshole if ever there was one. Rich, good looking and had girls fawning over him. I lived in Lagos and he lived in Maiduguri. The S.O.B. on one occasion was supposed to come into town and we were supposed to go out one night (this was pre-GSM era but we had a Nitel phone that worked wonderfully o). No phone call, nothing (this from a guy that used to frustrate me and other members of my family from the sheer volume of his calls). Your dear mugu was dressed to the nines waiting. 9 o'clock came and went, 10. 11, midnight. The thing that pained me was that there was this other guy I that wanted to take me out that night who I bumped off for this stupid idiot o. I was so very bitter.

Next morning the bastard called as if nothing happened (no apologies whatsoever) and did not even mention his faux pas in any way. Neither did I. Sometime later (maybe a fortnight, maybe a month - I cannot exactly remember), he wanted me to be his escort for his uncle's party at Dodan Barracks. I agreed. On the day, he turned up at my house and the other boy I had blown off also turned up (well I had told him to come and take me out) and I just went with the other guy and left him seating there. He was not best pleased (In fact he was incensed). LOL. But that is life.

C2H5OH:
Sapphic what sort of grudges do you hold?  How did you handle the situation?  Someone just did that to me today and I pretended it was fine, but to be honest ko tan ninu mi.  I need to find a way to get said person back.

LOL. . .You do not want to know how many guys (in those days) that I dated and just dumped because they turned up unbearably late or did not show for some flimsy excuse or the other (I agree that I lack maturity when it comes to these things, but that's just me). The reason has to be damn good. My motto was if you are not calling from hospital or nobody died, just don't waste your time with the stupid excuses (OK, maybe not that extreme, but close).

There was this time an ex really pissed me off by cancelling on me at the last minute (no emergency o), I held my tongue and pretended that I was not bothered. I arranged to meet her at one of my favourite Thai restaurants in North London. She arrived before me, and I called her to tell her that I was running late, but told her that she should  order the starters without me. Then I called roughly ten minutes later to tell her that I I was about ten minutes away and told her that I was really famished and could she please place an order for me, so that it would be served around the time I got there (I had her order one of the most expensive meals on the menu). Needless to say that I was not heading that way at all. She was humiliated and was out of pocket over a hundred quid. That taught her not to mess with me in future. (Okay, That was not nice. But I always tell people that things like that pain me to the bone and I am extremely vindictive - I am trying to work on it - NOT).

@ Poster, Is there something sinister going on between you and your uncle? ^{(It is just a question o. Make una no come crucify me for hia ).} Go and live with a mate of yours, or move back home. Or if these options are not expedient, call the woman and have a heart to heart talk with her. If all fails, tell her to give you a few months that you are trying to make alternative arrangements for accommodation and work hard to rent yourself a place. . . even if it is a single room (your uncle might be able to assit you with some little funds).

To be honest. In the unlikely circumstance that I ever have a husband, I definitely will NOT want any member of his family living with us (and I do not care if it is his mother).

@ Topic,

I usually hold grudges when someone stands me up or fails to turn up (on those rare occasions that this actually does happen), but draw the line when a person or their close family member has been in an accident, or someone close has died. These are things they had no control over. So, I do think your mate is being unreasonable. Ignore him for a while. When he comes to his senses, he will come around (unless he knows that you do habitually tell such tales on a regular basis. And you do know what they say about the boy who cried wolf. ).

alfchye:
What is with  this sappis.I think you are sick.Even if he curse the family for being immoral, why would they beat him.So this is how your family will be beating you husband.I sorry for who go marry you put for house.You are just too  crazy.
   If u ever marry ur husband is in for real hell.

Na wetin now? Do I owe you money? Why the heck are you following me all over the place? Abeg o. Haba.

Was it only me, or did anyone else notice that the original poster side stepped what he did to the woman? He was probably trying to show the wife that he was the man of the house, when in fact na wrapper him just dey wear all these days. Ol' boy just go and dobale for your wife and her father and tell them that you won't be so silly and useless in future. Next time when you see your wife cheating, you'll learn how to turn the other cheek and look the other way. . . nonsense.

I never did make it to the end of this post. is there a summary somewhere? LOL

Nigerian mothers can do eye service o. Do not take what she says literally. When the shit hits the fan, her son is her son. As for your husband, you need to understand that the average Nigerian man is used to cheating on his wife and having her turn a blind eye (and in some circumstances, she would even beg hinm to stay into the bargain). Kick the S.O.B. to the kerb. I do not know him personally, but I will wager that he is unlikely to become a model hubby.