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@ Poster, You'd do best to take the bull by the horn and give her the sex talk. You should find out if she has already started sleeping with the boy etc. It's better you broach all the necessary safe sex talk head on o, because wishing that it goes away or burying your head in the sand may not be best and better safe than sorry (I know sex at 12 sounds ludicrous, but still ask).

Miss83:
Sapphic, is your man cheating on u? Cause u sound like u could need help urself, and dont take it out on me pls.
Anyways and to the rest of yall, im here to get sum advice not to be eaten OK!
Remember, alot of ppl these days get DIVORCE and the guy is CRAZY MADLY inlove with ME, dont make it sound like HUGE thang I mean how many single mothers r out there, there is no reason for me to not believe him when his telling me his going for divorce.
But I just needed to talk out about this, even tho I have it all in my hands, Im still not sure about this relationship, 

ROFLMAO. I sound like I need help to you because I feel that you are a gullible idiot who in the 21st century is bleeping a married man (who has at least one other sexual partner [maybe more] that he shags) without any protection? If only you were just as "discernable" with your own life you won't be coming here with a home wrecker sob story or dilemma. LOL. . Don't forget to post the invitation of your double party here on Nairaland. After chopping at the "Ikomo" party, we can move immediately to "The-Lying-Cheating-Lowlife-Dumped-Me-With-His-Baby" party. Shebi ka sha ti ba e yo, iyen ni koko abi? LOL.

JJYOU:
dont bother yourself with sapphic. she doesnt know what you are going through.

Heaven forbid that I would ever know what she is going through. Do I look or seem like a mugu to you? Suegbe is not written on any part of my anatomy abeg, and it has nothing to do with being gay. Even when I went with guys, mi o rindin bayi, so abeg leave story. Some people are very gullible and like to hear certain things and I trust men, they will tell them what they want to hear.

JJYOU:
she is a full fledged LIP STICK LESBIAN. at least according to her.
you are right this is almost a right of passage in naija.

I do not know what your grouse is.  I do NOT recall ever stating that I was a "Lipstick Lesbian". I have said, I am NEITHER butch NOR a girly girl, just an average female who is a lesbian.

ROFLMFAO. . . I didn't see that coming

"I Love You" is thrown around too casually in Nigeria. When she does actually feel the love overflow in her heart, she will tell you.

Jarus:
Why is it that anybody that has not been to Lagos is seen as uncivilized?
During service year in Sokoto, a guy told us that he had never been to Lagos(He lives in Kaduna) and people were just telling him ''How is that possible?''

So what's the fuss about Lagos?
Is Lagos that bad?
Is it true that if you have not been to or live in Lagos, you are not yet civilized?
Why do people respect/fear/feel inferior to anybody from Lagos?

When I first went to secondary school, I must admit that I was one of those who was flabbergasted that there were people who had never been to Lagos ^{(OK that was ignorant, I know, but I was surprised that most people did not travel abroad for summer holidays [or had never even travelled period], so I found the Lagos thing amazing and it was not just me who thought so o. Almost everyone who lived in Lagos were the same. . . including the ones that came from other states but who lived in Lagos)}. And just like your Kaduna guy, people who had never been to Lagos were sometimes made fun of, especially when we had conversations of going to the beach, museum, National Theatre (which was in good order then) and you do not want to know that there are many people who do NOT know what a bridge looks like (bar maybe seeing films or books). The unwritten rule was if you were ignorant of the popular topic of conversation, hide your ignorance or at least do not display it in a manner that makes you look "bush". the truth is that those of us from Lagos generally spoke with nicer (or should I say milder) accents than people from "rural" Nigeria (those thick Igbotic accents and konk ara oke accents were the butt of many jokes, let's not talk abot those Calabar ones too). Even the TV stations too. Many people lived in states that had one or a maximum of two stations while Lagos people a standard 5 and quite a number had satellite to boot too (a marvel for many other people. This was in the 80s o).

There was an unwritten hierarchy in my school, the Lagos residents were top (the only group higher were those people who holidayed abroad), Yoruba girls were next interspersed with the Benin people, then the Ibo's and other minor group that were not part of the north e.g Cross Rivers, Warri etc and the northerners brought up the rear (and in those days no one wanted to know that some states were not Hausa, they were all referred to as Hausa, except those Yoruba speaking people from Kwara. Kids can be really cruel, for example when an Ibo girl who was not "mainstream" tried to break out of the mould by wearing something a little trendy, she was called "Okoro Feeling Funky" (or OFF), while a similar Hausa girl would be labelled "Funky Bororo" (Abeg if you are Ibo or Hausa don't bite my head off o, it was not me who came up with the phrases). Yoruba people who did not fit in were referred to as "Local" or "Village" girls. The thing is Lagos used to look so much better back then. No Okada wahala, the traffic lights worked, there were public pay phones which worked, roads were not bad and certainly no bloody okadas.

Back to the question, maybe people just feel that being the main cosmopolitan city in Nigeria, that most people must have had one reason or the other to go there or at least have a desire to see it. Who knows really, but I must say that the same applies here in the UK with London and Paris for France (well except you say you are from the South of France in which case you are loaded, but you'd still have been to Paris nevertheless).

Miss83:
Thank u all for ur reply, and for the negative parts pls dont judge me, cause i am NOT a homewrecker, okey. And the reason im so confused and cant leave him is not only that I love him but I also think i am pregnant for this man,

LMAO! In this day and age, with all the sexual diseases that abound, you are shagging someone who you KNOW is inevitably shagging someone else with no protection. And you are saying people should not judge you. Well, I doubt anyone will do so because you yourself have revealed that not only are you gullible, but you are an idiot to boot. I am almost reeling with laughter because you think you are in love abi? The love will soon clear when you are left holding a bastard whose daddy has legged it. LOL. . . Don't forget to post the address of where the ikomo will be so that we can come and dance edijo olomo o, omo tuntun jojolo ekuabo. . . tra la la. . . LOL.

Miss83:
I dont know how to say this, but this is not me ,Imean i dont do this but im so madly inlove now with a marriedman and its getting out of hands, he tells me that he
is inlove with me and cant be without me,and that he had problems with his
wife before he get to know me and now he is going for divorce her but just not at the
moment cause his scared of loosing his kid.

What to do pls?

What you need to do is dump the lowlife. You'd be shocked how many married men use this same old lame story on gullible women. What I am surprised about is the fact that quite a lot of women fall for it hook, like and sinker. I won't be surprised to hear that there is nothing wrong with the man's marriage except his philandering ways. Nine times out of ten (no, make that ninety-nine times out of a hundred, probably even less), the man will not leave his wife and has no intention to do so whatsoever. Tell him to give you a call when he has actually left his wife. If however, you are waiting for that one time out of one hundred, I'll say goodluck with that.

irenereky:
Do i worth, I mean I am Not bad at all

What are you trying to ask? Is it "Am I Worthy" or "Am I Worth it" or what? Your entire thread consists of 2 incomplete sentences, one in the title which is grammatically incorrect and the second which couches your question, makes no sense.

Be that as it may, You are only second in the guy's life because that has been your choice. I doubt he put a bullet to your head to be with him. If you believe you deserve better, WALK AWAY.

The End.

Always by Bon Jovi - This is probably my favourite song ever ^{(or one of them at least)}

"And I will love you, baby, Always
And I'll be there forever and a day, Always
I'll be there till the stars don't shine
Till the heavens burst and the words don't rhyme
And I know when I die you'd be on my mind
And I'll love you, Always."

Love it! Love it!! LOVE IT!!!

[quote author=Mad_Max link=topic=118770.msg3388115#msg3388115 date=1232998038]Iro ni jor. In the guy's dreams,maybe. Guys fantasize about harems and aggressive women raping them and threesomes and being slaves to cruel mistresses who just happen to be sexually insatiable.
One thing about having lots of guy pals:too much information! [/quote]LMAO

See how people give girls a bad name? Someone "hammered" it that it was friendship, small time now, they will say that the girl is "cheating" on her boyfriend. Bobo, o ya wa iyawo e lo si waju.

Is it with a girl or a bloke? LOL If it is a girl, surely both of you stand to gain tremendously. It is when it is a bloke that I can understand when you start raking. . . LOL

All the foregoing are so very true. They look Gawd so awful.

ROFLMAO, Spiked you are too funny. LOL

lady kool:
wow! lol ohmydaze this is too funny for me to imagine just leave that church straight away if i were u and cant u slap him or something ? nigerian pastors they will neva change

[quote author=ok.gerald link=topic=38436.msg3382605#msg3382605 date=1232882258]Next time when your pasor tries to pull a fast one on you, be more vigilant.Watch for his very next move, when the sliding tackle is coming, jump up so has not to be hit first.That way you would have evaded his first attack. By the time you are landing, go straight for his john thomas with a straight punch,next is an upeercut to his throat. This will leave him gasping for then hurl him in on quick movement on to the ground. Then shout Praise the Lord, for you saw a demon and u have defeated it. Tell the congregation that that was wht u heard the lord told u, they will believe u.Afterall they must have experienced raking at one time or the other so no big deal when ure serving d pastor da same. It works bro[/quote][quote author=A_K_O link=topic=38436.msg3385520#msg3385520 date=1232964522]By that time his bodyguards assistant pastors would have 'escorted' you off the stage. [/quote]Yes, but the pastor would know that he has to proceed with caution in the future. Abi?

OBVIOUS:
No one talks bout the other side. Why do men continue to stay with women who cheat on them ?

If it bothers you that much, create a thread for that topic/scenario.

Cristalz:
Now I have to ask. . .what exactly is your definition of 'good time'? Using clubs as your reference point,that is.

For me, that would be for example, go out with mates and/or your partner on a fri/sat nite after a hectic working week, go to the theatre, go partying or clubbing, get pissed, flirt a bit, dance like there is no tomorrow, laugh a lot, generally have fun. . . (but not to shag every thing in sight). Wake up on saturday or sunday with probably a hangover but nothing else.

Me thinks that the Heath Ledger thing is just cos the man don Mud. It's like they feel this is the last chance to honour him after not giving him the best actor Oscar in 2005 for Brokeback Mountain (Although Phillip Seymour Hoffman did a brill Truman Capote and admittedly deserved to win). How many of the Joker type roles actually get to win Oscars?

Anyway, on to my own campaign -

Kate Winslet for Best Actress Oscar. . . And Best Supporting Actress too.
Chant! Chant!! Chant!!!
Kate!
Kate!!
KATE!!!
K-A-T-E!!!!!

Sisi Jinx:
Thank goodness her speech Yesterday was marginally better than that saccharine sweetness she raped us with at the CCA. If She wins the Oscar, I will be break someone's TV.

You know I told you of the JAMB effect. By yesterday, she was "prepared" and was thus much more composed.

spikedcylinder:
I thought I loved the dress before too but on second thoughts,the dress no be am.

Whats with the endless slit? On an armless dress? And the chandelier neck piece? On a dress that seems to make such a loud statement? Why?

After so many years in this profession, it seems that Beyonce has yet to understand that in some situations, "less is more".
No necklace at all or a short string of pearls might have looked better. I do however still think that overall it was not a particularly bad look. Go and check out that her golden hideous monstrosity and this looks like a Picasso dream compared to that.

Sisi Jinx:
Supporting Actress in a Movie - Kate Winslet (Ugggggggggggggggggggggggggggggh  )

Guess Bliss will be happy!!

Can she get off the stage already??!!!

She is indeed (well a little bit). And Sisi all this bad belle has to stop o. What the heck is this nonsense that they didn't give my baby the main one? I am not down with this shit.

They had better cough up at the Oscars for Kate, or else. . .  LOL.

KarmaMod:
Oh Give me a break

It should have been between

Vila Davis
Penelope Cruz
Taraji Henson

Seems like if you wanna win award nowadays, make sure you cameo in a Holocaust movie *rolls eyes* 

Bad Belle number 2.  Cameo ko, Kamoru ni.