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jogego: Marriage should not be on their minds at this point in time.

Relationship should not be in their minds either. If marriage is not important, then sex and relationship cannot be important. However, I agree with Jogego that they should probably call off the 'relationship'.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships should not be taken too seriously, especially when the guy is not in the position to get the two things a young Nigerian man wants from a girlfriend: premarital sex and food!

tayotina: Seun wake up from your slumber. This is the 21st century for crying out loud.

So you think that because we're in the 21st century our men must revert to ape-like sexual behaviour? Oh, and by the way, didn't we come accross some statistics showing that the prevalence rate of premarital sex among Nigerian women is higher than that for men of the same age?

tayotina: I believeno man would travel out of the country for some long without touching a woman ... We know men are cheats and liars.

I don't like this sort of generalization at all. Perhaps all [I]your boyfriends[/I] have been cheats and liars, but this doesn't mean that all men are like that. As we have noted in the past, it takes two to tango: before a man can cheat against his partner, he must find a woman who is willing to join him in the act.

yomidipset4eva:
What's wrong to you may be right to me and vice versa.

Is lying right or wrong? I thought fidelity is one of the foundations of marriage. Why go through all the trouble of getting married in this 21st century if you're not going to be able to stick to your partner.

If you're running an open marriage ("a marriage where both parties agree that they are permitted the right to have sexual relationships outside the marriage, without regarding this as sexual infidelity." then it's ok to have an affair. Otherwise it is not. I think it is wrong to be deceptive to someone that loves you dearly. I think that vows, once made should be kept. If you can't keep the vows anymore, then go and annul the vows first. First tell your partner, "look, I want to go and sleep with another person" .

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Regards,
Seun.

Ban the first person who started yet another thread on virginity.

Say you're walking down the street, minding your own business. What would you do if someone stopped, looked at you and burst out into uncontrollable laughter while rolling on the floor and pointing at you?

Get away from the area as fast as possible. I can't say it hasn't happened to me before .

What would you do if you were asked to tell a really funny joke for the chance of winning a million naira.

Our Sports forum is suffering because poor admin's interests in sports is not much

I was aware of the match but I didn't start a thread about it.

Well I guess she doesn't have as many fans as I thought. Oh, well.

The pro-virgins are still leading in the poll. 7 votes to 6. The anti-virgins are simply more vocal than the pro-virgins .

This web-site runs on a Linux-based (virtual) server which I run remotely, so I'm quite used to the the idea of Linux as a production server.

However, as a web administrator I cannot run Linux on my desktop because 87% of the visitors to my website use Micrisoft Internet Explorer, which of course only runs on Windows. It is easy to get the open source software products which usually run on Linux (PHP, MySQL, Apache Web server, etc) to work on Windows, but you can't get popular Windows software (e.g. office) to run on Linux!

Dual-booting between Linux and Windows only works when you work primarily on one OS and use the other for learning or playing games. When I was studying at OAU Ife, I used to run Linux as my primary OS and WIndows for playing games and movies! I had friends who ran Windows as their primary OS but would occasionally boot to Linux just to 'learn UNIX'.

However, as I'm typing this I don't even have any copy of Linux on my hard drive because there's no point switching between the two operating systems when all the open source software I want to use can equally work on Windows! So, for now, I can only campaign for the use of Linux on servers!

The keyboard and the branded case for Zinox computers are specially customized, too. I don't know if other components are. They also produce some laptops, which I assume would have a lot of customized components also.

Who cares? If it works, is affordable, and it comes with a good warranty, then it's good enough for me.

cletuskpelle:
Seun. Marriage counselors? I think only men adhere to their advice a little. Women don't seem to believe in any body's advice except their own

I have a funny feeling that you are talking from experience! But the conventional wisdom is that women are usually the first to ask for help or advice where a relationship is concerned. (That) men will prefer to assert that there's no problem or that they can fix the problem without any help from 'an outsider'.

Well, I believe in my judgement but I'm also not ashamed to ask for help from people when I can see that they have more relevant experience. Certainly there must be some women who are so ... wonderful ... that they fit cletuspelle's description . Poor husbands.

You mean one in which people can win mega-prizes?

ILN, what really is the difference between assembling and manufacturing? Even companies like Dell and HP could be said to be assembling their PCs and laptops since they don't actually produce the components. The components are produced by their predominantly Asian suppliers and assembled by technicians.

Correct me if I'm wrong ... I couldn't find any web references to back up my assertion.

It just goes to show that some people want ready-made goods. Well I can't attack your preference, but I don't share it. The "anchor me towards this angle" that you're speaking against is also known as communication. What your previous girlfriend liked is not necessarily what your wife would like. You seem to think that talking in the bedroom is bad.

It would be quite funny, since they've not been able to force lesser things on me.

What would you do if you were made the administrator of this forum for 24 hours.

Good point. So why do you think I am running this pro-virginity campaign? To encourage the girl not to sleep with 1,000 men in the first place, so she won't have to tell any lies to cover it up.

First of all, there are things a doctor can do a few hours after a rape to make pregnancy impossible. But because of the unecessary stigma attached to rape the girl may keep quiet and not tell anybody, which makes the doctors not to get to do their job. So a rape should not lead to pregnancy if doctors are consulted. The real danger is the possibility of getting an STD or AIDS .

Anyway, if a girl is raped and due to not knowing what to do she ends up pregnant, well I still see her as a virgin. So in my book it is possible for a virgin to be pregnant. It is not the membrane that is the big deal for those who make virginity a serious issue. It is the act. A virgin that was raped has not yet had the opportunity to do what we are saying ppl should not do.

If you take a bag of money out of the bank, is it robbery? Well it depends on whether the money is yours! If you kill a man is it murder? Well it could manslaughter, or self-defence, depending on the circumstances. In most things in life, the question "how" matters as much as "what".

You have brought up the issue of rape, and well, I'm just sad to hear about it.

As far as I am concerned, a virgin remains a virgin in spite of prior rape.

To be sincere, I think the only difference between Glo and MTN is PR. The people behind Glo Mobile know how to give away lots of freebies and appear benevolent without actually losing any money. For example,
[list][li]They started out with per second billing, which made them look like saviours but is offered at rates which are more expensive that per-minute billing on the long run![/li][li]They are currently giving away 35 free Glo-to-Glo SMS, knowing fully well that most of the time the destination network for SMS is MTN or Vmobile[/li][/list]The list goes on and on, but you get the picture.

Globacom Limited knows how to give away freebies that cost them very little but earn them a disproportionately great amount of goodwill from customers. It's so brilliant; I like it!

If jogego and Vieira were married, they would have said so in their last posts. Please, let's be straightforward on the forum so we can learn from each other and not confuse each other! Let the 3 of us wait for the married people before dropping further comments!

Einstein: Ladies, in the view of a guy, gets stale after much sex.

A well documented behaviour pattern. Eistein, thanks for being on the side of the virgins!

Eddy,

Thanks for the additional information you've posted. It will certainly be helpful to other people in Lagos area who might be facing the same challenge.

Let's wait and see if any current users of My Netcom or Cobranet would find this page.

Seun.

The name of the local manufacturer you're trying to remember is Zinox Computers, and their official website is at: www.zinoxtechnologies.com. They are responsible for a very small percentage of computers bought by small businesses or individuals in Nigeria. (They are mostly patronized by the government and some very large companies.)

Why would you like to know the number of computers in Nigeria? Does it really matter?

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jogego: Imagine what happens when a docile person marries anadventurous person. You think things would work out?

When a docile person meets an adventurous person, they will communicate their preferences to each other, evaluate the similarities and differences in their tastes, and negotiate for a mutually agreeable resolution. It's not only in the bedroom that, as a married person, you sometimes have to try something new just to please your partner.

And nothing stops people who are planning to get married from openly discussing their preferences before marriage. Nothing stops you a young man from [I]saying[/I], "my dear, I am wild o. I have been watching these dirty films, and I want to reproduce all their stunts in our bedroom when we get married. What do you think?" And if she says, "over my dead body; we only need to make lov when we're trying to have children" then you know you have a problem.

Let's face it, a virgin cannot instantaneously become too wild and adventurous for his wife to adjust to if [I]her[/I] first night is also [I]his[/I] first night. Let both of them learn together, and together let them become as wild or docile as they want to be. Simple communication is the answer, not premarital sex![/s]

Update on 11th September 2015: I believe in safe premarital sex now.

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jogego:
Sexual compatibility is a very very important part of marriage.

For goodness' sake, what is the meaning of this "sexual compatibility" you keep talking about? As long as the husband's body is complete and the wife's body is complete and they know what they need to do to get the pleasure they are looking for, they are sexually compatible. Please stop spreading this dangerous myth of sexual compatibility. I've had enough![/s]
I have changed my mind. Sexual compatibility is real.

jogego if all guy should reject virgin girl,pinky and I are in a big mess coz we won't get guy to marry us

First of all, jogego and obong (the anti-virginity campaigners ) are both based abroad, so they might have been influenced by western cultures.

Secondly, as a virgin you can always get disvirgined any time you like, but someone who is not a virgin cannot 'take back' her virginity. So think it is better to hold on to it and give yourself the opportunity of a future with both the men who prefer virgins and the men who claim that they don't. it is better to keep your options open!

Hello Eddy,

We're happy to have you here on Nairaland!

The Starcomms Internet service works just like the Multilinks service you're currently using, so you shouldn't waste any time investigating it.

As for DirectOnPC, my experience has been that their customers don't have anything good to say about them .

The Netcom Internet service offer looks good on paper, but there's one phrase on the My Netcom page that gives them away. It's the phrase "Shared Bandwidth". In Nigerian ISP circles, this simply means that you won't know what you're getting until you try it out, and the quoted bandwidth figures are all made up.

What we need to do is look for current customers of Cobranet and My Netcom and enquire about their experience so far. I have a good feeling about My Netcom, but this is the first time I'm learning about Cobranet.

Regards,
Seun.

For the Men:
You are 'in love' with two girls and they both would like to marry you. One of them is a virgin and has sworn not to have sex with anybody before marriage, including you. The other has done it with previous boyfriend(s) and is happy to do it with you. In all other respects, the two girls are exactly alike. Which one would you [I]marry[/I]?

For the Women:
Two realy close male friends are proposing marriage to you. They are exactly alike except that one of them doesn't believe in premarital sex and would not 'do it' with you until you're married. The other one has done it with other girl(s) and is ready to do it with you if you'll allow it. Which marriage proposal would you accept?

Please login and vote in the poll attached to this topic. Thanks.