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felong:
You don't have a job and yet you have gotten a girl pregnant and is living in your parents house with your baby mama and son finishing her food. Ogs she has every right to insult you, cos any sensible fellow will secure his future first before talking about his sexual desires.

Calm down. People make mistakes

stupidmod2:
thus making u not to focus on ur life, abegi

You dey talk another thing. Lol

IbnBattuta1960:
You ain't ready bro.
You need to finish school, serve and settle for a job or business.
It's not a time to be under pressure or make commitments you can't keep.
Let her go.

i swear. The journey still long

michjunior:
I have been dating this girl for 3month now and I love her., and I am also sure she loves me too., just yesterday she told me something that shook me... That a young medical doctor who resides in London wants to marry her and he is very serious about it and the parents are in support.... I am just a final year student and she is a 200 level student.. I still have a long way to go and I doubt she can wait for me... She is asking my opinion that she will do anything I ask... If I ask her to accept him she will and if I refuse she won't.... I love her but I don't want to waste her time.. I dont really have the intention to marry her now? Should I let her go? Pls serious comment

Oga please let her go. The journey ahead for you is still long, and you wouldn’t want unnecessary pressure from anyone in the future. Moreover. una fit still break up later. Just tell her to do what her mind tells her but she should make her decision fast, this way you won’t have to directly chase her

Alexgman1:
You are dating a girl for a year now and all of a sudden she broke up with you and went back to her ex who she has even told u dat she hate so much she could hurt him if she ever lay her eyes on him for leaving her all of sudden. Do you think there is something am not doing right Or her ex has something i dont have and she went back to him to continue from where they stopped?

Bro the first rule of dating, Make sure you let her stop all communications with her ex. An ex is more dangerous than the next guy. An ex already knows her weak spot

EzegeNdiigbo:
Free man joor

You just said "NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE"

Then "NO MONEY BEFORE MARRIAGE"

#SMAN



Don't quote me abeg before i swear for u

exactly

kweenfash:
Hello nairalanders. I've been seeing this guy for about a year now. I'm 22 and he's 38 and doing very well. For this 1 year I've been with him, I've been getting some redflags which I'm not happy with. I'm an independent lady, I have a very lucrative business that I do of which he knows but he doesn't know how lucrative it is. I'm not the kind of girl that begs for money but as a man, even your girl doesn't ask you for money, I think you should give her something once in while but since I started dating him, he has given me nothing. Towards the end of last year, I decided to test him and ask, he started lamenting about how he has been helping a lot of family and friends blah blah blah.... But he will see what he can do. The next day he sent 7k when I asked for 10k. I don't know if it's because I don't sleep with him because I told him no sex before marriage. I want to give my virginity to my husband. Now during Christmas and new year, he didn't even give me a dime and I didn't ask either. Yesterday was my birthday and I reminded him on Wednesday and he didn't even call me on my birthday. It really broke my heart. This man is very wealthy and he's behaving like this towards me, I don't what to think anymore. Guys, how do you see this?

If there man gives you money, what can you offer him? Abeg e better for two of una. No sex , no money. He knows what he is doing. I for one won’t give any girl i am not sleeping with money unless shez a friend or my family

Dfynboi:
Hi guys, trust everyone of you is enjoying his/her day... lemme go straight to the point without wasting ur time, my gf cheated on me with another guy nd I broke up with her,bt d problem is dt I can't get her off my mind... please what can I possibly do to get her off my mind totally, like forget her totally

Trust me, it would be hard but if you can survive the first month, then you no get issue. The first step is to delete her number, and remove her from every social media platform

Princessjoke:
I cheated on my boyfriend and he found out...he saw all the chats. Now I'm loosing a relationship of 3yrs plus..,coz of a fling that's not even up to 2 month... I'm done for...I'm finished where will I start from. He's heartbroken, he couldn't believe I could do such...it's just one time...he should be able to forgive and forget...

I wouldn’t forgive if it was me though

Truvel:
Dis Msg May Not Be 4 Everyone But It's 4 Someone. When U Are In Need Of Help Or Of Money & U Go Round To Seek Help 4rm People Or Even 4rm Ur Family People. Dis People Will Tell U Dey Can't Help U Or Dey Don't Av D Money To Help U. But When U Die, Dis Same People Would Av Money To Contribute 4 Ur Burial. Dis Life No Balance Ooooo.

but nobody owe you anything na

lalalista:
of course

����I swear, I no fit trust woman for my life.

lalalista:
Hello all, I opened an account to post this issue here because I want a honest advice from people who don't know who I am.

I have two men in my life asking for my hand in marriage. One is a working class graduate while the other is an ssce holder who recently lost his job. I like the ssce holder the more because he is more intelligent, neat, generous, fun to be with, more handsome and he's also from my tribe. When he had a job, he always gives me money without me asking him. He takes me out a lot and buys me things. Now he's just into daily hustles that fetches him 2- 5k daily.
On the other hand, the working class graduate is not from my tribe. He has money but spending it is always a big issue. Let me just say that he's kind of stingy. He's not as neat and intelligent as the ssce holder. I need to choose one of them before April. I'm equally a graduate.

My friends say I will suffer in future if I choose the ssce guy because he's got no degree and his chances of getting a good job is very low. They want me to marry the working graduate so I won't have to suffer. Deep in my heart, I want the ssce holder. Please I need your honest opinions on who to choose. Thanks

NOTE : I've been out of job too. My job was affected by the pandemic

so you’re currently dating both men and cheating on them

if you dey belle full, e no bad

SirDelight:
I think this, if not the most, would be one of the difficult tasks. It's not easy coming on social media to divulge this, but I need to end this depression. When I had nothing, I have always depended on loan apps for survival. I tried so hard to meet up with deadlines for debt repayments & the more I pay, the better the chance to get another loan. It's been three months now that I got a job (of #45,000 monthly) and I still can't gain a financial stability. This loan of #72,000 keeps making a mess of my life. When I try paying parts with my monthly income, I end up going back to get another loan since there's no one to borrow me without interest. My plight would have been eased if I could get a loan without interest attached to pay up, but there's none. I know I can survive with my monthly earning but the incurred debt keeps dragging my financial life in the mud. I'm so so depressed & tired of continuing like this. It has even killed my love-life because I don't want to drag any lady into my messed finance. I would still be paid this January but the mess on ground would suck it up & push me to get another loan; a man must survive. I see myself as "Customer daadaa ni" (regular customer) to this loan companies. I can't live this 2021 like this. It's not been easy but I'm still thanking God for being alive though.

Just felt like pouring my heart here, so I can get some relief, since they say 'a problem shared is half-solved.

lol no be new thing. Here in Canada we leave one loan���

Kriss216:
Lies!

Guys based in Yankee are prudent with their money. No Yankee based can be foolish enough to send 80K to a fish brain.

i swear

CalliDora1:
Stop whining about money here and there. Instead, pray that God should put you in a position to be able to help others when they "bill" you.

A guy has gifted me 80k before without any strings attached and till today he never asked for even my number or anything. That's a man.

That man na Jesus

Interesting15:
Yes, you will regret the decision in the nearest future. You might make a lot of money now though. But the devil who gave you an egg today will come tomorrow to force you to give him a cow. Discard the whole idea. Rather, do something noble and god-fearing. Don't make money outside God's Will. GOD bless you

abi no b crime?

this has happened to someone i know

wd2454418:
Bro! If you don't mind, focus on your life first. Save and invest with the money you earning, I tell you, she will run after you once she knows you are rich. It's all written boldly that she's the type of lady that wants a rosy home. Ladies are scum.

Why is she a scum? Bro if she wants something better, make him free am. Let him wish her well. I university it hurts but it’s human instincts. Honestly i have felt the pain of someone leave when I was broke, But now i don’t blame her. She needed something better that I couldn’t offer. That girl would not come back to him even if him get money tomorrow. Let the guy cry, but move on

minasu190:
please guys there's something bothering me,I had sex with a girl on Friday and Sunday after then she called on me Tuesday the following week that she's pregnant,please is that possible?

�����na another person get am

Sheedeensen:
Hello nairalanders, I need your advice. I recently moved to Lagos to stay with an uncle who is married with a kid. So this afternoon, after returned from job job Hunting. My brother called me to go and be staying with his wife in her shop , where she sells poultry feeds. After some rest, I walked to the shop. while in the shop, my uncle's wife picked her phone to called an ex who she spoke to more than 15 minutes. Now, seen my uncle's wife in this act. should I tell her that my mind or I should mind my business? And, is this right as the conversations do not have any business related tone?

mind your business

Whoube99:
That is the dividend of poor parenting.
You most be one of those loose & useless parent
Being a parents does not end in paying of fees, buying clothes and food. You most go the extra mile to bringing discipline to bear in your home.
Allowing a kid to do whatever he or she likes is a mark of irresponsibility on the parts of the parents.

can’t you pass a message without insults

starbuck:
Prepare for the worse
She should make peace with her maker too




Speaking from experience..
You all should stay strong for her at this moment

have you had cancer before

Engrgabi:
For some weeks my girlfriend keeps singing into my ear " i will travel to uyo soon with my cousin". I know there is a guy in uyo asking her out and she told the guy on whatsapp about her pending trip to uyo along with her cousin. This morning she travelled to uyo from ph claiming her cousin has a job interview tomorrow(11th Mon) at uyo*( I don't know if she travelled with her cousin). Before she left i made it clear to her I wasn't cool with her trip to uyo. I am 100% sure she will meet the dude, not really worried if she will go down with him, I am sad because the guy is possible one of the reason she travelled to uyo and this hurts me emotionally. Now should I text her via WhatsApp telling her " I hope she definitely meets the guy and possible have a good time" or I should keep acting like I don't know what's up.

I understand you bro. Same thing happened to me during nysc. She leave me go see boy for Jos. Them go knack, just put that in your mind

canttedra:
The recent topic on the home page motivated me to make this post, anonymously of course.

We were dating before I left Nigeria. We've been dating for about three years. Sometime last year I got a new job in the US (I schooled there so it was easy), and moved away from the country. Until a few weeks ago, we talked nearly every other day. It's always fun talking to her. But lately, things have started to get a little rough because of something that came up, and which I would like to believe is not my fault.

Prior to dating her, since I was a kid in university, I made myself a few promises relating to women:

1. I will never pay a woman's school fees
2. I will never rent a house or apartment for a woman, nor furnish an existing apartment
3. I will never sponsor a woman abroad.

Of course, this does not mean that I won't buy a woman gifts (I do that regularly), or take her on a nice trip. I just do not envisage myself pulling a woman up the social ladder. I prefer she makes her own growth moves as it relates to finances or relocation.

I made these promises based on the fact that I expected that whomever I make a partner should be able to make something of their own selves. I do not want to be anybody's savior or anyone's get-out-of-jail card. This resolution has made lose a few women in the past who thought the relationship should be based on what they can get out of it, and my girlfriend knows this.

The situation right now is that there is a path for her to come to America through studying. We already talked about her applying for graduate studies and then transitioning here into a better job. However, she now feels that would be stressful and may not work. Instead, she thinks it's better if I return to Nigeria this December to marry her and then sponsor her eventually to the US. That's not going to happen. This has created a rift and we have not been talking for a while now.

Am I being unreasonable here? How can I make her realize she can be her own person and not have to depend on someone else to "sponsor" her? It just drives me nuts that she knows this about me but is now vehemently insisting that this is the only viable option.

u no serious.

buy a Love Machine and fvck yourself

Realashbobby:
Dear Romancelander,

I need candid and mature advise, insult is not welcome please.

I am a lady of above 30 years old and recently separated from my husband of 4 years with just a kid. The man has been the only man in my life since when I was 17. We got Married 4 years ago and later got separated recently. He has petitioned me and filed for divorce.

It's been like a year now that I had sex last and konji is worrying me, like I am feeling like having sex but my problem is I don't want have sex with any other man. It's a problem for me. I can't imagine seeing another man touching me. But I spent the whole of my day thinking about it.

Recently, I thought of getting in touch with my old boyfriend that we got attracted each other to just have me and also I met an old man of about 55 years who has been asking me for sex but I am not pleased with the man having my body.
Or is there anything to calm my urge for sex?

Please advise.

Note: I just created this account for the purpose of this subject.

MT:
For those that cheated undetected and pass with good grades, trust me, they will eventually meet their water loo in higher institutions. No shortcut to enduring success, you have to work for it.

��� una still dey talk this one

Parrotlike:
What could be the cause?

same with mine

jidamsel43:
My monthly income when I married was #30000 in Lagos state. Though my income has not increased more than #40000 now but I have a good family.

My wife is not a salary earner but she manages her business .

Marriage is not just about money . If there is proper management and understanding , couples will live a good life .

40k?

Chiamaka79:
I was in a shoe worse two years ago before I finally got cured and I also posted about it. It was worse because I was pregnant and had the virus too.
I got duped 2 times too. So my advice is be careful of who you deal with. Check my post 2 years ago in 2018 and you will see what I post there.
I will drop the contact of the Health person that cured my chronic hepatitis. He has an office and also a website and speaking to him over the phone would also tell you he knows his onions.
Talk to anyone who claims he can cure you first and see if the person in question understands the professional called medicine - value your life my dear and run when a supposed doctor can’t answer little questions on anatomy or physiology.....just my 2 cent.
His WhatsApp number is, mind you, he only attend to people first on WhatsApp
090.......
36899
255.
They have an office you can visit and he also gives free lecture and seminars periodically.
If you can find your way around meeting him, then I can assure you.
He also has a WhatsApp group of over 100 patients and former patients of which am a member, ask him to add you because only him can, as the moderator so you can also gain knowledge about health there.
It’s not only about being cured, it’s also about maintaining good health and hygiene after your hepatitis b free.
May God heal you.

una don start

Finished Nysc at 22.
Sat home jobless for 5months
Found a teaching job of 25k
did that for about two and half years
Moved out of the country last year
Still a work in progress

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

please break up with the first guy before you sleep with the second one. I rather you break up with me than cheat on me