There is a girl we have been dating for 3 years now, and we seem to be in a good term wrh each other, so I introduced her to my Mum which she welcomed her nicely. And I have got to know her Mum too (not her Dad yet). She has been visiting my Mum for a greet even without both of use go together. I will just be notified by her that she went there.
So, both of us went there yesterday (Sunday) for a greet. I saw my Mum attitude against her, not so nicely like before. I then begin to observe tightly but noting to hold up on.
That night, my Mum called me that she needs to speak with me (I realized that she's about to talk based the girl).
Mum: Good evening son, I so much love you but that's why I will not kept quiet.
Mum: Your fiancee disrespect me so much. The last time she came, we were washing clothes. She sat down a bit and stood up later to wash, but she didn't even eash it well.
Me: Ah,
Mum: Likewise today (Sunday), she saw me washing clothes and can't even collect it, what if there is a visitor in between?
Mum: Just Incase you see me not so nicely with her next time. You should know that that's the cause. She disrespect me a lot!
Me: Mum, am s sorry, I will talk with her
Mum: No, don't say anything to her concerning this. I will change against her whenever she comes, till she ask that "Why" and I will tell her.
PLEASE, advice me, I so much love my Mum. But I want this girl to be a wife she proves to be.
Ebuka78: A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.
If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.
You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.
The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.
In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.
You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.
You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.
Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.
Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.
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Rickbronz: If you graduate from a university and you come out looking for someone to employ you, then you are one of the problems of this country. With the knowledge and enlightenment you've gained from school, you should be the one employing and empowering people. There are several businesses one can start building now which requires little capital but with a potential for massive returns in the long run.
Amormivida: Good morning everyone,pls overlook my typing errors, I really need help on what to do, there's this guy I really like, he's everything I wished for, he's been there for me in everything apart from monetary matters, I am the one actually helping him with money and accommodation, he has tried looking for work but it's not forthcoming, the thing is my parents says they won't allow us marry because he doesn't have money, that he can't be staying with me and then later we come and say we want to marry, this guy does everything my dad wants, like cooking for my dad sometimes and runs some little errands for him, we have been to church to pray, tried everything possible for him to get work yet nothing is moving, he cries all the time because my parents says it's an already made man they want asin a man that has money and can sort my bills and take care of me, I don't know what else to do, I have begged my dad, spoken to him to find work for him but still my dad hasn't done anything, I just dont know what else to do, I tried finding work too for him but it's not forthcoming.... I have been so sad because he's the only person I really wish to spend the rest of my life with, he's very sincere too... Pls I need your advice on what to do or how to get work for him or any kind of help pls... Thank you
Valenciabaddie: So I'm single just because I told my boyfriend turned ex that I can't do his house chores for him . He's a salary earner that works from 8-5 This guy expects that I go over to his house ,clean and cook before he comes back ??. when I'm not married to him ,and anytime I refused he flares up and starts making silly comments like "so what is now your use " imagine that annoying statement from someone I thought was literate and intelligent.. can you imagine that ?.. So I have to offer services before I can be useful? .. I was frustrated and I told him I'm done and this guy did not even bother to show remorse, like he's okay with the break up ??
I'm really sorry but I find it appalling to be washing plates and sweeping a man's house when I'm not a slave , and even If I will do that then it has to be my own free will not you telling me to do it like it's my job..
if other women do that well I'm sorry I can't . atleast not while we are still dating
Hope he doesn’t spend on you ooo, because you guys are not married
JOSCO7720: Good evening to all my wonderful people. Pls, i want someone who can help me out with how to go about it. My wife went to Abuja since on the 6th over a government appointment but all of a sudden changed immediately when she got to Abuja. However, She raised an issue over my past mistake to file for divorce which her parents really supported. I hv done my best to bring peace with my families but all my plea proved abbortive even up till now ; as in i'm being depressed now�. I"m dying but i want help in this regard; before she left me, she normally used my phone to log in on facebook but the password was not saved but showing notificatns when i do try to log in which i knew she was communicating with some men but really wanna kn what she is up to via her inbox. Can someone with internet wizardry help me to get access to her facebook account without hacking account? Pls, mind u, im staying in lagos. Thanks
Those abuja big boys don use money scatter her head
LilMissFavvy: Baby daddy of 9years? You said "kids", meaning you have more than one child. Yet this baby daddy of 9years isn't able to raise 350k, but he' was able to foot hospital bills and raise kids. Sincerely speaking, I don't think 350k is too much. This is the solution. Go for a court marriage with your man. Then move in with him, make sure you do the court marriage before you move in. Baby daddy should invest the 150k, or hand it over to you to invest, don't play with the money, hopefully the money should be able to yield the 350 in one years time, then he can go back and settle your bride price. Your baby daddy was wrong to post marriage invitation on FB, even when he didn't have complete money and the situation complicated.
Your dad has done badly, he discriminated a physically challenged son in-law, rather than be supportive. Your dad can't have a good relationship with your husband in future, he should not complain when your hubby treats him with disdain in the far future.
divineappo: Am dating this girl, I love her honestly, we began dating about 3 months Ago. I live in a single room self contain, and she asked me to get a two bedroom flat. I told her I can only afford room and parlor self contain, which am already sourcing for, because money is ready. She is a student, not working yet.
But she still insist I go for a big apartment, two bedroom flat. And that she isn't comfortably in a room and parlor self contain
We are dating, and working towards getting married by the end of this year, or next year January
Pls someone should advise me. Am confused
NB: I forgot to add, I already have a plot of land, am working on getting CofO, before I begin to raise some funds to begin building this year. I planned not to tell her, until after we get married
Use your head bro. That girl na just cruise material. You are doing better than you think. Ask her to support you if she wants a bigger apartment. Just 3 months relationship and u dey take ds one
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una funny oooo. Which one be christian? See discrimination
Honestly, I plan on spending atleast one month in Nigeria this year ending. I’ve been here since 2019 and I find Canada very boring. If no be say person no get wetin to get back to for Nigeria, I for don go back. But like this, I would make she I visit Nigeria regularly to curb this loneliness. I never marry, so travelling no be big project. When you add the cold here
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Hi I stay in winnipeg
U of W is in downtown. But living in downtown is actually risky
qunleajayi: Recently a friend needed a kidney donor and none could be found. The doctors said you can survive on one kidney but most Nigerians don't like donating their kidney. So, lets throw it open. If you feel like donating your kidney so that others may live just send me a mail freshfirefm@gmail.com with your phone number and I will connect you to the centre. Of course the cost of your treatment and other costs will be paid.
I discovered masturbation at the age of 14 and since then masturbated daily till I was 30, and then I started brahmacharya.(Celibacy) I was too late. And it was very difficult to live without masturbation. But I took it up as a challenge. I deactivated all social media accounts, turned off the phone and put it in a closet. And spent 3 months without porn, and non-porn porn ( if you’re on insta you know what I mean) and of course masturbation. My life changed completely. I will tell you the deeper benefits that I got. For example, clarity of thought is a direct benefit but how it helped me in changing my life is a deeper benefit. Here’s what I got in those 3 months: Immense self-confidence, Career transformation, I had left my job and was trying hard at freelancing but until the end of those 3 months I wasn’t anywhere close to my goals Clarity of thought that reflected in all forms of my communication which eventually earned me the respect of people And this never seen before belief in my own abilities…this belief gave me wings… I started 2 side gigs which were successful and validated my unshakeable trust in my power I lacked these things all my life and that was just a start. I have eliminated sexual thoughts by almost 90%, and it has been paying off. One last thing I would say. Earlier I used to dream of success and at the same time knew I won’t get there, but now I dream, and I know I will fucking get there.
RealGboy: Recently I discovered sport betting , I have always been against it and laughed at people who spend thier hard earned cash on it ,
But one day I decided to try it .. I had spare 2k so I deposited and started betting , at first I was just losing money everyday probably because I was still very new to it but even though I was losing money I actually enjoyed the thrill of watching the team you bet on , that moment when they win and you are all smiles is heavenly and quite emotional,,.sometimes one game would cut my ticket and I will be so angry ,before long I discovered I was always online betting everyday
As I was about to exhaust my 2k I won some money.. I was Soo Happy.. after that I begin to win not everytime but frequently., but lately I have been losing alot again... I'm thinking I should stop but I also don't want to give up.. any body with good advise
IntersexSherry: Biggest mistake i ever made in my life was sending men i was dating my nudes.. Don't repeat my mistake. . They will never help you anything and no man who loves and respect a woman will ask her for such. .
Sorry to say, many men are really immature in thinking.
lol them done do you strong thing. You just met the immature people my dear. Once my girl sends, I delete and beg her to delete it every wer, even here trash. I don’t joke with nudes
Alexgman1: Am in a state of delima & confusion. I am trying to keep my relationship intact & at thesame time help someone out of her infactuation & lust for me. My girlfriend's younger sister is into me. She seems to be madly inlove with me even though she hasn't opened up or confess her feelings for me. But all the signs are glaring. Now whenever her sister goes to work or church she comes by my place witout wearing an underwear. And shes fond of saying; "i wish i met u b4 my sister & i wish u guys get tired of each other so that i can take care of you better than my sister is doing". She is very stubborn, arrogant, reluctant, desperate & seductive. If care or actions are not taken by me, things might fall apart.
So should i inform her sister who is my girlfriend of whats going on or i should just shun or warn her youger sister who is craving for me to stop & wake up from her unrealistic fantansies & stay away from me?
Pls i need the best advice i can get.
Baba if the relationship isn’t so important to you, and you don’t see yourself marrying the girl, eat your own and move.
Nonexistent: If you don't suspect her for anything olosho, then go ahead and marry her because truly, woman no dey ever get money to give man unless the man na redpill.
TheAviator2000: I really need wise counsel and will try to make this post as short as possible
My girlfriend and I have been together since 2015. I left Naija in 2017 and since then, our relationship has been more of long distance except for the one time I came back. While I truly love her and wish to Marry her, there are some things that are giving me concerns and I would like to hear other people's perspective:
1- When I met my girl in 2015, I was an unemployed graduate wrapping up my NYSC. She was a fashion designer/Tailor and didn't have any formal higher education (University Level).
2- Fast forward to 2021, I am a consultant in a fortune 500 company and have grown so much in any measurable aspect of Life. My girlfriend is still a fashion designer and not too long ago, I helped her get a shop in Lagos and Have been sending her steady allowance (at least average of 40-50k a month).
Here are the things that have given me a lot of worries: 1- I know everyone will not get a formal education and I am fine with that but my girl has not been hustling/pulling her weight in her chosen career despite my extra support.... I sometimes get the feeling that all she wants is to get married and get comfortable but I want an industrious woman. Formal education or not, I want a woman that can hussle!
2- Recently, I pretended to be unemployed because of Coronavirus just to see if she would send me some money (even if its 10k) or really, anything she can afford. Looking at the fact that I had always supported her month after month, I wanted to see if she would do the same for me. I pretended to be unemployed for almost a month and did not receive any form of financial support from her. Even when I directly asked her to loan me small money, she would play it off by saying something like "I go write you check for 1 million sef".....
I am thinking of breaking it off at this point by slowly letting her go but before I do that, I want the perspective of people here. Please, no insult! I am genuinely seeking your insight. Be kind!
ps. My family are doing really well and I support anything they do. I have never neglected my family in anyway, shape or form.
I have same mindset as you bro. I need and industrious lady. Some ladies just want to use marriage to escape poverty. Talk to her and tell her your mind. If you don’t see changes, dump am
My boyfriend and I started dating about 2 months ago. We've met a few times because we stay in different cities. He has been very nice to me and told me the last time we met that he wants us to settle down as soon as possible. After that, he started acting in a strange way, not picking my calls, responding to messages after 2 days, then I asked him if he was okay, he said he will "catch up". He is a medical doctor and I understand he can be very busy so I left him for a week and tried to reach him to check on him again. He responded with "Please stop communicating for now, I am not in a position to respond to messages now, I will reconnect with you later"
We didn't have any quarrel, everything looked okay before all these started. I'm really worried because even if he is so busy with work, he couldn't spare a few minutes to talk to me and explain the situation.
I'm confused right now because I think he probably lost interest as I don't know what to make out of the whole thing.
What do you guys think?
Thanks
has he eaten you already? if he has, then he has gotten what he needed. Move on
I don't know if I should ever trust my soon to be wifey. I proposed to this lady last month during the festive period, although I have seen a one or two red flags but I decided to ignore them and forge on because I felt every one had their own shortcomings. Including me.
One of them was, I read her whatsapp chat where she told about 4 guys that was wooing her that she doesn't want to accept to date any of them because she doesn't want to be in any relationship and she likes being single and she wouldn't mind having them as friends. It was a tale of mixed feelings for me cos I was furious with her telling those guys she was single and won't mind keeping them as friends when she was very much in a relationship with me. Why not tell them that you are already in a relationship? I was glad she didn't accept to date any of them. I went ahead to propose to also assure her that I'm here to stay and not wasting her time.
Second was that she had so many exes. She chats with them freely, and wants to hook up with them at any point. She's very vulnerable to compliments. All the chats I saw with her exes, they already know her weak point. Once they start complimenting her beauty, her features and the rest , she will to hear more and more and more. From there they would initiate a meeting. Your guess is good as mine.
When confronted, she begged and begged and promised that there was nothing between them blah blah blah. I chose to forgive her and let go.
Out of my curiosity, I decided to clone her whatsapp at least to get to track her and to know if truly changed because the wedding is coming up this EASTER. I don't want to make a life long mistake.
We had a little issh this weekend, she had to find solace with her ex. She started painting me wrong to her ex, saying that I don't appreciate her, and that she could have chose the ex instead of me. Her ex started persuading her and start complimenting her. Before I knew what was happening. The guy start sending romantic pictures and sex videos, telling her he wish he was there he could have used sex to ease her pain. She also responded by sending sex stickers back to her ex.
They have fixed appointments by Friday evening 4th Feb. They are to meet at a bar/lounge. From there, they would surely want to make out. But it wasn't stated in her chat with the guy.
I don't know what to do at this point. Should I confront before the D-day tomorrow or watch as things unfold? I love this girl and practically done the best I could for her. If she eventually goes out with this her ex. That's the deal breaker right there. She's a gooner.
Also should I be worried because of her vulnerability? She likes to be complimented. I give her tons of it, maybe she enjoys outsiders the most I don't just know. Won't this be a problem if all this storm is over and I decide to marry her? A little compliment she's hooked. I could go on and on.
samsonakanbi575: I am 37 year old guy, married with two kids.
Three years ago,I was posted on a job to Lagos and left my wife and two kids behind in Uyo.
Between 2018 and 2020 I was privileged to see my family 8 times and whenever I was not around,my wife and I always quarreled on the phone on different issues and moreso because she was suspicious that I was having an extra marital affair and the same year 2018 I had a girlfriend in Lagos who became so close to me and I was taking care of her like a wife already, spending on her willingly without her demanding and when she demanded too but never ignored my family back in Uyo as I always provided for them too.
We were dating until I was moved back to Uyo. However,my wife got to know about her when she visited me in Lagos in 2019 and I asked for her forgiveness and promised to end the relationship with my girlfriend but it seemed to be an impossible objective as I had fallen in love so much with my girlfriend though I still love my wife very much.
I had tried severally to end the relationship with my girlfriend but discovered that I seem not to be able to live my life without her and neither has she been able to move on without me, even though I still love my wife and taking her as a second wife will hurt my wife and makes me even more devastated.
My major cause for concern now is that since I moved back to Uyo last December,we talk regularly but we have not seen each other since then but the stupid thing about me is that though is not my wife,we are still in the relationship and I am worried about her dating someone else because I have devoted so much time and emotion to the relationship even money for the past three years.
Since I left Lagos,I have been sending money to her even though she works.
I regularly send #60-#80k to her monthly for her upkeep and some other expenses but what keeps coming to my mind is that I will be foolish to be so committed and she might be dating someone else in Lagos despite the fact that she claims she is loyal to me and even ready to marry me.
I am even planning to remove some money from my savings to buy her a car of about #1.5m but the question I keep asking myself is if I will not end up regretting my commitment to her.
I wish we never fell in love with each other as I never bargained for this emotional distress.
Please,I need your advice on how I should handle this situation or how I can possibly break away which I have tried many times but I cannot seem to move on without her.
Please,guide me as I might not survive the emotional damage if I discover that despite all that I am doing for her,she is with another man which is like monkey dey work baboon dey chop.
Family › Re: Help!!! My Mum And My Fiancee by shege45: 1:26am On Apr 06, 2021
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