₦airaland Forum

Adeesther56:
Oh lord pls heal my breast

Have you been given a date for your surgery? Hopefully this was diagnosed early

oyatz:
In human sociology, never say anything is impossible.

Ex-black slaves in Brazil, Cuba and other countries Latin America have their own religious cults and deities like The Santeria Cult.

Yeah, the leader of a community can adopt any religion or worship any deity that provide solutions to his (mostly political) problems especially in a highly superstitious environment like African societies in the 19th century.

Those cults if allowed will not be permitted to have their deities kill indigenous children.

For that python to kill children anyhow it wishes, It is a deity of the indigenes

bukatyne:
@Ochason,

Your male moniker is giving this thread very fake vibes beht we move.

First, count yourself very very lucky that your husband spilled the beans immediately. (Your mother's prayers are working).

Now your husband has laid his cards, the ball is in your court.

However, note that:

1. Your husband is now a polygamist and your Iyawo would be married in the abroad. Hence, the talk of divorcing her after some years na wash! (You also know that) especially as it is your husband planning to divorce and not the woman wanting it. If the woman wanted the divorce in the West, then it is a different ball game.

2. Your husband is based abroad with the new wife so you are now the other wife. When the second wife gives birth, they have formed their little family so you are now the intruder. Know that he & his family would always support the second wife and you would become the witch who wants some time with a husband who is babysitting his new baby. Accept you are fine with married but living single.

3. How do you intend to get pregnant? Baba will leave his family and come to Nigeria to try? He would sneak you into a hotel in US and sleep with you? When you finally carry belle, you will stay alone in Nigeria? You would squat with his sister in the US? You would beg your Iyawo to let you perch with them? Would your husband get you another house/accommodation there? Or would you sort out your accommodation yourself? After birth and you are back to Naija, will your husband shuttle Naija & US?

Remember that your in-laws and even family would advise you from the POV that benefits them the most.

Do a SWOT analysis: what is the benefit of this new model of marriage to you? Are you better off single?

Husband committed adultery so you are legally, morally and all ways within your right to divorce him.

If you want to stay, better make sure it very very worth it.

Well said. She is now the outsider

AutoChick4U:
Personally I'd forgive him as long as he's repentant and he ain't divorcing anyone after any childbirth. As he feels strong enough to marry 2 women, let it be so at least I am the first wife and perhaps the cries of a baby will open up my womb as well. Thats just me though, I don't like stress.

She is no longer the first wife. The woman with the child is the first wife.
See Tuface's story; Can you see that even if he never married her Pero is the first wife.
The story is fake if not I would have advised the aunty to move on.
The moment that child is birthed the real wife in the US will never allow her visit the US again. The marriage is over

KosiGee:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q22f9HXmw7Y

Thanks a lot!
I had to rewind several times as I couldn't believe that this was Opobo. Their dialect is even clearer than Imo's Owerri dialect

Mrexcell:
Even myself that's full blooded igbo is shocked after watching that video clip I used to think that the opobo languag is very similar to the ijaw language never knew that they speak better clear igbo dialect than even ebonyi igbos. The biafran war really did a very great damage to igbo unity and cohesion.

Please where can I find this clip?

slim75d:
the native ibo which the writer made reference to were ex ibo slaves and some free borns that reside in the island. Mind you okoloama(bonny) was a major port for slave trade ibos were the essential commodity, slaves (ibos), rejected by the whitemen were held back by there ijaw masters to man their war canoe, some were used as sacrifice to adum (god of the sea) some very loyal ones were made chief

It is impossible that slaves will be allowed to form a cult

It is impossible that a deity of the slaves would be allowed to roam the village swallowing children

Why would the King Opubo Pepple refer to the Ibo sacred reptile as "his" fetish or juju?

Mrkumareze:
All they care for is benefit, leave the child with the father, mba... they want to keep their child cos its the loophole through which they milk men.

No, it's because a new stepmother will never treat those kids right

ChangedMan1999:
This is unnecessary

It is not unnecessary. Let tribes begin to see the good in others.

My most honest business partner is a Yoruba man.
My closest friend is from Adamawa State
God bless them for me.

Igbo Amaka!

CondemnBattery:
Still cheaper than a term school fees for child that isn't yours. Not forgetting baby food and pampers

Great response!

VTJN:
I still don't know which Christianity regards fathers blessings and disregards that of the mothers

I never said fathers doesn't love their children. But you can't compare that to the love of the mothers. It's uncomparable.

The only true love ever in existence is that of the christ who gave his life for mankind

The only person who will ever truly love you unconditionally is your mother. Have you ever wondered why most children bent on loving their mother more than their father?

Take religious aside, hope you know that alot of women went through and are still going through hell in some men's hand all in the name of marriage? Do you know the nonsense our mothers went through from the hand of our fathers? Our customary law isn't solid enough. Marriage doesn't favour women in Africa. Particularly, in Nigeria. Why? because of the calibre of men they breeds. Men claimed they are polygamous in nature and have the right to sleep around.

Some mothers are even contributing financially to the upkeep of the family. Gone are the days that it was solely the men. Even though biblically, the women are not supposed to work but to look after the home. The irresponsibility of some men had made alot of women took it upon themselves to look out for ends meet. Some women are even the breadwinner of their family

No where in the Bible nor Quoran disregard the mothers blessing in favour of the fathers. Go and meet a Muslim scholar and pastors they will affirmed it to you. Women are the pillar of the home, salt of the nation, mothers to all men out there.

Respect every woman. Young or old, big or small.

Nevertheless, that doesn't give a child the liberty to disrespect or hit his father. That's totally wrong.

I'm only addressing your supposed claim about fathers. A father that can elope with another woman, a father that can abandoned his wife and kids for another woman. A father that can claimed to be polygamous in nature and automatically began sleeping around.

The same Men who travelled to the developed countries upon arrival dropped their naija mentality.

Guy forget am o. Na this naija we follow dey o. We know how men behaves.

Take it to the bank, Mothers are uncomparable to fathers.

Let me tell you why the bible does not talk about mother's blessings. In the bible 90% of the children when born where named by who?
The mother. Her blessing is carried in whatever name she names her child.

descarado:
Some have zero sperm count yet they marry.
Tell them to go to the hospital for all round check, they will blow hot.
Meanwhile, MIL and her coven is on your case.
Give us grandchild or my son will marry another woman. You will be labelled barren.
So many ladies out there had no child cos husbands refused to seek medical help or open up.
Women have resorted to safeguarding their marriage the other way round.
When we look at what drives women to have kids from outside, infidelity is at the bottom.

All shades of wrong.
Do not cover the man because when the DNA results come out, the woman is termed a prostitute

The woman should get out of the marriage and have a child with someone who has virile sperm!

There is no law stopping a man from checking the paternity of the children.

Why wait for the church or government to tell you what to do?

Once you find out a woman is expecting your baby, as you save for funds for the birth, save for the DNA test too.

I am very against women bringing in another man's child into the home. If the man cannot father a child, do not try to cover him up, MOVE!

mysticwarrior:
advising your own mother to leave the marriage you were born into is a very foolish act

His mother can stay and endure or leave depending on what she can handle. At her age she shouldn't be having shockers and reasons to cry and think.

It's better to leave alive than to die. Do you know how many women die of HIV and HBP. Not everyone has the same pain and tolerance threshold. Do you know if the woman can steadily afford antiretroviral drugs or HBP drugs. Those things are expensive!

Some women have been killed by sidechicks who want the man.
Choosing life is the wisest thing anyone whether male or female can do.
It is not foolish to choose life over death.

The moment the family meeting is called apologise to your dad. Tell them you were overwhelmed and it won't happen again.

Talk to your mum. Tell her she can stay and endure, but since she can provide for herself and she is the one financially responsible for the family it is okay to leave and let go of your dad.
Being single, divorced or separated is cheaper than treating STDs or HIV or HBP.

You are not cursed. All the curses of 50million Nigerians did not affect Buhari. Curses only work if you believe in them. You'll be fine. Just apologize to the old man

GeneralKoko:
The topic is self explanatory. If you could change one thing about Nigeria what would you change?

Mine: The mindset of the people. Nigeria is a disaster today because of the backward mindset of its people ( leaders included).

What would you change

Mindset of greed

walefresh3:
bros I like what u said.. but these online loan apps are bad in bahaviour... A lady borrowed 10k with an interest of 30% which means , she is to pay back 13k within 14tin days...three days to her due date. She felt sick and hospitalized during dis period her husband sent someone to report her health condition to her office's boss... Dr asked her husband to switch off her phone in other for her not to get disturbed with calls... before she could gain her health back her loan as already overdue 3days and loan app already defamated her image by contacting peoples in her phone book that she is not a trust worthy somebody... that she took loan and refused to payback ... That she as being putting some act of a criminal... Sent her acct details with names including address to her phone's list...How could they do such damages to her personality...

The lady and her husband did not do well. They had strength to send a message to her boss but no strength to send a text or a 2 minute call to the loan company - as in they expect the loan company to use magic to understand the situation.

KiNg0G:
Africans don't sell themselves to SLAVERY.

They brainwashed you from the onset.

Those are lies been taught in schools by This white folks.


They came with guns, nukes and bombs....and left with a ship filled with black men.


Prove we didn't sell ourselves.

is when they ransacked our land, and made away with Benin artifacts....

Why we didn't we just give it to them?....like they Said we sold ourselves.



Think bro.


Think

The fruit does not fall far from the tree, What we did in ancient times, we are still doing in modern times

samuel051:
story..those loan people are not under any credit bureau shit,apart from carbon and branch,the rest are illegal lenders.

The problem is that you cannot tell which money lender is actually illegal and which one is licensed

angelfallz:
Wow, please keep educating people on the dangers of defaulting on loans.
As you can see from this thread, a lot of people are ignorant of the dangers, and think nothing would happen to them now or in the future.

They are not looking far. one thing about Nigeria is: as long as your business remains at a mediocre or manageable level (Small contracts here and there) nobody can catch you for your loan.
Let that business explode, or try to take it international, or try to partner with a bigger company to build a better brand, that loan will surface.

I hope they learn. Even the process of getting your name cleared from the credit bureau of collection can delay a deal and make one lose a good deal. Because some of the defaulters will pay and then the organizations they were owing will now take one week to update the bureau. By that time, the contract has been given to a better company.
Then you see grown adults come to cry in the bank, and we always have tissue for them.

angelfallz:
Wow, I did not know this. Please where can I read more on what you wrote?

I don't have a source, I worked in the bank of about 15 years. Part of my job was to investigate loan defaults (some as old as 20 years) and the person had totally forgotten about it. I could use anyone's BVN to pull up whatever I wanted. I just ask the marketer or account manager to tell the person to go and make payment to so-and-so before the bank could discuss further.
You see them angry and surprised saying "But this was just N2000, ten years ago" and I tell them "its no longer N2000 o!" And they will be sweating and running around like chickens

Know this and know peace:

A white man does not differentiate between an African American and an African or an Australian aborigine, we are all black to them.

Hating on the Black American community will never make the white person love you more.

Let's learn to be civil with our hosts. Some people went and settled in Lagos and started to shout No man's land until the indigenes became angry.
You Nigerian boys went to SA, made small change and started to look down on them and insult their men, and when they began to kill our boys, everyone started shouting Xenophobia.
Shebi Our neighbours in Ghana have started pursuing us back to Nigeria because we no dey hear word
Una never learn, you have started again in the US. Continue

Funny thing is that this same OP opened another thread where he was blasting of owing a loan company over N300k and stated that he was looking for a means of not paying back. Like how do you do that and then come to point fingers at these BA guys.

For every BA that you see in the ghetto that you live in there are 20 outside that your Ghetto doing well.

kroger:
Kindly point out the lies. Rage I am as calm as a dove only stating facts..

Envy?? Who am i envying ?
Low life?? Typical akata kinda talk when they can reason.
Immigration has been ongoing since humans was created. people do migrate to other countries, there are tons of Americans doing business and working in Nigeria and Africa at large and vice versa. so what's the fuss. Like i said in my last post you can keep defending your wretched self but it doesnt change the fact that AKATA needs redemption.

No!!! Nigerians need more redemption than Akata!
How can you run away from your burning house and enter into another man's house and start explaining to him how he should repaint his house.

Nigeria has more baby mamas than the BA community. The only difference is because the BA community have access to welfare so they keep the kids. Nigeria girls murder theirs in utero (google abortion rate 2020 - 132healthwise.com) Did you see US there? How many African countries did you count there?
Google US abortion rates -all the stats shows that abortion rates in the US is FALlING yet 40% of maternal deaths in Nigeria is due to abortion.

What is the difference between their lazy ass boys and our young thieves/ agberos who extort taxi and keke drivers, boys who sign up to marry old white women, boys who sell themselves to European men as sex slaves, who engage in yahoo? Have you ever heard of a BA boy doing yahoo or being put to death in Asia for smuggling drugs? Do BA boys marry old white women for citizenship?

No matter what is happening in the BA community, until Nigerians fix their country, not one of us have a right to complain about these people.

Your house cannot be burning and you are directing someone on how to build his house

PowerOfLove:
Over 85% of Nigerians are not economically happy people and the present government has made lives even more difficult for people as hardship is at all time high. We never had it this bad in this country before. With all these, at times, you may find yourself in a situation where you just have to do anything to survive at that period. So I was in dire need as nothing was left with me. I reached out to the online loan people to borrow me some money to repay later and I was borrowed 20k. The sources I hoped to get money to repay failed and time was up. Note: that wasn't my first time of borrowing from them but because I failed this time, they decided to embarrass me by sending offensive messages to my contact list including my lecturer, relatives and ex-girlfriend. I really felt embarrassed.

Well, to cut the story short, the text below is what I sent to them to recover their money.

Son, let me explain what will happen and I await any counter argument.
You dont have to repay that loan.
But this is what will happen if you don't pay.
Your name and BVN gets entered into the credit bureau as a debtor. Now if you dont have any plans to succeed and enlarge your business there is no point stressing yourself to pay.
But if you ever have a hope of going into business big time, or growing your business, that loan will hang on your neck and you will never be able to access any reasonable service from any financial institution.
Whether in partnership or Limited, the moment your BVN pops up in the bank and you or your company is trying to get any form of credit or bank guarantee, your loan will pop up and God help you, maybe by that time a small loan of N20k has become N2m and you really need a bank guarantee/reference to show your Chinese partners that your company or partnership is capable, then you will pay all plus interest accrued.
Someone said to report to NITDA. NITDA will only instruct that they should not send messages to your contacts.
NITDA cannot wipe your name out of the credit bureau of collections.

Let's try to be looking far into the future when we want to take some actions

1. This man died on the 21st of May (4 months ago)

Why does your title state that he died this morning

Mynd44
Lalasticlala
OAM4J

And I'm here looking for more children .....
I would have taken this one!

Magnoliaa:
These are very wild claims. Any sources for these??

For the first claim, you could very easily find the stats on google.

For second claim you will need to look at the references (screenshots) I posted much earlier.

For the third claim you could find some information on google. Start with "Steven Wintz" then go on to "Steven Wintz Research moth*rf*cker". You may need to use other search engine to pull out the article.
Let me know what you find

Madmohamed1:
Buhari government and Chinese are planning to establish Chinese police in Nigeria the talk is on possible by nest year

Chinese is worried about security situation in Nigeria so they want to protect their people.

This man call buhari is something else I don't understand that mother forker again

Maind you I have this information from the right people

Source?

I still can't understand what is stopping Governor from protecting his state by himself??

Can someone clarify? Why is he crying up and down the internet?? I agree that he should cry what what about cry and then resolve to help yourself??

RichDad1:
Ndigbo channel your anger in the right direction.
Hold leaders accountable and stop blaming others and look inwards.

My goodness!!
Indeed Buhari is not the biggest problem.

Ndi Igbo open your eyes.
Demand good governance.
This is something Ikpeazu should handle not Buhari