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Ivynwa:
@Genius100
I am beginning to agree with you on the authenticity of this thread after rereading the comments of the poster. It's seeming 50% wavering for now.
All the same guys please don't fuel this disagreement or call any of these two ladies names for they are mature ladies/mothers who some of us hold in high esteem and are surprised to read this ongoing feuds of words between them.

[/b]Ladies is there really need to go to this extreme? You sure can advice the poster while respecting the views of the other. [b]Are these beautiful energy being expended by you beautiful ladies really worth it? You two are simply too mature for this, how will you feel if this turns out to be an unreal story?

We ladies should not allow ourselves to be driven to that point where we start throwing our status, knowledge, family, children in the face of our fellow women. We are mere mortals and not God that blesses one with family, knowledge, children etc What you have this minute, may not be there the next minute. Ask the Japanese that were counting their property, children,husband, wife, companies the minutes before the earthquake and tsunami made away with them. These things some of us cling to and boast and ridicule others can extinguish out in a jiffy/second.

thank you for the reminder - you are definitely correct - thank you for your wisdom and your tempered words.

Outstrip:
I am waiting. You only wish you had a husband like mine who loves and cherishes his family. You have directly referred to my children and my husband. Are you are miserable woman that will never be content until she has bagged a husband? What is it about my family that has got you all bent out of shape.  Let me advice you, you can talk about my mother and my father or even my husband but DO NOT ever get silly in your confounded life and talk about my children and then top it all off with talking about God. That God should lead me. LOL. I just left the issue with my children to focus on the posters issues but this is just generally an advice to you. I will wait till friday because your "research" might help me help people who will actually benefit from the information.

WOMAN - pleassssseeee just give me PEACE.

Shy-one clicks IGNORE

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=627366.msg7958483#msg7958483 date=1300744640]Shy-One. Sweeery I will come to your party in Nigeria ONLY under 1 conditions:

You gurantee me 8 punnnys, inludin Mrs Chima, Goldieluks & Pweeety4me! [/quote]what is the world??

ahahahahahahahahahaha

you such a bad boi!!!!

I am not a love-vendor. Because pimpin ain't easy from what I've heard.

lololololololol


Mr. Cork at it again.

yayyyyy

we have 11 votes so far guys - I hope everybody is voting!!!

Happy Monday!!!!

You have sons - I wonder do you have a husband? You are following behind me as though I am in your home and you are nitpicking directly in my ear following me from room to room with your nonsense.

Your husband ran to get away from you so you are chasing us around on NL.

You are like a "mosquito that I cannot shake off." Stop talking to me. I am not going to fall into your game.

Poster - AGAIN I STAND BY WHAT I WROTE - use your common sense and your spiritual sense - let God lead you - ignore everybody else.

Again - I will post on Friday information I have received.

Outstrip:
Bring one case. Most of these cases we can pull up the information. Bring one similar case. Only one o. I will look it up and we can say you are not lying. Just site one case. I am patiently waiting

what

tell me - how can this animal [me] prove ANYTHING TO YOU?  You are the queen, regal, royal, PURE-BLOODED one.  Your Noble Fat Azz is "patiently waiting?"  You will WAIT ON.  I don't serve you.  I'm not your servant or your slave.

How would you believe a swine such as myself?

Outstrip:
Eyah. Sorry o that it is hurting you like this. I do have two sons but don't worry about them. It is your mother who made the bad choice of not aborting the animal she was carrying that I feel sorry for . Don't worry about my sons. Focus your time and money to pay for the international lawyer that you swear the poster needs to fight a losing battle.  I am sure as long as my sons stay away from your blood line we will be fine. We will not mix with low grade swine. Pele my dear. My sincere sympathy to your mother

Now - what am I suppose to be providing to YOU?  Using MY VALUABLE time researching so YOU CAN BE SATISFIED that I KNOW OF WHAT I SPEAK?

I would advise you to continue with your old-fashioned - out of date thinking as it seems to have gotten you quite far in your bitter life.

I am not here to prove anything to you.  I am successful, creative, forthright, hard-working and many times courageous in areas that most people fear to walk.

Poster - that is your child.  God is WITH YOU - One with God is a majority.  You HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.  Hold your temper, continue to praise your maker - where there is a WILL there is DEFINITELY A WAY.  You have rights - I STRONGLY SUGGEST that you pursue your rights.

The singer Marvin Gay

[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marvin_Gay,_Sr.[/url]

His Dad shot him dead in the heat of an argument/fight

In the U.S. your dad/mom will hit you no matter your age - black, white, green, yellow

adconline:
Get a good US based lawyer with  some international background. A  good Naija-US lawyer  would be a good asset.  If you are planning on visiting US, fortify yourself with necessary documents like: marriage certificate,financial records (your strength) pictures, call records: Start talking to MTN, Zain, Etitisalat on how to get your call records made to your wife, and email communications etc.

Poster:

This writer IS SPOT ON!!!!

I have been in the court system for differing reasons in the U.S. and have WON EVERY CASE I have been involved with and I HAVE COUNSELED my different attorneys - DOCUMENTATION AS WELL AS LETTERS FROM FAMILY MEMBERS AND NEIGHBORS IF YOU CAN OBTAIN THEM WOULD BE OF PRICELESS ASSISTANCE ON YOUR BEHALF AS WELL.  It is critical that whoever works with you on a legal side - YOU NEED TO PROVIDE DOCUMENTATION and the writer above KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT HE IS TALKING ABOUT - MAKE SURE YOU HEED HIS EVERY WORD if this has to go as far as going to court.

Again - I will look into the law students I mentioned earlier - I will post on Friday - I should have heard something by then. 

If you can afford an attorney the optimal and ideal would be to follow the above writer's direction but as stated I will post information I received as well on your behalf.  University of Michigan has a law school and their law students would be able to assist you in this matter.  The majority of Law Schools nowadays has law students that are itching to take cases just to prove their worth.

Outstrip:
Eyah. Sorry o that it is hurting you like this. I do have two sons but don't worry about them. It is your mother who made the bad choice of not aborting the animal she was carrying that I feel sorry for . Don't worry about my sons. Focus your time and money to pay for the international lawyer that you swear the poster needs to fight a losing battle.  I am sure as long as my sons stay away from your blood line we will be fine. We will not mix with low grade swine. Pele my dear. My sincere sympathy to your mother

oooo so you roll like this huh?

that is WHY you can understand the wife - you too would pull something on that level wouldn't you?  Sweetie - Animal I am not.  My family is HIGHLY BLESSED by WHO I AM AND WHAT I AM.  As my very presence IS FRUITFUL in so many wayssss.

AGAIN I PITY YOUR SONS.  A grown woman on NL - spewing venom - my blood line huh?  I wonder how God views YOU.  That's the blood line you need to be worried about - look in your mirror - ooooo forgive me for making THAT SUGGESTION - from your comments - I am sure that YOU LOOK OLD AND BITTER.  My guess is the mirror doesn't want you to look in it either.

@ Poster AND MODERATORS forgive me for derailing

@ Poster - YOU HAVE RIGHTS and don't allow ANYBODY to tell you that you don't.

obowunmi:
Its a soup like okra, egusi, ewedu, isi-ewu and such.

ooooo OK - thank you

@ Obowunmi

By the way - exactly what is Ogbonno?

@ obwunmi

I know - I was out of line - I'm sorry - I just listen to these dimwits on NL and my blood boils. My apologies to you Sir.

Outstrip:
He is not a roommate. Never stepped in the US. What has not being able to throw your roommate out have to do with a woman living with a child in HER apartment. Most likely even on campus since she is an international student. You are saying that maybe he will get a visa and then move in with his wife by force because he is her husband and father of the child LMAO. Na wa oh. It just will not happen. You are giving him false hope when he should do the mature thing and move on. None of your gra gra or international lawyer crap will work. Will you pay for an international lawyer? LOL. Geez. His "international lawyer" will take the money and nothing will come out of it.
I am sure working at McDonald's is still better than selling cray fish and egusi while going to school. What judge in the US will you tell that your child support for the last 2 years was egusi and ogbonno. Please don't let this man suffer any further embarassment. Even if he lives in the US and they are legally married but live separately he cannot just walk into her apartment. He does not own her. He would still need to wait to see his child. That is the truth and reality. Face it. As for me calling you a kidnapper because we don't agree anybody that read what I wrote can clearly see where I was coming from. With your way of thinking you would encourage your brother to keep a child past the visitation agreement simply because you are mad.

@ OP

AGAIN!!  I stand by what I wrote earlier - EVERY WORD!  Get an attorney - your thousands of dollars that you paid to support the unworthy, traitor of a wife proves that you can afford an attorney and you will be paying a WHOLE lot less for an attorney than you did for her education.  TRUST ME!  The wife was so double crossing that the many, many law students over in the U.S. take cases to prove their self worth.  I will look around for you this week - those students might even take the case for FREE or for very little money.

@ outstrip

Obviously you don't have SONS and if you ever birth one - listening to you speak here on NL - I PITY ANY SON YOU DO BIRTH or grandchildren you might have one day.  I wish on you and your future son what this man is going through.  I bet my $$$$ you will sing a TOTALLY different song.  Because no longer will it be a stranger experiencing this - but your own grandchild you won't see because of a VERY SELFISH WIFE as you watch your son being robbed by his wife of his money, his honor, his dignity and his child.

Egusi THAT!  Ogbonno

@ Outstrip

you seem like the kind of person that would kidnap that child if she lets him go to Nigeria to visit his dad.

Because I don't agree with you - now I sound like a kidnapper huh?

If I agree with you - how would I sound, like a REALLY COOL AND NICE PERSON?

lololololololololol

Wake up - this isn't your personal dream - You are in a forum - be prepared to hear and discuss differing ideas.

Outstrip:
Please you can scream it from the roof tops all you want. He cannot take that child anywhere. YOU ARE WRONG. As a matter of fact if he takes him out of state not even the country he will be in serious trouble. You can get all sentimental. What do you mean that she cannot tell him it is over over the phone. That ship already sailed. She already told him that. Even if he moved to the states and becomes a citizen today he still will not be able to walk into that house and get that kid. He might be able to see his child but if he goes there with that gra gra mentality I can almost say with no doubt that he might not see that child again until the child is 18.
I have a brother and we can never advice him to separate from his wife of a few years to go chase a degree in another country knowing that he will not see her again for two years. Please. I would hope my brother would not fall for that. If she decides to move on from my brother then she has the doggone right. Who the hell am I to tell her to stay married to him. I would love to have a relationship with my nephew and it would be on me to kiss backside to make it happen for my brother and my family if he is a position were he cannot live in a country legally.
If she says she is moving on what the heck do you want her to do. Say I am moving on and here is your son? That is the most ridiculous thing I have heard. If at all he has sisters like you I would even advice her not to let any of you near the child because you seem like the kind of person that would kidnap that child if she lets him go to Nigeria to visit his dad.

CORRECTION - U.S. LAW

You keep saying "you" - like "I" am encouraging or leading the husband down the wrong path.

I live in the U.S. - I know what I speak - Couples that live in the U.S. - a woman tells a man it's over?  And they are married?  It doesn't work like that over here.  He still has children in the home.  Here - if you have a "ROOMMATE" - you can't tell them to get out of the house unless you put it in writing and give them a 30 day notice.  Unless they are violent - they are stuck in your home with you for the next 30 days and don't let them have a lease because they are with you until the end of the lease (364 days) - if they are meeting the requirements in that lease -you are stuck with them until the end of the lease.

She can verbalize whatever she wants to verbalize to him - in a marriage over here it doesn't work like that - you will be sharing that home with that spouse that you no longer want anymore as long as the spouse isn't violent - there is no "get out I don't want you anymore crapola" - If they have children - the children BELONG TO BOTH OF THEM NOT HER ALONE.  This isn't his baby mama - this is his wife.  The courts decide who gets the children - she doesn't decide.  

Also if she files her divorce in Michigan - Michigan Law dictates and guess what boo boo - when placing the child several factors are reviewed - one of those factors is "who is the morally fit adult?"  http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/michigan.shtml (as soon as it comes to light that her husband has been paying for her education, upkeep, etc these past 2 years and their preplans) - THE MANNER IN WHICH SHE DUMPED HIM in the eyes of many, many people to include the court - she would definitely look MORALLY UNFIT and the court would wonder just how safe is the child in her care? -  the court takes that into consideration.  

Education doesn't necessarily mean a good paying job - she can be working at McDonald's hamburger restaurant with her new degree.  It is a recession over here - she needs much more than a Masters Degree to obtain good employment.  Let's hope she speaks clear and flawless English, has quite a few mentors and close friends that really like her and will help her obtain employment.  Because the child will be placed with the adult that can prove they can care for the child better then the other parent.  Her husband very well could get THEIR child.

This is his wife - and his child - @ Poster - get a lawyer - don't listen to the rantings of those that know not what they speak and they are speaking from "emotion."

Find out your rights - because buddy you definitely have quite a few in the U.S.  Also international law will also come into play is my calculated guess - she isn't a citizen yet - so I'm not sure which law would take precedent in this situation.  But don't give up.  The child belongs to both of you.  Not just her.

author=Outstrip link=topic=626154.msg7952242#msg7952242 date=1300667458]

He is the father of the child not the owner. He cannot go repossess the child like it is property. You need to read what this poster was responding to. Also I am not sure what an international lawyer can do for him. The child is not in danger. He obviously has the right to contact his child but he certainly cannot just walk into his wife's home and remove that child.

OHHHH YES HE CAN!  I don't know where you got this information - but ACCORDING TO US LAW - HE MOST DEFINITELY can walk into his wife's home and remove HIS CHILD.

They are STILL MARRIED - she can tell him whatever she wants to tell him - she can have a change of heart and not want to be married any longer but until she gets a lawyer and officially files papers - he can fly to the U.S. - move into the home WITH HER, eat, sleep, etc - until she gets a lawyer and files papers.  She is OFFICIALLY HIS WIFE.  He can take his child as well.  From Nigeria - He can hire a lawyer in the U.S. to take his child and prosecute her as well as demand his monies back in the divorce proceedings that he paid on her education.  She can be garnished (her wages) on any job she acquires and he can be paid.

I don't know where you are getting your information.  He has a whole lot of options.  She can't just tell him over the phone it's over.  As a husband in the U.S. he definitely has options whether she knows it or not.  He needs to research Michigan Law and International Law as well.  He should get a Michigan based attorney - MALE.  She is not a girlfriend, she is a wife that has taken advantage - I don't care how she felt or if there were some problems - she pulled SOME HEINOUS CRAP.

If a woman had treated my brother (I have 2) in this manner - I would be ALL OVER HER like white on rice and i don't mean physically - I mean legally.   As far as I'm concerned SHE OWES HIM A GREAT DEAL - she shouldn't have pulled out until she had treated him in like manner.  She got hers so now it's time to go.

People!!!!!

I see the thread is starting to get off topic again

Keep your comments to yourself if you aren't talking about the event and RSVPing

thank you

REALITY101:
Pals, My 3 year old dog (pitbull) is missing please. His name is Bradley aka dollar. He been missing since 2 hours ago.

Reality

i pray you find your dog - i love animals and hope you can reconnect ASAP

tjskii:
^^^i must say,ure very persistent, hope it pays off in the end sha

thank you tjskii - you are sweet

fstranger3:
We all know how it would end.

the thread would die and we will all forget about the party.

thanks for the well wishes - you cold glass of water you

fstranger3:
Agbala Itura is a Yoruba word. It means Vineyard of Comfort.

I think you are in for a shock. Its not my place!

Anywho, please prove me wrong with this get-together okay?

ok - what does that mean? please? what do you mean - it's not my place!

The get together is on and popping - I really, really hope that you will reconsider and go to Lagos for the event

tell me please what is the shock that i am in for?

I will definitely come

I have been to New York, New Jersey, Washington, DC, Chicago, Texas, Louisiana, Mississippi, Georgia, Alabama, Arkansas, Colorado (Any of those states I can be there)

I haven't been to Miami or California - but they sound great too

I can help you with cooking

it would be great to do a summer event of sorts

tell me and i will help - ok?

but the earliest is this summer - no sooner am I available.

ooo yes

i am sorry - i said it wrong - i think that is the church - yes

christ apostolic church - i don't know what the rest of that means though

CAC Agbala Itura? - what is that

fstranger3:
I dont go to the gym,but i still have my 8 pack abs from years of doing menial work in Lagos.

I can start going, so far you go with me and I stay behind you while you work out.   .   . deal?

what is it with you?

you are always trying to hem me into a corner

you know you and i are similar - i did menial work in the u.s. too a long time ago - thank god life is good and I don't have to do that any longer except i do menial work in the home - that will never change for me

i enjoy doing laundry and cleaning and cooking

Apostolic Christian Church in Lagos on Sunday

desholah:
Can we have the party right in the Gym?

I am serious - this will be a very, very nice event - of course it won't be at a gym

cookout - outdoors at Lekki - Friday

black tie/party event with entertainment in Lagos at either a Hotel or Dance Hall - Saturday

buffet style breakfast/lunch and Church on Sunday

fstranger3:
^^^

You just left the Gym?


Wow! Wow!! Wow!!!



OMG!

ahahahahahah

you are funny

if i miss even ONE DAY at the gym - i can tell right away - i don't feel right at all

do you go to the gym or walk or work out daily?

I am sure that the closer the holidays approach

the more interest people will show so i am not put off by not much interest at this point

it is only March

I just left the gym - a great workout today

yayyyyyy!!!!!!

ok

i heard that

what is wrong people?

The party is MOST DEFINITELY A GO IN LAGOS!

I don't want this thread locked

So Find Another Thread for any OFF TOPIC CONVERSATIONS

IN ADVANCE - I am sincerely asking you guys

if you want to chit chat
flirt
threaten
talk OFF TOPIC

go TO ANOTHER THREAD - there is a general thread set up so you can chit chat and do what you want

MEET AT THAT THREAD

if you don't have a contribution to make towards this topic - DON'T SPEAK

thank you

fstranger3:
And I hope you have enough for the boys. Trust me, they are more than you can handle! They sure would keep you company. it is a state with more than 12 million people, 75% of them jobless and more than willing to attend any party, especially when they are not invited. You dont need me to go into details, your fiancee should be able to explain it to you better. Enjoy!

please - don't do that - don't get sooo guttural level

so let's help them - let's reach out - one person can MOVE a mountain - let's help them - instead of leaving and running let's stand and unite.  it has to start somewhere right?

monies we raise can assist - is it a drop in the bucket?  YES - but let's try

don't walk away, dust your feet and mark the whole lot off.  God is good and will help us - join in

i need to log off for a bit